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How long did I actually feel happy today? in Psychology ·
Jesse Sullivan2 said:So, I was just standing there this morning, lathering up with some shaving cream, when out of nowhere, I just felt... happy. Like, genuinely content. No reason, just a random wave of good vibes hitting me mid-shave.
I’m curious, though—have any of you guys ever had one of those days? Just woke up feeling totally carefree, happy, and like everything in the world is actually going to be okay?

I am making a conscious effort to reach that state of mind more often and stay there, which seems to be making these moments of spontaneous joy happen much more frequently.🙂
Who watches the watchmen? in Spirituality ·
PashkoPata'q As stated by:
Krishnamurti observed that attempting to control one's own thoughts and emotions is ultimately counterproductive. Instead, we should strive to be an impartial observer. If you try to exert control over yourself, you eventually run into the dilemma: Who watches the watchmen?

If we find ourselves asking who watches the watchmen, we might also need to consider who is watching the watchers. 😉 Who watches the watchmen? 😁

Perhaps the "controller" and the "observer" aren't actually separate fragments of the psyche. Instead, they might just be different roles we play to experience as much variety in life as possible. 🙂

This thread took quite a fun turn—you all certainly put in the effort to be witty. 😁 You all gave me a good laugh right before bed. 🙂
Anonymous said:Sometimes I can’t help but feel like life would be a lot easier if I were just more ruthless. But honestly? That’s just not who I am, and I don't know how to function in an environment like that. Even when I’m surrounded by people who seem well-meaning on the surface—even though we all know deep down they’re total snakes—I still give them the benefit of the doubt until they eventually stab me in the back. When they do, I just end up feeling disappointed, angry, and heartbroken, wondering how this keeps happening to me. I truly love genuine, good people, but they tend to live in their own little bubbles. Nowadays, if you actually want to build a meaningful life and surround yourself with decent human beings, it feels like you have to fight through a gauntlet of chaos just to establish a sense of security and independence.

I’m curious to hear from you guys: how have you structured your lives to find peace? More importantly, how do you navigate around the materialists, the egoists, and those selfish power-trippers with warped values who seem to hold all the cards?

I have reached a point where I am no longer overly preoccupied with others. While that might sound harsh out of context, it simply means I avoid becoming too emotionally attached, which prevents me from harboring unrealistic expectations. I remain prepared for any outcome, understanding that everyone possesses both flaws and virtues, and that people’s shifting moods are rarely a reflection of my own worth. Although my intuition regarding character remains fairly accurate, even when I am surprised by someone, it no longer affects me deeply. I refuse to lose faith in humanity or alter my fundamental nature just because I encountered an individual who didn't meet my standards.

I approach my relationships with intention, engaging only in the types of connections that feel mutually beneficial and appropriate. If I find someone’s character to be incompatible—whether they are manipulative, overly possessive, or simply unkind—I distance myself accordingly. When professional obligations require me to interact with someone I wouldn't otherwise choose, I focus on establishing and maintaining firm boundaries to ensure the dynamic stays strictly within acceptable limits. If there is no necessity for such interaction, I simply withdraw entirely.

There is simply no way to shield yourself from encountering unpleasant people in life. Trust is something earned over time rather than a gift handed out to strangers or casual acquaintances. I always choose to start from a positive standpoint—assuming people will be decent—but I maintain enough healthy skepticism to stay prepared if they aren't. I tend to balance my perspective until someone proves they've tipped the scales. In the past, I was far too accommodating; I believed I could maintain functional relationships with almost anyone, regardless of how difficult, insecure, or dishonest they might be. I used to think everyone deserved a chance at friendship, but I've since learned that was an exaggeration. 😁 Unfortunately, it became clear that certain "difficult" individuals would inevitably act in ways that would damage or even destroy our relationship. I simply no longer have the desire to waste my time or energy on those types of people, at least not more than absolutely necessary.

I find myself appreciating the kindness in people more and more every day. 🙂 I believe truly healthy relationships can only flourish with people who possess genuine integrity, alongside strong self-esteem and self-respect. While you can certainly find interest in other types of connections, they always feel incomplete—marked by an underlying tension and distance because you can never truly let your guard down. When you constantly have to navigate someone else's insecurities, walk on eggshells to avoid bruising their ego, or manage their unpredictable moods and outbursts, it becomes exhausting. Constantly validating someone's delusions or building defensive walls just to avoid being exploited eventually drains your spirit, leaving you with no desire to maintain those ties.

I believe people frequently mistake genuine kindness and integrity for a simple lack of self-respect—what some might call a "doormat personality." 😁 There are individuals who act as if they exist solely to serve others, only to be shocked when they end up being exploited, or they offer endless unsolicited favors and then feel resentful when nothing is returned in kind. Anyone who consistently exits every relationship feeling used, betrayed, or disappointed—repeatedly gravitating toward narcissists, egoists, or toxic personalities—really ought to take a moment to reflect on why that pattern keeps repeating.
PDF: Social Science in Chaos in Feedback & Suggestions ·
Sarah Morgan2 said:People from all walks of life drift onto any online forum; I don't see why you think Social Science should be some kind of exception. 😕 Why should someone be required to have foundational knowledge on a topic when, frankly, even the moderators often lack it? A participant disqualifies themselves through their own ignorance. If they violate the forum rules, then the moderator needs to step in. For God's sake, that's how every forum in the US works.

That is exactly why the goal here is to select a co-moderator who treats everyone equally. That’s the whole point of this thread: to find a high-quality individual who won't be biased like the current moderator.

P.S. Regarding your comment about "unjustified complaints against bluerider2 and her bias"—I don't think it's right to dismiss them so lightly. Real people are lodging specific complaints here. If anything, I’d say you are the one unfairly refusing to acknowledge those grievances.

I am merely pointing out what happens when a strict moderator takes over a sub-forum. 😉 Typically, a group of users will complain about one or more specific members due to personal friction and demand that the moderator intervene on their behalf. When a moderator becomes strict, or a new strict moderator is appointed who penalizes everyone causing trouble, it usually leads to disappointment. The complaining users realize they only win partially, as they often find themselves penalized alongside those they personally dislike—or even alongside themselves. This triggers a new battle against the moderator for being "unjustifiably harsh," which once again floods the sub-forum with complaints. 😁

A second possibility is that users actually desire stricter moderation because they feel Social Science is moderated too leniently. 🙂 In any case, I believe it would be appropriate for the long-term, regular contributors who truly understand the dynamics of this sub-forum to weigh in. What we see here are mostly complaints from a handful of relatively new accounts with only about 50 posts each, and such grievances rarely carry much weight. 😉
PDF: Social Science in Chaos in Feedback & Suggestions ·
Jerry Roberts15 said:Ugh, this is starting to get seriously exhausting...

steelskipper5, major props for everything you do, but for four whole pages now, about ten of us have been stubbornly hammering away at this single point without any luck whatsoever:
the expertise of certain individuals isn't even being questioned here. We are talking strictly about communication culture, and how people treat the 99% of folks who are just well-meaning people looking to learn something new.

