Dana Ortiz2 said:Alright, what’s the deal with this whole obsession with blonde hair lately? Blondes just aren't the vibe anymore.😁 Everyone knows that, except apparently for you people on this forum 🤔 If you ask guys, most will tell you hair color doesn't really matter, though they definitely lean toward brunettes more often. Boys like blondes, but MEN like brunettes 😳
As for the topic at hand, sure, maybe she was prettier before, but it could also just be that she had better game—maybe she carried herself with more confidence or seemed way more approachable, and so on. It isn't always about looks; I once had this friend who was totally average-looking, yet she cycled through boyfriends (who were actually way hotter than her) like they were nothing.😁
Are you still dealing with this kind of stuff, or what? Honestly, I highly doubt you started this thread because of some deep-seated issue you had back when you were fifteen or sixteen.🤣
hm, you're wrong. maybe brunettes are trending right now, but like sailor said in Wild at Heart, "gentlemen prefer blondes" 😉
I haven't read the whole thread, but the exact same thing happened to me back in the day when I was a mess and didn't know how to work my assets. My friend who got all the attention had short black hair and wore tons of makeup 🙂
Look, I just wanted to say that everything you’re going through sounds exactly like what depression does to people. It isn't a reflection of who you are; it’s just this illness taking over your life. The total lack of physical and mental energy, that feeling where nothing matters anymore... You mentioned that things spiral once you let those feelings in, and honestly, that might be it—you're fighting some really heavy stuff right now. In all of this, getting into psychotherapy would be a huge move, just keep fighting for yourself.
Have you ever tried visualizing things while you're cooking? Like, if a recipe calls for "half an onion, two tomatoes, and one zucchini," instead of trying to memorize the words, try picturing those exact ingredients sitting right there on your kitchen counter. That trick helps me a ton when I'm grocery shopping or trying to remember recipes.
Also, how is it that your doctor hasn't switched up your meds yet if you haven't seen any improvement in six months?
Honestly, if I were you, I’d just print this whole post out and hand it straight to whichever doctor you end up seeing. I think you managed to lay out your issues and how you're feeling with total honesty and precision, which is huge if you want to actually get some real help. And don't freak out about where you're at right now—we've all hit rock bottom at some point, whether it's a small bump or a total meltdown; it's just part of being human. Sometimes you can pull yourself out of the hole alone, and sometimes you need people—whether it's random folks on an online forum, professionals, or family. Reaching out to us here is already a massive step; you've admitted to yourself that things aren't okay and that you need support. The next move is definitely finding a psychologist. I know getting started feels impossible when you're feeling this low, but man, you've gotta dig deep and fight for yourself. When you're sinking, it feels like you'll never laugh again, but even the absolute worst chapters eventually end. Sending you nothing but strength to go see that specialist. Since you mentioned you don't have anyone close to lean on right now, just keep posting here. We've got your back.
PS, and why not just "vent" to your own people about what's going on? Let them know where your head is at so they don't expect too much from you until you're feeling more like yourself. Right now, you just need peace and someone in your corner.
So what actually went down with that psychiatrist who turned out to be a total piece of work? Like, have you ever had to see a shrink before because of your own stuff?
You said this dissatisfaction started creeping in about six months ago; did something specific happen in your life that could've triggered an emotional shock or some kind of major turning point?
I honestly think you should just tell your boyfriend that you've been feeling depressed lately. Don't bottle it up—just let it out. He'll handle it way better than you think he will. I feel like talking to someone close to you would really help so you don't keep everything locked inside, because when you hold it in, everything just feels way more intense and overwhelming than it actually is. I know it’s hard to admit and that it changes things in your life right now, but maybe it’s what needs to happen for you to actually feel better.
And I really think you need to go to a psychiatrist and actually seek professional help. Because you're struggling and hurting, and there's no reason for it to be this hard if you reach out for support. I get that getting help is tough when you're in this headspace, but you've gotta find the strength to fight for yourself and get through what you're going through right now.
ps. I think you might be onto something when you say this could be a reaction to having achieved everything you set out to do, yet you still don't feel "amazing," and you're just hit with this sense of hopelessness or emptiness—like, you did "everything," so now what?
pps, after reading your post again, I see you've decided to handle this all wrong: you won't "burden" your loved ones because they'll just worry, but at the same time, you don't want professional help because you were burned once before. Look, girl, I'm telling you again, you're young and vulnerable; there is absolutely no reason or point in trying to walk through these feelings alone. You can't carry "this" all by yourself.
