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Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
Edward Flores4 said:I have to start by saying that, in my view, Carl Gustav Jung’s contribution to how we understand different cultures—specifically through his work on archetypal collective and personal unconsciousness—is easily one of the most massive achievements in the entire field of psychology and comparative mythology. It’s foundational stuff. And while he’s the heavyweight here, you really can't talk about this without bringing Joseph Campbell into the conversation. Campbell took everything Jung started and pushed comparative mythology into a whole new realm, even stepping in to refine or correct some of Jung’s ideas in ways that were honestly pretty vital for the field to move forward.

Now that we’ve finally cleared the air on that, I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that when it comes to the supposed divide between the Easterner and the Westerner mindsets—I absolutely cannot get behind what Carl Gustav Jung was saying.

It’s funny how history repeats itself—even in the minds of geniuses. Take Carl Gustav Jung, for instance. Much like a lot of people do today, he ran headfirst into Hindu philosophy and that whole Eastern style of archetypal mythology, and he fell into a bit of a naive trap. He essentially assumed that Easterners were inherently more advanced than Westerners—that, as a collective, they were sitting at a higher "developmental level" psychologically speaking. He spent a good deal of time experimenting with their meditative techniques, too, but he ended up walking away with this somewhat skewed conclusion: that these practices were actually dangerous for Westerners. In his view, they just led to pure frustration because we seemingly lacked that specific "developmental level" that Easterners supposedly possessed. It was a classic case of looking through a lens that didn't quite account for the full picture.

In those circumstances, his perspective was only right to the extent that it would have been incredibly arrogant of him to assume his own struggle to master those techniques meant the methods themselves were flawed. He wasn't trying to undermine their credibility—mostly because the underlying cosmology actually makes a lot of sense—but rather, Carl Gustav Jung suggested that Americans just aren't quite "ready" for them yet. It’s like trying to run a marathon before you've even learned to walk; if we ignore that gap in readiness, we’re just setting ourselves up for failure. If you jump into it too soon, all you end up with is a massive amount of frustration from the sheer inability to control your mind the way those practices claim you should.

I think what Carl Gustav Jung missed back then was this fundamental point—these methods aren't actually "techniques" in the way we usually think of them. They aren't just tools you pick up and use to get a specific result. Instead, they’re more like a continuous dialogue. It reminds me of that line from William Blake: "The fool who persists in his folly will become wise." That’s really where the magic happens. These practices exist to force a confrontation with the reality that you simply cannot control your own mind. Once you hit that wall and realize how futile that struggle is, you start to see things differently. You begin to understand that "fate" isn't some external force crashing into your life from out of nowhere—it’s actually something we build for ourselves, brick by brick, through our own actions and patterns.

In other words, coming from that typical academic background we see in the West, Carl Gustav Jung wasn't exactly expecting to run into a completely different philosophy of "learning" once he encountered the traditions of the East. Where those Eastern perspectives really had the upper hand—and this is a subtle but massive distinction—was in their understanding that you can memorize every single doctrine and dogma in the book, yet still walk away with your old, biased way of seeing the world completely intact. It’s a bit like memorizing a cookbook without ever actually tasting the food; you have all the data, but zero actual nourishment. Because of that, he missed the chance to really question whether the techniques being offered were even valid, mostly because he was operating under the assumption that, just like back home in the States, education is always supposed to provide concrete, tangible answers. But the teachings from the East operate on a different wavelength entirely—they’re based, as William Blake would put it, "on the straight guidance of a fool."

If someone truly believes the world is flat, just send them out for a walk toward the edge—and make sure they stay in a perfectly straight line. Once they eventually loop right back to where they started, they’ll have to admit, at the very least, that the earth has a cylindrical shape. 🙂

Look, Carl Gustav Jung reached some incredible conclusions; he kicked open so many doors and handed us a toolkit that is still indispensable today. But even he tripped up occasionally—and honestly, we can't hold that against him. If he had claimed to be infallible, well, that would have just been pure arrogance on his part.

Quincy:
If this uncreated, unborn, infinite, and free void is indeed the only true reality, there's probably a reason why its surface gave rise to this illusion of "me" and "the world." Whether it’s a cosmic game or just the inherent nature of that reality—creating diverse forms out of mist and foam only to dissolve them with a single breath—why wouldn't that very form be the greatest treasure of all? Why devalue it, or feel this urge to destroy it and melt it back into the nothingness?

Why isn't existence celebrated simply because it manifests in some form? Instead, we tend to view it as mere "suffering" or a "punishment," acting as if the ultimate goal for every conscious being is to unravel back into non-existence.
Now, I can only speak for myself here. For me, life is something to celebrate. I try to soak up as much of it as possible, fully aware that it's fleeting and, from my perspective, ultimately quite nonsensical. Life is basically a "function" or a "characteristic" of the universe—a way for the cosmos to create the variety and complexity it clearly craves. In that sense, life is a disruption of equilibrium; while it lasts, it drives the dynamics of conflict, violence, fragmentation, and isolation. Life IS a problem, with a capital "P."

But because I understand what that "function" actually is, I manage to embrace whatever comes my way with equal enthusiasm... whether it's pain or pleasure. That enthusiasm comes from the simple fact that, sooner or later, I'll return to a state of "equality," and my specific little bubble of consciousness—with all its built-up frustrations, memories, hopes, and philosophies—will finally be released from that pressure.

In a way... this IS a dream that will one day end, and all of this is just a temporary illusion—but while the dream is happening, it is my one and only reality.

Anyway... trying to read ancient texts without a deep understanding of the specific culture and cosmology of the era they were written in usually leads to some pretty massive misinterpretations.