We’re pushing back against intolerance toward different perspectives, baseless irritability, belittling, blatant humiliation, verbal attacks, insults... things that DRIVE people away instead of drawing them in. We're talking about behavior that discourages the very people we should be praising and encouraging—mostly young people hungry for knowledge. They're rare gems that need careful nurturing, not this vulgar, aggressive, "tough guy" attitude that just tramples over them.

I don't know why, but I can't write this post without mentioning Abby:
You even admitted yourself that they aren't exactly the most pleasant conversationalist... well, that's precisely the issue! So, what are they doing here?!? If they want to show off and, yeah, lecture everyone, they should stick to closed, professional forums, not a general public forum open to everyone. If they actually want to help out here, they need to tone it down, calm the hysteria—who knows what triggered it—and try to foster some actual decency.

You said: "Regarding the complaints about Abyssus and her behavior, even those quotes aren't any kind of proof against her."

Really? How does that work, my friend? Based on what criteria or arguments? Who is this girl to be so untouchable? It's like saying: people complain about her (and her clones 🤣) more than anyone else, people provide specific examples and logical points, but that doesn't count as proof against her, which basically means: people, you're simply wrong.

Is this really the level this discussion has reached?

Sad.👎

On Social Science, it’s not just well-meaning learners showing up; we also deal with trolls and provocateurs of all stripes. These individuals don't just lack basic civility, they often lack any fundamental understanding of the topics they insist on debating as if they were experts. For instance, there is a certain "linguist" who regularly posts long essays about language that are riddled with errors and nonsense, even going so far as to claim, "not knowing grammar or spelling never stopped me from studying language." I doubt such a person would receive anything but ridicule from other participants on any American forum. Then there are the political bickering matches that frequently slide under the surface of seemingly innocent linguistic discussions. Nevertheless, these users are permitted to post until their behavior becomes truly unbearable. I believe you are unfairly accusing bluerider2 of bias. If she were stricter, or if a more stringent moderator were paired with her, the impact would be felt by EVERY participant on the sub-forum, not just those who bother specific members. Please keep that in mind. 😉
Portraits that inspire you in Spirituality ·
boldsailor32 said:On a related note, here is an incredibly sharp observation:

Full post available at: link

Richard Bach once maintained a personal website where he engaged directly with fans and answered their questions. He admitted there were moments when he felt like burning all his books just because people had turned them into spiritual manuals or tried to build entire new religions out of his mere reflections. 😁 On that site, people would show up truly believing everything he wrote, despite him repeatedly pointing out that he was simply playing with ideas—ideas that might be fun, but aren't necessarily true (he even included a disclaimer at the end of one book stating, 'Everything in this book could be wrong'). It didn't matter. People were searching for a new faith and they found it. 🙂 Eventually, he shut the site down because he grew tired of arguing with people who fundamentally misunderstood him. 😁

This raises a fascinating question. 🙂 Specifically, do those who record and publish their ideas, or teach others, bear any responsibility for how that influence affects people? Do we carry responsibility for those who read our posts and—who knows—might actually learn something from them, even if we write them for various reasons or perhaps don't even believe what we're saying just because it sounds good? 🤔
Portraits that inspire you in Spirituality ·
Here is another one from the "flesh and blood" crowd. 😁

Richard Bach 😍

His biography would be beneath the dignity of any decent spiritual leader 😁 , yet his ideas are wonderful. 🙂
PDF: Social Science in Chaos in Feedback & Suggestions ·
Tyler Grant76 said:Well, maybe it’s actually a good thing that Abyssus lets off steam here because, let's not forget, she's basically working for the students 😬 Since you can actually squeeze some useful information out of her famous, rather insulting posts—and considering she's still very young—engaging with the forum might help her develop the social skills needed to become the kind of expert she clearly aims to be 👍 As much as I find her communication style crude or even ridiculous, I can't deny she's cleared up a few things for me. I guess I'd actually miss her if she were gone 🤷

She was a perfectly lovely girl until she got caught up with that Stitch person. 🙄 He really ruined her. 👎

😁

Jerry Garcia said:Just so you don't say this complaint went unnoticed: I've read everything you wrote. I agree with some parts, but not others...

The bottom line is that this sub-forum definitely needs another moderator. Both bluerider2 and I know that, but we just haven't found the right candidate yet...

Regarding expertise, none of us moderators demand a resume. Political mods aren't heads of political parties, health mods aren't doctors, and literature mods don't need to have published fourteen books...😉. Besides, finding one person who is an expert in ALL Social Sciences is impossible😬. How many degrees would they need to hold for that?

So, I’m opening the floor here: let's find a new moderator for Social Science! Just keep one thing in mind: the forum editorial board retains the final say on appointments. You can certainly support someone through a show of hands, but we might not approve (that's just a bit of inside info; I suspect this is exactly what we're dealing with 🤷). Still, I'm quite sure that won't happen, and if the community gathered here at Social Science chooses someone, we won't have any major issues with it 🙂

We have suggested this before, so I will repeat: Lila_sun is someone who could revitalize the 'Social Science' sub-forum with topics that aren't strictly linguistic. 🙂

bluerider2 is, by the way, a very professional moderator. 🙂 While she might be seen as too lenient by some users, she treats everyone in the 'Social Science' sub-forum with that same level of kindness. Perhaps the sub-forum could benefit from a second, stricter moderator who issues more penalties, if that is what the users prefer. 🤷
Zen is everywhere in Spirituality ·
wiredbear2 said:It seems to me that there are two distinct types of people out there. There’s the Eastern approach, which is rooted in rigorous, formal training, and then there’s the Western crowd—the ones who love to sit around philosophizing about Zen without ever actually doing the work... So, who’s actually getting it right? Is it all just performative? It feels like everything else that drifted over from the East has been stripped down, Americanized, and filled with useless fluff 😁 at least, if you ask me...

I recall Žižek offering a rather intriguing perspective on why Zen has become such a phenomenon in the West, which he touched upon in his book 'Violence.' I’ll have to dig that up again to refresh my memory on his exact argument.

