I was reading some stuff earlier about how certain figures in the sports world are sticking by their current roles despite missing out on a massive "dream job" opportunity. It got me thinking about how much weight we put on these near-misses.
In my own life, I can't tell you how many times I've felt like a failure because I didn't land the specific role or position I had my heart set on. It’s easy to look at someone who just missed a huge milestone and assume they must be devastated or looking for the exit, but sometimes, staying the course is actually the stronger move.
The obsession with "the one that got away" seems to permeate everything from professional coaching to personal relationships. We tend to value the shiny, prestigious opportunity over the stability and commitment of the path we're already on. Is it a sign of strength to stay loyal to your current situation when a massive door slams in your face, or is it just a way to avoid admitting defeat?
Do you think people are actually capable of being "fully committed" after a public rejection, or is it always just a matter of time before they move on?
Hey there, I have a quick question for you all. I’m looking to pick up some 2x4GB RAM sticks, and my motherboard supports DDR3 at 1600/1333/1066 MHz. It also mentions that it needs non-ECC and un-buffered memory, but honestly, I don't really have a clue what those terms actually mean or if they matter for my setup. I can't seem to find any Corsair options anywhere, but I did come across some New York City modules with those exact specs, so now I'm stuck wondering if they'll work fine. The listing says: Crucial DDR3 2 x 4 1600MHz Non-ECC CL11 DIMM SR x8 Bulk Pack KVR16N11S8/4BK.
redmarlin3 said:I’ve honestly had my fill of all those various indie bands that just whine and moan. I'd much rather listen to Motörhead, System of a Down, or Bad Religion.
👍 If they actually booked those last two acts, I would buy a ticket in a heartbeat..
Rebecca Fowler14 said:I was at a Depeche Mode concert and this woman actually shoved me just so she could climb up onto some guy's shoulders. She was flailing her arms around like she'd just seen a miracle or something, screaming her head off without even knowing any of the lyrics, and honestly, she spent the whole night getting ash all over my clothes. And she kept screaming "Albert, Albert!" the entire time until someone finally had the sense to tell her that wasn't even his name. 🤦
She eventually sat back down, but at least she stopped trying to climb people.🙂
placiddriver3 said:Well, you can just walk away from the pit and call it a day.
Look, if I were right there in the middle of the mosh pit, I wouldn't have anything to say about it, but when people start targeting those who aren't even involved, that's where the real issue lies. Not everyone showed up to the show just to get shoved around.
It really depends on the show. When I'm at an electro or metal concert, I love jumping around, dancing, and singing along with the crowd. At a Brendan Perry show, though, I found myself just swaying to the rhythm and almost meditating 😍. I’m not much of a photographer or someone who records everything on their phone because I simply don't have the time—I get way too caught up in the atmosphere, though I might pull my phone out if a song starts feeling a bit slow. I love it when people at heavier shows stay active instead of just standing there like zombies, but I also can't stand it when a mosh pit breaks out and starts hitting people who aren't looking to get tossed around.
It was absolutely wonderful. The sheer power and magic in that man's voice is honestly incredible; I'm already looking forward to the new album, as Wintersun has completely won me over.
analogdriver52 said:Look, you just need to realize there are plenty of people going through stuff like this, and there always will be. Basically, we all get what's coming to us because we don't stick up for others when things are going great for us, and then by the time it hits us, it's too late.
Just look at the kids in Africa and see how they live and still find ways to fight. Think about how many of them die every single day and in such horrible ways... meanwhile, you're upset about a dog passing and having a dry spell in the bedroom. People around us die from cancer every day and that's pretty much considered normal... if anyone gets laid off, I'd suggest they go to Africa to help people instead of just sitting around complaining...link
I really hope you’ve actually done your part helping kids over in Africa by now. Honestly, I can only imagine how incredibly dull it must feel for you to sit there typing out things like this. Ivy is dealing with her own real struggles right now, and those have nothing to do with children in Africa. She lost a close friend, and that loss is devastating regardless of what is happening on the other side of the world. On top of that, she just lost her dog, a companion she had by her side for fourteen years—and that isn't some distant animal in Africa, it was her dog, not yours or mine. Everyone tends to view their own struggles through a lens that makes them feel like the center of the universe, because at the end of the day, we all live our lives within our own heads. Making comments like that just shows a complete lack of empathy, both for the actual issue being discussed and for the people who are actually dealing with it.
