boldnomad45 said:Signed. One hell of a menu. Truly. Illness, surgery, getting fired, losing a friend suddenly, starting a new job, more health issues, quitting again, moving house... Now I've just been stuck on the couch in front of the TV for two months, feeling more unemployed than ever, mindlessly scrolling through YouTube, completely lost. I'm just praying to God that I get healthy and that things settle down. I am exhausted beyond belief. All I do is sleep, barely eat, walk a little, and watch TV. A year worth crying over. Hoping the next one treats me better. I've earned it.
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You have truly been through the wringer. I am wishing you a much healthier, calmer, and more successful 2023. 🙂
Melissa Rogers4 said:Unless the parents are a total mess, then the kid might reject everything about them. In those cases, instead of being a carbon copy, they turn out to be completely different people...
I know plenty of people whose parents were total train wrecks, yet they grew up to be truly wonderful human beings.
Then again, when I really sit back and think about it, I can certainly think of the exact opposite happening as well.
Is there anything more profoundly uninspired than the "topic of the day"? It seems we’ve reached that predictable stage of the cycle where someone decides to throw a single, solitary word into the void just to see if anyone is actually paying attention. Does anyone truly believe that a lone utensil is enough to spark a meaningful dialogue, or are we all just collectively nodding along to maintain the illusion of productivity? kaže: I'm not entirely sure if anyone has touched on this yet, but I've been wondering about the legal nuances surrounding the intentional ignoring or outright neglect of a child—specifically when that lack of cooperation becomes a deliberate tactic. Is there a clear line where simple parental disagreement crosses over into purposeful non-compliance or emotional neglect? It makes you wonder where the courts actually draw that boundary. Is it just me, or does everything seem to happen entirely by accident lately? It’s almost as if we’re all just drifting through this life, stumbling into situations that feel far too significant to be mere coincidences, yet they lack any real intention behind them. Isn't it strange how a single unintentional slip can derail an entire plan, or how something completely unplanned ends up being exactly what was needed? One has to wonder if there's actually such a thing as a mistake, or if we're all just navigating a series of unintended consequences that somehow pass for a destiny. Is there anything more exhausting than the constant cycle of misinterpreting what a child actually needs and then just glossing over it with a shrug? We talk so much about "understanding" our kids, but how often are we actually listening, rather than just assuming we already have all the answers? It feels like we spend half our lives making excuses for their behavior—essentially telling ourselves that they don't mean any harm—while completely missing the underlying reason why they’re acting out in the first place. Are we truly addressing their struggles, or are we just settling for an easy way out by pretending everything is fine?
Maybe that’s where the whole "key" to this mess lies? You seem to be making mistakes without even realizing you're doing it.
I see this play out more often than I care to admit: a kid gets signed up for basketball, karate, drama club, folk dancing, and about 875 other things all at once. Is there actually any point to this frantic pursuit of every extracurricular under the sun?
It might simply suggest a lack of parental oversight.
I am not entirely certain if this has been brought up yet, but I have been pondering the nuances of parental neglect—specifically, the act of intentionally ignoring or overlooking a child, or perhaps that more subtle, pervasive failure to cooperate with them. It could manifest as a deliberate dismissal, or even an unintentional, creeping refusal to truly grasp or validate what a child actually needs.
darkscout2 said:If you ask me, the sweet spot is somewhere between ages 26 and 30—right when people have finally wrapped up their education and actually feel ready to share a life with someone else. By then, they’ve had enough time to live a little and figure themselves out.
Honestly, my life is so good right now, I can't even imagine being in a relationship... let alone marriage, because why bother...😁
Honestly, looking back at what I just wrote, it reads more like a tiny little advertisement than anything else. 😁
Quote : Mother of Pearl
As for me, life feels incredibly peaceful right now. I honestly can’t see myself ever getting into a relationship... and let's not even get started on marriage, because that is simply not on my radar anymore.😁
It’s merely a placeholder until the right man comes along. 🙂
The ideal window for having children seems to peak before you hit your mid-thirties, whereas the most opportune time to settle into marriage is arguably during your forties. The real dilemma, I suppose, is how one manages to align those two timelines.
Jeremy Bishop35 said:The concept of "real life off" has been the standard for ages—honestly, 90% of the posts and threads on this forum or even on Reddit have nothing to do with having a functioning brain. If there's any actual discussion happening with a purpose anywhere, it's over at ŽUD, though even there, desperate housewives seem to run the show.
The forum has devolved into a collection of clones—chronic trolls who just mock anyone they can to drive people crazy. You've got folks like chocobelu and coastalwalker9 constantly falling for every bit of cheap bait thrown their way. Then there's that guy back on the NoFap thread because he couldn't find a girlfriend, so he settled for finding guys who are either straight or gay. Or take yuna, breaking records by falling for "charismatic" types despite having zero common sense—otherwise, she wouldn't even be able to manage a two-word conversation with them.