My own expertise in this area is admittedly limited to having read D. T. Suzuki, and that’s really about it. From what I gathered, Zen is essentially Nothingness. Emptiness. Zero. A total void. Fuck 😁

I am currently reading Vladimir Devide's book, 'Japanese Haiku Poetry,' and the author points out that people in the West often confuse Zen Buddhism with Japanese Zen. Zen Buddhism is a specific school of Buddhism directly linked to the original teachings, whereas Japanese Zen represents a unique perspective on life and reality. While not exclusively Japanese, it found its most fertile ground within the Japanese people. This understanding has permeated all of Japanese art, culture, customs, and lifestyle, even influencing the language itself. It centers on valuing the immediate, direct experience of reality. In Japanese art and language, everything is full of suggestion, incompleteness, emptiness, and freedom of interpretation; the artist merely provides a sketch, leaving the observer to fill it in with their own colors and shapes. The artist's role is to convey a direct experience of reality as clearly as possible, which can only happen if the subject (the artist) "expands" to encompass the object (the subject of the poem, song, or painting), until both subject and object vanish and become mere instruments through which reality unfolds. 🙂 When a poet writes about a cherry blossom, they ARE the cherry blossom, choosing words that transport the reader into a direct experience of that bloom. They don't interpret, analyze, or intellectualize the experience—they simply live it. They ARE the experience. 🙂

However, in the Japanese view, Zen isn't unbridled freedom or anarchy, as we tend to interpret it in the West; it is quite the opposite. A Japanese person "cuts away" everything superfluous and excessive to reach the very essence of a thing, becoming that essence to express it through their work. This is why Japanese arts like ikebana, haiku, Noh theater, tea ceremonies, and calligraphy require years of disciplined practice. One must prune away all the "excess" until the artist is capable of becoming what they represent. There is a saying regarding haiku instruction: "Practice for ten years to be the bamboo, become the bamboo, and then forget everything you learned about bamboo." 🙂

I believe that when we talk about Zen in the West, we are actually talking about "Japanese Zen." It feels familiar to us because it is part of the human condition, even if our cultures haven't developed it to the extent seen in Japan, where it is a fundamental way of living and perceiving reality. Because we are taught to value intellect, interpretation, luxury, and abundance, we find Zen fascinating precisely because it is the opposite of all those things. Zen touches that small, somewhat stunted part of our souls. 😉
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
jademarlin26 said:What was the point of all those eons of evolution if we are just meant to be stones? One can breathe deeply and still remain unattached, refusing to be swept up by existence. Perhaps the secret to non-attachment lies precisely in the absurdity of it all—living simply for the sake of living, rather than chasing some grand purpose.

As for sadness, it is an inevitability in this temporal realm we inhabit. It is perfectly natural to feel sorrow when loss is baked into our daily reality, where one life is built upon the passing of another. Rather than fleeing from it, one should simply come to terms with it.

Isn't that just another concept we cling to, one that merely gives us the illusion of mental freedom? It certainly feels more comfortable to believe the entire universe reshaped itself for our benefit, making us unique stars in an infinite expanse. It’s much easier than believing in concepts like inherent flaw, life as suffering, or divine judgment after death. But isn't that just another modern idea adopted by today's logical skeptic? Perhaps people embrace these notions just to navigate a life defined by transience and lack of meaning. Could the very act of clinging to such an idea be, in its essence, the ultimate form of non-attachment?
Narcissistic tendencies: Yes or No? in Psychology ·
Ronald Rogers27 said:Did I even ask her to open up about her fears? She just started talking out of nowhere. 🤷

She’s got some seriously inflated confidence. Honestly, I think she was born to be a frontman in her real life. I’d even bet money she deals with a bit of a superiority complex. Not that I see anything wrong with it—if anything, it’s actually pretty great. 👍

I’m not going to sit here and complain just because I misread the room. Honestly, I saw this coming from the start. I knew we weren't going to get very far with this situation... all because of her pure intentions. Prejudices. They're everywhere. They mess with how we see people before they even open their mouths. It’s a real problem that gets under my skin. Some things don't really fit this specific thread, but that’s not even my main point here. The whole focus of this discussion is whether my initial assessment in the opening post was right or wrong. 😁

Ronald Rogers27

People like that often harbor a great deal of sensitivity and insecurity deep down. 😉

I see no reason to complain about misjudging the current situation. I assessed the entire landscape correctly from the start, realizing we wouldn't be able to go far... solely because of her intentions. Prejudice remains a significant challenge within our society. It is essential that we work together to overcome these biases. Some points may fall outside the scope of this discussion, but that isn't the main issue here. The core focus remains my own assessment—whether right or wrong—as presented in my opening post. 😁

We simply don't have enough information to provide a high-quality answer. While most people here have already pointed out that things could look quite different, we have to admit we are still operating entirely within the realm of speculation. 😁

Ronald Rogers27 said:Did I mess up just because I was honest? I kept my tone humble and tried to be conciliatory, but now I'm wondering if that was a mistake. 🤷 Probably ( 😕 Would it have been better if I’d just played some shallow, little game? If I had stayed sweet, charming, and warm—keeping up appearances until we hit that point of virtual intimacy where all the masks finally slip? Because once they fall, you see the truth: a fundamental mismatch in how we feel and empathize, driven by totally different emotional weights. Have you even considered that this approach—this way of dealing with painful experiences—is exactly why I’ve been burned so often by women, both online and in my actual life? 😕

I won't even get into my own life story... Honestly, Donna Wood52 has already pointed out exactly how much of a mess I can be! 🤣

I figured she was never actually going to want to meet up in person. There are certain techniques you can use—sort of like a gut feeling or premonition—to read the room. But she definitely wanted to talk to me. Honestly, I was surprised by how much she truly wanted to get to know me through our chats.

Look, there are probably good reasons for it again, but let's not get sidetracked, ladies. 😉
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I wrote these two responses as a reply to everyone. Once again, thank you all for reaching out. Your advice is helping me make sense of what actually went down, especially since I realized I was judging personalities way too fast. 👍

Ronald Rogers27

It all depends on what your ultimate goal was. If you were trying to give both yourself and her a fair shot, a bit more tact might have helped. On the other hand, some people truly value that kind of raw honesty, and your words might actually make them pause and reflect. That said, most Americans generally aren't fond of being judged by a stranger.

I've come to the conclusion that she isn't truly interested in meeting up with me in person.

There are plenty of people online who seek out virtual friends or lovers while avoiding any real-world connection.

There are certain techniques used for what could be described as precognition. Regardless, her intention was clearly to have a conversation with me, and surprisingly, she wanted to get to know me quite well through this platform.

Who knows—it could just be a man playing a part because he's bored. 😁
Narcissistic tendencies: Yes or No? in Psychology ·
Ronald Rogers27 said:I’ll try to address everyone’s thoughts here. My girlfriend has spent some serious time analyzing my @ve and concluded that I just don't "get" her. She’s convinced I’m completely misinterpreting her words, even when she thinks she's being perfectly clear and serious.

But if she’s being so incredibly sincere about herself, how am I supposed to make sense of this sentence: "Every single line brings me to a state on the verge of a nervous breakdown."

Think about it... A state on the verge of a nervous breakdown! What does that say about someone who starts sharing their deepest truths and then UNCONSCIOUSLY writes something like that about themselves?

It makes me wonder: what is still pushing her toward a total breakdown? Just think. Based on everything she’s written, there's no doubt she’s highly intelligent, strong, and actively working to overcome her weaknesses.

