Posts by mistydrifter55

rowdypanther12 said:At the end of the day, we're still talking about a child here.

I didn't go that deep into the details. 🤣 My bad.

rowdypanther12 said:Sure, he could have, but he didn't just start messing up at sixteen. He's been on this path since his early school days.

Sixteen? Please. This kid was throwing massive tantrums when he was only three, and his parents just coddled him, spoiled him, and treated him like some little angel. By the time he hit four, he was already getting into scraps at preschool. Once he started elementary school, there was really no stopping him.
And now everyone’s acting shocked, like they have no clue how we even got here. Seriously?
God, I hate the law.

wanderingbadger44 said:I’m honestly not sure if this belongs here, so if the moderators think it’s in the wrong section, please feel free to move it.

Besides, does anyone actually have a clue how much they're charging us for this??!!11 🐔

It’s such a perfect little snapshot of how our entire education system operates.

rowdypanther12 said:I don't know about you, but I can actually see this promising young guy making his way into Congress one day.

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wanderingbadger44 said:There’s more to the story.
He actually threw a chair at a classmate, but the kid ducked, and the chair ended up hitting another student instead. As a result, he was given a formal reprimand.
However, the school board stepped in and overturned the reprimand, then sent the homeroom teacher to a communication workshop.😵

What I find interesting is how both cases stem from the third economics 🍿

I'm shitting myself—honestly, I am.

Ethan Phillips said:A guy with mental health issues? He could beat you into a state of total insanity. A man missing an eye or a leg can't pull that off. It’s not the same thing. What you're doing to yourself... that's a different story entirely.

Oh, give me a break. Stop overgeneralizing.
If we're really going by that logic, some idiot with a broken leg and a crutch could still take you out just because he’s livid that you wouldn't let him through the door first since he's "sick."

Mental illness is just like any other physical health issue.
Either you accept someone exactly as they are, or you don't.
It’s the same thing as meeting a guy after two months and having him say, "Hey, just so you know, I use a prosthetic leg." So what?
Either he works for you as a person, or he doesn't.
If you think he's going to be a total nightmare, just walk away.
There is no shortage of middle-aged, divorced guys dealing with depression out there.
Go find someone who actually makes sense to deal with.

Christian Wilson28 said:Why not though?

And if they're being used in the kitchen, what's the logic there?

I mean, you can break them in either room—so that’s hardly a valid argument, right? Glass is glass, regardless of where it's sitting.

Honestly, I don't even use glass cups much myself, so this whole selective thing seems pretty weird to me. It's not like they won't shatter in the kitchen if one hits the floor.

And why on earth do you care why I have my own rules? 🍿

Nicholas King said:Even if you had gone out together to pick up a new one she actually liked—what’s the worst that could happen?

Aside from her having a perfect little sob story ready for when the princess starts crying, "it was never my way! You guys are the absolute WORST parents ever!!!11!!! 😬, this is one of those situations where these so-called principled types end up facepalming at their own reflection years later—once the kids have grown up and moved out—because of all the parental nonsense they put themselves through. It'll be like, man, what an idiot I was, making such a massive production out of a simple toothbrush cup....

The resident moral police would probably drag me through ten pages of therapy sessions just to dissect my soul. 😁

Nicholas King said:Even if you had gone out together to pick up a new one she actually liked—what’s the worst that could happen?

Aside from her having a perfect little sob story ready for when the princess starts crying, "it was never my way! You guys are the absolute WORST parents ever!!!11!!! 😬, this is one of those situations where these so-called principled types end up facepalming at their own reflection years later—once the kids have grown up and moved out—because of all the parental nonsense they put themselves through. It'll be like, man, what an idiot I was, making such a massive production out of a simple toothbrush cup....

There will always be stories like this. One day, when we're older and looking back at all the foolish things we did, the regrets we carry, and the stuff that actually made us laugh... 😉

Anthony Garcia19 said:Spot on, mistydrifter55. I'm with you. 😉 I agree on one thing. Not buying someone a new toothbrush isn't exactly psychological warfare or neglect. Everything. Just by ignoring what the kid says.

If I don't buy my kid a new glass, it means sitting them down for a real talk about value. I want them to understand that just because we made a mistake with a purchase doesn't mean we toss it in the trash—even if it’s just something small. We'll wait until this one actually wears out before replacing it with a new one. And since they've already shown an interest in picking it out, I'll let them help me choose the next one.

That way, kids learn to value the hard work behind a purchase rather than just the stuff itself. If they get used to constantly picking up "new glassware," they’ll just fall into that typical consumerist trap—always wanting more and never feeling satisfied, no matter what they own. Worst of all, they'll miss out on learning to respect the effort someone put into making every single product.

@SummerNight, since I didn't want to start a whole new thread, I’ll just touch on that "backup lunch" idea here. Look, we aren't in boot camp or serving time in prison, but we can still learn to appreciate the effort someone puts into a meal. It’s good to remember that other people don't exist just to cater to our every whim. Sometimes, you just eat what's on the table, even if it isn't your favorite. It isn't poison, after all, and the person who cooked it—someone we love—definitely deserves a little credit for their time.

