Posts by Betty Fowler

boldnomad45 said:They aren't enjoying it. It's compulsive. They're just burying some unresolved trauma. They think they're processing it, but really, they're just subconsciously trying to shield themselves from the pain.

Peter Murphy6 said:They’re actually getting a kick out of the shame and the disgust, not the booze. It’s all part of a defense mechanism—turning the "negative" into something "positive" just to run away from themselves.

Clearly, you don't know much about how people actually tick.

If I didn't have such a nice head on my shoulders, I might have hit it against the table after reading nonsense like that.

boldnomad45, you're talking about the causes of alcoholism, while Peter Murphy6 is discussing psychological mechanisms. Neither of those points refutes the fact that alcohol releases dopamine in the brain, creating physical pleasure. That’s all I ever said—alcohol provides pleasure. The same applies to cigarettes. Just because you’re coughing, smelling like smoke, and gasping for air after walking a few steps doesn't mean cigarettes don't provide satisfaction.

Peter Murphy6 said:They’re actually getting a kick out of the shame and the disgust, not the booze. It’s all part of a defense mechanism—turning the "negative" into something "positive" just to run away from themselves.

Clearly, you don't know much about how people actually tick.

I’d ask you to teach me, but I really don't want to be suffocated by another one of your mile-long messages.
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boldnomad45 said:Not quite. Listen, if you actually care about the reality of women and men being forced into compulsions—specifically the fantasy of sexual assault—it isn't "sexy." It's deep shame, disgust, and a complete lack of pleasure. It's torture. It's pathology. But I suppose none of that is relevant to this discussion.

Sure, but alcoholics feel shame and disgust too, and that doesn't mean they aren't getting a hit from the booze.

velvetcobra65 said:Why on earth would you need to know who I am? It’s enough that I know... who you are.

Just go back to the start, take a quick look at the thread, and move on... if you're looking for other kinds of "philias," maybe try searching the Dark Net, because Reddit isn't exactly stocked up on that stuff.

It’s actually tragic how today's youth can't find enough rape videos to properly educate themselves! I mean, nobody gets filmed anymore—it's all so amateur and pathetic... it would be great if someone just uploaded them to Reddit so kids could watch an episode of some trashy reality show mixed with a "how-to" guide on assault, then jump over to some fitness site to work out... and then boom, you'd become the most famous rapist in America. You know, where Kolinda hugs you more than she hugs the football players (and we all know what she's really fantasizing about there... despite all that screaming and scratching)... Thompson might even write a poem about you!!
It's just terrible how much the younger generation is being prevented from pursuing their true ambitions.

You really missed the mark here. You didn't even grasp my point.

And based on your reaction, you probably have quite the imagination... I think I've said enough.

velvetcobra65 said:Sure, just as sexy as your little coprophilia thing...
I guess you can find plenty of that on YouTube, enjoy.

My profile picture?

I'm sorry if I offended you somehow, but honestly, I don't even know who you are.

boldnomad45 said:God, regarding that whole rape fetish nonsense. It stems from trauma when someone was abused as a child. There is absolutely nothing sexy about it.

But what does the origin of a fetish have to do with anything? If it’s a fetish, then by definition, it’s considered sexy.

Rebecca Carter8 said:You really need to look into the NoFap movement immediately, because you have clearly spiraled into an extreme obsession with pornography.🤣

That kind of thing isn't really my thing at all, even if it’s clearly a huge obsession for plenty of other people—especially women.
Like I was saying, it’s a strange thing to realize you can find footage of someone being decapitated by a chainsaw, yet videos of sexual assault are often harder to come by. Both are horrific acts, obviously, but I can't help but feel one is fundamentally worse than the other. It's more extreme on every level—visually, audibly, and morally speaking.

boldnomad45 said:And where is this actually banned? In the stand-up specials I watch, there are no forbidden topics. Even female comedians are brutal on stage. There are no bans.

It isn't illegal, but the social stigma is definitely there.

It’s interesting how you can find videos of people being killed in the most gruesome ways with just two clicks online, yet finding footage of a sexual assault is almost impossible.

Carl Rivera43 said:I actually think she doesn't even realize how much she's overreacting. It's almost like she's fighting against being this jealous, you know?

What do you think of it?

Imagine coming onto a forum as an anonymous user and opening a thread while still hiding your actual "goal" or the very "problem" that serves as the core of the entire discussion. What am I supposed to do here? Play a game of chance and try to decipher, word by word, exactly what massive obstacle your stubborn head keeps running into?

