WTF? Is it just me or is this person insane?
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Roger Palmer2 said:Look, we’re just a small non-profit office, mostly staffed by college students and people who put in enough hours to make ends meet while doing some good in the world. I only decided to post this here because I am genuinely struggling to wrap my head around certain things. I wanted to ask if anyone knows if it’s actually possible for things to have deteriorated this much after all these years, or how it could be that she still has half an ovary left if she was dealing with such an aggressive form of cancer. And honestly, how can she possibly know when her period is coming if she only has half an ovary remaining?
Well, I don't know how her cycle works. It seems more likely to me that she’s experiencing phantom bleeding, and what we are looking at is premature menopause—or in her specific case, perhaps surgical menopause(?). The symptoms can actually be much more unpleasant than a standard menopause. God knows how she is feeling, and whether she is taking any (hormone replacement) therapy in the correct dosages. In her situation, given the hormonal imbalance along with the nature of the illness and the surgery itself, it is almost inevitable that psychological issues will surface alongside a host of somatic problems. And that is to say, if you add a lack of family support(?), financial struggles, and who knows what else...
Of course, it is entirely possible that everything is fine on that front and she is handling her therapy beautifully, but...
...it is also possible that her immune system has been permanently wrecked(?). Not necessarily just from the treatment itself, but from heaven knows what else. And that is almost always inextricably linked to the psyche. It simply raises the question: once the recovery happened, which came first: the chicken or the egg—that is to say, the psyche or the soma(?)?
Then again, there is the possibility that her body is actually more or less all okay(?). So okay, in fact, that she could handle that particular task twice a week, but—alas!—she causes trouble for everyone else because the ordeal was so massive that she couldn't assimilate back into a normal state (and it is a non-negligible fact that her illness was diagnosed during such incredibly sensitive years), so she laments, and laments, and makes life difficult for herself and others, manipulating people in a passive-aggressive manner, dodging responsibility as if she were still living under siege, and simply...
...someone (since she clearly cannot do it herself) needs to hit her over the head with a mallet that says: "WAR IS OVER!"(?)
Regardless, if she truly plays badminton with such ease and only messes up when the tasks are already a disaster, then she should be told to step aside for someone for whom the job might be more necessary (given her level of disability), and someone who might perform it more conscientiously. Actually, regardless of the badminton. There is a difference between being collegial and allowing everything to be dumped onto your shoulders. And mentioning that mallet would certainly be highly recommended. Though, of course, it is more than possible that the woman truly is struggling and that her mornings are unbearable. And though none of us would want to find ourselves in a position where we desperately need money to feed a child and send them to school, having no choice but to work while ill despite being incapable of doing so. I don't know. You can't help her much. All employees suffer; the office AC is terrible; instead of letting her sabotage herself, why not let the person who hired her take the hit? Jeez. It isn't fair for everything to fall on you. No matter how hard it is for her. If you haven't already, draw a thick line. Be sharp and bitchy if you have to. Let her know she cannot be rude to you. Tell her off, but don't humiliate her—she probably really is having a hard time. If nothing changes, or if the lady continues in this tone, then go to the manager. Or even earlier, so that he can have a word with her, provided he is a normal human being. Regardless of the potential awkwardness. Honestly.
