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Michael Hill2 said:I know this is off-topic and technically belongs in the psychotherapy thread, but mods, please bear with me—my girlfriend asked me about this. 😉
Cognitive-behavioral therapy is basically one of those psych branches that attacks the problem from two sides: fixing distorted thought patterns (those "cognitive distortions" people talk about) and changing actual behavior.
Basically, it teaches you how to spot when your brain is lying to you during a crisis, while also showing you better ways to actually act and react when things go south.
Personally, I think taking Apple is just step one. It’s necessary, sure, but it's far from enough.
Just popping an Apple isn't going to teach you how to process thoughts or react properly to life.
I'm seeing a private therapist for IBM, which is honestly exhausting, $100 an hour at a time, but it's been worth every penny. Looking at where my head was two months ago versus now... it's night and day.
Maybe there's an IBM psychologist covered by insurance somewhere nearby; it might be worth looking into.
If you have more questions about IBM, just shoot me a DM so I don't clog up the feed. 🙂
Taylor Cook63 said:Regarding privacy on this forum... 🤷 why does anyone need to know which threads I'm browsing? What's the point of showing Current Activity? I get that people can see my old posts—half of which are just youthful stupidity (I'm not exactly ancient, but old enough to cringe at my younger self)—but this feels unnecessary. Besides, I don't think it even specifies *whose* profile is being viewed, just that someone is looking... so it's anonymous anyway.
Nathan Moore6 said:I think there’s actually a plugin for that, but this forum feels stuck in 1998, so unfortunately you can't see it
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restlessranger54 said:Thanks for all the input 🙂
Here’s what’s really eating at me though! If someone actually knows exactly what their goal is, they know who they want to reach, and they have a clear vision of what they want to accomplish... should they just walk away because one employee at an organization is being straight-up rude? Or is it worth sticking it out despite how she treats me?
How would you guys handle a situation like this?
To put it simply, does someone else's reckless and arrogant attitude give you a valid reason to bail on something you're actually passionate about?
I could really use some perspective here—it’d help a ton if people shared what they think about this whole mess I'm dealing with
Eric Gray2 said:Let me weigh in here (not sure where else to post
but if we need a deeper dive into this later, I'll pull these posts into a separate thread so we don't clutter things up):😬 I am totally fine with the crew from the PDF meeting up IRL—whether it's grabbing coffee or doing various activities—but I don't really see a reason why the mods should have to organize it (for instance, I'm not living in Washington, D.C.).
If someone has the drive, the vision, or just the energy to put something like this together, they should just start a new thread and pitch an idea—location, time, activity—and I'm sure enough people will show up.
🙂
rapidnomad512 said:It’s been flagged. There's even a warning on the thread about a user posting things that violate our most serious rules. But the moderators wiped the warning, yet left both of his posts standing.
Probably because he's targeting Americans.
And no, I'm not providing a link. I want a guarantee that he gets a permanent ban. I'm not interested in watching the mods hand out little "trolling" warnings to people who are clearly being allowed to run wild.
I want someone to actually question the moderators—ask them what's going on and why this wasn't punished.
Harold Walker44 said:I suppose it’s good to know that's been noted.
Google doesn't exactly warn users that any filth they stumble upon isn't their concern, so there's no need for you to play moral guardian either—just say thanks for the heads-up and move on.
I would just like to understand what exactly has been "sorted" and by what means... if the posts haven't been removed, I can only assume you consider such content to be perfectly acceptable here. Is that the case?
rapidnomad512 said:If you’re referring to that "idiot" comment, I’ve attached the email I sent. But look, I agree—this is a clear violation of the rules. Issue the ban. I don't have a personal vendetta against him, but let's not start making exceptions. Follow the rulebook.
rapidnomad512 said:I’ll give you that point. And sure, legally speaking, it might not technically be pedophilia since we don't know how old this "kid" really is—could be 14 for all we know. But the real question is: is it disgusting for a man to write stuff like this about a girl 45 years his junior?
I can't speak for you, but for me, it's revolting. Regardless, there is a very real possibility this falls under pedophilia, and until proven otherwise, I believe site moderators need to act preemptively. It’s better to scrub 100 threads like this than to let one single instance of pedophilia slip through the cracks.Bow before my obelisk
child
address him with
your lofty rigidity
If you can't spot the predatory elements here, maybe the Child Advocate or the Children's Hospital will. I am currently forwarding this exact thread to them via email.
I’ll request their professional opinion, and I’m certain you'll receive their response through official channels.
The real question is whether it’s disgusting for a man to write such things about a girl 45 years his junior. I don't know about you, but to me, it's revolting.
In any case, there's a possibility this involves pedophilia, and until proven otherwise, I think the site moderators should act preventatively. It's better to delete 100 threads like this than let one instance of pedophilia slip through.
If you don't see elements of pedophilia here, perhaps the Child Advocate or the Children's Hospital will. I am currently emailing this thread to them.
I'll request their input, and I'm sure you'll receive it through official channels.
Harold Walker44 said:It would certainly be a benefit if you were appointed as a supermoderator, someone intimately familiar with the rules governing this particular subreddit...
The rules of this platform clearly prohibit erotic content on any pages where Google is running advertisements, a point the owner explicitly emphasized when establishing the guidelines... after all, the site is intended to function as a family-friendly corner of the internet...
Regardless of whether one classifies it as pedophilia, it is patently obvious that we are looking at a description of sexual conduct involving a minor. In the United States, if the individual involved is under the age of 15, that constitutes a serious crime...
And even in the end, there is this relentless, underlying push to promote violence...
The forum rules prohibit erotic content on pages where Google runs ads. The owner explicitly stated this in the guidelines, as the site is intended to be a family-friendly platform...
Regardless of whether you classify it as pedophilia, it’s clearly a description of sexual acts involving a minor. Under U.S. law, if the individual is under 15, it constitutes a crime...
Pedophilia refers to a sexual preference disorder where an individual finds prepubescent children (specifically those who have not yet developed secondary sexual characteristics) sexually stimulating, reaching arousal through fantasies involving prepubescent children or actual sexual contact with them.