People who are always "too busy

Gregory Robinson11 said:Those are just excuses. I mean, if someone actually wants to make an effort, they'll find the time. If they don't, they'll just keep making up reasons why they can't. A day has 24 hours; you can get everything done if you actually try.

George Lopez84 said:🤦

You and people like you really need to stop whining—I have to use that word because you're essentially sabotaging yourselves with statements like that. The whole "if you want to, you will" argument is fundamentally wrong.

Since you brought up those 24 hours, I'm going to present the other side of the coin—the part most people miss, which is exactly why you think you have time for "everything."

The average person lives for ONLY 570,000 hours. 570,000 hours. That is what a life consists of. Only people who haven't figured out their purpose—those who aren't using their 24 hours effectively—have time for nonsense, like idling away at a local diner or scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, and similar sites. Stop complaining and making these mindless comments just to justify a lack of character and an underdeveloped set of priorities. Just because you have three or four different interests to fill your day doesn't make you superior; it's a flaw, not a virtue—especially since most people don't even have three or four things they care about.

The saddest part is that people who have nothing better to do than sit around drinking coffee all day—even for an hour during the work week—are judging those who refuse to waste their minutes and hours on things or events that offer zero progress.

ONLY 570,000 hours.

Jeffrey Ramos4 said:Fair enough. You've got a point—it would be a waste of an hour to spend more time replying to nonsense. 😁 We shouldn't encourage 😁

George Lopez84 said:🤦

If you’re implying I’ve wasted my time here, it took me exactly two minutes to write my comment, plus another minute reading through the idiocy in this thread. And obviously, I can't—and won't—stay silent when faced with such stupidity. If you have a brain, you don't just tolerate that kind of thing.

Given that most of you have 4,000 or 5,000 comments on this forum, I highly doubt any of you actually grasp the point—just like most people who end up confused or disappointed wondering where it all went wrong in life. Just consider how much time you lose if you settle for 5 or 6 hours of sleep instead of acting like slackers who sleep 9 or 10 hours a day.

Honestly, people... having a "personal opinion" isn't enough if there isn't a solid foundation to back it up.

Daniel Kelly57 said:But the whole point is about people who can't find time for the people who actually matter in those 570,000 hours. You really have to share those hours with someone? Isn't the issue really about people killing their days and nights on a forum? 😉

George Lopez84 said:🤦

If you’re implying I’ve wasted my time here, it took me exactly two minutes to write my comment, plus another minute reading through the idiocy in this thread. And obviously, I can't—and won't—stay silent when faced with such stupidity. If you have a brain, you don't just tolerate that kind of thing.

Given that most of you have 4,000 or 5,000 comments on this forum, I highly doubt any of you actually grasp the point—just like most people who end up confused or disappointed wondering where it all went wrong in life. Just consider how much time you lose if you settle for 5 or 6 hours of sleep instead of acting like slackers who sleep 9 or 10 hours a day.

Honestly, people... having a "personal opinion" isn't enough if there isn't a solid foundation to back it up.

George Lopez84 said:The core argument remains exactly the same. If you're one of those people who subordinates their own time to someone else without a legitimate reason—other than "Sure, why not?" (and I’m certain you are, otherwise you wouldn't be having this debate)—then we have nothing to discuss. I said everything I needed to say in my first post. Trying to justify yourself is completely unnecessary and impossible—let's just end it there.

Daniel Kelly57 said:Fine. I didn't understand you at all. I assume you don't consider giving up your time to friends as "subordinating" it? Because if a friend asks to hang out, I'm there in a heartbeat. Is that not okay?🤔

George Lopez84 said:I mean, it’s not exactly hard to find free time when you have an empty life like yours—it's just simple logic.

@Jeffrey Ramos4 - It takes a minute, not two—there isn't much to read here anyway when most people just quote others, poorly paraphrased, without actually understanding the weight of what they're claiming. You should back up your own words instead of just throwing quotes around like they're everything. But yeah, I knew my response would be taken as an attack. My mistake. I'm not interested in tossing out nonsense without taking responsibility for it. I won't tolerate it—I have my own principles and I don't deal with baseless stupidity, especially when it's someone else's.

That's it. Either you get the point or you don't; I couldn't care less either way. But don't expect me to stay quiet about this kind of idiocy. From what position do you think you're allowed to call others out? That's why I said stop whining.

