Posts by redharbor9

Sarah Wood2 said:It’s not even like I’m uncomfortable or anything, she’s actually a nice lady, but we aren't really digging into the actual issues to get to that core problem—you know, the root cause and how to actually handle it (though maybe that's just because she's a bit of a jerk?). She just hands me this clinical breakdown of what caused the mess, like "well, this happened, so now what?" and then we move on to breathing exercises and stuff. Meanwhile, during those thirty or forty-five minutes, her phone is ringing off the hook, she's constantly typing away at her computer... she's more like a typical doctor running through a checklist than an actual therapist, honestly.

Gotcha. Look, CBT is basically built for one thing: killing symptoms. It's about retraining your behavior and thoughts so your problems don't mess up your daily life anymore.

If you want to actually tackle the root cause instead of just managing the fallout, then CBT is a total waste of time. Just keep in mind that if you go through insurance, you'll likely end up in psychodynamic therapy, and that can drag on forever...

Sarah Wood2 said:Alright folks, does anyone have a solid psychiatrist they can vouch for? Like, we’ve all gone over the whole breakdown of what a psychologist is versus a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist... but then there's this whole other thing called a neuropsychiatrist. What's the actual deal with that? I've got an appointment coming up at this new hospital, and honestly, I'm already feeling a bit iffy about whether it's going to be any good.

Look, if you aren't happy, find someone else. Mental health is way more personal than other medical fields. Satisfaction and actual results matter, and you need to feel comfortable to get anywhere with treatment...

That’s the whole point of this kind of relationship. If one side doesn't feel right or thinks they can't work with the other person, you just move on...

Sure, you'll find people who claim being uncomfortable is "just part of the process," but as a therapist myself, I think there's zero reason to put people through unnecessary stress when you can get the same results without the headache...

And yeah, this applies to any treatment that isn't just a two-minute prescription write-up. Even then, if you feel like you're being ignored or dismissed, just walk away...

Kyle Lee7 said:Back in the day, psychiatry and neurology used to be treated as two sides of the same coin, so most people who studied them back then have naturally evolved into neuropsychiatrists today. I’d bet my money that the majority of them eventually leaned more toward the neurology side of things.

The few I actually ran into went strictly into psychiatry..

Morgan Cooper34 said:Hah. No parent is ever going to look you in the eye and admit they messed up their kid. They’ll all swear on their lives they were doing what was best. 😍

Look, I’m not a mother myself. But my mom actually managed to break the cycle her own parents handed down to her—and she did it without a single therapist to guide her. (Back in the day, decades ago in the USA, seeing a shrink wasn't exactly the go-to move.) She dealt with a lot of neglect growing up and never really had a voice, which meant when she interacted with people later in life, she could be... let's say, "intense." 🙂🙂

Back in the 80s, when I was just a little thing, she used to devour *A Cry of Fear* by A. Johnson. She tells me that book was what finally clicked for her—helped her understand why she acted the way she did. Sure, she made mistakes while raising me, just like any parent does, but it never spiraled into the kind of dysfunction you see being discussed on this forum. Honestly? I had a pretty good childhood. (Okay, fine, I missed my dad because he worked overseas and was only home for about three months out of the year. Those three months were great, obviously, but his absence left a mark. It's why I tend to seek stability in men and find myself drawn to older guys, but that’s a whole different conversation for another time. 😉)

That caught my attention... did she give you any more details on what she actually realized?

Look, what's written doesn't change the fact that everyone's just gonna post whatever the author wants anyway. 🙂

How do you even know women voted for that? 🙂

Lisa Hernandez3 said:It almost seems like you're acting incapable, yet you're claiming that this is somehow a byproduct of your competence. I suppose one of the hallmarks of those who truly "make it" in their careers is the ability to maintain composure—to read people and anticipate how they might react or move. What you’re interpreting as others not pulling their weight might actually just be a lapse in your own ability to forecast the workflow. And, understandably, that apparent loss of control over the pace and the general atmosphere is what triggers that... well, that "fury" you mentioned.

Beyond that, if you're in a high-level leadership position, when was the last time you actually paused to ask why your subordinates lack motivation? It's pretty obvious they don't have it, but perhaps the reason is worth investigating.

Here is an example of how office rage is often just a symptom of burnout and poor mental health: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GEfx8I5PgtY
And just for fun—please don't take this too seriously or as a political statement: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cq--vR8ahKI
😁

Does that apply to American society too? 😍

What does a fetus even dream about? 😲

Why is this whole thread built on the assumption that there’s only one "normal" way to think just because that's how people who can hear or see process things? We developed verbal reasoning because that’s the context we grew up in. Just because the majority of us evolved this way doesn't mean it's the only way to exist. Is the struggle here actually just trying to put words to something that simply can't be verbalized? We don't even recognize other ways of thinking, yet we expect deaf people to describe their world to us. How would they even describe colors? How do you explain color to a blind person? It's not that they can't grasp the concept—it's that we don't have the vocabulary to describe it to them. To us, this stuff is second nature, but can we actually articulate it?

People spend way too much time looking for answers within their own little bubbles. You’ve gotta step outside your own perception if you ever want to understand how anyone else navigates the world...