Can a person really move past their core flaws if every little struggle sends them right to the edge of a breakdown?🤷

I don't know. Like shadowtrucker18 said, maybe I am being selfish in how I look at this. I'm definitely not a narcissist, but I won't get sidetracked trying to prove that—it's not the point.

Two other things jump out at me from all this: she has a very short fuse in a relationship, and she sees the world in pretty black-and-white terms—though her education and upbringing probably mask that. At least, that's how it looks to me from a distance.

The whole reason I started this thread is to hear your take. Am I overthinking this? Is my intuition too aggressive or too fast when it comes to analyzing things and making decisions?🤷 🤷 🤷

Ronald Rogers27

Have you ever heard the term 'drama queen'? 😁 Usually, when a woman wants a bit more attention from a man, she might exaggerate things over something trivial. In those moments, wouldn't a man just pull her close and say, 'Everything will be fine, honey. I love you'? 😁 Women sometimes use these tactics to draw out tenderness from their partners, friends, or others whenever they feel the need. 🙂 Someone else already pointed out that your best move would have been to tell her what a beautiful woman she is and reassure her that she'll be just as attractive to men twenty or thirty years from now. 🙂 That would give her confidence, encouraging her to step closer and open up even more.

One reason she might share these unflattering truths could also be to test you. We all love people when they are sweet, kind, gentle, attentive, warm, smart, and engaging, but we also tend to lose interest when we realize everyone is just human, complete with flaws and unpredictable moods. If she is insecure—which seems likely—perhaps she is revealing her darker side just to see if you can handle it, or if you'll leave the moment you realize she isn't perfect. She may have had difficult experiences and has been hurt by men in the past.

Of course, these are all just theories.

Two other traits seem to emerge from all of this: a short fuse when living with a man and a somewhat black-and-white worldview that is heavily masked by her education and upbringing... At least, that's my impression from a distance.

You simply cannot truly know a person based solely on what they write or say about themselves. The flaw with online dating is that people only see words. Those words can be misused, losing their true meaning, or they can be outright false because the person is hiding behind a screen out of fear. They can create an entirely inaccurate image of who someone really is. From years of experience with online connections, I can only suggest avoiding long periods of just messaging. People should meet in person as soon as possible to spend time together without the biases formed by written words.

The goal of this thread is to hear your thoughts and see if my way of thinking—or perhaps my intuition—is too loud, too fast, or too aggressive when it comes to analyzing situations and making decisions? 🤷🤷 🤷

You didn't give yourself the chance to actually meet her in person, so you're drawing conclusions based on words that might have been used clumsily or perhaps intentionally exaggerated. I believe that's an overstatement.
This is such an intriguing topic. 🙂

In my experience, there are two distinct ways we fall in love. The first is spontaneous—it happens without any conscious effort on my part. In these cases, someone’s personality or actions simply trigger an emotional response within me, and I find myself falling for them. The second type is more intentional. This is when I consciously cultivate a state of affection within myself and then direct those feelings toward a specific person based on qualities they possess. So, based on what I've seen, I believe we can somewhat choose who we love, though that choice is always shaped by our subconscious inclinations. Of course, much of this process still happens entirely outside of our control.

Defining "love" is also essential to this conversation. While most people agree on what infatuation feels like, everyone experiences true love differently. I have often listened to people describe their love for someone else and felt nothing resembling love myself, sensing instead a completely different emotion. It is possible that they truly feel love in a way that is fundamentally different from my own experience. 🤷 Ultimately, whether we can choose whom to love depends entirely on how we define love itself. 🙂
Narcissistic tendencies: Yes or No? in Psychology ·
She strikes me more as someone struggling with deep insecurity rather than being a true narcissist. It feels like she’s terrified that once her looks fade in a decade or so, she won't be considered "worthy" of love anymore. Of course, that's just my take. It’s nearly impossible to truly judge someone based on just a few sentences. 🙂
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
steeleagle13 said:That’s exactly how your own argument works, isn't it?😉

That applies to all claims and "knowledge" out there. 😉

Edward Flores4 said:The only thing you can really try to do is remain open to all this new information. As far as I can see, that’s the only way anyone could actually "work" on an "upgrade." But even then, it’s often not much of a game-changer.

A lot of people "know" deep down that everything is just an "illusion," but when they step out into a busy street in Chicago, they still make sure they don't get flattened by some "illusory" semi-truck. When you talk to people... nobody is being selfish or malicious, because everyone knows exactly what the "right" thing to say is when discussing spiritual topics... yet so few people actually integrate that info and live their lives in alignment with it.

Integrating new insights into your perceptual "model" is really the only "work" we can actually perform "on ourselves," and let's be honest—hardly anyone does it. People would much rather sit in a lotus position, go on a pilgrimage, or curl up with some spiritual bestseller... very few people actually want to sit there and interrogate their own actions, desires, opinions, and core beliefs. Most folks spend their energy protecting their existing convictions and behavioral patterns, and they tend to panic at the mere suggestion of change.

Are you describing a focus on psychology rather than spirituality? I wonder if you truly believe this path can lead us toward the liberation we discuss here.
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
steeleagle13 said:I can't believe it... I know. 😁😲😁

Eventually, you will encounter "evidence" everywhere suggesting that the belief you currently hold as absolute truth is indeed reality. 🙂 This continues until the idea inevitably fades, making room for a new one, at which point the entire Universe seems to realign itself just to "confirm" your new perspective once again. It is a constant cycle. 😉

Edward Flores4 said:But honestly, I think the bigger issue isn't even the quality of that consciousness—it's the fact that most people don't even have a solid concept of "self" to begin with.

I try to explain it to them... spiritual growth is really just a mental descriptor. It's—well, if you were actually "fixed," you wouldn't be broken to start with, right? But hey... plenty of people claim they're working on themselves and insist they're making progress...

...and then you get those looks, like, "Who are you to judge?"—as if they're some kind of ultimate authority on their own enlightenment.

"Spiritual progress" doesn't necessarily mean repairing something broken; it can also mean upgrading, evolving, expanding, liberating, or any other transformation one might imagine. 🙂
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
steeleagle13 said:Eternal life = eternal suffering. 😲😁

Look, it doesn't even last eighteen hours—you just sleep every single day. It’s basically nothingness outside of time and space... if you don't count dreams, obviously. Just pure dreamless sleep.

Imagine if you could never fall asleep... you'd lose your mind in a heartbeat. This isn't just some logical conclusion—it’s a fundamental truth.

Christians and anyone else who thinks they believe in eternal life have absolutely no clue what kind of HELL we’re actually talking about!!!!!

😁

Don't you also believe in eternal life through your own lens—viewing the Universe or the mind as something constant that flows from dream to waking, from waking to dream, from life to death, and from death back to life?

Edward Flores4 said:Are you saying it’s irrelevant whether the book provides literal "instructions for the dead or the living," or are you suggesting the whole thing is metaphorical? Like, maybe the "strategy" within the text is purely symbolic, and it can only be applied by someone who already understands that the book isn't actually offering any concrete "how-to" steps?