Besides, you shouldn't take even verified, world-class authorities like Carl Gustav Jung for granted. Everyone misses the mark somewhere. Whenever I read a book and can't find at least one point where I disagree with the author, I KNOW I haven't actually grasped what they were really trying to say.

It's the same with me—if you can't find at least one thing to disagree with me on, it means you didn't really understand me. Because I definitely get things wrong sometimes, and I'd actually prefer if people pointed those flaws out. 🙂

Regarding the Tibetan Book of the Dead, Jung isn't actually discussing a divide between Eastern and Western minds, but rather different methods of exploring the psyche. The mind is fundamentally the same for everyone—it is layered. People in the East simply don't place as much emphasis on the things Americans focus on, such as the subconscious or the collective unconscious, because they view all of that as Maya, just as much as our material existence and individual ego. Jung is merely pointing out that, according to the Tibetan Book of the Dead, the process works in reverse at the moment of death: the mind encounters "pure consciousness" or "non-consciousness." If one fails to let go at that moment, they begin to sink back into Maya—first confronting the deepest layers of the human psyche before slowly ascending toward rebirth, physical existence, and individual consciousness. The Tibetan Book of the Dead essentially provides a highly detailed map of the human psyche, moving from the deepest depths to the surface. 🙂

However, it is important to remember that this book explains what happens spontaneously after death. I believe Jung is simply emphasizing that attempting to consciously trigger this reverse process can be extremely dangerous. In an attempt to dive into the deeper layers of the mind hoping to reach the "source," a person might become trapped in mental states they cannot handle, potentially leading to psychosis or schizophrenia. Eastern traditions don't dig through the contents of the mind in that manner; instead, they discard the mind as Maya and focus immediately on the highest state—pure spirit, pure consciousness, emptiness, or non-existence. This is precisely what the Tibetan Book of the Dead advises throughout: turning attention toward non-existence, practicing meditation, or praying to a supreme Deity—regardless of whatever sensations, sights, or sounds are being experienced in that moment.

placidharbor7 said:Well, I'd argue that absurdity is just like a "rotten tooth"—you've got to pull it out! Once that's gone, you aren't left with some vague "love for death," but rather Death itself: pure, raw, and unadulterated. An enlightened being—someone who has truly transcended the ego—would essentially exist within the Bardo described in Tibetan texts. In that heavy, swirling mist, they don't cry out for some sort of "liberation"; instead, they ache for finality. The absolute end of both body and mind, leaving nothing behind, not even a memory—that is the only true "nirvana."
There’s actually a hidden riddle in the Nazarene's teaching that "the kingdom of heaven belongs to the poor in spirit." Honestly, isn't it true that religions preaching "ecstasy," "liberation," or "eternity" are just fundamentally childish?

And so we arrive back at what I mentioned in my opening post: either existence with all its infinite contents, or the total annihilation of everything. Why should the latter be considered the ultimate spiritual goal?
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
Edward Flores4 said:I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there... the whole thing feels incredibly thin—if not completely nonsensical.

In my own two cents, those books seem to have been written as descriptions of psychedelic trips, which some folks then mistakenly assumed were the same thing as a near-death experience. I mean, look at how Richard Alpert and Tim Leary put together their own brief revision of the Tibetan Book of the Dead; they pretty much landed on the exact same conclusion.

The other possibility is that these texts originally functioned as guides through psychedelic states, but over time, through some distorted traditions, they morphed into something else entirely. Now, people literally "read them to the deceased," which—if you ask me—doesn't make any sense from a neurological standpoint.

Carl Gustav Jung would likely disagree with you. He believed that honoring the deceased—through memorials and similar rites—is vital for our psychological well-being. He also studied the Tibetan Book of the Dead and noted that it discusses various levels of consciousness and their corresponding metaphysical realities. To him, "liberation" is actually a fundamental shift in how one perceives reality. A massive change in perspective is required before we can view the world as something inherent to the nature of the soul. It is much easier and more convincing for us to view events as happening "to me," rather than observing how "I" am the one causing them to happen. According to Jung, it is precisely our "animal nature" that resists seeing ourselves as the creators of our own circumstances. This is why the Tibetan Book of the Dead serves as a guide for the living just as much as for the dead; it points toward a potential spiritual pivot that restores the divinity the soul lost upon birth. He also noted that through psychoanalytic methods, Western thought has managed to take a small step beyond our known consciousness, but only into that first, most superficial layer where the soul is still gripped and driven by instinct.

In essence, what Americans consider a deep dive, Easterners consider a move toward the surface. The paths of the Westerner and the Easterner run in opposite directions: while Easterners move directly from the purest spirit downward toward physical existence, Americans start from physical existence and make only a tiny leap into what we call the subconscious—which, for an Easterner, is already a world of deep illusion governed by karma, where the spirit is obscured. The next step for an American would be confronting the archetypes and the collective unconscious located behind the subconscious, whereas for an Easterner, this stage already represents a departure from pure spirit and a descent toward the material. However, Jung warns that driving the psyche into such states using Western methods is extremely dangerous and can lead a person into psychosis or schizophrenia.

Regarding the Tibetan Book of the Dead, Jung suggests it is composed of archetypal content from the unconscious, and the book itself claims that everything a deceased person experiences is simply an encounter with various facets of their own psyche. The core idea here is that death marks the purest, highest, and most spiritual moment. Every subsequent moment is merely a deeper descent into illusion until rebirth occurs.

Edward Martin32 said:If we die and finally shake off everything, aren't we just blindly following some predetermined blueprint that claims this state is the ultimate goal?
If there are no standards to live by—or if there are—would we ever actually achieve anything at all?
What the hell is even the point?
unless...

