Posts by lonegull16

Carl Cox3 said:Why rely on just a handful of people for your entire life? It makes more sense to constantly meet new faces and build a diverse circle. Over time, you will naturally cultivate many close, meaningful connections.

I'm all for meeting as many people as possible.
But for me—just an example—they don't necessarily have to be "close." I'm perfectly fine just grabbing a coffee and having a chat with someone. 😁

I don't really crave those "deep" relationships. I tend to keep everyone at arm's length, and honestly, I like it this way 😁
I always have someone to grab a drink with, but on the flip side, nobody is close enough to start sticking their nose into my business.😁

Casey Bennett said:Look, it doesn't matter—you (and honestly, everyone else here) just need a fresh scapegoat to obsess over before anything actually happens.
No, Andrew didn't close the thread.

It's not like you're providing any actual value here—it's pretty obvious everyone's just addicted to this forum.😁

Brian Palmer6 said:Sorry if this is a bit off-topic, but it’s kind of about self-destructive behavior. I was seeing my boyfriend until almost four months ago—we had a really lovely four years together. Things got pretty tense right before we split, mostly because we were both under so much pressure. My job was absolutely draining me, and then my parents got sick with COVID, which just added to the stress. I won't go too deep into the details, but my ex started using drugs. He wasn't even the type to ruin his life like that before things got heavy, but he's such a naive guy—he either couldn't see how bad things were getting or just refused to acknowledge it. I knew his current job at Goldman Sachs was sucking the joy out of him, but he’d get so defensive if I mentioned it; I guess he’d rather take the big paycheck for some temporary happiness than actually change anything. He was usually such an optimistic, sweet, and humble guy, but he started changing. Especially after he started hanging out with people I never liked from the start—though I kept it to myself because he gets so worked up whenever I question his crowd (not everyone, obviously). It didn't sit right with me when he decided to flirt with this one girl, and then claimed he was just being friendly with another "friend." It felt weird, and I honestly never acted jealous or interrogated him. But he just insisted he didn't see what the big deal was, blah, blah... I told him I trusted him, just not her, since she’s always been trouble. Then, out of nowhere, he decided to end things. I know he wasn't cheating on me, and I wasn't nagging him about it. He was just being dishonest and, frankly, gross. He blamed all our problems on me, refusing to admit he messed up his part too—he’s always avoided having real conversations to fix things. We tried doing a break/separation thing, whatever. A few weeks ago, he finally admitted he'd been smoking weed and snorting stuff at a party with that girl, her boyfriend, and some other guy he looks up to. I was so shocked I didn't even yell at him that much. He said he hated it and doesn't want to be "that guy" with drugs. Before all this, he always used to say he'd rather have a glass of cognac than touch drugs. He had friends who fell into that trap, and he didn't want to be a victim of that too. It’s been almost four months since we last spoke. We would text occasionally, but today I just had this gut feeling to reach out. I asked how he was, and he just coldly texted back that he's out drinking and doing drugs and hasn't made it home yet. I literally froze in the middle of the street and thought, "I need to cut him out of my life for good." I feel bad for him, but he brought this on himself. I’d love to help, but I know I have to protect myself—if he actually cared about me, he would have left those losers behind, reconciled with me, and worked on himself, you know, learning some self-respect. I don't know what to do. He’s become incredibly self-destructive, and when I pointed that out a few months ago, he just snapped at me. I think the abortion hit him really hard, even though he was the one pushing for it so we wouldn't "lose our youth" or move in together too fast. Now it feels like it's catching up to him because he suppressed all that sadness. He also pushed down all his frustration from work, and now with this new crew (that girl is actually his coworker now) giving him powders to relax... well. I told him that isn't a good crowd for him, but I seriously doubt he'll get it. To him, it's all just fine. What do you guys think about all this?

Look, he's already underwater. Let him keep spiraling through the booze and drugs—just stay far away from him so you don't end up drowning in his mess too. You can't have a healthy life with someone like that. Honestly, I don't know a single person in my circle who actually made it out of that kind of hell.

Larry Walker24 said:looks like the devil's child (as they put it) is feeling a little jealous.

I haven't even posted here in four months—so don't come at me with that nonsense.

