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While we all sit here dissecting every little detail—arguing over conflicting theories, questionable sources, and various assumptions—it feels as though we are witnessing exactly what the powers that be intended. It is becoming increasingly clear that for those of us living in the North America, things are not looking particularly bright.
One only needs to look at how the victors of WWII handled the establishment of the Jewish state, or consider how Palestinians have been fighting for territory they claim as their own for seventy years now.
In my estimation, the entire North American region is essentially a manufactured solution of that same variety.
Ultimately, we are all going to end up simmering in the same pot.

This is precisely why Canada is clinging to the EU with such desperation—an attempt to avoid being tossed into that very same pot. They are crying out for assistance, yet I suspect that, with the quiet blessing of Germany and Austria, they might follow the lead of the Canadians—though, of course, those moves were orchestrated rather than spontaneous. Is Viktor Orbán, or even Canada as a sovereign nation, truly a force capable of acting entirely on its own whims?
Ashley Robinson58 said:They won't look like fools; they'll just say, "Thank God we walled ourselves off from all that evil," while we sit here sweating under the weight of thousands of migrants that nobody wants anymore.

Fences absolutely can stop unwanted guests. No one is obligated to let someone force their way into their yard without any respect for the homeowner.

Judging by the news coming out of German public television—which I was watching just a few minutes ago—(BOLD)it really could play out exactly like that.
Two hundred German mayors sent what you might call a "hot letter" to Ms. Merkel, essentially telling her that their local capacity has completely run dry—not in terms of money, mind you, but space. They've hit a wall regarding where to house refugees, citizens are becoming increasingly uneasy, and clashes involving migrants are happening more frequently. Even the mayor of Tübingen appeared live on air to plead with Ms. Merkel to stop being so overly optimistic and permissive about welcoming migrants from afar....
At the same time, that very same station is reporting that Canada is begging for police assistance from other nations because the refugees are turning aggressive, setting fire to tents, and so on.

Aha! And then there's this live report from a German correspondent near the border, claiming that migrants aren't even receiving food or proper care—just water and some dry bread.
plus.nesto;55958885 said:The US took in Canadians in 1956. Canada took in Americans in 1991. We have the perspective needed to be good neighbors 👍
Where exactly do you see a problem with that?[/QUOTE]

😉
In plain, obvious reality!
The truth is—hardly any Americans remember 1956, and even fewer recall 1991.
So, really, no great wisdom is required here—everyone seems to suffer from a bit of selective amnesia.
Lisa Patel4 said:So, what's your solution?

If they could just step down from their Mount Olympus arrogance and face reality—maybe stop disparaging Americans and actually start cleaning up their own mess, much like we do here...
c/p
A wave of refugees from the coast has flooded into Canada, and it’s sent local politicians into a complete frenzy. While some are scrambling to manage the crisis, others aren't even hiding their frustration—take the mayor of Zavrč, for instance, who flatly refused to use the local high school stadium as a shelter. His reasoning? He claims they leave behind mountains of trash that nobody wants to touch, and he actually went so far as to suggest that Americans looking for work should just pick up a broom for $100 a day

I assume many of you have already caught wind of this, but isn't this just a blatant insult to Americans and a display of sheer arrogance from our neighbors?
Now, I consider myself a pacifist—truly—but this has me reaching for my blood pressure medication!
What is the point in debating what happened seventy years ago when we have such an unpleasant reality staring us in the face right next door?
How do you defeat evil and the people behind it? in Psychology ·
driftinghound12 said:I couldn't find an existing thread for this, so I’m starting my own because I’m genuinely preoccupied with it... I view this more as a psychology question than a philosophical one. Throughout my life, I've made a conscious effort to be a good person—honest, fair, someone who pursues goals through creativity and hard work, and stays kind and helpful to everyone. I try to approach everything with a positive mindset. It would all be much easier to enjoy if there weren't people in my orbit who seem hell-bent on causing harm. Generally speaking, these are individuals who thrive on destruction, constantly seeking validation by stepping on others. They just seem drawn to malice.