Or perhaps... 🙂

Edward Flores4 said:Some really bright thinkers have suggested that there’s basically only one major philosophical question left to ask:
Whether or not to commit suicide?

And honestly, that’s where the whole irony of spirituality lies... people tend to look at it as a path toward a "good and happy life," chasing those states of consciousness you see laid out in myths and sacred texts. But if you look closer, spirituality actually suggests that life itself is the singular problem we have to solve—and death is, quite frankly, the ultimate solution to the problem of living, which is described in a pretty prosaic way throughout various scriptures and legends.

Is that a "love" for death...? I don't know... personally, I don't think so. But there is a certain level of comfort to be found when I sit and think about it. I'm starting to realize that the point of life isn't necessarily waiting for it to slowly fade away from you, but rather dying for a great idea at exactly the right moment... Maybe a Buddhist would call that meditating on "impermanence"... I usually just call it thinking, but I definitely find some solace in the fact that at least death is a certainty. 🙂

If this uncreated, unborn, infinite, and free void is the only true reality, there must be a reason why its surface produced this illusion of "me" and "the world." Whether it's a cosmic game or just the nature of reality, it creates diverse forms out of mist and foam, only to dissolve them with a single breath. Why wouldn't this very form be our greatest treasure and the essence of all existence? There is little sense in devaluing it or wishing to destroy it just to merge back into the void.

Why isn't existence celebrated for simply manifesting in some form, rather than being viewed as mere "suffering" or a "punishment" where the ultimate goal for every conscious being is to dissolve back into nothingness?

Noah Fisher15 said:I think I get it. And honestly? I’m mostly on board with the post, even if I wouldn't put it quite so poetically. Life or a dream—who knows? But the core idea is that just existing makes it *something*, and every single life that gets improved is basically its own unique experience. It's like all possible experiences are necessary and inevitable. Like everything exists simply because it can.

That’s why once consciousness (like yours) exists, it tries to hang on even after death. It might just evaporate, or it might "reset," which actually creates a whole new life and a new experience. Because of that, all consciousnesses exist since they can, and eventually, everything will just fade back into nothingness...

Hope that makes sense...

That is precisely how I see things. 🙂
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
bluemason3 said:So, you have a toothache and you just want it to stop. Even if you try to argue that pain is basically just an illusion, it doesn't really matter—your brain still thinks it's very real, and that tooth is definitely still hurting. 😁 Real liberation happens when the pain finally stops, and let's be honest, the easiest way to make a tooth stop hurting is to just not have the tooth anymore. 😁

The absurdity lies in the fact that the pain only ceases when the person experiencing it vanishes into a void—a nothingness where neither the person nor the tooth exists. If we follow the Tibetan Book of the Dead, there is only "annihilation," rather than a realization of illusion that leads to happiness. This is because even happiness (much like suffering) is just another layer of deception. This implies that the experiential realization that everything is an illusion leads automatically to total annihilation, rather than a joyful life free from toothaches. 😁 Ultimately, we are left with only two options: 1) a person in pain, or 2) neither the person nor the tooth.

Isn't this view of spirituality based on the belief that existence is inherently suffering and that self-annihilation is preferable to working through that suffering? Doesn't that essentially harbor a love for death?

driftingraven122 said:And maybe—just maybe—you can't pull one tooth until the others are gone. You just end up becoming a dentist through sheer repetition instead of actually getting the tooth out.

Then you become a magician, and suddenly you "are or aren't"? 😁
Liberation as the goal. But for what? in Spirituality ·
I recently finished reading the Tibetan Book of the Dead. Most people here are likely already familiar with this text, but for those who aren't, it outlines the journey of the soul after death as interpreted by ancient spiritual leaders. Its purpose is twofold: to prepare an individual for the afterlife while they are still living, and to provide guidance for loved ones to assist the deceased by reading specific passages aloud. The book explores existence beyond our physical realm—what many would call the astral plane—which serves as a bridge toward total liberation or reincarnation into the material world. It offers practical advice for navigating encounters with various benevolent or wrathful deities during judgment, ultimately guiding the soul toward choosing its next life if complete liberation isn't achieved.

Reading this book, I have concluded that achieving liberation after death is an incredibly difficult feat, likely reserved only for yogis who have already mastered it during their lifetime. Most people simply drift along, carried by the weight of their good and bad karma, failing to maintain a mind centered in emptiness. For the majority, rebirth serves as the inevitable next step—a second chance to pursue spiritual progress. The Tibetan Book of the Dead suggests that liberation can be achieved (though rarely) in the immediate moments following death if the individual is capable, regardless of their karma. This depends entirely on their ability to recognize that everything encountered while navigating Purgatory is merely a projection of their own mind. Every vision is just a fragment of the deceased's psyche: the peaceful deities represent their divine nature, the wrathful ones reflect their human side, and even "judgment" is nothing more than a dialogue between different aspects of the self. Even suffering is simply a product of a restless conscience. Nothing in the astral realm exists outside the individual's being; the entire experience is shaped by one's karma and personal perception. If the soul cannot realize this, they may attempt to find liberation through prayer and focus on a protective deity. If that fails and they are overwhelmed by the illusions of the external world, their karma will inevitably lead them toward a new birth, whether in human form here on Earth or in some other realm altogether.