I assume the book offers concrete instructions, but not just for the deceased, rather for the living as well.

steeleagle13 said:But I still don't get why it works that way?🙄
Heh, isn't the universe being a little cruel to me? 😁

If I look at this whole thread and everything said here... the only thing that makes sense is what "Ramana" claimed—that even "his cow is enlightened." Basically, isn't that just what those Eastern texts call the "state of a cow"? Isn't it better to have the fate of a "being" that actually lives a FULL LIFE? For a cow, that's a field of grass; for a human, it's obviously way more than that. It's about someone who just lives through life, fully immersed in it, without constantly questioning everything...

That's just how the nature of the "universe" is—it just *is*, without asking questions. Besides, the whole act of "searching for truth" only happens because of some stimulus and "not knowing your own perfection." Once a being realizes they are eternal and indestructible—whether through logic or deep experience—that's when the real SHITSHOW begins. The only way out is that original state, where you lived your life and DIDN'T ASK A SINGLE QUESTION about God or whatever else.

Is there any other way out of this "life equation"? Other than suffering or "forgetfulness" (just being lost in the moment, like you seem to be)

It is believed that liberation exists, which is what The Tibetan Book of the Dead discusses and what we are debating here. 🙂
What's wrong with them? in Psychology ·
Patrick Hernandez27 said:She isn't killing anyone or hurting anyone...

but just because someone does something doesn't make it "normal."

Quincy:
It isn't really smart to brag about your success on a forum. Most people here are anonymous, so others might just assume you're making it all up or lying. 😁
The checks are the proof for themselves.
And besides, how can we know if they aren't successful in other areas of life too?
That's a question you could ask C. Z. Jones, who turned down a $50 million offer from Playboy.

Quincy:
Sold? These girls on LES are posting photos for free, just for fun and satisfaction. As far as I know, none of them are charging for them.
Like Cocaine said, they do it when they want, how they want, and as much as they want. That shows they have the freedom to decide and control their own bodies.
Essentially, they're empowered.
I was thinking more broadly. I was simply wondering where that urge comes from—the desire to show your body to others.

Quincy:
I don't get it. You say it doesn't bother you and that you enjoy watching them, yet you talk about death culture, sexual objectification, and people having no self-respect...
If that's truly how you feel, why even participate in the spectacle? 🤷


It's like meeting a girl, she performs for you that very night, and you have a great time. That's one thing. Having a certain opinion of her afterward... that's something else entirely.

It's like meeting a girl, she performs for you that very night, and you have a great time. That's one thing. Having a certain opinion of her afterward... that's something else entirely.

It's like meeting a girl, she performs for you that very night, and you have a great time. That's one thing. Having a certain opinion of her afterward... that's something else entirely.
Why do we dress up and present our best selves to the world? It’s about creating a visual experience for others, which in turn gives us the satisfaction of being admired. Ultimately, we seek that attention to validate our presence and open the door to romance and meaningful connection. 🙂 It is quite similar to when a woman walks through downtown wearing a low-cut top and men take notice; the only difference is that in the first scenario, the moment becomes a fleeting memory, whereas online, those images remain in the permanent possession of anyone who views or saves them. 😁

Honestly, as much as I enjoy being liked, there’s a certain discomfort in thinking about who might be attracted to you or how they might be fantasizing about you. It can feel a bit unsettling when you're a public figure and realize that people might have your photos in their rooms and unpredictable ideas about what to do with them. It's definitely a little creepy. 😱
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
Edward Flores4 said:So, given that, how likely is it that what the book describes actually correlates with what people experience "after death"?

That’s really the heart of the matter. 🙂 If everything we perceive is essentially an illusion, then there has to be some sort of "true reality" out there.

Not necessarily. You could argue that true reality is right here, surrounding us at all times—it’s just that our sensory perception doesn't quite capture the full picture. Beyond that veil, there’s this field of pure potentiality where life spontaneously emerges whenever the conditions are right. 🙂

If we look at the Tibetan Book of the Dead, much like many other spiritual teachings, there's this idea that after you pass, an "astral body" exists for a while—basically a blueprint or a reflection of your physical body.

I'm familiar with the "official" version of these stories, but I was honestly hoping to get your take on it—you know, regarding how relevant or even credible these beliefs actually are.

Because, look, if we're going to have a serious discussion about something, it needs to have at least a little bit of weight behind it.

Not at all! We're just tossing ideas around here. 🙂

I assumed we wouldn't run into any friction, but hey, you can never be too sure. Regardless, I'm glad we can just explore these concepts freely. 🙂

It doesn't matter. As Jason Johnson4 points out, the book is intended for the living just as much as it is for the deceased, serving as a sort of manual for achieving "liberation." 🙂 The book itself isn't nearly as vital as the actual state of "liberation." It simply served as the inspiration for me to finally open this discussion I've been contemplating for some time.

That sounds like someone who is truly losing their grip on reality. kaže:
It is absurd to try and process this through pure intellect, because the issue isn't actually about intelligence. There is no entity involved—or rather, any entity perceived is merely an intellectual construct, which means it cannot truly be called an "experience of an entity." It isn't just a matter of memory, either; essentially, it is simply a mirror being turned within the mind. Forever. Once you find the right path, the search for individual "liberation" simply ceases to exist, leaving behind a permanent consequence. From there, you see how those "infinite contents" arise; they aren't actually in contradiction with that state. They aren't a problem.Maybe Master John knows more about this. I am still quite inexperienced. 😬

It is likely that we are all quite inexperienced on this topic. 😁

In my experience, it is quite simple to view "reality"—the distinction between "self" and "non-self"—as a single, unified whole that simply "unfolds." From this perspective, one can experience a true mental tranquility, characterized by a release from the constant cycle of questions and answers and a genuine lightness of being. 🙂 However, I don't view that as the kind of "liberation" you’re describing, nor is it what the Tibetan Book of the Dead refers to. Honestly, I can't quite wrap my head around what this version of "liberation" actually entails—who exactly is being liberated, or what specific shifts are occurring within the mind. I suspect that discussing or overanalyzing this topic might not lead us anywhere productive, but we can certainly give it a try. 🙂

Do you have any approximate experiences regarding this matter?

Quote: Grace Bennett4
steeleagle13 said:but that isn't comforting AT ALL 😉🙄 it’s actually terrifying 😁

It is comforting, as it allows you to grant yourself the conviction of eternal life. 🙂A person is at their happiest when they believe in something eternal, regardless of the form it takes. 😉

Jason Johnson4 said:What you’re describing is really just a secondary function of the Bardo Thodol. Its primary nature is initiatory. Because of that, calling it 'The Tibetan Book of the Dead' isn't exactly the most accurate title.

Actually, the peaceful deities and the wrathful ones are identical in essence. It's only our perception that makes them look different.

if everything is just a projection of their mind, colored by the memories and tendencies of their previous life

It's all a projection, sure, but at the same time, it's real. In the cultural context where this text originated, those two things aren't mutually exclusive.

who is being liberated from what, and what is gained through that liberation?