Daniel Kelly57 said:Fair enough. That makes sense. But does that mean your friends operate the same way you do? Like, they know about that 570 figure and they aren't even tripping when you can't hang out because of it? Is that really how it works?🤔

Lawrence Bailey77 said:If you aren't actually doing anything wrong to someone, yet they still find a reason to be furious with you... well, that usually says a lot more about their character than yours.

Because in those instances, you haven't actually committed any transgression.

It seems to me that most people simply project their own distorted perceptions onto others—often driven by some sort of infantile vision fueled by childish needs for "friends." These people don't even truly know what they expect from anyone else, yet they have the audacity to get angry at a person who hasn't done anything wrong; someone who simply isn't obligated to act against common sense or basic reason.

Is that making sense? ☕

What kind of sacred covenant are these friends supposedly bound by? 🐔 ... Is it one of those things that is just vague and inexplicable, described with lofty words like "love"?

No, you know what I mean—it's more like that whole "hey buddy" superficiality. 😵

P.S. In my view, demanding something from someone that you know you cannot possibly provide is nothing short of pathetic.☕

Daniel Kelly57 said:Look, there are important people who deserve my time if they actually ask for it. There aren't many, but they exist. It’s not about guilt-tripping anyone or acting petty if you can't make it once. That's fair. But if someone is never available, they aren't my friend. Period. I always find time for my inner circle, no matter how busy life gets. Those few people are part of who I am. 🍿

Lawrence Bailey77 said:But that’s what I was getting at... just keeping it straightforward. I suppose there’s no real reason to overcomplicate things or write an entire manifesto about it.👍

Daniel Kelly57 said:So this guy shows up and spends 570 hours arguing on a pole. What kind of logic is that? I seriously don't get why anyone would even waste time logging into a forum. Are they just acting superior from that perspective? Like, wtf?! 🤦

Lawrence Bailey77 said:I have always felt... perhaps it is just my disposition... that I could never truly find myself within a pack, or a herd, if we are being precise about the terminology. Or perhaps a swarm, though that seems a bit too frantic for my tastes. I suppose I simply lack the instinct for such collective movements. 🙂

Well, I suppose you’re doing things a bit differently now, even if the underlying logic feels somewhat similar. It seems to me that people tend to have such wildly varying experiences and perspectives on these matters; everyone, it appears, is convinced they hold the absolute truth. I guess it's just the nature of things, though I find the constant disagreement rather exhausting.

But then again, I suppose what someone might... I suppose one might consider whether the act of thinking itself is even worth the effort anymore. It feels like a heavy, somewhat futile endeavor in this day and age, though I find myself doing it regardless. Perhaps there is some merit to contemplation, though I suspect most people simply mistake noise for actual thought. I guess it remains to be seen. Even if one were to argue that he is correct, I suppose that doesn't necessarily mean that "truth" itself functions as a tangible, objective concept—or perhaps even a significant parameter in this context. It’s all rather nebulous, really. One might be right in a narrow sense, yet the very notion of truth remains a highly debatable factor, if it can even be considered a real parameter at all. I guess it's all quite subjective.

It hardly matters... all this constant tugging and pulling... it’s nothing more than a series of literal social games. 🙂

It seems somewhat illogical, if I may say so, to expect some sort of Borg-like collective assimilation within a gene pool—especially when we are discussing the crossover process where individuals simply emerge as distinct entities. It’s a bit of a stretch, I suppose. 😬

It is merely an idea, I suppose. 🙂 It seems rather obvious, though perhaps rarely practiced with any actual sincerity, that we ought to respect diversity and celebrate freedom. I suppose one could argue that these concepts are merely lofty ideals used to decorate political speeches, but in a practical sense, they are the very bedrock of the American experience. It’s a complex matter, really—balancing individual liberty with the necessity of communal respect—but I suspect that if we truly leaned into those values, things might run a bit more smoothly. Or maybe I'm just being overly optimistic. Regardless, there is an inherent value in honoring our differences while championing the freedoms that allow us to exist as individuals. 🧐

George Lopez84 said:I mean, it’s not exactly hard to find free time when you have an empty life like yours—it's just simple logic.