What I find most fascinating here is the actual concept of liberation. If everything in the astral realm is just as unreal as the deceased themselves—if it's all merely a mental projection colored by the memories and personality traits of a past life (which arguably applies to our physical reality too, but let's not get sidetracked)—then if the mind is fundamentally formless, void, and uncreated, those memories and inclinations are nothing more than illusions. In that case, who exactly is being liberated, and what is actually gained through such a process? 🤷 That which has always been unborn and uncreated is eternally free. It remains untouched by the shifting shadows and colors of existence—perceptions that are merely illusions destined to dissolve once they recognize their own lack of substance. When these illusions scatter, any perceived cognitive Power dissolves along with them. Everything fades. This isn't an escape into some heavenly realm of bliss (as being reborn into such worlds is just another layer of illusion), which leads me to wonder: is "liberation" even the right word for this process? Perhaps "annihilation" or "vanishing" would be more accurate. If the unborn is inherently free and void, then the illusory self, upon realizing its true nature, simply dissolves in a flash of insight. In reality, nothing truly changes; what was always free remains so, and what was never free never truly existed. The ultimate question remains: to what end?

Doesn't this entire concept seem completely nonsensical? All that spiritual labor, practice, and devotion spanning aeons just to realize we are a "holographic program," living in a "holodeck," and made of uncreated light dust—only to dissolve back into that dust and lose any sense of "self"? It feels a bit absurd, doesn't it?

On an intellectual level, grasping this idea isn't difficult. Modern science provides plenty of support, and beyond that, we have our own personal experiences, intuition acting as a channel to universal knowledge, and the mind's capacity for abstract thought. Actually "achieving" such a state is undoubtedly much harder and requires immense discipline. Perhaps adopting this view of reality could simplify and beautify our lives. But why would anyone set the "annihilation of consciousness" as their ultimate goal? Why would we want to dissolve into the void? Usually, the answer given is to escape the suffering of birth and death. But who is actually escaping it? Once you realize the illusion, the one being born and dying is merely a vanishing act, while that which was never born or died lacks a "self" to begin with. To me, it all looks like a pointless cycle: non-existence, existence, then non-existence again. 🤷

I hope my point comes through clearly in this topic. 😁
Anthony Taylor393 said:Seeing Serena Williams get disqualified really got me thinking about this. I guess we all have this weird urge to put people on pedestals and turn them into icons.

Most of us were totally idolizing Serena... then it hit us a few days later that having a disability doesn't make someone a literal superhero who’s incapable of lying or faking things, or somehow just more emotionally advanced than the rest of us.

We’re all pretty quick to slap positive labels on people based on just one thing about them. Like, if you hear someone is gay, you probably just assume they’re this super open-minded liberal type. Just look at George W. Bush—he definitely wasn't exactly pushing liberal agendas.🙄

I once got into it on a forum with this guy who was a hardcore vegetarian Buddhist, but he was talking total nonsense about people from other faiths. Did his diet actually make him a better human being? Probably not.🤷

Have you guys ever fallen for that "positive discrimination" trap and ended up feeling let down later?

Oh, more than once! 😁

We are all prone to our own biases, whether they are negative or positive.

Every group contains all sorts of different individuals, and we shouldn't assume everyone will possess the specific qualities we expect just because they belong to a certain demographic. For instance, people who identify as religious should ideally follow the core moral tenets of their faith, which would make them people of excellent character. In reality, however, you will find all kinds of people among those who call themselves religious: some can be malicious, envious, or even criminals. It sounds absurd, but it happens quite often. Ultimately, someone identifying with a specific group doesn't necessarily say anything about who they are as an individual or what their true character might be.
Zen is everywhere in Spirituality ·
Edward Flores4 said:It’s funny because Dr. Suzuki actually writes about people exactly like this. A real student goes out looking for a solid teacher, but a fool? A fool just looks for validation and "official certification." It’s because a true student understands the essence, whereas someone lacking depth needs a piece of paper they can wave around—something "tangible" to help soothe their own insecurities.

That’s really what those monasteries are for... they become magnets for the worst kinds of people. Most of them just sit there in a total daze, waiting for some grand "miracle" to drop from the sky and grant them enlightenment while they're busy coasting through life and wasting everyone's time. 😁

So go ahead, bring us that certificate so we have something to wipe our butts with. 😉

I believe this is an unnecessary dismissal of someone's spiritual efforts. For instance, in Japan, people have historically entered monasteries for all sorts of reasons. Much like in American Christian traditions, children were sometimes placed in monasteries because their parents couldn't afford to care for them, or it was custom for one son to become a monk. Therefore, it is inaccurate to claim that everyone in a monastery is there solely due to a spiritual calling or a desire for enlightenment. However, many truly are. Many of these individuals are far from being "fools" who lack direction; they enter monastic life to follow teachers with dedicated discipline. Dr. Suzuki himself states that "zazen alone does not lead to enlightenment," and I doubt any other Zen masters—whether independent or in monasteries—would disagree. In my view, zazen, like any spiritual practice, serves to harmonize the mind and body. Everything in spirituality matters—our thoughts, our actions, our diet, our sleep, and even our breathing. Whether these things lead specifically to "enlightenment" is secondary. What matters is that our entire being undergoes a transformation for our own benefit and for the good of those around us.
Hannah in Spirituality ·
Thanks to everyone who contributed to this discussion. 🙂

Ryan Wilson2 said:Now, I certainly don't want to ruin anyone's pleasant little fantasy, but the first thing that struck me was the fact that this woman lived in a harem. I believe most people have a basic understanding of what a harem actually entails, and frankly, it seems to me that when individuals find themselves with zero agency in their lives, they tend to cling to these romanticized, fairy-tale notions just to justify their own circumstances.