One such person pretended to be my friend, only to steal my boyfriend after we had been together for years. Another is my sister; when I confided my plans to her, she rushed to execute them herself just to snatch the credit. She loves nitpicking me over trivialities and belittling me to others to make herself look better. Then there was a colleague at work who swiped one of my ideas—in a workplace where we're supposed to be collaborating toward a shared goal—and took all the praise for it.

Why are some people naturally drawn to darkness, finding satisfaction in tearing things down for their own gain? How are you supposed to handle them once they've already won? What can be done as a preventative measure? Clearly, I’m attracting this kind of energy somehow; perhaps I’m trying too hard to be nice or "good," making myself an easy target for exploitation. I also don't understand why society seems to reward these types. They’re arrogant and "resourceful," knowing how to grab what they want without putting in any actual sweat or effort. Nowadays, it feels like screwing someone over has become normalized, while being decent is treated as the anomaly. Lately, I've become so guarded and disillusioned with people that I don't trust anyone, let alone want to go out. It got so bad that I actually attempted suicide because the pressure from these toxic people became suffocating. I just feel like I'm worthless and that none of my efforts matter.🤦


Why do certain people attract Evil?

No one is born malicious. Not possible—regardless of what various fringe theories about demons or similar concepts might suggest.
We all start from the same baseline.
We enter this world as innocent infants, possessing no concept of the distinction between good and evil.
Then, evil finds us.
Often, it arrives wearing the face of those closest to us. Or, later, through strangers we encounter along our path.
But let’s be honest: evil exists within us, too. There isn't a single human being who isn't composed of both light and shadow.
And there isn't a soul among us who hasn't committed some sort of wrong, even when they truly believe they
are doing good.
The old adage "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" isn't just a cliché; it's a reality.

In your post, there is a very palpable need to do good (by your definition of goodness), yet there is an underlying expectation of a reward—in the form of recognition, respect, or affection.
True good deeds shouldn't require a trophy or a thank-you note.
One does them simply because you know they are right, or because it aligns with your internal compass. It shouldn't matter whether anyone notices.
Nor should it matter if someone else is rewarded for their unscrupulous behavior.
There is no room for envy or jealousy there, nor for comparisons.
One shouldn't feel diminished, nor should they stop being a good person, regardless of whether their actions are acknowledged by the people they specifically hope will notice.

You haven't quite finished the work of getting to know yourself yet, and because of that, you're already considering giving up (the suicidal ideation).
Once you truly understand who you are—your actual core—it becomes much easier to manage the darker impulses within yourself. You'll also better understand how to navigate the darkness in others, because evil doesn't always wear the same mask.
Life is, fundamentally, one long lesson.
Until our final hour.
Until then, just stay on your path... do good, and try not to look back at the shadows.
Struggling to sleep? in Psychology & Therapy ·
redscout46 said:So, I’ve found myself facing a rather significant predicament. Once I finally drift off, it’s game over. Honestly, you could probably have a full symphony orchestra set up a concert right in my bedroom in the morning and I wouldn't so much as twitch. I suspect this might be one of the underlying reasons why I lost my job recently, though I'd hate to admit it quite so plainly. And don't even get me started on how many college lectures I've slept through... 🤦 I mean, I simply cannot function like this. Between the struggle of dragging myself out of bed at 2:00 AM every single day and dealing with people getting genuinely offended because I overslept our scheduled meetings, it's becoming exhausting. If anyone has any advice, please, 🙄

If we rule out physiological factors—things like a hormonal imbalance or some sort of neurological shift, which only a doctor can actually determine—then one has to face the possibility that excessive sleeping, coupled with an inability to wake up on schedule, is essentially a psychological escape from reality.

None of us here can pinpoint the exact cause.
Only you can, or perhaps a physician through clinical testing.