Well, if it manages to clear away questions like those, then it's worth it. 😁

The whole issue of the concept of illusion

Just because something is illusory or "unreal" doesn't mean it doesn't exist—not in the way we use the word "unreal" in a modern sense. It's considered unreal because it isn't primary; it's merely an emanation. When you realize something is illusory, that thing doesn't vanish; it simply finds its rightful place within the complete configuration.

If illusions are dispelled, then any cognitive power is dispelled too. Everything disappears.

Hmm, is that really how it works? I don't know about that.

Nothing really ever actually happens—what’s been free has always been that way, and what hasn't been free never even existed. The real question is: to what end?

That's a great question 😬
Though, honestly, it feels more like an excuse than a question.

Doesn't this whole concept seem completely nonsensical to you? All that spiritual work, those endless exercises and total devotion, pouring through form after form for aeons, just to realize we're some kind of "hologram"—that this is basically a "holodeck" and we're made of uncreated light dust? And then the goal is to dissolve back into that very same dust and lose any sense of "self"? Isn't that just a bit absurd?

Given those premises: yeah, absolutely. 😁

But why on earth would we set the "annihilation of consciousness" as our ultimate goal? Why would anyone actually want to unravel themselves into nothingness?

Well, you can look at "emptiness" a little differently. The emptiness described in Far Eastern esoteric texts isn't the same "void" used by Western interpreters, which seems to be what you're following here. Emptiness is perhaps only slightly more accurate among a bunch of fundamentally inadequate terms.

Lit: Shinichi Hisamatsu - Zen Flesh, Bone and Spirit

What you're describing when you talk about "annihilation," the original authors of the Tibetan Book of the Dead call the "Darkness of Unconsciousness."

And Dharmakaya isn't some black void of unconsciousness or some sort of erasure.

If we take the Tibetan Book of the Dead at its word, there's only "annihilation," not some realization of illusion that leads to happiness—since happiness (just like misery) is merely another layer of deception.

No, it's more like: if we take mistybison's interpretation of the same text...

Why isn't existence celebrated simply for being? Why is it viewed as inherently "suffering" or a "punishment," and why is the ultimate goal for every conscious being to dissolve into non-existence?

Because the only perspective from which that's even possible is the one you unfortunately label as "dissolving into non-existence."

That is precisely what the Tibetan Book of the Dead is about. The only issue, if you can even call it that, is the matter of identification.

Tibetan Yoga and Secret Doctrines

Thank you for these insightful posts. 🙂 I am glad this topic prompted you to return to 'Spirituality.'🙂
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
driftingraven122 said:Enlightened Teddy Bear 😁

There aren't any voids regarding existence, non-existence, or nothingness—I guess. It’s just that, momentarily, the diversity gets lost along with the entity observing the "infinite contents." And that's really the only ultimate way to grasp those "infinite contents"—it isn't an either-or situation, maybe.

The Tibetan Book of the Dead describes this exact process as "liberation."

Suppose such an "liberation" is experienced by an "entity"—regardless of whether that entity exists in a material, astral, or any other form. Wouldn't this liberation simply be yet another experience in a long series of experiences for that entity? If both diversity and the perceiver itself are lost, only to return to a previous state, then "liberation" immediately becomes nothing more than a memory. Furthermore, if the entity undergoes a sort of fragmentation during this state of "liberation"—which is a clumsy way to put it, but I hope it makes sense—then since there is no longer a self, there is no subject capable of actually experiencing that liberation. Ultimately, "liberation" is either a mere recollection of the true nature of things or total annihilation. The very idea of "being liberated," or "residing in a state of liberation," is quite absurd.

Edward Flores4 said:I wasn't actually talking about his specific commentary on the Tibetan Book of the Dead—that’s not what I meant—but rather more about his overall perspective on Eastern philosophies, mythologies, and those old folk tales we grew up with.

It’s pretty much the same story for everyone—it’s layered, deeply complex, and constant. You know, Eastern perspectives don't really place the same kind of weight on the things we Americans tend to obsess over—stuff like the subconscious, the collective unconscious, and all that deep psychological territory. To them, all of that is just Maya, just as much as our physical existence or our individual ego-consciousness.

Maya carries so much weight, but if you really strip it all back, what it means first and foremost is... Measurement—it’s funny how we think we have everything figured out just because we can put a number to it. We go through life obsessed with scales, rulers, and spreadsheets, convinced that if we can just quantify something, we’ve actually mastered it. But honestly? Most of the time, we're just measuring the shadow of the thing rather than the thing itself. Think about it like trying to gauge the quality of a meal at a local diner. You can look at the calorie count, check the price, or even weigh the steak—but none of those numbers will ever tell you if the food actually hits the soul, right? Or take something more abstract, like progress in a career or the depth of a friendship. You can track hours worked or texts sent, but those metrics feel so hollow when you're actually living it. I’ve been thinking lately about how much energy we waste trying to turn the intangible into data. We want certainty, so we reach for a ruler. But some of the most important parts of being human—intuition, connection, purpose—they don't fit on a standard scale. They require a different kind of calibration altogether. It's less about the math and more about the feeling.... or rather, when you try to "measure" him. When we dive into Eastern philosophy—the kind that suggests everything around us is just Maya—what we’re really talking about is how our minds are wired to slice up reality. We take this one massive, continuous flow of existence and start carving it into little, separate pieces—like a tree, a person, a stream, or even a shoe.

Let’s look at this through a simple lens—something we all deal with every single day. We can all easily tell someone our age, even though, if you really stop to think about it, that number is just an entirely arbitrary way of measuring a human being. I mean, when does life actually *start*? It's not like there's one universal clock ticking away from a single moment. There are at least a few different ways you could legitimately argue for where the count begins:
I’ve always felt that life doesn't just sort of "kick in" later on—it actually begins at the very moment of conception. It’s that initial spark, that singular point where everything starts, which I think is such a profound way to look at our existence.
I’ve always felt that life truly kicks off at that singular, defining moment—when an egg cell is finally fertilized. It's that tiny, precise instant where everything changes.
Life doesn't truly kick off until that embryo starts developing its own circulatory system—that's when things really get moving.
Life doesn't truly kick off until that embryo starts developing its own central nervous system—that's when everything changes.
Life doesn't truly kick off until a mother brings a child into this world—it’s that profound moment where everything shifts. It’s like when you finally flip the switch on a massive, complex machine and suddenly there’s actual power running through the system; before that, it was just potential, waiting to be realized. Everything changes once that connection is made.
Maybe it all actually traces back to that split second when Dad first laid eyes on Mom—or maybe it was her seeing him first (honestly, I'm just trying to be funny here, but there might be some truth to it).

