Back on September 19, 2008, I was out with a buddy celebrating passing an exam. We were heading home around 4:30 AM, and I was sitting at a red light about 100 yards from my place. The light stayed red forever, so I looked left, saw nobody was coming, and decided to just roll through it. It happened at that intersection where Main Street meets Grove Avenue and Francis Joseph I, right by the park near the Edward Hopper statue—if there are any locals here who know the spot.😁
So, I blow through the red light, pull into a parking spot, and suddenly there’s a knock on my car window... it wasn't a traffic cop, but the DHS tactical unit. "Good evening, good evening, you ran a red light, blah blah blah." Then he calls his colleagues over from highway patrol.
One of those colleagues shows up, I take the breathalyzer, and I hit 0.08% (which is over the 0.07% limit). He writes me up for a DUI $233 plus$37 extra fees, and they impounded my license for 24 hours. I paid the fine first thing the next morning. I'm guilty, I get it...🤷
It’s been over six months now, and I still haven't received anything regarding the red light violation... The officer told me it would result in $667 being suspended for three months.
Up until this point, I've had a completely clean record—no criminal history or even minor infractions. This is my first time ever breaking the law.
I'm wondering what the procedure is once I receive the notice from the municipal court. Should I file an appeal so I can actually stand before a judge and ask for leniency? Since I'm a college student with no prior record and I'm generally a model citizen, maybe they'll take that into account. Or will I just be hauled before a judge regardless? What should I even include in an appeal? Will the red light violation be treated as a separate offense from the DUI I already paid for, or will they bundle them together?
True friendship is built on a foundation of equality—its polar opposite is nothing less than hostility. When you have real friends, you entrust them with things you’d never dream of sharing with a business partner at a firm like Goldman Sachs. In those superficial "psychological" friendships, self-interest often trumps genuine affection. Real connection grows when neither party tries to control the other or tether their growth to their own personal progress or stagnation. True friends embrace who the other person is and stay fiercely loyal through thick and thin. They lean on each other for advice and tackle life's hurdles together. For some people, though, friendship is just a cautious belief that the other person won't physically harm them. But there is a fundamental baseline for identifying a real friend: 1. genuinely wanting the absolute best for one another 2. having genuine sympathy and empathy 3. being brutally honest, especially when it’s difficult to be 4. maintaining mutual understanding
A dedicated corner? Sure, why not. If we’re doing a special section on the forum, why shouldn't we have a specific spot here too? Did you dig that thread Wheel Smith started? Because I absolutely loved it! He didn't just invite people who think exactly like him to join the conversation, right? That's how it should work here—everyone should feel welcome to jump in, creating a space that really matters to those who care about these issues.
I think I see what you mean, though I might not have been clear enough when I first said it!
Look, it’s not about being shut out from society if everyone else still has the chance to chime in or lend a hand whenever they can. And it’s not like people with disabilities aren't looking for community or people like themselves—they just don't necessarily need it to be their *only* social circle. Honestly, if someone can't find a partner in their everyday life, they’re going to look for someone who truly understands them within their own community, and places like this are perfect for making those connections. Does that make more sense now?
People living with disabilities don't need a bubble to hang out in; they need to be part of society just like everyone else. Creating a segregated forum specifically for them would actually achieve the exact opposite of what people want—it would just isolate them further from the community. And like Aaron Harris2 pointed out, these individuals are men and women, parents, students, and neighbors... If you really want to help, why not start a thread on any other forum about the daily challenges they face? I guarantee they’d appreciate the support.
I have to jump in here and say: I disagree! Why on earth would people limit themselves to only talking amongst their own kind in those types of threads or forums? 😕
Those spaces should just be places to swap stories and give each other advice. Everyone else—people without disabilities—can join in, listen, or at least learn something valuable from the experiences being shared.
Mike, I totally get where you're coming from......
The whole thing is that people over in the States who are feeling a bit lonely stumble upon a chat room that was officially approved by a moderator. Instead of being isolated, they found people to talk to and formed this tight-knit little community, especially since every new person was welcomed with open arms. The issue is that these folks are looking for connection, and anyone truly feeling lonely would head straight to "Lonely Hearts" rather than hanging out here.
Then, out of nowhere, one totally unprofessional moderator had a meltdown and kicked out a massive group of people just because she felt like it. There was no reason, no logic, and no justification—she did it simply because she couldn't stand the fact that this specific chat had become one of the most positive spots on the entire site.
To make matters worse, she actually started attacking people who dared to criticize the moderation team, which just showed how incredibly petty and unrefined she really is.👎
What kind of actual authority do these moderators even have here? Are they seriously allowed to just bully and drive away entire groups of people just because they don't like them? Who is responsible for holding these rude, arrogant, and completely classless moderators accountable?
Hey, my friend sent me some seeds from a certain plant. He claims it's called Cannabis Sativa 🤷🤷 I have no idea what he was thinking. If you're interested, I can ask him how much he's selling them for 🙂🙂
Come on, let's hear your thoughts! By the way, I just started my own thread called 'Weight Loss Support'—basically, I'm being my own cheerleader over there 😂 🤣
John Gray84 said:I honestly lost it when the old lady called the cops because the music was too loud, and then finding out my son is running a massive weed operation on the side 😂
plus he’s constantly inviting his buddies over just so they can drool over his stash 😂
vividcobra732 said:No, no, no... look, the point is we’re members of the hardcore supporters group, and the issue is that people from neighboring countries lump all fans and spectators together with us, which is just wrong. We don't need some online PR campaign; we've already proven ourselves in person—I was right there in Rio Besides, it wasn't about looking for a fight; we wanted to show them we have real grit, showing up even after everyone expected us to back down from the confrontation, Terry Lee3, I have no idea what you're talking about here. Later,
What’s your group's take on merging back into the mainland United States?
ambereagle86 said:First off, it’s hard to tell how a specific cut will actually fit you until you try it. Like you said, it depends on your build. It doesn't necessarily mean they'll stack on your sneakers; maybe you have longer legs or you're just taller. Usually, these models have a 34" inseam, but who knows. I’m a bit taller myself, and out of maybe 40 pairs of jeans, not a single one stacks heavily—if they do, it's barely noticeable. I'm not a fan of that "stacking" look anyway. Since I mostly wear boots, it would probably look even stupider than it would with sneakers
I guess you're right about those cuts. I've looked around a ton and there aren't many. Here are some shots from Revolveclothing.com. I actually just bought my first pair of sneakers from them yesterday (http://i43.tinypic.com/2qbu9t5.jpg). They look a bit stacked in the photo, but since I'm taller, it should be fine
That first model is this one. The brand isn't Levi's, it's actually 7 For All Mankind
Regarding the rips, you gotta distinguish between cheap sneakers and the slightly pricier stuff. On cheap ones, it's just basic holes, but on higher-end, quality brands, it's done really well. It's not really "rips" at that point, just carefully executed style details. You don't have to worry about the pants falling apart. Also, maybe it's just me, but I'm not really into that look either🤷