You mentioned being fired, but you didn't specify whether that was due to the direct consequences of missing obligations because of sleep, or if the issues had been brewing long before that.
People who cannot regulate their circadian rhythm—or who have simply lost control of it—lose a staggering amount in their actual lives.
Therefore, please do not dismiss your condition as something trivial.
However, before you decide to see a specialist (keep in mind a psychologist usually comes into play only after physiological factors are ruled out), try to take these steps on your own:
Spend as much time outdoors as possible during the day—walk, run, or engage in some form of physical activity to tire your body out.
Go to bed at a strictly designated time, and it really ought to be before 11 PM. Avoid those late-night distractions.
Set a series of obnoxious alarms at precise intervals, and place them far away from your bed so that you are physically forced to get up. Once you are up, do not, under any circumstances, return to bed.
If that fails, ask someone to call you at a specific time every single day, and leave your phone far from your reach.
Stop consuming alcohol in any form.
If all else fails, then it is time to see a doctor.

Good luck!
neonsailor26 said:I made that exact same mistake myself—and man, was it a big one. I went ahead and finished a degree that I didn't even want in the first place. But, luckily enough, I’ve already managed to turn things around halfway 🙂 . And once I wrap up my current studies, I’ll have finally corrected the course completely!

If I could offer you any advice, it would be to follow that same path. It is never too late to achieve something great in life—honestly, the only time it's truly "too late" is when they're lowering us into the ground, and then we're really out of luck
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So, just charge ahead with courage and try your best to tune out all those people trying to hold you back. I know firsthand that it isn't easy—believe me, I've been right there in the trenches—but damn it, you can absolutely do this 🙂 🙂 🙂 !

😂
you’re quite the optimist, aren't you?
It’ll be "too late" long before anyone starts digging a grave—probably well before forty. That’s just how the American corporate machine works. They want youth; they want "fresh blood." Even today, people hitting their 40s—regardless of how much experience or expertise they bring to the table—find themselves struggling to land a job unless they are top-tier specialists in some niche field.
The advice to get moving by age 24 is solid...
It’s just a shame we don't know what specific career path she's stuck in.
Are men more spiritual than women? in Spirituality ·
Ryan Wilson2 said:One could argue that any narrative can be twisted to suit a specific agenda. Is it not possible that the woman was simply the only one possessing enough intellect and a genuine thirst for knowledge to be swayed, while Adam was perfectly content just staring at Eve's naked form? 😁

🙏

Physical strength was essentially the sole male advantage.
Now that technological progress has effectively neutralized that edge, they’re attempting to claim spirituality as their own domain...
Most of these other theories are merely fabrications by men—mostly those who are inherently inferior—designed to maintain a sense of dominance and continue pushing women around.
Colton Burpo: The boy who visited heaven in Spirituality ·
Mark Newman3 said:Admin, if you could move this to the right thread—I don't think one actually exists for this—I'm curious to get some perspectives here. Regarding this and similar stories, do you guys actually believe in this stuff?

Regardless of any explanations—be it faith or skepticism—children often say things they simply shouldn't know, given their age or experience.
Usually, people just brush it off as a child's imagination and move on.
When my son was about four, he started asking where "the uncle" was—the one who used to bring him those colorful candies.
Since he didn't have an uncle, and certainly no one had been dropping by with sweets, I decided to listen closely and probe a bit further.
I was quite taken aback when he began mentioning a black uniform, using a specific term in a foreign language—"schwarze uniform."
Slowly, through his descriptions of the man and his attire, I realized he was describing an SS uniform from World War II.