Her mother, grandmother, and aunts all lived in a harem setting—though I am not referring to a harem as a place where one man lives with multiple women. Rather, it refers to a large communal household where many relatives live together, and where women do not go out without permission or an escort. However, the author is a product of the modern era and did not grow up under those traditional rules. Furthermore, not all such households were identical. In Hannah's case, this dynamic exists not just in her own home, but also at her grandmother's house in the countryside, where she actually enjoyed significant freedom of movement.

It occurs to me: isn't it much easier for Hannah to develop within large communities where multiple generations live side by side? People today, accustomed to isolation and loneliness, have lost the ability to interact properly, let alone accept, love, and treat one another with unconditional tenderness. We have been taught entirely different values. I found St. Andrew's post quite striking: 'When Tao is lost, kindness remains; when kindness is lost, morality remains; when morality is lost, law remains; and when law is lost, ritual remains. Thus, ritual becomes the shell of love.' We have become people of ritual. And sometimes, we lose even that.
Hannah in Spirituality ·
I’ve been reading a book by the Moroccan writer Fatima Mernissi lately. She recounts her childhood in a harem and mentions Hannah on several occasions—a quality she notes is uniquely Moroccan and one she rarely encountered in other parts of the world. While she admits that *hanan* is difficult to define, she suggests it is best described as an inexhaustible, boundless, and unconditional tenderness. Those who embody *hanan* never threaten to withdraw their affection, even if a mistake is made, whether large or small. To her, *hanan* is a divine gift; it flows like a geyser, showering tenderness upon others regardless of how they behave or whether they strictly follow religious laws. She believes only the most saintly and chosen individuals possess this quality, and that, much like the quiet beauty of nature, *hanan* is the only true remedy for deep human sorrow.

Are you familiar with this feeling? Have you ever experienced it, either receiving it from someone else or offering it to another? Do you believe such a sentiment exists across all cultures and nations? Is it something that can be consciously cultivated through practice, or do you agree with the author that it is a rare gift from God? Do you think *hanan* is a defining trait of truly spiritual people?
How do you stay a good person in a broken world? in Spirituality ·
James Allen2 said:Kimberly Evans, feralheron17, thanks for the cynicism, and I apologize for crashing so aggressively into your space. To mistybison and the rest of you, I appreciate the replies. In principle, I was hoping to find someone who operates like I do—someone driven by the philosophy of manifesting their own reality through the law of attraction, mastering their thoughts and desires to shape their lives, so that I might receive an answer rooted in actual lived experience. But it seems most people on this forum view spirituality through the lens of religious dogma, a concept I discarded long ago, which means I’ll likely have to look for answers elsewhere. One thing is certain: I won't be finding them under 'Lonely Hearts'.👎

You simply have to be open to love. It really is an art form. 🙂 We attract what we carry within ourselves. If you are closed off, blocked by fears, or limited by rigid ideas of what love should look like, it becomes difficult to actually experience it. When you truly "open your heart," people sense it subconsciously, and others who are also "open to love" will be spontaneously drawn to you, just as you are to them. 🙂 The key is to remain open while letting go of all your preconceptions, expectations, and old beliefs about romance. Relax, let love flow through your being, and find joy in your own internal state of love. 🙂 Always be ready for the surprises of the universe (God), and try not to limit what can happen with your own narrow choices. Love often arrives from directions you never even considered. 😉
Spiritual practices in Spirituality ·
quietpilot87 As specified:
Where did you pick up those cards? 🙂

I picked up some cards at the Frankfurt Book Fair, along with a guidebook that I didn't care for much. Instead, I have been primarily using the interpretations from this program as my foundation: Master the art of tarot meditation.I’ve been spending less time with tarot lately, focusing more on the I Ching instead. For now, I’m just using coins—I haven't quite progressed to the advanced stages of using yarrow stalks yet—and when I do turn to tarot, I stick to the Rider-Waite's deck. I still need to find better books and deeper interpretations for both, but there is plenty of time to get there. 🙂 If one truly commits to it, life becomes an endless pursuit of mastering time. 🙂

Spiritual practice shouldn't be separate from daily life. It’s all about maintaining Equilibrium; if you need to work, you work, and if you need to find stillness through meditation, you meditate. If it's time to engage with others, you simply communicate. 👍 If silence is what's required, then remain silent. 😁

I believe every individual possesses a unique rhythm and a set of methods that best suit their nature. For me, moderation is essential; nothing should be excessive or lacking. I find that maintaining an equal level of devotion across all layers of existence—physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual—is vital. My nature demands equilibrium, and whenever that balance is disrupted, it immediately impacts my ability to execute any plans. Consequently, a structured and disciplined lifestyle is incredibly important to me. Even when I don't actively strive for it, circumstances tend to demand it, and I truly feel my best this way. It seems the "golden mean" is the rule that serves me best. 🙂 Of course, this isn't some universal rule that everyone must follow. I believe there are individuals who thrive specifically under extreme circumstances—those moments that push them to transcend their own limits. By immersing themselves completely in a specific field or life mission, they can extract the absolute maximum from their experiences, leading to profound achievements in every sense, including the spiritual.

What kind of rituals are we talking about? Please, share them. 😁
Perhaps consider some cleansing rituals to help you move forward more easily. For example, you might find clarity by simply clearing out all your old clothes. 😁 It’s best to clear out the clutter by deleting unnecessary contacts from your phone. It works just the same for everything else in life.

