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Ryan Wilson2 said:The way you communicate is exhausting. Your astrology theories make zero sense to me. Sometimes it feels like the planets have nothing to do with your theory at all—it’s more like you're just building a life philosophy and throwing a planet in here and there just to fit. It isn't just about one single post; it's the whole series of posts.
That's my take.
And what does that have to do with deleting a post? Sharing a personal opinion about how tiring my communication style is or how confusing my astrological theories are has absolutely nothing to do with the role of moderator that you are performing. Look, I don't care at all what you or anyone else thinks about my work, but I do care about reacting when a moderator fails to moderate according to the forum rules. If there were an actual reason for the deletion, my question would have received a specific answer... instead, these comments just turn into personal attacks.
A moderator will always protect a moderator, so it's probably pointless to expect anything reasonable here. I'm not the first or last person to leave this astronomy pdf for these exact same reasons.
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Amanda Miller, I’m not trying to force anyone to pick sides. I just wanted to file an appeal regarding this insult toward my communication style—basically my personality and how I express myself—given that the reason for deleting my post was completely baseless.
I've read the forum rules, and unless I missed something, I couldn't find anything about:
- nitpicking posts—what does that actually mean? A moderator acting in an official capacity here should stick to the forum rules in serious situations, rather than acting like we're just shouting on a street corner...
- slicing and twisting posts?
- deleting posts? Fine, delete text (or move it) if it's off-topic or offensive (insults, profanity)...
- trolling is clearly defined as: insulting others, intentionally provoking personal arguments, or non-constructive national, religious, or similar conflicts (trolling),
So, based on the definitions in the rules:
- Who did I insult? (If someone feels targeted, please quote them so I can explain or apologize if needed)
- Please provide a quote from my posts where I am intentionally provoking a personal argument
- Or any non-constructive national/religious conflict?
If my last deleted post doesn't have clear grounds for removal, please put it back where it was. If there are clear reasons to delete it, then please just point out exactly which rule was broken.
Thanks.
Slow post that got deleted. Is this off-topic regarding exoplanets? Is this just trolling? If it is, someone please enlighten me.
So if a person is sleeping, meaning they aren't conscious—they are "on the other side"? No.
If something exists "on the other side" outside of human consciousness, then the question arises: what is this "something," and what kind of "side" is it?
Or maybe that "other side" is just a massive NOTHING that humans call "the beyond" simply because they don't understand it... just like how people used to worship fire as a divine force before they invented it. Since they didn't know about fire back then, they perceived it as "otherworldly." Even though fire was part of objective reality, humans believed its cause was a higher power.
A "higher" Martian force....
I wonder how a caveman would react to, say, a spacecraft or an astronaut (UR)... and how his consciousness (SO) would register that encounter and experience.
I know you know that, but I wrote it in the context of your claim that "exoplanets represent a trip to the beyond because they change our perception of life." From that, I concluded you prioritized exoplanets over personal growth when it comes to human evolution. So, I don't know what you meant, but I'm just pointing out that this applies equally to all ten planets. It's just less visible with the faster planets. For example, nobody talks about Mercury transits or Mercury's cycle, where some information or news (ME) also drives change and evolutionary progress. These are those everyday things and experiences we take for granted... and through them, humans develop as individuals. Like when humans first appeared on the Moon from Earth, that was definitely some influence of Mercury and the moon... on all of humanity.
I agree, but that doesn't mean what is beyond space (JU) and time (SA) transcends reason, rather it completes it, improves it—like Mercury's seat in GE and VI, or Mercury's exaltation in Aq. The signs are arranged in a circle, not a hierarchy where one thing transcends another. If they were, Gemini would transcend Taurus, and Taurus would transcend Aries. Just like Sagittarius doesn't transcend Scorpio, nor does Aquarius Capricorn....
Here, I disagree. It’s not about how long the transit lasts. Take the example of a human and a computer (UR)—introducing technology into a workplace. Two people might react positively, while two others react negatively, regardless of how many years pass. They react based on their entire natal chart, specifically emphasizing Uranus. Say both people are older; one loves computers, the other hates them. Both are experiencing a tense Uranian transit at that moment. The one who hates them will be frustrated, while the one who loves them will feel the effort and stress until they master the new tool.... Get it? It's not about Uranus being a "generational planet"; it's about who those two people are: one is a Capricorn, the other is an Aquarius, or one has UR on the Ascendant and the other has it in the 12th house. What is that guy who hates computers (UR) supposed to integrate, man? He could go through countless half-cycles and cycles and still stay uninterested. In an extreme case, he'll just quit and do something completely unrelated to modernization. His Uranus will manifest differently based on how it's positioned and tied to his horoscope. So, a change will happen at work, but he doesn't have to, as you say, change and live according to trends. He has a choice... to remain true to his core essence (SO), perhaps just in a different work environment.