I made sure to write down everything he said, and eventually, a picture began to emerge.
He was describing someone who was clearly a Nazi officer; he even gave him a name, calling him Will (phonetically), and spoke of weapons, gunfire, and the thunderous roar of heavy artillery.
After a few months, the talk stopped entirely, and if I tried to bring it up, it was clear he no longer remembered a thing.
To this day, he has absolutely no recollection that these conversations ever took place.
My conclusion was that he was channeling memories from a child living during the late 1943–1945 period, back when Germany was under massive bombardment.
It is rather peculiar how quickly he picked up German—though he’s gifted with other languages too—almost as if he weren't learning it, but rather remembering it.
As for the boy mentioned in the original thread, it’s possible he is experiencing recollections, though if his parents were the ones writing about them and interpreting them, I suppose I can't be entirely certain of the credibility.
When is "being polite" just too much? in Psychology ·
Jerry Ramos90 said:I went to this training seminar last week with some foreigners, and honestly, most of them were just pathologically polite. By the end of the week, everyone was completely wiped out and basically bolted for the exit. We didn't really make any actual connections or anything. It makes me wonder what the point even was. I guess maybe it would’ve been better if they had all just shown up pissed off. Maybe then people would have actually been honest and we might have actually gotten to know each other. 🤷 🤷

There was this one girl there who just wouldn't stop smiling. Like, she had this ear-to-ear grin the entire time she was talking, without ever breaking character. She never once used a serious tone. I don't think I've ever seen anything like it in my life. 🤷
At first, I thought she was nice, but after a while, it just felt exhausting and totally fake.
Now I'm sitting here wondering if people like that actually have some kind of issue. Like a fear of showing real emotions or how others might react. 🤔


That is simply a specific brand of professional "politeness"—never sincere, purely rehearsed; a smile you can switch on and off like a light switch.😂 And meanwhile, they just keep grinding away... with people like that, you always have to look them straight in the eye; you won't find a shred of warmth or truth there.
It’s a very specific type of behavior that feels foreign to us, which is why it stands out so much—though, admittedly, we've started seeing it more often here in the States too...
The Germans actually have a term for it: *Honigsüß*—honey-sweet. You see it all the time with certain American politicians or preachers...
When is "being polite" just too much? in Psychology ·
silverhawk9 said:When I gave my "friend" a little something for her birthday last time, she looked at me like I’d just handed her a bag of trash. Honestly, it was such a look—like she was thinking, "Oh, look at her putting on a performance." It really makes you lose faith in people sometimes, doesn't it? It feels like the better you treat someone, the worse they decide to act toward you. I’ve always had a low tolerance for anything forced or fake, and I can't stand when people are being overly performative, but there's a huge difference between being insincere and simply offering a genuine gesture of kindness. To me, judging a kind act as mere "acting" is just wrong.

If this friend wasn't expecting a gift from you in the first place, she might have simply been caught off guard—surprised, even—and her reaction may have had nothing to do with what you perceived. However, if she failed to respond with even a modicum of decency, then that isn't a reflection of your character, but rather hers.
Don't waste your energy overthinking it.
You certainly won't be buying her anything ever again... though that shouldn't stop you from being generous toward others if that's just who you are.
The entire issue here hinges on excessive politeness, not simple, everyday courtesy.
When is "being polite" just too much? in Psychology ·
Steven Smith16 said:Well, this is a great topic. I struggle with this constantly!! 😁

Basically, I’m far too helpful and accommodating. I tend to feel bad when I see someone struggling with something that I know I could handle much more easily, so I often just take over. Or if someone lacks a ride and I have my car ready to go, I figure, why not give them a lift? The issue arises once people get used to it. You offer them a finger, and they demand the whole hand. I usually tolerate it for a while, thinking maybe things will improve. They rarely do. Eventually, I just snap, tell them exactly how pathetic they're being, and cut them off.

Most people seem to be this way. Then there are the people I've known for a long time—those I try not to be overly helpful toward, or those I don't know well enough to bother with—who look at me like something is clearly wrong with my head because I occasionally lose it on people. I'll drive a friend somewhere and then end up snapping at them; imagine that. God help me. I honestly can't tell who the crazy one is here.

The other day, I was getting off a subway train and there was an inspector on board. A girl stepped on, and I stood next to her for just a second and whispered that the inspector was there, AND SHE LOOKED AT ME LIKE I WAS TRASH. As if I had any right to assume she didn't have a pass or wasn't a decent citizen of Washington, D.C.

And whenever I mention that I despise society and people, I'm labeled as conceited. It's probably because people find themselves described in my posts.