@Jeffrey Ramos4 - It takes a minute, not two—there isn't much to read here anyway when most people just quote others, poorly paraphrased, without actually understanding the weight of what they're claiming. You should back up your own words instead of just throwing quotes around like they're everything. But yeah, I knew my response would be taken as an attack. My mistake. I'm not interested in tossing out nonsense without taking responsibility for it. I won't tolerate it—I have my own principles and I don't deal with baseless stupidity, especially when it's someone else's.

That's it. Either you get the point or you don't; I couldn't care less either way. But don't expect me to stay quiet about this kind of idiocy. From what position do you think you're allowed to call others out? That's why I said stop whining.

Jeffrey Ramos4 said:Look, the issue isn't about having different opinions; it's about why this hits you so personally. Why get so defensive when nobody is trying to force their views on you? They’re just trying to make sense of how worked up you're getting over this. In friendships, people often expect more from others than they are willing to offer themselves. Sure, it would be ideal to truly step into a friend's shoes. A lot of people act out of habit or without thinking things through, but we shouldn't judge until we've walked a mile in their boots. Here's a real-life example. My only true, long-term friend—who, ironically, I met through this very online community—stood by me even when her closest family wasn't there. I value her time and devotion immensely. On my end, I try to be there for her as much as I can. But I also have my low points where I just can't give 100% mentally, and I'm honest with her about that. She has her own life, too—her partner, her kid—so I understand her side.
What I see constantly is people starting from a place of expectation rather than contribution. They want something from others instead of giving what they can. It all stems from a failure, or perhaps an inability, to empathize with where the other person is coming from. Plus, in the world we live in today, everywhere from the news to our schools, empty values are pushed constantly, and it's easy to fall for them. The frantic, rushed pace of modern life also makes it hard for people to socialize as much as they'd like. People are working so hard just to keep their heads above water that they barely have time for quality moments with their families, unfortunately...

George Lopez84 said:I mean, it’s not exactly hard to find free time when you have an empty life like yours—it's just simple logic.

@Jeffrey Ramos4 - It takes a minute, not two—there isn't much to read here anyway when most people just quote others, poorly paraphrased, without actually understanding the weight of what they're claiming. You should back up your own words instead of just throwing quotes around like they're everything. But yeah, I knew my response would be taken as an attack. My mistake. I'm not interested in tossing out nonsense without taking responsibility for it. I won't tolerate it—I have my own principles and I don't deal with baseless stupidity, especially when it's someone else's.

That's it. Either you get the point or you don't; I couldn't care less either way. But don't expect me to stay quiet about this kind of idiocy. From what position do you think you're allowed to call others out? That's why I said stop whining.

George Lopez84 said:Wait a second. It looks like a few people over the last couple of pages have just been throwing around quotes—as if that’s a substitute for an actual point. Where there's a will, there's a way—but if you aren't looking for one, you'll always find an excuse instead. The way this is translated—it’s basically an indirect jab at us. It implies we're just some heartless, rude, or uncultured bunch simply because we don't have the time to sit around at a local pub or get wasted every single weekend just to prove we belong.

Maybe I should just stay quiet when things like this come up. Serious allegations. So, these are coordinated insults—not just from one guy, but a whole group. And now they’re trying to play the victim and justify themselves? Honestly, all I can do is laugh. It’s cynical, sure, but what else is there? People really don't think before they speak. I have never once asked for an excuse in my life, nor will I ever—everything I do is based on logic and a legitimate reason. Who do they think they are, trying to indirectly lecture me with those ridiculous, passive-aggressive quotes? That’s exactly what this is. I don't know what kind of people they're used to—people who let them say stuff like this publicly without consequence—but I’m not some pushover who’s going to sit quietly while being insulted for no reason. Just because these people have nothing better to do than jump around aimlessly for 8 to 12 hours a day doesn't mean everyone else should follow their lead. If you actually have 8 to 12 hours of free time every single day to waste on nothing, you should be smart enough to realize that's a luxury. You have the freedom to submit to anyone, anytime; you shouldn't expect the rest of us to bend to your whims just because half your day is useless. And they actually have the nerve to say this stuff out loud. How am I supposed to react to that level of stupidity? As for that "570,000 hours" figure—do the math. Subtract seven hours of sleep every night, subtract the first four years of your life spent just figuring out how to exist as a kid, and you won't be anywhere near 570,000. That's assuming you even start at the average and aren't starting well below it.

If this bothers you, your only options are to bury your head in the sand and cry in a corner. On the bright side—at least a few people have already laid it out clearly for you in the last couple of comments.