You guys are totally off-topic.

Why don't you just give these trolls permanent bans on the forums so they stop bothering everyone? (And yeah, I'm talking about Larry Walker24 and his endless spamming too.)

nimblepanther61, look—I'm a moderator myself (even if my name isn't highlighted in black), so I've got two questions for you:
1. What's actually wrong with that username? Friday is basically ammo day 👍 anyway.
2. Why not just start a fresh profile with that handle? You'll rack up the post count in no time—just follow Larry Walker24's lead.

mistybison said:It does not qualify. 🙂

Memnon, if you haven't checked in here for this many days just to see if you were banned, then you aren't an addict and don't need a ban. 😁

Still, it’s kind of charming, isn't it? I honestly think he'll show up on the forum again eventually. 👍
Next time, though, he can look forward to an actual haiku from a different persona. 👍

Raymond Newman2, just everyone's favorite guy
I'm lying—it's strictly my
platonic crush

Does this count as a haiku, or what?

Raymond Newman2, if you leave, I’m going on a hunger strike and boycotting this whole forum—and let's be honest, I'm a little addicted here—which is definitely not something you want to deal with 👍
I wonder if anyone is actually reading this 🐔

Austin Hughes2 said:
Memnon, seriously, just take a breather and step away from the forums for a bit; we'll be right here whenever you're ready to come back.

++++ (as if we needed him to bail on us too)

new day, new bullshit, let's fight this together 👍

bluecyclist64 said:Look, I’m not a huge fan of swapping out emojis for GIFs—if you're going to do it, just go all in. Don't be half-hearted about being a total traditionalist...

🤣

When I'm actually being serious, though? I probably won't use them anyway. 😳

bluecyclist64 said:You seem a little too obsessed with some guy's junk—honestly, it’s a bit much—but whatever, go ahead.😒
Hopefully the cool crowd won't try to gaslight you...🤣

I just like the guy—so I figured I'd satisfy my curiosity.

graniteharbor502 said:Is "being a pussy" an actual personality trait? Honestly—people who act like that are usually cowards anyway—so I think it’s a fair question to ask. 👍

I still can't shake the habit of calling them "faggots"—I just can't get used to saying "gay." It feels totally unnatural to me.
Yeah, true—mostly applies when you're talking about someone's personality.

I already cracked it open—honestly, it’s more intimidating than I am. Big thanks to rustydrifter10 for clearing up that whole signature situation; I was genuinely confused about that damn thing.

Lock this thread. Thanks for being so easy to work with, everyone.

Susan Kim91 said:Just open it up. I'll handle the writing part. 😳

Not trying to suck up here—honestly—but I wanted to check with the big bosses at the top of this forum hierarchy first. You know, since I'm such a polite, well-behaved guy who asks permission before making moves (and maybe even considers getting some tattoos down the road), I figured I should clear it with them. I'd hate to get kicked off. But hey, we'll see. I’ve probably got a backup plan ready just in case.

rustydrifter10 said:Zato:

🥳

Man, my memory is a total fog when it comes to that, but I think I remember. 🙏 🙏

Matthew Johnson30 said:Given his weight, he might actually be dead. 😲

Watch your mouth! 🙂 😁

For some reason, this thread just reminded me of Iced Earth. Does anyone know what happened to him—is he lurking under a different handle now or did he just ditch the forum altogether? 😳

I live for the weekends.

Gotta go help out. ☕

Kate Carter54 said:I'm clinging to this tiny shred of hope that there’s some kind of glitch or loophole in the system—you know, a way for the messages to actually stay saved without being counted. If that’s even possible, then... 👍.

Not gonna happen, sorry. 😁 I don't know—honestly, I only care about the messages I actually receive. That's the only reason I even brought up that option—in case anyone else is feeling too lazy to go through the hassle of deleting their sent folder. 😳

I'm with them on this one. 🎉

northerncyclist2 said:How do I turn that off, please? 🍿

Private messages > Edit options > scroll down to Slack > Uncheck "Save a copy of sent messages in my Sent Items folder by default"

You can actually toggle off the setting that tracks how many messages you've sent.

I’ll throw my hat in the ring too. 👋