One really ought to distinguish between being polite and being overly accommodating.
They aren't quite the same thing...
Essentially, anything taken to an extreme ceases to be a virtue.
The discussion has already touched upon excessive politeness, but being overly helpful is usually a symptom of either a desperate need for external validation or an excess of empathy—which, while positive, can trigger an irrational urge to intervene everywhere. Not everyone is equipped to receive help; some view it as a sign of weakness and will move to exploit it. This leads directly to that resentment you described: the anger directed at the very person you assisted.
Regarding that second bolded sentiment in your post (your disdain for people), it suggests you haven't yet found the equilibrium between being (overly) helpful and being avoidant.
There is no madness involved here.
To put it more colorfully, you are simply searching for your footing... learning how to 😉
Don't worry; eventually, people learn to make objective judgments and act with a bit more rationality... 🙂
When is "being polite" just too much? in Psychology ·
goldenmaker21 said:Personally, I've always gravitated toward those people; most of them ended up becoming solid friends I can actually rely on. They seem like the most sincere ones because they aren't hiding anything.
People who are faking it or acting "fake" usually reveal themselves pretty quickly once you hang out a few times and the politeness wears off.
Cold, reserved people always turn me off, and I tend to avoid them. It's hard to build any kind of connection with someone who can't relax around me from the start; if we can't get past basic pleasantries, what's the point?

The truth is, there isn't a single person—barring those with significant cognitive impairments—who hides absolutely nothing.
Both you and I, for one, certainly keep things tucked away...😉
In many ways, excessive politeness is its own kind of performance—a way of concealing one's true self.
Behind that kind of behavior, there is almost always an underlying motive, and rarely is it a positive one.
It can be incredibly difficult to distinguish genuine warmth from forced courtesy, though I suspect we all possess a sort of internal alarm system that warns us when something feels off.
There is a distinction, of course, between professional decorum and that unnecessary, over-the-top politeness one encounters in daily life when people display it without any practical reason.
This shouldn't be confused with subservience—that groveling, sycophantic attitude that was historically more common among the lower classes in America leading up to WWII. That whole "Yes, master..." dynamic.
Eventually, through the sheer weight of experience, most of us learn to tell the difference between openness, true kindness, and mere social niceties.
For me—given my long history of navigating various social circles—excessive politeness acts as a red flag, and it is one I find it wise not to ignore.
Issues with my mom. in Psychology & Therapy ·
neonsailor26 said:Personally, I’d handle my own finances—I’m more than capable of pulling it off! I genuinely love learning and I’ve always been a hard worker... I'm certainly not lacking in the brainpower department. Plus, there are so many scholarship foundations out there specifically designed to support students, so I wouldn't be facing an impossible uphill battle. I also don't spend much time out at bars or coffee shops—maybe once a month tops—so I wouldn't be hemorrhaging cash on social outings either. And since I’d likely qualify for federal student aid, that would provide such a massive cushion for everything else...

As for the second part, no, there isn't a school like that in my town. In fact, there aren't any colleges in my area at all.

If that's the case, then go for it!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it—truly—if a young man is able to take full responsibility for his own life, especially when doing so independently of his parents.
Under those circumstances, you don't even need parental consent; understanding from them will either happen or it won't... it really just depends on their own perspective.
Perhaps later, once you have actually achieved your goals, they might finally see reason... they might even find a way to be proud of you.😉
If your mother is being this stubborn, or perhaps simply unable to grasp the gravity of your ambitions and intentions, your best bet is to move forward without getting bogged down in endless arguments or conflict... whether you have her financial backing or not.
Though, I suppose it would be wise to try and make things easier on yourself within the limits of what is possible.
You will undoubtedly gain some incredibly valuable life experience in the process.
Issues with my mom. in Psychology & Therapy ·
Bluzara said:
Your mother isn't trying to "run" your life—she’s just trying to stop you from tripping over your own feet on the path you've set for yourself. Honestly, I wish I had a mother like that.