So what are your Vitamin D levels looking like? Basically, you need Vitamin D to actually absorb calcium. Since you mentioned you’re getting enough calcium in your diet, there's a huge chance your deficiency is coming from a lack of Vitamin D instead. Where are you living? Are you stuck in somewhere cold like Seattle or Chicago? The main way we get Vitamin D is through sunlight, so if you aren't getting enough sun, that could be causing both issues. Another thing—if you're a woman going through menopause, your estrogen levels drop, which leads to bone decalcification. In that specific case, just taking a calcium supplement might do the trick. As for your nails peeling, that sounds more like a Vitamin B complex deficiency than a calcium issue. Personally, I tossed those pills, but honestly, you probably need to take them every single day for a few months just to get your levels back to normal.
Since it's a scientifically proven fact that animal cruelty during childhood and adolescence—often a symptom of a personality disorder—is incredibly linked to violent crime later in life, specifically because almost every rapist and serial killer has a history of "playing" with animals, I honestly think society needs to protect itself from these freaks. If the law won't do it (because the government doesn't give a damn until this idiot starts messing with people, and maybe even then), then we need some kind of massive retaliation.👍
So apparently, someone called me a monster just because I want to protect innocent animals and punish sick psychopaths who lack both empathy and a conscience, which is honestly pretty stupid. Because a creature like Srdjan will easily kick a baby or an old man too, and once just kicking isn't fun enough anymore, his twisted mind will come up with even more "fun" ways to torment the innocent and those weaker than him. And he'll do it without any empathy or guilt, because he simply doesn't have it, and he’s never going to learn how to care about anyone else's pain.
But, since he can still feel physical pain, it would be great to at least kick him like the moron he is.
Personally, I think creatures like that don't deserve to live or breathe the same air as us—people who actually value Life and just want to live in peace and harmony with one another and Mother Nature. And I think most people agree with me.
Someone asked me what I thought about the conflict in Rwanda, and my answer is that in this context, I don't give a shit about the conflict in Rwanda. night.
Honestly, I feel like thinking that hurting a cat is somehow okay isn't just weird—it's totally unhinged. Anyone who thinks that’s a good idea has to be seriously traumatized by their home life or just born completely broken.
I don't know a single "normal" person on this planet who would ever think kicking a cat is a decent idea. Part of being a decent human being involves having empathy and compassion for other people and all living creatures, but clearly, monsters like this guy don't have a clue what that means. A regular person is going to pet a cat; only some twisted, damaged idiot and a straight-up monster would go out of their way to cause pain.
electricviper2 said:First off...it's just TRAGIC👎 The thing is, calling this guy a "moron" isn't quite right, because being a moron should be treated like a medical condition... This is just a textbook example of pure primitivism. You know, that whole way of living where people just refuse to keep up with scientific, technological, or cultural advancements in the world, basically standing in opposition to everything that’s actually progressive and normal, which inevitably just causes these primitive groups or individuals to drift further and further away from modern standards over time... Basically, we're looking at one guy, or maybe a tiny little clique of primitives, who thinks—and the worst part is they actually believe—that doing something this mindless will somehow make them famous... Anyway, they deserve a serious reprimand, and honestly, someone should really nail this guy with a punishment so heavy he never forgets the exact day, hour, minute, and second he thought this was a good idea... Since this brand of primitivism seems to be baked into almost every corner of life here in America, I guess all we can do is sit back and helplessly watch scenes like this play out... Heavy penalties are the only language these types actually understand, but... man, we are still such a long way from being able to enforce that, a really, really long way...Unfortunately!!!
I'm totally with you on this whole primitivism thing. It's just a huge, widespread phenomenon here in America, and as much as I hate admitting it, it's everywhere. Sometimes I scroll through certain Facebook groups run by people from our neck of the woods, and I literally can't even process some of the names, comments, or just the general logic people use there. It's gross. It makes me feel like they should just be locked up in a pen like sheep, left to rot by themselves without any contact with the outside world—just like they've lived until now, because honestly, it's better for everyone.
edit: animal abuse is one of those things that actual killers usually do right before they commit a murder.
