Posts by Jack Gomez19

Morgan Chase5 said:It's the absolute truth... getting moving like that restores your drive, and once you push past that initial "I don't feel like it" phase, everything starts to flow quite naturally.

Staying busy is honestly the best therapy there is. In this particular situation, she's completely avoided taking any responsibility; she isn't being accountable to herself or anyone else around her. She really needs to realize she's an adult now and can't just dodge life's challenges indefinitely—you can't just float downstream forever and expect things to work out.

You’re letting life just pass you by, essentially hiding from reality because you've lost the drive to tackle your problems or the strength to even try.

You need a spark, and honestly, can't you find it in your family? Your dad is seriously ill, yet you're just playing the part of the "perfect daughter" instead of letting your love for him push you forward. Shouldn't you be showing him how much his sacrifices meant—especially since he worked so hard to put you through college despite having so little? Don't your parents deserve to finally see you hold that diploma?

Stop burying your head in the sand and start taking charge of your own life; give yourself orders, enroll in those classes, get out more, and stop eating junk food.

Forgive me for being blunt, but a mentally stable person wouldn't be behaving this way. You have a problem, which is fine, and it's actually better that you're aware of it, but you clearly can't fix this on your own. You aren't the first person to go through this, and unfortunately, the people on this forum can't offer much more than support, but a professional who specializes in this can actually help you solve it.

Kevin Rivera61 said:Her parents are fully aware that I lent her the money since they were right there at her place while I was visiting, so she just told me

She'll pay me back when she's able to, and when...

I realize things aren't easy for her raising three kids in a small three-bedroom apartment... but

It’s not even about the cash $267 even though I could certainly use it right now; it's more about whether she actually appreciates the help or if she's just choosing to ignore the fact that I'm asking for a tiny favor in return.

That bolded part really caught my eye—if she's struggling so much financially, why does she feel the need to maintain a three-bedroom place?

You were acting with good intentions, but it seems like your perspective has shifted since then; honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if you aren't the only one who owes money.

I had a neighbor in my apartment building come knocking on my door to tell me someone had stolen $333 out of her wallet. I told her I could lend her $67, but she just brushed it off, saying she didn't need it.

Then, a few days later, she actually called me asking to borrow $33 until the next day. Luckily, I didn't have to make up an excuse; I simply didn't have that much cash on hand at the moment.

Jose Wilson3 said:Well, that’s not working. 😢

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Getting my workout in!

I honestly can't get over how much I love Lamia! She is just such a breath of fresh air. says:
I've been hitting the gym lately, but honestly, I'm just not seeing any progress.

I am currently working out.

I am truly delighted to see you here! It brings such a wonderful spark of joy to my day to cross paths with you again. says:
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Once you reach a certain age, everything just seems to get so much more complicated.

It’s pretty straightforward; it isn't exactly rocket science.

Since she’s from the Midwest, I haven't really given much thought to the specific customs, but honestly, all this insistence on them is getting a little annoying to me.

Are these psychology topics actually good?🙂

Some of my relatives seem to think being hospitable means badgering you twenty times to eat, and then they get all huffy and offended if you turn them down—honestly, why even invite people over if you aren't prepared for a polite "no"?😁

Here is yet another recent example of a disgruntled child from my own family.

Hercules is 18 years old now, and throughout his entire high school career, he constantly complained to his parents that they were "harassing" him just because they encouraged him to hit the books a little harder—he always insisted he already knew exactly what he was doing.
Now that he didn't get into his first-choice college and ended up settling for his third option, he actually blames his parents, claiming it’s their fault for not FORCING him to study more aggressively.
There are endless examples just like this one, and honestly, I don't think there is a perfect answer for how to avoid upsetting a child, because no matter what you do, they will always find some reason to point the finger at you.

wirednomad42 said:Nobody ever came along and told me they had perfect parents—you know, folks with zero flaws.🤷

And honestly, it goes deeper than that—I just refuse to fall into the same toxic patterns my parents used, or even their parents before them.

Lawrence Cook79, this post deserves a solid 10/10!🙏

Oh, don't be so sure! As your child continues to grow, you'll find that your tendency to judge parents starts to fade away, and before you know it, you'll be facing those real-world parenting challenges head-on.
If you had asked my brothers and me for our take on our parents over twenty years ago, I’m sure we would have had plenty of complaints to air! However, looking back today, we all find ourselves in complete agreement that we were actually blessed with wonderful parents; I suppose we simply had to experience parenthood firsthand to truly grasp how much they did for us.

Look, you sound like an exhausted mom, and dwelling on these parenting theories is honestly just draining your battery even more.
Try being a bit more spontaneous and focus on self-care; just strip your responsibilities down to the bare essentials. If you’re wiped out, don't bother making some elaborate dinner—just grab something quick or order takeout.
Your kid picks up on your energy, and they’ll definitely be happier if you're relaxed, even if the house isn't spotless.
Life with your little one can only truly be joyful if you actually enjoy watching them grow up.
There really isn't a magic formula for being a good parent; honestly, I sometimes wish my own parents had been stricter or more involved in my big life decisions, but they weren't. It’s easy to blame our upbringing for our own shortcomings, isn't it?
My daughter insists I'm the best mom in the world, and while I know that's not true, I'm happy to let her believe it. I've simply loved her from the second she was born, and she always knew I loved her—whether I was angry, sad, when we were grabbing burgers instead of a fancy meal, or even when I skipped a PTA meeting because I'd rather go to a concert. I don't strive for perfection, and I don't expect it from her either, even though I think she's the most wonderful child on the planet.

Honestly, those girls are probably just acting out of pure jealousy; they were practically itching for an excuse to pick on you.

I have a feeling their attitude might shift once the fall semester rolls around, but in the meantime, just focus on hanging out with your friends from other grades over the summer break. Plus, you’ve only got one more year left before you move on, and then they can go find someone else to target.

I'm sure you have plenty of people to hang out with from your neighborhood or your extracurricular activities, and you'll likely meet even more people before school starts back up.

Don't let their drama get under your skin—just stay true to yourself and stop worrying about how little they actually know. You surely realize that getting good grades is what really matters from eighth grade, whereas the way these girls behave is something you'll forget in no time.

My conscience tells me I have to help, but I refuse to lose any sleep over where the money actually ends up since there's absolutely nothing I can do about that part.

I am in complete agreement with Taylor Swift. When my child had their First Communion, the three of us simply went out for lunch at a local restaurant, and that was the extent of it. I truly believe this is a deeply personal milestone rather than an excuse to throw a massive party; after all, that wasn't even the norm until quite recently.
We celebrated the occasion with just our immediate family, and I felt so relieved that our church provides matching outfits for the children, which saved us from having to deal with a whole parade of fancy clothing.

My child recently had her First Communion, and she was showered with gifts to mark the sacrament—a silver coin featuring the Pope, a Swarovski crystal rosary bracelet, a Swarovski crystal cross necklace, a beautifully bound Bible, a stylized Holy Family candle holder, and several spiritual books. While she was genuinely thrilled with everything, I have to admit, she’s mostly just counting down the days until her trip to Disneyland with her godmother!

Honestly, I don't get people who jump to conclusions like that; if someone is just trying to share their genuine experience, they shouldn't be immediately branded as a shill.
My husband is a heavy smoker and absolutely hates these new smoking bans, so when he heard about electronic cigarettes on the news last night, he was actually considering picking one up, though he’d much rather hear some real-world feedback from others first.