Every mother wants things her way; it isn't necessarily being a control freak, even if that is precisely how it feels to you.

Does that actually bother you?!
What exactly is the issue here..?

If I may offer a suggestion—perhaps spend less time criticizing your mother and more time considering what she truly wants for you. I highly doubt she intends to chain you to a radiator.
Instead of fighting AGAINST your parents, try looking at how you can work WITH them toward your own best interests... though, judging by this post, we might all be waiting for Godot...☕

🙂

Most parents carry their own specific visions, preconceptions, or desires regarding what their children could, should, or ought to be capable of doing—and, naturally, those visions rarely align perfectly with the actual desires or abilities of the child.
When it comes to choosing a career or an education, a parent really shouldn't be applying pressure. Advising, however? Absolutely.

I also find it hard to believe the mother in the original post is acting possessive without some underlying reason—perhaps stemming from her own past failures or difficult experiences—though it is certainly possible she's overstepping...🤷
My son finished high school at 18; he was a bright kid, and then suddenly, out of nowhere, he decided he wanted to study abroad—specifically at a university far away from anything within 12 miles of home.
I explained to him quite clearly that I couldn't finance that, nor did I see any practical need for him to go overseas when there were excellent options right here in the States.
He eventually thought it through, stayed local, and earned his degree in Washington, D.C.
Later on, he admitted himself that the idea of going abroad was somewhat half-baked, especially since the degree he earned is widely recognized and respected across the entire country.
It seems to me that young people rarely pause to consider the practical circumstances required to achieve their whims, particularly given today's rather harsh economic climate...☕
Issues with my mom. in Psychology & Therapy ·
neonsailor26 said:Do you really think it's okay for a parent to call their kid an idiot or a psychopath just because they wanted to grab a coffee with a friend at a local cafe?! Is it? Really? Is that normal? And is it normal for a parent to block their child—a student who was straight-A all through high school and earned every accolade possible—from moving to another city for college, simply because the parent thinks it's a bad idea? Is it? I'm positive it isn't...

I suppose I should pose a practical question here. Who exactly would be footing the bill for your life in that other city?
Is there an equivalent university right there in your hometown?
The origins of conspiracy theories in Spirituality ·
Ryan Wilson2 said:What can I even say to you? Why don't you go ahead and perform your own little experiment to decide which part of the body causes the most public embarrassment when grabbed in broad daylight?😁

It’s painful, really—if you want my opinion,
,when things get gripped properly and everything just... spins out of control...😂

You see, even thousands of years ago, women understood exactly where and how to strike in order to defend themselves—yet today, those very same self-defense techniques seem to come at such an exorbitant cost to women...
Furthermore, the whole concept of shame seems to have evaporated in modern American society; people don't seem to feel any hesitation anymore about displaying their "shameful" bits in public...😍
The origins of conspiracy theories in Spirituality ·
mistygull16 said:I guess I have this one thing going for me, though it's more of a downside... certain people just give me this claustrophobic, suffocating vibe, and honestly, this picture does the exact same thing.😉

😲
honestly, honey, at first glance I could already spot three different issues...
just a G3 profile to the left of the nose, an apple shape right under it, and a completely plucked chicken look overall...
then, upon closer inspection of the jawline, I realized the dental work is terrible—awful fillings and poorly removed nicotine staining—but at least the teeth are actually his...😂

come on, tell me where I should be looking instead...😉
The origins of conspiracy theories in Spirituality ·
Ryan Wilson2 said:Fine then. If we are following that logic strictly, perhaps we should start amputating women's hands, seeing as it is explicitly written in the Bible:

"If two men fight and a man's wife intervenes to rescue him from his assailant by grabbing the attacker by his private parts, cut off her hand; do not show her any pity."

Hmm, we seem to have a rather significant translation issue on our hands...😂
what exactly constitutes "shame" in this context?
It clearly isn't what it was a few thousand years ago—judging by modern American adult films, where women hunt men for their anatomy rather than their husbands...😂