In that moment, he manages his Uranus in a way unique to himself. His colleague adapts and learns how to use the computer (UR), while he might go into private business and work for himself (UR).
Look, when someone is exhausting by "forcing" their opinion on me, I just bypass them. I don't get into the argument. Even if they comment on what I wrote. When the level of communication doesn't match mine, I withdraw. But you, or anyone else? Why do you stubbornly reply to my posts just to end up saying I have no arguments and that I'm forcefully pushing my view??
Look, if anyone actually has an issue with what I’ve written, they can just tell me directly. No need for the "who are you speaking for?" routine.
I'm not out here "slaughtering" anyone's posts. It's perfectly clear who I've been talking to and whose posts I've commented on (you, Hermes7, Aquarius, 12House). You four probably all share the same opinion I was reacting to. You made your points, and I made mine. So what? Some people stopped responding because it’s too much work, and others probably just have nothing left to say. What does "total disrespect for your opponent" even mean? Do you actually have a reason to ban me? If you do, then show me—with a specific explanation. Regarding the "herd mentality" and "thinking for oneself," I literally cited and linked the astrologer who wrote that—then I mentioned it again in a later post. How is that offensive? It's just a blunt description of the relationship between Saturn and Uranus that she wrote about. And as for famous astrologers, I'm allowed to have my own opinion, right? Even if the reading was negative.
One more important thing to clear up. What actually counts as an "argument" against an astrological theory?
- An example from a birth chart and real life?
- A quote from an astrologer's book?
- A quote from a psychology book?
To me, an argument against an astrological theory is an example from a horoscope and real life. Everything else is just theory. That's why I'm writing these intense posts—because there's so much being said purely theoretically, both from astrology and psychology perspectives.
Anyway, anyone reading this thread on exoplanets can see two sides: one theory where exoplanets can't rule because they are above humans, and another theory saying all 10 planets are equal. Theory 1 versus Theory 2. Let others judge how clear the arguments are...
p.s. If you think I should be banned, fine. If not, can I please continue on this forum without your moral lecture on how to communicate?
Emily Fowler52 said:Trolling in your case means taking someone else's post, cutting it up, and twisting it. Honestly, none of us really get what you're trying to achieve or what your posts are even for. 🤷It isn't about disagreeing or anyone stopping you from having an opinion, but the way you go about it feels like you're forcing your views on other users. It’s not okay and it’s not pleasant.
People find it annoying.
They even asked you in the threads to stop communicating like that.
The moderators didn't do anything wrong. The moderator Fish gave you a warning to stop and think about how you post.
The whole point of my appeal was to get answers to my questions. There were 10 clear questions. They couldn't be any clearer. Is that a problem?
What do you mean, "what my posts are for"? Someone shared an opinion I disagreed with, so I shared mine. How is that forcing a view? If someone doesn't like what I say, it's more reasonable to just ignore me instead of dragging me into an argument and then acting like I'm the one being pushy. That's just baiting someone—dragging them into it—and then once their argument loses, they start attacking character: calling communication "exhausting," questioning the "level" of discussion, claiming I'm "forcing opinions," "mental assault," and finally, "troll."
The post you linked here is exactly like my style of communication. I could have easily told that user that I'd been saying the same thing for three days while she kept misinterpreting me. She said her piece and moved on. So what? Should I have done the same?
I don't know what I'm supposed to reflect on because I believe everything I said was valid. Especially that last deleted post, which I'll post here if I'm allowed....
Since the thread with this title was already closed, I’m starting this one because I have some questions and complaints regarding how the astronomy pdf is being moderated.
So, on the exoplanet thread, the moderator labeled me a troll. Apparently, any astrological discussion involving my takes on her views is considered "post butchering" and such:
"The forum is a place for people to express their opinions and views. As our header states, we encourage 'astrological education, exchange of ideas, discussions...' What you've been doing on this thread for weeks isn't any of those things. It isn't arguing or debating your peers as you claim; it's just pure force-feeding your own opinions." "That's why there's almost no post from anyone on this thread that hasn't been sliced up in that characteristic way, which also implies a total lack of respect for other users."
- Is commenting on someone's astrological theory actually banned?