Not exactly the elite crowd you'd want to hang out with. 😵
You certainly have a knack for observation. ☕ I’m practically walking with a waddle at this point from spreading my legs so much across this forum. ☕🤮
brightviper18 said:Interesting. That first comment is classic forum trolling. The more you say, the better. Just read what’s already been written and you'll figure out what's going on. ☕
Personally, I think most people just need a little love and attention. 🙂 Do you really believe everything starts at home? If things are stable at home—if parents are attentive, caring, understanding, yet firm when necessary—and if a child spends quality time with their family and friends, do you honestly think a random advertisement can turn them into an idiot? Sure, it might distract them or fill their head with nonsense for a moment, but once they realize something feels off, they'll find their way back to reality.
Olivia Smith2 said:I haven't—though I do enjoy watching a light movie, which usually helps me drift off quickly and peacefully. But these dreams just won't quit. I've also had those "falling" sensations and visual flickers twice now—specifically after my sessions with my therapist. Interestingly, I've noticed my cognitive clarity starts to slip whenever I'm dealing with stress or anxiety, much like how I felt before and after seeing my therapist. Can anxiety actually impact cognitive function?
Of course it can. What the individual above mentioned is correct. You have to shift your focus. When you pour all of your mental energy into a sense of helplessness, you end up dreaming about exactly those preoccupations because your mind is so heavily burdened by them. If you are constantly fretting over your university finals, you’re going to dream about them. If you possess an overwhelming ambition to become the greatest quarterback in the NFL and your thoughts are perpetually occupied by that goal, that becomes the world you construct in your mind, and subsequently, that is what you will dream about.
How many times have you actually gone through this, and what was it that you saw exactly? Is there a risk that you might get too caught up in the experience and find yourself unable to snap back? Like, could you just end up stuck in that state indefinitely? Does practicing this kind of state have any lasting impact on your mental or physical health? Also, I'm curious about how you had your very first experience. Could you walk me through it a bit?
My question is: How can I be a good person without getting walked all over? People have taken advantage of my kindness and naivety way too many times.
The last time it happened was just a few months ago.
I was living in a small rental apartment. There was this older janitor in the building (he had some special needs). He was a great guy, seriously, he always helped me out, wasn't making much money, and lived in this run-down little shack. Anyway, I suddenly had a death in the family and ended up moving into a much bigger place. Since the old place was furnished, I told my former landlord he could give my stuff (TV, fridge, bed) to the janitor.
A few days ago, I called my old landlord because a coworker needed a place to crash for a couple of nights. Not only did he charge her an insane amount ( $333 for just 3 days, when I used to pay $200 plus utilities), but he actually sold all my stuff and didn't give a single thing to the janitor...
There have been plenty of other times where I've been used and ripped off.
What I want to know is, how do you carry yourself in life so things like this don't happen? I'm the type of person who would give someone the shirt off my back to help them through a hard time, but I almost always end up getting played.
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I realize this thread is quite old, but I would like to respond to the original post.
Good people tend to place far too much faith in others. That is precisely why they are most frequently deceived. They lack oversight; instead, they rely entirely on trust. Had the author possessed even a slight streak of a control freak—if he had followed up and checked in with both parties to see how matters were progressing—the landlord would have been forced to honor the agreement, and the caretaker would have received the furniture intended for him. As it stands, both innocent parties lost out in a very ugly and humiliating fashion, while one party walked away with the profit. Persistence and being uncompromising serve as the necessary counterweights to a kind soul.
I find myself constantly practicing gratitude. It’s something I do all day long, and honestly, it’s been my practice for years now. For the most part, I feel a deep sense of contentment with everything in my life. In the morning, I give thanks for having had a peaceful night—even if I only managed an hour of sleep, the sense of tranquility is what matters. At the end of the day, I am grateful that the day passed without incident. I feel a certain divine protection over me. When I eat, I feel thankful for the food in front of me and the ability to enjoy it; in those moments, I offer up a prayer for those who are hungry, or those who have suffered from famine. After a workout, I express thanks for the simple ability to move my body, dedicating that physical effort to God, who granted me life and mobility. When things are going well, I appreciate the high; when they aren't, I find peace in knowing I’m not alone and reflecting on the people around me who truly matter. I find things to be thankful for in my experiences and a thousand other small details.
It has become somewhat woven into my very being. It just flows out of me, both consciously and subconsciously. It only takes a second or two—just as long as a passing thought—but it brightens the moment and leaves me feeling more positive.