Breaking free from negative loops isn't easy. It’s incredibly difficult to untangle the knots of thought and emotion that can trap us, swirling around inside for days, months, or even years, ultimately blocking the smooth flow of energy within ourselves and our surroundings. Mastering this process is truly a subtle art. 🙂

It seems to me that rituals function much like symbols; they activate specific energies within us and guide us toward various experiences. Some people find them essential, while others certainly do not.
How do you stay a good person in a broken world? in Spirituality ·
James Allen2 said:I’m posting this under 'Spirituality' in the hopes of finding some clarity, though I’m feeling incredibly lost right now. We’re told we shape our own lives through our intentions and that we need to understand our true desires, but how is one supposed to penetrate that dense, complex subconscious where all these hidden impulses live? This is about my love life. I realized recently that I have never actually entered a relationship because I was genuinely in love; it’s always been driven by either loneliness or a few too many drinks at a bar. While some of those connections eventually turned into something meaningful, I find myself alone once again. What I truly crave—something I’ve never actually experienced—is that overwhelming, maddening rush of falling in love, that visceral pull toward someone, and finally building a life together. It seems so simple, yet why is it so difficult? Why can't I just wish for mutual feelings without all this internal warfare? Some people seem to navigate this effortlessly, falling in love and finding themselves perfectly in sync with someone who feels the exact same way without even trying. And here I am, falling hard all over again. It isn't even a matter of bad timing this time, but there is a massive "but" standing in my way. Our circumstances are different, and I feel completely paralyzed, unable to reach out and tell this person how I feel. Why does life insist on presenting me with these impossible scenarios? I try to maintain a positive outlook and I still allow myself to dream, but lately, the confusion is just overwhelming. I honestly don't know what to do.

This will simply be another experience in a long series—deep, complex, and thrilling. It is an opportunity to better understand yourself, enrich your inner world, and broaden your perspective on the people and the world around you. Given that you posted this in the "Spirituality" section, I assume you are curious about how exactly you expect this to change you on a spiritual level.

Quincy:
I have a bit of a weakness for bad timing—those moments when I choose to keep my feelings guarded just because opening up would turn my entire world upside down, only to watch those people eventually drift right out of my life.
You have to be open with others if you want them to open up to you. You can't remain locked away in your own feelings while simultaneously expecting people to let you into theirs.

Quincy:
Why am I presenting such unusual scenarios?
Perhaps you find more fulfillment living within your imagination than in reality. 🤷
Is the Spirituality Forum actually any good? in Spirituality ·
casualtiger2 said:Hey everyone,
It’s been a minute since I’ve been active here—and now, out of nowhere, I’ve been tapped as a moderator. So, I’m asking you all to jump into this poll so I can get a decent pulse on where we actually stand right now.
I want to hear from the old guard—the "seasoned veterans" who probably use this place as their digital fountain of youth 😉—as well as the newcomers who just joined the party.
The site changes every single day, obviously, and I know "quality" is a pretty hard thing to pin down—especially on a Spirituality Forum—but I think it’s worth taking a snapshot of where we are in this little corner of the internet.

So, here are some prompts to get us started (feel free to throw in your own thoughts too):
- What do you think of the forum over the last few weeks or months?
- What are you actually enjoying?
- What’s getting on your nerves?
- How could we make this better (if it even needs it)? Basically, what’s missing?
(Just trying to make sure everyone stays happy while reading or posting. 🙂)

Look, I know everyone’s going to have subjective takes—some might even be total opposites—so please, let’s avoid any heated arguments over whose opinion is "right." A cool, civil dialogue is always welcome, though.

Since I’ve posted quite a bit myself, here’s my quick, telegraphic take on how things feel to me.

I’ve only really been active here for about two years—even though I registered ages ago for one specific post, then basically went ghost. For a while, this felt like a great spot, both for the community and the topics. But lately, it feels like things have slipped a bit. Part of that was the chaos regarding where we'd host the site, part was the struggle to find permanent moderators—even though, honestly, every mod I've worked with so far has done a killer job—and part was losing some core members who really made this place what it was. It led to this weird illusion that there's some massive drama happening in real life outside of these threads. 😁 Plus, at one point, it felt like a bunch of argumentative personalities were starting to take over.

That said, over the last week or two, it feels like the spiral is finally turning back upward—both in terms of how people talk and the actual content being shared. I’d love to do whatever I can in my capacity to keep that momentum going.

I’ll be opening a dedicated thread soon specifically for moderation and direct communication.

How did they catch you? 😁

I am curious to hear from both the veteran forum "wolves and foxes" (who might use this place as a way to recapture their youth 😉) and those who have just recently joined the community.

It seems to me that the opinions of new members (if such people even exist, given how often old, once-active members return under a new handle) are more important than the views of those of us who have been here for years. Four years ago, I would have thought this sub-forum was excellent; there were periods when I found it quite poor, but now I think it is relatively okay. I believe there is something here for new users to enjoy, including topics worth remembering and reading.

- what do you think of the forum over the last few weeks/months?

Solid.

- what do you particularly like?

Lately, the discussions have become more serious, and I believe moving 'spirituality' to 'philosophy' was a wise decision.

- what irritates you?

The tendency for 'spirituality' to turn into a testing ground for debating the justification of drug use to achieve certain spiritual insights.

- how could the forum be improved (if necessary at all), or what is missing
(to make you happy while reading or writing on the forum 🙂)

If the combatants fighting 'for and against' narcotics moved to a more appropriate sub-forum or limited themselves to a single thread, then spirituality topics would dominate the sub-forum index again. When I have the time, I try to make my modest contribution by occasionally bumping an old thread on a different subject. I hope others will follow my lead, and that those with more time and inspiration will start opening interesting new topics that better suit this sub-forum. 🙂
Love - The OTLA Principle in Spirituality ·
rustymaker5 said:I'm pretty good at grabbing links and all that, but before I go looking for help, is this in English or another language? I don't want to waste my time downloading something I can't read.
I am quite interested, but I would love to be able to read it without needing a dictionary. 😳

Just click download. The book is translated into English and is about 80 pages long. It's a quick read. 🙂
Love - The OTLA Principle in Spirituality ·
dustyranger61 said:If you finish reading this, please leave a comment.