- Isn't it the moderator's job to ban someone (in this case, me) if they communicate inappropriately, rather than stalking a thread for a month, jumping into the debate, and then calling the whole thing "force-feeding"—which, by the way, isn't the first time that's happened on the astronomy pdf? Plus, it's a direct insult to other users.
- Are moderators allowed to delete parts of a text, or do they have to wipe out the entire post?
- If possible, can I get a copy of my last post from the exoplanet thread? Most of it was clearly written within the context of the astrology topic, and I want an explanation for why it was deleted.
"Of course, nobody would think to respond to this kind of communication because it makes zero sense. Enough people on this thread have pointed out what you're doing, and people are actually giving up on talking because this isn't real communication. So, I'm asking again: stop slicing up other people's posts. You can share your opinion or disagreement without doing that."
- In whose name was this written? Personally, nobody complained to me. Which people? If I'm bothering someone, they should tell me. (Or they can just ignore me.) 🤷
- Is this forum a place where people come to write personal blogs, or is it a place where you can freely comment on someone's views in line with the topic (which might lead to or not lead to a conversation)?
- Is it allowed to express a negative opinion about recognized authors in the field of astrology?
Since this is the first time my post has been deleted (a post containing my arguments against her previous text, which now sits there looking like some reasonable moderator warning when it is NOT), and since a similar situation with Fish happened on several threads (Movies, Pope) regarding my astrological comments on her practice... I'd like someone above Fish to step in. I think she has lost her professional edge and has become biased and subjective.
On top of those questions, here is another: am I allowed to express an astrological opinion (read: a disagreement) when it comes to Fish's astrology, or even other users'...?
Do I always have to agree? Because if I don't, is that "mental force-feeding"?
And the thing we keep fighting about... what exactly constitutes an astrological ARGUMENT?
- A real-life example from a natal chart?
- A quote from an astrology book?
- A quote from a psychology book?
What does it actually mean to "troll" an astrology topic?
Kimberly Johnson4 said:Alright... so I guess I have to ask: how do you even define a problem? I can't really point to one specific moment, or some life-altering event, or anything like that... It’s more like someone just wiped out all the actual memories, but left these heavy, bad feelings lingering behind where they used to be.... I don't know how else to put it...
So how many actual events do you really remember? Write down every single year on a piece of paper, from birth until now. Ask older relatives or people you used to hang out with to tell you about things that happened during those years; they might remember stuff you forgot or were too young to process. For every event—good or bad—jot down a few notes about how you felt then versus how you see it now. You'll see a pattern emerge.
As for defining the problem specifically: you analyze yourself in relation to certain pillars. Look at your life areas: home and family, career, finances, friends, romance, health and physical state, etc. You interact with others through these areas, but start by looking at yourself within each one. Check your feelings in those areas, your desires, your obstacles, your thoughts. What did you want to achieve but didn't? What did you want but couldn't do? If conditions were perfect, what would you be doing? What was forced upon you because there was "no other way"... basically, ask yourself questions and write down the answers, the thoughts, and the emotions. Then look at the people you deal with and analyze those relationships—like, how do you feel when that person is around?
Wherever you hit negative thoughts or bad feelings in any area of your life, that's where the problems live.
Later, you can break every life area down into past, present, and future. What happened, what is happening, and what you assume will happen + what you want; not just concrete events, but your emotional and mental state regarding all of it.
Regarding "erasing negative memories"—how realistic is that, really? Alcoholics, pill addicts, and drug users do that subconsciously. You can't delete memory, but over time you can change your own perspective and the impression an event leaves on you. It's a slow process.
Kimberly Johnson4 said:So, I’m a guy, just to get that out of the way... mostly because after cycling through a million nicknames that were already taken, I figured life is just brutal—life is a bitch.
Whatever. I was looking for something quick and easy, you know? Not some two-year marathon of therapy sessions... but honestly, it's starting to feel like there really isn't such a thing as a quick fix. Still listening 👍
God, if there were easy formulas and simple solutions, everyone would have their issues sorted out instantly. There wouldn't be any discontent or suffering left in this world...
How long it takes to solve something depends on where you're at... and how fast your body and mind can actually let go of those things... You can't force it. Sometimes things just need time to mature...
Think of your psyche like a physical body with an injury or a wound. It needs time to heal.
As for which method you choose, it all comes down to your own internal leanings... To start, you really need to clearly define the actual problem. Just generalizing about "suffering" and "discontent" doesn't get you anywhere... Negative feelings are just symptoms of an underlying issue; they aren't the problem itself. Once you pinpoint the problem, choosing a method gets much easier.