A ten-year-old can definitely wrap their head around an explanation like that. Honestly, I think teaching them that is way more important than just giving in to a meltdown over wanting a different colored cup or picking a meal that doesn't match what everyone else is eating.

If we’re calling that profile a toxic parent today, it just proves how skewed our modern values have become. It’s all coming back to haunt us. We're seeing this massive surge in selfishness and constant dissatisfaction the second someone can't immediately grab their next shiny new toy. I won't even get into the alienation and loneliness that follows—that's a whole other mess.

I never once said we actually BOUGHT her a new cup just because she didn't like this one.
We went over to the cabinet where the other plastic cups are kept, and I just asked her which one of those she wanted to swap it with. The whole point was that she can't use glass—don't want anything breaking, blah blah blah.

But you people just love to overanalyze everything and build these ridiculous theories that make zero sense, all because they're trendy. 🍿

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Anthony Garcia19 said:In my house, she wouldn't get a replacement cup. If she wants something fancy, she can buy it with her own allowance.

It reminds me of those over-the-top parents who cook two separate dinners just because one kid doesn't like a specific dish. One meal for the picky eaters, one for everyone else. 🙂

Honestly, you remind me of an toxic parent—the kind people finally vent about once they grow out of their teenage years and start looking at things clearly.

Anthony Garcia19 said:In my house, she wouldn't get a replacement cup. If she wants something fancy, she can buy it with her own allowance.

It reminds me of those over-the-top parents who cook two separate dinners just because one kid doesn't like a specific dish. One meal for the picky eaters, one for everyone else. 🙂

Under U.S. labor laws, she isn't even allowed to work yet—she’s too young.☕
That doesn't mean I should mentally torture her by cutting her off from everything or ignoring her perspective as an individual.
If she's unhappy about something, there's a reason. We talk it out, find some middle ground, and look for a solution. We follow the house rules and what's feasible, while still trying to respect what she wants.
The names she's calling things? Honestly, they're pretty typical for her age.
If this were you at her age, you probably would have looked at it and said, "Ugh, this glass is gross," and then gone out to buy a new one, "covered in glitter." But you were an adult; she can't afford to go shopping on a whim.
And let's be real: if you were in her shoes, you wouldn't just stare at a "gross" glass and mope because you couldn't get another one. You would have found a way to fix the situation so you didn't feel so bad.

Sure, it sounds trivial, but you have to actually talk to kids and try to understand where they're coming from. They aren't being difficult just because they have nothing better to do; they simply haven't learned how to bridge the gap between the chaos in their heads and the world around them.

Diary of a Ten-Year-Old Puberty Survivor

- Refuses to use the plastic cup in the bathroom when brushing her teeth. She’s insisting on glass because she thinks it looks "cool."
- Her reasoning? The plastic one is just STUPID.

We don't exactly keep glassware in the bathroom here (much to her intense disapproval), so I got her a slightly different plastic cup to replace the old one—one that clearly isn't "stupid."
🤣🤣🤣

Nicholas King said:Give me a break.

It seems like nowadays, every single issue in elementary school gets slapped with an ADHD diagnosis, and if a teenager acts out, you can just blame the internet and call it a day.

Honestly, it turns out being a parent has never been easier—if you believe all the nonsense being pushed lately.

I'm with you.☕

We’re constantly "blaming the kids" for being difficult, weird, or whatever else they happen to be...
In today's endless feedback loops, I rarely see parents stop to ask, "Wait, am I actually raising them this way?"
It’s much easier to point fingers at society, the world, or the universe than it is to look in the mirror.

And let's be honest, we've become a pretty comfortable generation.☕.

William Myers3 said:Is it actually possible for kids to be completely unaware of how they’re acting? Because whenever I point out that he was being disrespectful, for instance, he flat-out denies it...
I can certainly accept that he’s going through a phase of change, but there really is a limit to the outbursts I am willing to tolerate...
Punishments haven't exactly proven to be effective here in the States... Although, limiting screen time does work to some extent, because I just don't think it's normal for him to be glued to the internet all day long...
I tried explaining the whole concept of "equality" to him. Okay, fine, he wants equality? No problem at all, but he gets the responsibilities and accountability that come in the package too. 😉
I felt that was a fair approach, and it seemed to work initially, but after two days—and once a few minor chores around the house were added to the mix—he decided he wasn't actually that interested in us being equals...

His excuse for the verbal outbursts is that he just can't control himself in the moment, especially when we are arguing about something he feels strongly about...
So, I asked him if he would react that same way with, say, a teacher or anyone else... He wouldn't...
He stopped to think about it...

Yes, Dina, it absolutely is. Most adults don't even realize how they behave, so why would you expect a teenager to care about their actions if they haven't been taught to reflect on them yet?
Stop acting shocked when things go sideways and start taking the lead in parenting.
You're the parent here, not the other way around.