This is an interesting read. It clearly outlines certain universal truths that we all recognize, even if we don't always live by them. 😁 😉

Since the link above is broken, here is the correct one where you can download the book: The Principles of OT. 🙂
Ghost Dance: Behind the Facade of Normalcy in Spirituality ·
Cherokee Prayer

May a warm celestial breeze
blow gently over your home.
May the Great Spirit
bless everyone who enters.
May your footsteps
leave happy tracks through the deep snows
and may a rainbow
always rest upon your shoulder.

Ponytail Prayer

Oh, Eagle, come with wings spread wide against the sunny sky.
Oh, Eagle, come and bring us peace,
your peaceful calm.
Oh, Eagle, come and grant new life to those of us praying to you.
Remember the celestial circle,
the Star,
and the brown eagle,
the life path sun,
and the young ones in the nest.
Remember all that is sacred.

Prayer to the Great Spirit
Prayer of Yellow Owl, Sioux Tribal Chief

Great Spirit,
whose breath gives life to the entire world,
hear me!
I am small and weak,
and I need your strength and wisdom.
Grant me understanding of the things
you have taught my people.
Teach me your lessons
that you have hidden beneath every
leaf and stone.
Give me strength,
not so that I might be greater than my brother,
but so that I may conquer my greatest
enemy—myself.
Allow me to walk through beauty
and to forever watch
the red and pink sunset
and when the sun begins to set,
let me come to You with clean hands,
an honest gaze,
and without shame.

Prayers of Gratitude

Now, let us all listen to these words
that have become our most sacred traditions.

Together we offer our thoughts
as one, giving thanks
to one another.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks to mother earth
for the life she provides.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks for
the first fruits that grow, the berries.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks for all the medicines,
for the plants.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks for the tobacco we use
to send our messages to the creator.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks to all the various animals
that help us sustain our lives.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks to all our different trees,
with the maple being the most exceptional of them all.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to all the waters, both great and small.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to all the different birds that delight us.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks to the forces that work with the earth,
our ancestral thunder, which brings the rain
to renew the land.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to our eldest brother, the sun,
who provides us with light and warmth.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to our grandmother, the Moon,
who governs all life cycles on earth.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to the stars, for they are our kin and beautify the sky.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to the four messengers who guide us.
Let these be our thoughts.

Together we offer our thoughts
and give thanks
to the creator of all, for it is the creator who brought us all together as one.
Let these be our thoughts.

Now, our thoughts are One.
What's with the "spiritual gurus" on this forum!? in Spirituality ·
bluemason3 said:Looking through these threads... we might as well just rename this whole PDF "The Drug Den" 😁 😁

Just so you know! 😁 I haven't visited this section in quite a while, and I am genuinely surprised by what I see. People are starting threads about drugs and digging up ancient discussions from years ago—posts written by users who left this community ages ago. Back then, the forum felt more intimate, and there wasn't nearly as much need for the heavy-handed moderation we deal with today. In the past, debates centered on different spiritual paths, but now people just argue for the sake of arguing, with absolutely zero spirituality to be found in their posts.😁

ontheedge is right: this forum has become twisted, and we true spiritual seekers🙂 😁, must distance ourselves from this Sodom and Gomorrah.🧐
Getting way too soft/tolerant lately in Psychology ·
Christian Sanchez4, you took the words right out of my mouth. 🙂 Tolerance isn't actually part of human nature. If we had the power, everyone would just reshape the world to fit their own standards and push away anyone who gets on their nerves. 😁 However, since we all have to coexist within the same American society despite our differences, we try our best to accept those variations and find ways to live alongside them. There is no such thing as a universally tolerant person. Everyone is tolerant of certain things, just not everything. I'm not even sure if total tolerance is an ideal worth striving for. Why force ourselves to tolerate something that goes against everything we stand for?
A bit of a weird problem in Psychology ·
lonegardener said:I know why...

I get frustrated with myself because I honestly feel like I'm brilliant, even though every single day I prove to myself that I'm actually as clueless as they come. It's strange how an intelligent person can be so hopelessly dense. 😲

I mean, I can go maybe five days without feeling the need to lecture someone, and then that's it... I can't hold out any longer. Is that some kind of obsessive-compulsive thing? Maybe an addiction? 😱

How should I put this... I realize that I don't know anything, yet somehow everything still feels crystal clear to me. 😬 And I just can't help it... the realization that I am completely unversed in so many fields of human knowledge doesn't actually instill any sense of respect or humility in me regarding the fact that other people know a massive amount about those subjects (different people knowing different things).

To be completely honest (at least on this subject, not generally 😈)—I think I first noticed this trait in other people, and it drove me absolutely crazy; then I realized I was exactly the same way. In fact, I probably get annoyed with those same people precisely because they are just like me. (It’s like those two goats fighting on a narrow ridge in one of those old fables).