I honestly hope nobody replies to you after this, and that your thread slowly but surely sinks into a digital black hole.

Brandon Foster7 said:Run for the hills while you still can.

Egomaniac, selfish, and a total fraud.
He’ll play those hot-and-cold games just to mess with your head, drain your soul, and pick your pockets.

Don't be the naive girl who thinks helping him out of a jam will magically make him realize you're "the one."

He’s a cliché, honestly. Easy to spot.

If you fall for it, you kind of had it coming.

Or he’s just got another girl on standby to jump to if things don't work out with her. In the meantime, he’ll act all unstable just so he knows you're sitting there waiting.

I was going to share my thoughts, but Brandon Foster7 pretty much said it all.

There's nothing left to say here.

Sam Martinez9 said:Of course we were cooperating even before we evolved into Homo sapiens. I see cooperation without conflict everywhere I look—at my job, within my own family, in other people's homes, or even just sitting on a Greyhound bus...

True, but isn't that cooperation always serving a larger struggle against a specific problem? Cooperation within a family ensures its members are better positioned compared to others. At work, you're competing with colleagues for a better role, your company is vying against other corporations, and your country is competing with other nations on the global stage. And so on, and so forth...

Sam Martinez9 said:I wouldn't say that. We have actually taken the first steps toward ending this cycle—we’ve identified the conflict itself and started looking toward cooperation as the alternative. Naturally, there is still a significant road ahead of us, provided we don't tear ourselves apart before we get there.

We actually "found" cooperation long before we ever stepped down from the trees. How can you have cooperation without the struggle to begin with?

I honestly don't get how anyone can be so detached from reality that they'd seriously consider a utopian society. We evolved in an environment that is the polar opposite of utopia, developing needs and impulses that will inevitably result in one person's happiness coming at the expense of another's. As we find more areas of life where we are equal, the importance of those areas where we can still differentiate ourselves only grows. I think this mechanism is beautifully illustrated in this scene, where something as trivial as a business card turns into a tool for competition.

We are condemned to an eternal struggle... even if it's just against windmills. 🙂

wearyrider16 said:What do you do when you’re stuck somewhere between the earth and the sky?

In that case, you'd better be wearing a parachute. 🙂

Carl Rivera43 said:Wait, what? The US military?

Hey Carl Rivera43, do you prefer them shy or more outspoken? 🍿

First, you’ve got to beat HIV; dealing with shyness is actually the easy part...

Not too shabby

just stay brave

Well, look at that. It turns out nimbleharbor46 didn't actually find a soulmate on Psychic after all. The world is reeling. ☕

Rebecca Carter8 said:The fundamental hurdle a man has to clear if he wants to spark a woman's interest lies in accepting a harsh reality: she isn't interested in him as a person, but rather as an object of desire—a "thing" she chooses to tolerate within her life structure.

Men are conditioned to believe we shouldn't objectify women, but instead view them as complex individuals with feelings and unique interests, under the assumption that treating them this way will naturally trigger their attraction. In practice, this is quite difficult because many women lack depth beyond their physical appearance, which is often the only thing drawing men toward them in the first place. Consequently, it creates a false impression that any woman who attracts male attention is inherently superficial, if one is forced to operate at that level of nonverbal communication.
The dynamic works identically in reverse. By default, women aren't looking at men as people; rather, a man must actively cultivate that interest by presenting himself as someone valuable enough to be worth having in her life. However, the moment a man reveals his emotional side—especially when he demonstrates actual emotional needs—it shatters the illusion the woman has built around him, leading to a total loss of interest.
Therefore, for a man to successfully win a woman over, he must function as a subject of desire rather than a human being.

Don't take advice from women on how men should act to be attractive, or what kind of men they supposedly prefer. It’s not that they’re intentionally lying to you; it’s more that most women—honestly, most of them—don't consciously know what they want. Those participating in forums like this might be a bit more "enlightened," which arguably makes them even more prone to self-deception.

You mention what "we men" are taught, but isn't it more about how you were raised by your parents and how you educate yourself once you hit adulthood? Society's influence is secondary to that. Men are rarely allowed any room for weakness. As for the objectification you're talking about, it goes both ways because everyone is just looking to satisfy their own needs. Men tend to see women as tools for sexual gratification, while women often see men as tools for security—think financial stability or social status.
If you manage to meet a woman's specific needs, even if she claims to be a hardcore feminist, she probably won't care half as much about the objectification she usually complains about.