@Robert Harris16, what was that thing behind the main entrance at the Golden Gate Park parking lot? That Aikido school? I actually attended a free seminar there once—they were doing archery. Though, if we're being honest, I didn't see a single bow longer than two feet. I have to admit, it was somewhat entertaining... assuming we're talking about the same thing, of course.
Why doesn't everyone just attend a meetup so we can actually socialize? I’m admittedly a bit of a recluse, but there are far too many fascinating individuals here for me to remain ignorant of their presence. 🙂
How am I supposed to recognize you all? I assume those in the know will spot me... It feels a bit ridiculous to wander from group to group asking, "Hey, are you guys from the forum?" 😁 Will there be many of you? I gathered the age range falls somewhere between 20 and 40...
I recently realized that these meetups are organized by subforum... I suppose now I'll have to keep a close eye on when the next one for this group is scheduled.
I stumbled upon this entirely by accident while scrolling through the front page. It wasn't until later that I realized it was actually a meetup for the Lonely Heart subforum group. Still, it was quite a decent turnout; there were about 20 people there, and I think one woman looked to be in her 60s. 😁 I'm 24 myself, and there were plenty of us younger folks present, which made for a pretty fun time. I have no idea when the next one will happen, though if my math is right, they occur maybe once or twice a month.
If you're taking the train from Chicago, it'll take you about an hour, so if that isn't too much of a hassle, you should definitely swing by 😁 the downtown area or somewhere nearby. It really just depends on the weather. 🙂
You should join us at the next meetup. I went last Friday for the first time, and it was actually quite interesting; I met several great people. I definitely plan on returning when the next gathering happens.
Regarding your situation: out of my class of 25, I only see one person once or twice a week because they live ten minutes away, and another two or three times a year. I haven't seen the rest since graduation, and it’s almost been five years now.
It is simply how it goes as we age and mature. People grow tired of certain things—some might find your seriousness off-putting, others might find your behavior too childish, and so on. Some claim they "don't have" the time. The problem certainly isn't you; I used to have people in my life I was incredibly close with. Then, there are those instances where plans fall through (on my end), but I am told that the person will contact me regarding the time and location. Naturally, no response ever comes. When that happens repeatedly, and weeks turn into months or even years...
You realize that either people don't truly care, or they simply don't want to grab coffee with you. I don't buy the "no time" excuse. Regardless of a schedule, anyone can carve out an hour for coffee. If they can't manage that now, I wonder how that person expects to function later once they have a family and real responsibilities. So, I simply stopped reaching out to those people. And looking at where things stand today, not one of them sends a message asking how I am, what I'm up to, or why I've gone quiet. Not even a coffee invite. I realized that I was essentially the only one holding onto those thin threads of friendship.
I eventually reached the conclusion that I just don't have the energy for it anymore. Over time, this lifestyle has become more pleasant. I have two people I stay active with—one male friend, one female friend—and that is quite simply life. As the years climb, the number of friends inevitably drops. People's priorities and ideals begin to diverge. Eventually, you stop fitting into their lives. I stopped "chasing" people because anything obtained through force isn't worth possessing.
There is no reason to let this depress you. Think about which people hold your cherished memories, and then consider those who were merely a habit—people you saw every day just because you lived nearby or went to the same high school. Some people simply cannot handle hearing the same stories for the hundredth time, or visiting places where they wasted their time back when they were sixteen and had no worries.
Don't be discouraged. Come to the next forum meetup and we'll have a good time. (I was a bit skeptical about going myself, since I didn't know anyone, but I ended up meeting someone from the forum and we went together; it was great.)🙂 You cannot force people to stay if they don't want to be in your life—and that depends on your actions, your words, and your way of living. And, of course, your obligations. My social circle dropped me during one specific life event, while others just stopped checking in.
As time passed, I grew indifferent to it all. Honestly, I am not someone who believes in fate, as I cannot stand the idea of something else controlling my destiny, but it seems life occasionally has different plans than our own. Depending on the circumstances, we can either influence it or we cannot.
Personally, I am not generally fond of large gatherings or venues like Topgolf, but hanging out at a pub or outdoors is perfectly fine. You meet people randomly—through a mutual acquaintance, by striking up a conversation while waiting in line at a register, or talking to the bartender when the pub is empty. I could list endless scenarios, but I think you get the point.🙂
If you successfully reset that Google Drive password, they should have received a notification prompting them to log back into their account once more.. Essentially, they aren't using your Apple ID anymore; otherwise, they would still be able to track your location through the Find My app and identify which iPhone is being used.. Just create a strong password and you won't have any further issues. I actually received a similar alert a few days ago notifying me that someone had logged into my ID using an iPhone 5s. I own a 5 and an iPad, while my brother has a 6. So, it was definitely an outside party. If I wanted to locate them within a certain radius1.2 miles without deleting his device from the cloud, I could have just reset the password and called it a day. It turns out my brother had "lent" my Apple ID to someone else.. Ha. At least it ended well. Though, I suppose I could have easily called the police to report a stolen phone (even without paperwork, of course), but who knows? Maybe they would have even believed me..haha..
I owned a Logitech MX Revolution for a solid six years before I regretfully sold it and picked up a G400 instead. Though, if I had my way, I’d buy that old mouse again in a heartbeat just for those tactile side buttons and that perfect click—even if the scroll wheel never quite clicked for me. The grips were excellent, and the wireless receiver was flawless. Not once did I deal with stuttering, lag, or connection drops. It’s a shame they aren't available anymore; back in the day, the battery would easily last me 10 to 12 days. Honestly, the newer MX performance line was a disappointment, especially seeing the switch to replaceable batteries and those flimsy side buttons. They feel so cheap, like they might snap if you apply even a little pressure. Pure nostalgia, I suppose... Amazon has them listed for $90 😢 which shows they still hold their value. I paid $233 for mine, but it was worth every single cent. If I could afford it, I’d probably try to track one down from an overseas seller...