I would love for someone to thoroughly prove to me that I have no idea what I'm talking about—but they'd have to do it impartially, neutrally, and with pure logic. Because if they get emotionally involved, I'll just dismiss it as their own ego trip or their own desperate need to act smart, or whatever. Just vanity, really. Vanitas vanitatum, etoga vanitas. Even when someone tries to convince me that it's perfectly fine to be vain, that it's normal and something I should just accept and make peace with... even doing that is usually driven by that same vanity, for themselves rather than for me. They say a dog doesn't bark for the sake of the village... and I see that clearly in myself. I'm the dog, and I'm not barking for the village; I'm barking for myself. And even the desire I have to bark for the village for just one day—even that is just another selfish wish. Damn. 😠 😠 😠

Thinking like this leaves me with this feeling of hopeless lack of freedom... sure, I can do whatever I want, but I can only want what I want and nothing else. When it comes to my own desires, I am totally conditioned and determined. I can't "want to want" something different than what I actually want. Well, I technically can—I'm doing it right now 😬—but then I fall into a total paradox and a logical loop that gives me a headache. Better go to sleep...

If you talk daily with experts in fields where you have zero knowledge, they will inevitably outmatch you with their expertise. 😁 I haven't gotten the impression that you're "showing off" on this forum or jumping into topics you know nothing about just to voice an opinion. You mostly stick to general subjects where we all have perspectives based on our own experiences. Surely you realize that in 10 or 20 years, your views on almost everything will shift as you gain more wisdom, so there is no reason to be overly attached to what you think right now about life or people. Does that help? 😁

lonegardener said:Is there such a thing as a "different" kind of family? 😲 🤣

All jokes aside... seriously though, I think you could find traces of what he’s talking about pretty much anywhere, whether it's subtle or glaringly obvious. At least, that's my take on it. 😲

Exactly... what Americans would call a "knee-jerk reaction." I just can't resist that kind of hollow philosophizing. At the end of the day, it all boils down to a handful of recurring motives circling the drain: motivation, selfishness, purpose, meaning... just endless combinations and variations of the same thing. Throw in a little politics and sociology, and wow—what a massive, messy pile of nonsense you get! 😠

Honestly, I always love the actual process of philosophizing—it’s great while it's happening—but that "after-taste" is just awful. You end up feeling like you haven't actually become any smarter, nor have you helped anyone else in the slightest. Though, I suppose if enough time passes, maybe it eventually becomes useful.

Exactly. That whole identity crisis issue 😢 ... IBM, when I remember high school, back when they had those psychology classes talking about an 'identity crisis'—it felt so ridiculous. What kind of dark crisis was that? Seriously, WTF? 🙄 😍

So, what would you say instead? Who or what are you, really?

IBM.. but this sounds a bit 'too good to be true,' almost overly positive. For instance, how would you answer these:
1. Are you certain that's actually the case, or rather, how can you possibly know?
2. How do I know you truly believe that, and aren't just trying to comfort yourself by repeating it because maybe you're dealing with the exact same thing?
3. Even if I assume you know and that it really is true—in that scenario, what is my center versus my periphery, and how do I tell them apart? 😕

What’s the harm? 🙂 Just view it as mental entertainment. 🙂

The actual philosophizing is always fun, but the aftertaste is terrible... I don't end up smarter, and I certainly haven't helped anyone. Though, perhaps enough time passing makes it worthwhile.

Think of this "philosophizing" as a game. 🙂 A game has no ultimate purpose other than being enjoyable while you play it. Once the game is over, we simply move on to the next one or return to something "serious." 🙂
Feeling like a total failure in Psychology ·
wiredbear2 said:Well, you know, being deeply dissatisfied with your job isn't actually such a trivial matter at all... one can only imagine the sheer variety of ailments and stresses that stem from that kind of discontent. People still seem to take it far too lightly, often failing to take any meaningful action to change their situation... and even if they wanted to, there aren't many places where they can turn for real help. I suspect most people would just look at them with total confusion for complaining, simply because they technically have a paycheck coming in...

That is absolutely true! I once held a job that I truly loathed, and it made me resent my colleagues, myself, and honestly, the whole world. If I had tried to just "accept my fate," I wouldn't have lasted more than three days before breaking down and crying for an hour straight, thinking how I'd rather be starving than face that office again. Just thinking about it now! 😢 And then there was the constant commentary from everyone around me: "A job is just a job," "Think of all the people who would kill for your position," "Look at all the benefits you have," "Money is what matters," "What else would you do? So many people are unemployed," "Just be grateful you have something," or "Even John and Lazarus 😬 are thrilled with their roles, yet here you are complaining." It was all just different versions of the same dismissive attitude. 😁 Consequently, I had to pretend to be fine both at the office and in my private life. I could only breathe when I was alone; the rest of the time, I was essentially living a lie. 😢

No amount of money can motivate me enough to endure something that goes against my very core. I wish it were different—life would certainly be easier. I truly envy those who can feel and think that way! 😢 I also admire anyone who carries a genuine passion within them, much like a dedicated hobbyist. If I possessed that kind of drive, I know I would move heaven and earth to achieve it. 🙂

Regarding the topic, you haven't wasted your life. 🙂 You’ve gained a fascinating experience and significant knowledge that will likely influence your new career path: life follows unpredictable routes, sometimes circling back to things we thought we left behind, just in a different form. There is a new passion waiting for you that deserves your full commitment. Don't push it away; stay involved, even if it starts as a hobby like sculpting. New opportunities will emerge once you take that first step. 🙂 If you deny that part of yourself, you'll end up feeling like a zombie, just going through the motions while life becomes increasingly hollow. Don't settle for merely surviving when you have the chance to truly live. 🙂
Who are your favorite moderators, Vasa? in Feedback & Suggestions ·
Morgan Rodriguez57 said:Way back in the day on the politics board—under a completely different handle... maybe 2003? 🤔

They could certainly step back in. There is always a demand for fresh moderators there. 🙂