Hannah Ramos71 said:...it feels like there’s always an empty seat next to me 😲 Maybe I’m just overthinking things, but I can't shake the feeling that whenever someone walks in, they’d much rather find a spot somewhere else or just stay standing than sit right beside me. Does anyone else ever feel this way? 😕
Honestly, I don't think it's anything you're doing. For some reason, even when half the seats are wide open, a ton of idiots choose to just stand there 🙂 I have no clue why, because if I see a chair, I'm taking it immediately, and then I just stare at all these people who insist on standing. And even once I do grab a seat, I’d much rather sit by myself than deal with someone else; I feel like most people feel the exact same way. It's nothing personal, really—I don't even look at who's sitting where, I just try to snag a spot, and if I can't, I'll just stand. And yeah, I definitely notice that when I take a seat, a bunch of them stay standing or go hunting for other spots, or they'll even sit near someone else, which honestly feels like a relief to me. 🙂
Honestly, nothing gets under my skin quite like arrogance and people acting like they know everything better than you, maybe even more than any other bad trait. But what really drives me up the wall is that deep-seated insecurity and pure lack of class—the kind where if you try to offer some genuine advice based on actual life experience, they immediately label you as condescending or stuck-up.
I’ve dealt with this exact scenario before: I’m talking to someone who is incredibly lazy, has zero ambition, just spends their whole day playing the victim and expecting everyone else to do the heavy lifting for them. They’re settled into this marriage thinking they’ve hit the jackpot just because they tied the knot, despite having no degree and absolutely no desire to actually learn anything about the world. It’s one of those combinations of traits that makes my blood boil.😁 So there I am, trying to be decent, attempting to have a helpful conversation and offering some practical solutions to the problems they keep whining about—because I’m actually trying to help them fix things rather than just nodding along to the complaining—and suddenly, I'm the arrogant one. Apparently, I'm just "lecturing" them.
Honestly, that was a total waste of time. I haven't seen a movie that bad in ages. I’ll give it this much: the ending was clever and I didn't see it coming, but at the end of the day, it was just a weak attempt at being "original." Honestly, I thought Strangers was way more intense.
Joshua Carter97 said:But what’s actually wrong with that? Why does it get under your skin so much? I know I tend to over-apologize—I'm fully aware of it—but I just feel terrible whenever someone gets angry with me. Wouldn't you consider the possibility that the person actually has good intentions? Sometimes my own behavior reminds me of a stray dog looking for a home, only to get kicked away instead. I have this nagging feeling that being defensive just triggers aggression in others, though I can never quite wrap my head around why. I just don't feel strong enough to stand my ground and show some teeth.
stop apologizing, especially when you know you didn't do anything wrong don't go out of your way trying to be everyone's best friend just be yourself—be authentic, and if nothing else, at least try to look like you actually believe in yourself. be polite to everyone, stay professional, but don't be pathetic. that’s how you actually attract people and earn their respect if you try too hard to suck up to everybody, you're just gonna push them away because they'll think you're fake, weak, or desperate... and honestly, that's a huge turn-off
and you seriously shouldn't show any weakness, especially not at the office people will walk all over you just because they can because they see that you need them
and as long as you're acting like a lost puppy begging for a scrap of attention, you're just gonna keep getting screwed over I once heard this saying, something like: act like a sheep and everyone's gonna slaughter you act like a lion and everyone's gonna back off...
you'll show your teeth when you've finally had enough... when you've reached your limit... but before that, you gotta endure and swallow a lot of crap... then you start doing your thing. you'll be professional with everyone, polite but strictly business. you won't apologize because you won't give a damn what anyone thinks about you... and people will actually respect you. sure, some people still won't like you, but you won't give a shit. they can roll their eyes all they want, and you'll just give them an even bigger smile and say "good morning." it might even become fun, because you truly won't care
Sounds like you’ve got classic nail fungus symptoms here. We're talking thickening, brittleness, those horizontal ridges from cracking, and yellowing. You probably notice that nasty, acetone-smelling gunk building up underneath when you try to clean them out.