Kimberly Johnson4 said:We all know it... most of the baggage we’re lugging around, all those issues we deal with daily, they’re buried deep in the subconscious. My question is pretty straightforward: how do you actually get rid of them?
In tons of different philosophies and cultures, there’s this idea that humans are spiritual beings. And when someone can't figure themselves out—when they're just miserable, angry, depressed, or just feeling off—we usually say they haven't settled things within themselves yet. Nowadays, people turn to religion, or booze, or drugs... basically anything that lets them let their guard down enough for that subconscious stuff to start bubbling up to the surface.
Easterners meditate, Americans drink, some pray, others go the shamanic route... every culture has its own way of trying to sync up the subconscious with the conscious mind, what I'd call some kind of grand realization. So, my question is... how do you actually connect with your subconscious? How do you make sense of those deep-seated feelings, figure out what's triggering all that negativity, and finally... how do you fix it?
Every state—emotional, mental, or just a general mindset—has specific symptoms and causes. People mostly focus on the symptoms by running to alcohol, pills, drugs, sex, or whatever distracts them and numbs the pain. The symptoms fade temporarily, but the underlying problem stays exactly the same, so it just keeps coming back.
The goal is to find the causes. Even though these causes live inside us, they are actually forgotten or suppressed experiences.
Every single experience, any event we’ve lived through, gets recorded—both the good and the bad. Those negative ones create long-term mindsets that we desperately want to escape. It's necessary to analyze everything from birth until now: the experiences, the people involved, exactly what happened, how we felt, how we reacted, and the lingering emotions from those situations that still drive our current moods or behaviors.
It isn't quite as deeply buried in the subconscious as people think. Bringing awareness to these events and ourselves within them won't solve everything instantly, but it is absolutely the starting point and the foundation for fixing the root causes of dissatisfaction.
This kind of work is best done with someone else—a trusted close friend or a psychologist. If you're doing it alone, you need to take notes over a long period so you can look back later and approach things more objectively.
Kimberly Johnson4, like you wrote in your post, some people drink, some pray, and some take pills. Most are just running in circles because they are fleeing from themselves and their own needs. Just like the body uses physical pain to signal that something is wrong, the psyche has its own mechanisms to divert attention when there is actual work to be done.
Sometimes, certain issues stem from current situations, relationships, or jobs. In those cases, you have to change your life at the root and move away from the source of frustration if necessary.
Ronald Garcia5 said:I’m listening to some old-school folk music CDs. Every single lyric is pure misery—it’s all about broken stones, dying mothers, or lonely seagulls. There isn't a soul alive who wouldn't spiral into a depression listening to this stuff!
What’s your take on these kinds of lyrics?
And it’s not just the folk singers. Look at all the trashy country songs playing in every dive bar from here to Nashville—they're all the same: she left, I'm alone, life is pain, she cheated... It's predictable. Of course the drunks at the bar keep ordering rounds; it just fuels the cycle and keeps the bartender in business.
It’s no wonder people are depressed!
How much do these songs actually impact the mood and mental health of the country?
I’m genuinely curious what you think...
Well, people have to sing out their sorrows and pains... just wait until something happens to you, when you fall into a slump... the best thing is to moan and express those emotions, get it all out... and then later switch to happy music.... music heals the soul...
As for the drinkers in the bars... regarding drinkers... alcoholism is a disease... it has nothing to do with the music.... they'll be at that bar even without any music playing...
Does anyone know what the symptoms of a pre-heart attack look like?
Anyone who tries to belittle you is just dealing with a massive inferiority complex. They feel small compared to you, so they attack your character and your life just to get a cheap ego boost.
Brandon Sullivan5 said:He jumps straight into an argument, or he just walks away and refuses to listen. I honestly think his mom lets him get away with it because she's terrified things will escalate if she doesn't cave, which just leaves me feeling frustrated with her. I end up snapping at her, telling her she needs to be firmer, but then I feel terrible afterward because I'm basically taking my anger out on her for no reason—especially since, more often than not, her way of talking to him actually works much better than mine.
Don't try to lecture him. Just tell him you're ashamed of him and done with him. Ignore him for a bit and see how he reacts. And leave his mother alone; you can't change her. If her talks with him are working, then let them work.
Brandon Sullivan5 said:I can see how this family might be misunderstood right off the bat. We aren’t some group of smooth-talking manipulators, nor are we loaded, though by our standards, we’re doing better than most—we have enough to live a decent life.
