I’m thinking maybe she just fell in love. You know how it goes—she decides to go all-in on the relationship and vanishes from the forum threads to focus on her partner. It happens, right? 😁
But now she’s looking to make a comeback, and I see two ways this plays out: Either the relationship went south, and she wants to start a new thread to vent and get some emotional support from her buddies here on the board 😳
Or, she’s actually happy and just wants to share the good news with the group. 😍
I noticed that one of my favorite ladies on here is asking for an unban. I wasn't really following the thread, but she probably got banned at someone's specific request. Given these new rules where permissions aren't being handed out or revoked like they used to be, I honestly think Black Velvet should be considered an exception. To me, this new policy feels pretty mindless 🙂
Benjamin Palmer3 said:That’s just flat-out wrong. The whole point of this thread—and every other thread here—is to hash things out and swap perspectives. It’s called a discussion. Sure, if people start getting nasty and hurling insults, they should be dealt with; that’s what the moderators are for. But it’s ridiculous that on the Politics board, we don't even have a dedicated thread for the marriage referendum. This thing is huge right now, especially with the deadline for submitting signatures to Congress looming closer every day. It’s becoming impossible to ignore.
Where am I supposed to talk about it then? On some niche religious blog? 🤦
There’s a similar thread over on the Religion board, and honestly, that one's even more relevant right now. 😁
No need, really. I’m perfectly fine with the fact that you even bothered to step up and try to help. What actually rubbed me the wrong way was being insulted out of nowhere. It's the same old story, isn't it? You hold an opinion—and look, we all have them—but if you happen to disagree with gay adoption, suddenly you're automatically labeled a predator, a bigot, or some other kind of monster. It’s exhausting. If I happen to think that lesbian women might make better parents—which follows my broader view that women generally make better guardians than men, mind you, this is just my own take—then I don't see why that should trigger such a massive meltdown from everyone else.
I didn't file this complaint just to go after that one user (you know I'm not the type to report people to the moderators on Reddit or anything like that; I haven't done it before and I don't plan to), nor am I trying to drag the mods under the bus. Honestly, the admins here are pretty fair. I’ve been blunt myself, used plenty of ad hominem attacks in the past, and instead of getting banned, I usually just get a warning to clean up my act. The subject matter is just sensitive enough to keep things tense, but at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to their own perspective.
As far as I'm concerned, you can just lock the thread.
Regarding that thread about gay adoption, my take was pretty straightforward: "If same-sex adoption were ever legalized, I’d personally favor a lesbian couple over a gay male couple every single time." Then a user named badinerie chimed in with a simple: "Why?" So, I laid it out: "In my view, it comes down to maternal instinct. I think they’d provide more nurturing, fewer identity crises for the kid, and less bullying at school..." That's when the problematic post shows up—a direct response to what I wrote, basically taking aim right at me.
"Abusers come from families with a mindset just like yours."
What else am I supposed to call that quote if not a blatant, nasty insult directed at me and my family? There isn't some clever way to interpret that as anything other than a slap in the face.
I’m asking for the post to be deleted, because apparently the moderators see things differently and think no rules were actually broken. And let’s get one thing straight: I’m not looking to get badinerie banned or punished; I don't care about that. My appeal is about principle. No side should be given an advantage, and no one should be allowed to resort to personal attacks just because we disagree on an opinion.
Look, this thread is actually constructive. It’s a decent spot for people to hash things out and trade perspectives, so I honestly don't see any legitimate reason why it should have been locked up in the first place!
Count me in—I’m adding my voice to the appeal too. Look, she can be a bit sharp-tongued sometimes, but honestly? She’s interesting, and her wit makes her great for quoting. I really don't think her insults are meant to be malicious; it’s just how people talk on these forums. It’s that raw, unfiltered style where nobody bothers wrapping everything up in pretty little bows. They just say what they mean. 🙂