You really need to hit up a doctor so they can run a culture; they have to take a sample from under the nail to make sure you get the right treatment. Usually, it involves taking pills over a long period, though in milder cases, there's a topical lacquer you apply for about six months. Good luck, and seriously, hurry up before it spreads to your other nails.
I get the feeling that so many people dealing with this stuff just "give up" on seeing a dermatologist way too easily, or they wait forever before actually asking for help. Honestly, all this DIY experimentation is totally pointless—in a lot of cases, you're just making things way worse. Someone mentioned putting cottage cheese on their face earlier, and I seriously don't get how that's supposed to help someone with inflamed breakouts all over their face?! To me, that’s just messing around and smearing junk on your skin, which probably just lets bacteria pile up even more. My advice? Just go to a dermatologist. Try whatever they prescribe, and if you don't see any improvement after a few months, go to a different one or go back and demand answers. It's better than listening to old wives' tales about brewer's yeast—I mean, I know B vitamins are good for your skin, but that kind of thing isn't going to cure you.
Here's some stuff I've picked up regarding problematic skin: -Wash your face with lukewarm water morning and night using a mild cleanser; I read somewhere that an intimate wash actually works pretty well for this. -Pat dry—don't rub—and use a clean towel. -Most estheticians and dermatologists recommend a toner right after washing to regulate your skin's pH (pretty much every skincare line has a cleanser or gel followed by a toner... I can't give you a specific brand recommendation because everyone is different, and there are honestly too many options to list them all). -After the toner, apply a moisturizer. Look for something super gentle and oil-free specifically for acne-prone skin. You can layer it with an acne cream—just apply the acne treatment first when your skin is dry, then put the moisturizer over it (if you're using anything at all). -Keep your hands off your face. Don't touch, don't fidget, and definitely don't squeeze. -Be persistent. Nag your dermatologists and doctors if you have to; a lot of them won't take your issues seriously enough. -Don't quit or start experimenting on your own—you can only do that in very small doses. -Try to find the root cause. Get your blood work done to check for vitamin deficiencies or if you have inflammation somewhere else in your body. -How's your digestion? -A ton of people with stomach ulcers, food allergies, or gluten sensitivity deal with skin issues. -You should watch your diet. Most dermatologists claim diet has nothing to do with skin, but plenty of people notice their skin changes based on what they eat. -You really ought to slash your intake of flour, sugar, and alcohol, since those contribute to Candida growth in your gut, which triggers breakouts. -Seriously, what's your diet like? How's your digestion? Are you regular? Do you deal with bloating, stomach pains, or a nervous stomach? -Eat fruits and veggies, fresh food, and whole grains. Cut out everything greasy, fried foods, fast food, too much red meat, overly spicy food, and soda. -And the classic: drink at least 2 liters of water a day. -Sometimes doing a body detox before starting acne treatments helps. I read that olive leaf extract in pill form kills bacteria, parasites, and fungi in the gut. I don't know how accurate that is, but a cleanse like that is recommended for everyone at least twice a year. -Take your vitamins and minerals daily—like a multivitamin. -Omega-3 helps soothe inflammation. -Vitamin D is huge; without it, your body can't absorb the calcium needed for cell regeneration. -Get as much Vitamin C as you can. -Are you getting enough protein? -Are you physically active? -Do you get out into the fresh air? -Try to stress less and do things you actually enjoy. That's basically everything I can think of right now; hopefully, this helps you out a little. Oh yeah, I also read that laser treatments help with problematic skin, but apparently only for people whose breakouts are caused by Propionibacterium. -Clay masks should help too, so ask your dermatologist about them.
Anyway, good luck fighting off those little pests.
Look, you can't just go buying Accutane on the black market. I don't care how desperate you feel right now—just get that idea out of your head immediately.🙂 To even get handed those pills by your doctor, you have to jump through all these endless hoops with medical tests, and then if you're actually lucky enough to get them, you're stuck going back for constant checkups. Side effects can be endless, and honestly, they can get pretty damn dangerous too.
I get those weird waves of exhaustion and just general irritability too, usually when I'm wiped out, had a few drinks, or haven't eaten anything decent all day. You think it’s the diet?