George Gray3 said:Look, let’s be real here—what kind of "career" are we even talking about? Being a doctor in $3.75 or a teaching assistant at some university? It doesn't pay that much. You think Americans are just naturally this healthy and have all these kids? No, they start young—that’s just how it works. Do you guys actually plan on having a second child? There are really only two things at play here: personal comfort and lying to yourself. That's what I mean when I talk about those couples claiming they just don't have the "means" to have a kid.
Even if you were in Switzerland, sure, maybe you get six weeks of paid leave, but childcare costs more than a third of a woman's salary—sometimes even more. Plus, rent is through the roof. It's tough.
Having kids—it's the one thing you're entitled to. If you can't do it biologically, then adopt.
Just because you feel that way doesn't mean everyone else will agree. The "ideal" age for having kids has shifted, plain and simple. People tend to wait until they actually have some maturity—which means they're actually ready for the massive responsibility of being a good parent. You know, someone who can provide social, emotional, and financial stability. Do you honestly think some 20-year-old kid could handle that without treating their baby like a toy or totally throwing away their own youth? Come on, man, give me a break! And another thing—if you can't conceive, adoption isn't the only answer; there are plenty of fertility treatments out there now. But honestly, from my own experience... an adopted child is never loved quite the same way as your own.