Teenagers have egos the size of skyscrapers. So while you're busy arguing over something they think is vital, of course they're going to lose it—who wouldn't?
Quit the fighting and just talk 😉.
Your kid is basically a mirror of you.
Maybe take a look at your own behavior first.😉.

Matthew Cruz44 said:That’s actually what happened to me recently... I lost my job and went through a massive breakup at the exact same time.

Not too long ago, I actually received some medical results that indicated "improvement," and my doctor told me that my medication regimen was working wonders for me.

But now? I feel exactly how I felt four and a half months ago, back before I started any medication at all... It's like there's this raw wound in my chest... and those memories of past traumas are just sitting right there on the surface, making me feel completely shattered.

Honestly, I feel violated. That's the only way to put it. I feel neglected, humiliated, overpowered, trapped—almost like I’m suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. My relationship and my career were essentially the things that kept my mind off the trauma... the pills didn't fix the underlying issues; they just provided the stability I needed to maintain a job and a partnership.

While neither the layoff nor the end of the relationship is officially finalized yet, as far as I can see, they are inevitable...

Since I likely would have walked away from that job and that person anyway, perhaps the best path forward is to accept these losses with dignity; in fact, if they happen to hesitate, I want to make sure I don't go crawling back.

Besides, I find it much easier once I've let it all out. This is simply too much weight for even the healthiest person to carry. And honestly, not everyone needs to know, and I don't need people trying to "comfort" me... because opening up those old wounds can be counterproductive. I think wounds tend to reopen according to their own internal logic, regardless of what anyone else does... life's setbacks naturally trigger old pains. There isn't much you can do about that, other than try to hit the reset button.

Given that I'm dealing with this sense of Stockholm Syndrome, I don't think I should ever return to that workplace or that relationship. I know I haven't imagined the reality of the job loss or the breakup either... despite all this misery, I still have inherent value, and I might even be needed elsewhere. And when that time comes, I won't be gaslighting myself into thinking I made it all up. I'll just have to navigate through it all again.

You know that saying:

"Burn the boats."

Keep your chin up and just charge ahead, good luck! 😉

Every single time I take this test, I end up with a different combination of ☕🍿
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Joseph Bailey41 said:Have you ever thought about becoming a life coach? 😁

I’m just not great at convincing people to buy into imaginary bullshit. 🍿

Terminus is 👍

Carl Rivera43 said:Politicians are basically just life coaches

Seriously. They feed us nonsense every single day just to make sure we’re dancing to their tune.

Only the smart ones actually bother reading between the lines. Everyone else? They just fall in line with the cronies, all thanks to the "expert" leadership guiding them right into it. 🧐

Jose Ward4 said:I don't know about you all, but Taylor Swift has been a total game-changer for me. She actually told me that if I just start eating bananas and walnuts, my whole life is going to take off. So, here I am today, polishing off my third banana, and honestly? I can already feel things shifting. It’s all thanks to Taylor Swift and those other cult-like life coaches out there.

Morning. Well, obviously, if you stuff yourself with bananas for Vitamin B and walnuts for those healthy fats, your brain starts firing on all cylinders and you feel great.

Look, I'll give you the same advice: eat plenty of fresh fruit and veggies, live a clean lifestyle, ditch the stress, get enough sleep, breathe some fresh air, and you'll feel like a whole new person. 😉🤣

Joseph Bailey41 said:Did it actually work? 🍿

🤣

She thinks it did. But that was 30 or 40 years ago.

It was my brother we’re talking about. Looking back, I realize the issue went way deeper than anyone thought. 🤣
It’s not that she didn't find a solution—it's that she just buried him and herself under a mountain of mutual dependency, bad habits, and pure mental exhaustion.

A few years back, I stumbled upon some info online describing the exact symptoms my brother had.
Turns out, it looks like it was PANDAS syndrome. If the doctors had known back then, they could have cleared it up with a few rounds of antibiotics. Instead, they both ended up scarred for life.
He’s never quite been himself, and honestly, she’s even worse off. 🤣

People put their faith in charlatans, priests, and doctors, so why wouldn't they trust a "life coach"? 🍿

The bottom line is that when people face a crisis, they turn to whoever they feel can help, based on their own culture and inclinations.
Some head to a church, others see a psychiatrist, so it’s perfectly natural for someone to seek out a Taylor Swift type instead.

It's a case of "different strokes for different folks." Everyone thinks they're doing what's best for them, and honestly, there's nothing wrong with that.
But until they experience the fallout, they'll just flip the script—starting to throw shade and stones at everyone, whether it's a doctor, a priest, or a Taylor Swift.

A few decades ago, when my mother was going through a rough patch, she went to the one person she believed could actually fix things—a local superstition specialist. That was the way it was back then.
Even today, I see TV shows where people flock to all sorts of exorcists and whatnot.
Since being a "life coach" is the big trend now, some people have simply moved past old-school fortune tellers. They aren't looking for witches anymore; they're searching for hope and salvation in modern ways, following the crowd toward whatever popular Taylor Swifts are trending.