You’ve already received a diagnosis, but if I were in your shoes, I would definitely rethink the "treatment" aspect. While talking things through with a neutral third party always seems like a solid move, I’m just not a huge fan of the medication route. As redpilot37 mentioned, the mind is such a complex thing, but you also have to truly understand how your own psyche works if you want to overcome its various traps. I honestly believe you can achieve that on your own without relying on pills. Medication won't actually address the root cause of what you're going through; it'll mostly just dull the edges of your struggle. I really feel like you need to make some drastic changes to your daily routine and start doing things that genuinely bring you joy. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about the situation at your job, but you absolutely have control over your internal state. What about your friends and your social life lately? Is that part of your world still functioning? Do you and your husband ever get out together—either just the two of you or with a group of people? Getting some physical activity in would probably go a long way too. Try carving out time for sports or even just some heavy manual labor—whether that's remodeling an apartment or something else that burns off energy. When you push yourself physically, it creates a sort of completion that stops you from overthinking all your problems so intensely, and the exhaustion helps prevent you from spiraling later on.
Jonathan Watson6 said:They’ve been my absolute favorites and I’ve been listening to them for about four years now, especially since Suicide Commando has become pretty well-known here in the States 🙂 and hocico.
swiftsurfer32 said:no, this is what we actually meant: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TqGO4pOmg4U
Mmmm 🙂 I honestly think this is one of the greatest things ever released in that genre, especially because the beat is absolutely infectious and the lyrics really hit home. To me, Memorias Atras feels like a completely fresh take on the Hocico sound, and even though most of their other albums have that raw, gritty production, this more synthetic vibe is easily one of my all-time favorites. 🙂
Raymond Anderson4 said:By the way, has anyone here actually seen Combichrist live?
I went to one of their shows once. They sound much more metal when they're performing live, even though I had an absolute blast at the concert itself. If it hadn't been for this annoying incident with my camera, the whole night would have been perfect, but instead, I just ended up feeling pretty bummed out about the whole situation.😳 Everyone seemed to be obsessed with AP, but we unfortunately showed up a little too late to catch them properly.😬
swiftsurfer32 said:and I feel like I should probably point you toward the god module, which most people seem to really enjoy, though it personally never quite did much for me, so if it clicks with you, that's great...
It took some serious effort to get them to sound authentic, but they aren't exactly top-tier performers🙂
Raymond Anderson4 said:Hey swiftsurfer32, looking back at that list of bands and artists you posted on the previous page, I was wondering if you could narrow things down just a little bit to maybe five or six really solid recommendations... just to give me a better starting point.
I just spent some time scrolling through Gothicin tracks on YouTube, and honestly, Suicide Commando and Agonoize have some incredible stuff. I think I'll start by downloading their albums first, and once I've gotten through those, I'll move on to the rest of the names you mentioned.
Kevin Wilson9 said:So you mean stuff like 666 imagery or D-Devils type vibes? 🤷
I guess it really depends on the specific band you're looking at. For instance, Hocico tends to focus heavily on social, religious, and political issues within Mexico, whereas Suicide Commando leans more into brutal themes like serial killers or anti-religious sentiments. You have some artists who tackle societal issues as a whole, while others just write those totally mindless 666 lyrics. It really just varies from group to group.
Kevin Wilson9 said:Can someone please explain what kind of music we're actually talking about here? I'm not really looking for a deep dive into every tiny subgenre, I just want to know the core genre, so what is it exactly?
It's Dark Electro, let's not overcomplicate things..