It’s funny how we all just collectively decided that birth is the official starting line for "measuring" a life—even though there are plenty of other ways you could look at it. Honestly, death works the same way; we can define it through so many different lenses. Is it when breathing stops? When circulation ceases? Or maybe when someone stops responding to external stimuli or when brain activity flatlines? Because of all these variables, Eastern philosophies tend to view this whole concept of measurement as an "illusion." Now, I don't mean they're saying the physical reality we're observing isn't real—it definitely is. It’s more that the act of slicing our existence into these arbitrary little segments is what's illusory. We create these specific markers just so we have a way to wrap our heads around things and actually communicate them to one another. But at the end of the day... well, we're just dealing with words. think i I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here—it feels like we're starting from a blank slate. If there was a specific thought or a bit of a story you were trying to share, go ahead and lay it out for me. I’m all ears, and I’d love to dive into whatever it is you're thinking about once we get some more context on the table. It’s honestly no coincidence that you see those similarities popping up across so many different languages—it’s almost like there's an underlying pattern we're all tapping into.

So, here’s the thing— The way Maya views things doesn't actually push aside physical reality, consciousness, or the subconscious—it’s not about denying any of that. It’s more like... instead of saying those things don't exist, she's looking at how they all fit together in this much larger, interconnected framework. It isn't a rejection of what we can touch or feel, nor is it a dismissal of our inner minds; it's just a different way of organizing how everything hangs together....or whatever else comes to mind. It’s funny how we tend to break down massive, life-altering events into these little, seemingly disconnected pieces—almost like we're trying to make sense of a whirlwind by looking at individual raindrops instead of the whole storm. We compartmentalize everything, slicing up these huge experiences into manageable chunks just so we don't feel overwhelmed by the sheer scale of it all.It’s funny how we fall into this trap where we think we’re seeing cause and effect—this illusion of causality—which just feeds into that whole widespread prejudice that "what happened yesterday dictates what happens tomorrow." But if you really sit with it, the truth is much simpler: there isn't a chain of separate events at all. There is only one single event, and honestly? It hasn't even finished happening yet. It's always just that one, continuous moment.

It seems like most people following Eastern philosophies don't actually grasp the core tenets of what they’re studying. Instead, they get totally boggeduk by the metaphors and fall into this trap of believing that physical reality is just some grand illusion they need to "escape" from... which, honestly, doesn't tell me much other than the fact that most people—whether they’re in the West or the East—would rather die than actually sit down and think critically. Think about it: Americans tend to obsess over heaven, hell, and resurrection, while those following Eastern traditions fixate on Maya, reincarnation, and liberation. At the end of the day, it’s the exact same meal, just served in a different kind of packaging.

Jung really drives home this idea—based on what you find in the Tibetan Book of the Dead—that everything flips on its head at the moment of death. It’s like the whole process just reverses direction. Instead of the usual way we experience things, the mind hits this sudden encounter with "pure consciousness" or even a kind of "non-consciousness." If you don't manage to let go right then and there, you start that slow, heavy slide back down into the Maya.

I honestly can't wrap my head around how anyone gets the nerve to write about what people experience at the exact moment they pass away—all while signing their name like they’re some kind of living authority on the subject. It just feels fundamentally off, you know? 🤷

Phrases like "slowly sinking back into Maya" just don't make any sense to me—honestly, they’re a bit nonsensical. I mean, the only way you actually "exit" Maya is if you pass away or if you somehow manage to completely wipe your memory of language itself. Sure, we all face a little metaphorical death every single day, but let's be real: nobody has ever truly managed to forget their native tongue without essentially lobotomizing a significant chunk of their own brain.

Beyond that, I’m struggling to wrap my head around how this whole idea of "knowledge regarding the experiences of the dead" actually managed to weave its way into the sacred scriptures in the first place.
So, that person who actually went clinically dead... you know, the one who came back from the brink... they haven't really "died" in the permanent sense, have they? It’s like they’re still hanging in that middle ground—somewhere between here and gone.

It’s pretty much common knowledge at this point that the brain starts pumping out tryptamines when it senses an imminent shutdown. If you take a look at the accounts from people who have undergone DMT trips and compare them to those who have had near-death experiences—it’s wild how similar they are. Honestly, they’re almost identical to what people describe during high-dose LSD sessions, too. It's like the brain has its own built-in fallback mechanism for when things get critical.

To frame this as some kind of "near-death experience" is just being incredibly naive—honestly, it’s almost reckless. Relying on something like the Tibetan Book of the Dead to justify it feels like a textbook move from organized religion; they love using those kinds of "manuals" to spark hope for an afterlife, mostly because it keeps people compliant and raises their tolerance for whatever mess they're dealing with here on Earth. Think about it—if people stopped hoping for "something else" waiting for them on the other side, a huge chunk of the population might actually decide that the life they're living right now isn't worth putting up with. If that happened, religious institutions and even the government would find themselves in a much tighter spot than they are today.

If you really dive into the Tibetan Book of the Dead, you start to realize it isn't just some mystical guide—it’s actually an incredibly thorough breakdown of the human psyche. It maps everything out, moving from those deepest, most primal layers of our subconscious all the way up to the surface stuff we deal with every day. 🙂

Could you maybe expand on that just a little bit? I’d love it if you could walk me through the different layers—even just a high-level overview—and touch on what makes each one unique.

I can't believe I actually found this—it’s like stumbling upon a lost piece of history right in the middle of a busy afternoon. It really makes you stop and think about how much we miss when we're just rushing through life, isn't it? It reminds me a bit of that old feeling you get when you finally pick up a copy of the Tibetan Book of the Dead after hearing people talk about it for years—that sense that there's something deeper waiting to be uncovered if you just slow down enough to look. Anyway, I was thinking about what Edward Flores4 mentioned earlier—you know, how easily we get caught up in the noise—and it clicked. It's almost like trying to listen to a subtle melody while standing next to a jet engine at LAX. You have to find that internal quiet first. It's not always easy, especially when everything feels so loud and fast-paced, but it's worth the effort. Just a little thought I had while sitting here with my coffee.
But you really have to keep in mind that this book—it’s basically laying out exactly what happens... It just happened—totally out of the blue. It’s all about what happens after we cross that line—that transition from life to whatever comes next.
I’m having a hard time following the logic here. I mean, what kind of mental gymnastics does it take to actually believe that someone could pass away, successfully migrate to some sort of "next level," and then somehow manage to beam back detailed instructions from that other dimension?

Even if we decide to give them the benefit of the doubt—just for a second—and let's say, for the sake of argument, that this actually *is* possible... we’re still staring down the barrel of a massive, insurmountable problem:

What exactly is that thing people talk about—that transition where you supposedly survive death only to ascend to the next "level," versus the idea that you just slowly sink back down into Maya?