Our father passed away when my brother was still quite young, and I can't help but wonder if things would have turned out differently if he were still here. Perhaps having a man in the house would have shaped his development differently than being raised by two women who, frankly, spoiled him quite a bit. It isn't an argument against the love he received, but I do think a different approach to discipline or structure earlier on might have led to a better outcome. He lives in a home filled with affection, and he certainly doesn't doubt that; there haven't been any crushing expectations or intense pressure placed on him.
The massive issue is that we often stepped in to fix his problems for him instead of letting him learn from his own mistakes—like when we'd take over his schoolwork just to get it finished. Now, whenever he hits a wall, his default response is to turn to alcohol. That's what I meant when I called him a coward. When he succeeds, everything is fantastic, and that success fuels his drive to keep going; but the moment he faces failure, he just shuts down completely. We can't convince him to try again, to see that it isn't the end of the world, or that everyone stumbles sometimes.
I’ve gone through stacks of books trying to find ways to boost his self-esteem, and while that advice works if a person is naturally persistent, it falls apart when they hit a major setback. For instance, now that he’s run out of money, instead of looking for a job to stabilize his situation, he chooses this path.
If anyone has any ideas on what might actually help, I am truly open to trying anything.
Rough. ☕ Your brother is acting way too spoiled. Finding work isn't easy, but that’s no excuse. He needs a serious reality check and some harsh truths. Tell him his late father would be ashamed of him. Tell him he's bringing disgrace to the family. Honestly, just turn your backs on him for once. Let him hit rock bottom and figure out how to climb out himself. What kind of mess is he actually in? I hope it isn't drugs.
When it comes to alcohol, how much does he drink?
Rebecca Scott3 said:Maybe give him a little shake-up... or just lean on him a bit with some pressure...
....I mean... if he’s really just a coward at heart... he’ll back down immediately...
That was my first thought too 😁, but if he's stubborn, it'll just make things worse...
Brandon Sullivan5 said:For us, at 24 years old
That’s a plus. How would you describe their personality? How do they handle conflict? Are they argumentative or more the type to just walk away?
Brandon Sullivan5 said:I honestly don't know what to do, what to say to him, or even who to turn to for help.
Instead of actually starting his career, he’s gotten himself tangled up in some shady dealings with people you definitely don't want to mess with. I confronted him about it, and he just brushed me off, claiming it has nothing to do with us—which, as you can imagine, is incredibly hard to swallow. We've always been an educated, principled family; we're honest people, and this kind of behavior is completely foreign to our values. He’s a good person at heart, but when it comes to standing up for what's right, he’s a coward.
How old is he? And does he live with you or on his own?
Jerry Hernandez12 said:So, I was out on the town last night... had a few drinks, and when I woke up this morning, I honestly thought I might need to head straight to the ER for some kind of heavy-duty medication because my head was spinning so much. It wasn't even that I drank a ton, it just really didn't sit well with my stomach 🙂 or my head, haha
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Eventually, I managed to pull myself out of bed, and things weren't actually quite as dire as I initially feared; the nausea subsided somewhat, though I still felt a little lightheaded and generally out of sorts
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I decided to step out for some fresh air and made a quick run to the local CVS and the pharmacy. I ended up grabbing a Donut, which—full disclosure—actually made me feel a bit worse, but I picked up some Neofen Forte and some Supradyn effervescent tablets for an energy boost. I can't even begin to tell you how much those Supradyn worked wonders for me! They totally restored my energy levels, and suddenly, I felt human again
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But anyway... I wanted to ask, what do you all typically do when you find yourselves in a similar predicament? Aside from the usual advice like taking a lukewarm shower... blah, blah, blah 🙂🙂🙂🙂:live or:
Come on, it's just a one-day hangover😁...first off, taking pills might actually make you feel worse... your best bet is to just stay in bed for the day... depends on what you were drinking, you have to eat accordingly... if you were mixing everything...👎 whatever you eat is going to taste gross... either way, vomiting is actually good.... for the headache, try some strong black coffee with lemon....
stormyheron4 said:haha, do you mean a "bonus" like an extra thing, or "bonum," as in good?
I mean bonum, like good... but then the rhyme would be ruined. It really just depends on the situation. Sometimes you actually need a bonus. It all depends on the circumstances. This proverb is complicated to explain... but honestly, everything is written right there once you get it. It’s most applicable to people who are married... but for single people, it can be dangerous.
The extra guest fee at the Hilton
Stop playing around with medicinal herbs and trying to DIY everything based on books. Just sign up for a proper herbalism course so an actual expert can teach you and take you out into the wild for real field practice!