I’ve been thinking about this lately—the idea that consciousness is really just a reflection of the world around us, filtered through the lens of our own bodies. Think about it: the actual substance of what we experience is almost entirely composed of information about our environment, rather than anything internal to the organism itself. It’s all external data being processed. So, when the body finally gives out, that reflection of the outside world simply stops. Everything contained within that stream of consciousness effectively "survives" in a sense, but there isn't a single thing in that entire collection of data that you could truly call *yours*.

So, even if there actually were some kind of direct hotline between the living and the dead... I just don't see what could possibly make it through that transition. I mean, what part of us survives death in a way that we could actually recognize as an individual—as a specific identity, a distinct entity, or any kind of autonomous self? It’s hard to wrap my head around how anything stays intact once the lights go out.

I honestly think Jung was just trying to drive home the point that attempting a conscious "reverse process" can be incredibly risky. There’s this idea that if you dive straight into those deepest, darkest layers of your own psyche—hoping you'll somehow strike gold and find the ultimate "source"—you might actually lose your footing. It’s like trying to scuba dive into an abyss without enough oxygen; you might get caught in some intense mental states that you simply aren't equipped to handle, potentially leading someone straight toward psychosis or schizophrenia. It's a heavy warning about the dangers of going too deep, too fast.

Not only can it be dangerous, but honestly, it’s just completely pointless. When we all eventually pass away... there really isn't much sense in trying to suppress "Maya" in an attempt to mimic the state of consciousness that precedes physical death. There isn't anything spiritual, enlightened, or even meaningful about that approach.

If you look at it as a one-time experience—provided it's interpreted correctly—it can "reward" you by relieving that deep-seated fear of your own mortality. In doing so, it settles most of those nagging issues caused by the mind's internal narrative drama—you know, how the brain arbitrarily "measures" everything happening, chops it into little fragments, and then starts stressing out over non-existent connections between those random pieces of a supposed "whole." You could call it satori if you want, though satori isn't just the experience itself; it’s the experience *correctly understood*. And let's be real, interpretation isn't entirely dependent on the experience, though it's incredibly rare to find someone open-minded enough to grasp it through pure reason—so usually, the experience itself becomes the deciding factor.

For people who have had such an experience but totally misread what happened, Buddhists actually have a specific term for them—something like "mula" (and I don't mean a horse or a donkey).

Quincy:
Eastern traditions don't dig through the mind and its contents like that; instead, they cast the mind aside as Maya and focus immediately on the highest thing—pure spirit, pure consciousness, emptiness, nothingness, and so on. Which, ultimately, is exactly what the Tibetan Book of the Dead advises: turning your attention toward non-existence, meditation, or prayer to some higher Deity—regardless of what is happening in the moment, what you see, hear, or feel.
That practice is utterly senseless, and it runs perfectly parallel to Christian thought. Christians often preach the "insignificance of this life," frequently calling it a "temptation" or a "test" where passing successfully ensures "eternal life in the heavenly kingdom."

It’s basically throwing away the life you actually have for the sake of a potential payoff in the afterlife. Is there anything more futile than that?

This way of interpreting Eastern philosophies is actually just an Eastern version of popular religion; aside from the mythology, metaphors, and various flourishes, it doesn't really differ from Christianity.

Quincy:
And then we arrive at what I mentioned in my opening post: either existence with all its infinite contents, or the total annihilation of everything. Why would the latter be considered the ultimate spiritual goal?
There are several answers to that, and a few come to mind right now. 🙂

1) Because people love gravitating toward whatever looks cool. And let's face it—"cool" is mostly just a label for things we don't understand. Things we *do* understand feel pre-packaged, obvious, simple, ordinary, outdated, unattractive, and frankly, boring.

2) Because a monkey does what a monkey sees, and humans aren't all that different from monkeys. When people lack a better idea, they tend to just mimic what others are doing without ever stopping to ask why.

3) Because so many people are disillusioned with themselves and how lost they feel in the world, so they find solace in this exotic, alluring cocktail of nihilism, esotericism, mysticism, and religion... they slap the label "spiritual achievement" on it, and suddenly they’ve finally accomplished something, giving their lives "some kind of" meaning.

ps: Even though I "attacked" some of your points, I only did so to shine a light on some of the "sketchy" details within that concept. Looking at the discussion as a whole, I can tell you're already aware of most of these issues. So, please don't take this as an attempt to argue, insult you, or be verbally aggressive.🙂

I have no idea how the Tibetan Book of the Dead came to be, though I imagine it was developed through various experiments conducted by ancient Lam Anagarika Govindas.

What exactly happens when someone survives death—do they transition to the next level, or do they gradually fade back into the Maya?

That is the fundamental question. 🙂 If our current existence is merely an illusion, then a true reality must exist beyond it. This is where most people diverge in their convictions: some believe it is God, others posit it is "nothingness," while some argue that what we experience right now is the only absolute truth. This fundamental premise serves as the bedrock upon which all other beliefs, spiritual teachings, and religions are eventually built.

Even if there were a direct hotline between the living and the dead, I struggle to see what could actually survive death while still being identifiable as an individual, a distinct identity, or any kind of autonomous entity.

If we look at the Tibetan Book of the Dead and similar teachings, there is the concept of an "astral body" that exists for a time after death as a blueprint of the physical self. This mental body holds one's memories, karma, and personality traits. It eventually begins to dissolve—similar to how some American traditions observe a forty-day period following passing—until the essence of the being moves toward its next incarnation, shaped by previous karma. States like heaven, hell, or judgment experienced during this transition are simply reflections of one's own psychological state. According to the Tibetan Book of the Dead, those who dedicated themselves to spirituality during their lifetime are spared the more harrowing experiences in the Bardo realm; even without achieving full liberation, their transition between lives remains smooth, peaceful, and joyful.

ps: even though I "challenged" some of your points, I only did so to highlight certain questionable details within that concept. Looking at our discussion, it seems you are already aware of most of those issues. Please don't view this as an attempt to argue, offend, or be verbally aggressive. 🙂

Not at all! We are simply discussing ideas. 🙂

steeleagle13 said:SO, am I the one doubting, or are YOU?😉 😁

Just like someone who isn't there practically doesn't exist—for someone who isn't there, there is practically no "afterward," and for God's sake, no "astral plane" or "whatever comes next." For those who aren't there, NOTHING follows!

Once someone is gone—there will never be anything again for them.

WHO DOES ANYTHING FOLLOW IF NOBODY IS THERE? 😲 🙄 😂

In other words, DEATH IS IMPOSSIBLE, and your illusory physical shell is ETERNAL!!!

Death in the true sense of the word (assuming there's a "stage" involved, or if there's no astral body outside of the physical—death of the physical being the "end," or the astral body dying, it doesn't matter) can't be anything other than a DEEP DREAMLESS SLEEP... eventually, you'll wake up again, just like you woke up once at birth, and just like you wake up EVERY DAY when you get out of bed in the morning...

That is merely one possible belief; it is quite logical and comforting, which makes it appealing to the mind, but there is no way to know for sure, let alone prove to someone else that it is the absolute truth. 😉