If you ask me, we’re looking at a total cultural obsession. Doctors have always been treated like rockstars—the most important, influential people in the room—and that mindset just stuck. It’s baked into the system because that's how they train the next generation...

As for what’s actually left of medicine today, who's even bothering to go through medical school anymore, and how much is actually being accomplished? That’s a whole different conversation...

Lisa Hernandez3 said:It feels more like a weirdly phrased observation disguised as a question. 😕
Seriously though, super Silva, have you actually watched that? She did that whole series of segments on RC about how she’s suddenly a lesbian, even introduced her girlfriend on the show—they were all over each other and whatnot. To me, it doesn't come across as homophobic at all.
There were segments about those fringe queer events, sure, but I think there are just as many reports on fringe straight stuff. Generally speaking, the segments tend to focus on outsiders—on both sides, really. So, my take would be that RC isn't homophobic; it's more that Delale, with all her performative stuff regarding her sexual orientation, has developed a bit of a bad reputation among the general public. 😁

Yeah, I remember when super Silva "realized" she was a lesbian... I definitely saw plenty of posts online from frustrated macho dudes losing their minds over it. 😍

Edward Wilson82 said:Here’s one for you:
Is nature being "homophobic" just because biological reproduction requires a man and a woman, rather than two men or two women?

Homophobia is a social construct directed at people, so your question is completely pointless 🙂 and if you really want to personify nature, then no, it's not homophobic. It doesn't harass, hate, or discriminate against anyone. If anything, biology is "gay-friendly" since it literally created them... so there's your answer.😍

Ryan Wood98 said:Could someone please explain how the host of "Red Carpet" managed to end up on a list of top homophobes?

I don't follow the show very closely, so I'm not entirely sure what he actually said or did, but from what I have seen of the program, it honestly feels quite... how should I put this... homoerotic?

From what I can tell, he only ever focused on the fringe elements of the gay community—basically just the people looking for clout and TV time. He didn't give a damn about regular folks or actual issues, so yeah, he basically did a great job feeding into those tired old stereotypes...

Get your heads together here.... Homophobia—which is basically just prejudice against sexual minorities—requires actual hatred or some kind of intense negative emotion toward them. Since silentpilot6 clearly doesn't have any of that, he isn't homophobic...

Though I honestly think he might still end up posting if people keep sucking up to him like this 😍

slywolf45 said:The thing is, we already have penalties on the books for what they call "hate crimes."
That covers everything from verbal harassment to physical assaults targeting the LGBTQ+ community.

I was talking about reducing prejudice here... this isn't gonna change anyone's mind... it just makes them even more pissed off.

Fines and stuff would definitely help... honestly, it’d just crank up the effect...

Not even close... if you actually give a damn about that topic, check out the chapter on prejudice in Aronson's "Social Psychology." It's actually decent.

Daniel Wilson5 said:slywolf45, we really need to call out what homophobia actually looks like. Most people don't even realize they're being homophobes, let alone understand why they act that way or the actual damage they cause to gay people and the community at large. It’s also refreshing to see that even within the field of social psychology, homophobia is officially recognized as toxic behavior that needs to be addressed...

But honestly, that doesn't achieve squat. Even the ones who actually want to change find it damn hard. Prejudice is just a negative stereotype packed with an affective component—and that emotional baggage is exactly what shuts down logic and rational thought. That's why changing their minds is such a massive uphill battle.

Talking about homophobia is really just talking about prejudice, plain and simple. And look, prejudice can target any social group you want... it’s a pretty interesting phenomenon to dive into if you're actually going to bother debating this stuff...

Daniel Wilson5 said:Oh, this gives me just enough room for some poetic expression:

In the grass so green and bright,
little calf, you graze so light,
near your mother, sweet and small,
waving tails to one and all.
My little baby beef, so fine,
you have no clue what fate is mine,
a violent, bloody, sudden fate,
and a tender roast upon my plate!

Well, there you go. Neither cattle nor tomatoes are human beings, so they don't possess feelings comparable to human communication. That makes the comparison quite amusing, actually. But here is where my actual problem lies, because this is clearly an issue. Satisfying needs is instinctive, primitive, and animalistic. Sure, you have to eat, drink, and fight to survive... but shouldn't sex be a more refined act that separates us from the animals? Shouldn't it? Are you people really equating yourselves to beasts by having sex without using your brains?

But nope, it isn't... so what now? 🙂

Daniel Wilson5 said:So, look, what I’m actually getting at isn't about nymphomania... it's something else entirely. I just don't wrap my head around these impulses where sex becomes the absolute priority. Honestly, I can't even relate to that mindset, which is why I struggle with it. I thought maybe someone could give me a professional perspective here. For instance, the idea of sex without any emotional connection makes my skin crawl—though I suppose that's just labeled a "female dysfunction" by some... And sure, I get the occasional grooming thing, but treating constant sexual pursuit as a full-blown lifestyle? It’s bizarre. How is it possible for some people to never develop actual feelings for others? Are they just brain dead? You know... are they just flatliners? That's what scares me. I genuinely cannot fathom where that state of being comes from. I just want to understand it so it feels less alien... and so I don't feel so threatened by people like that. That's all.

Do you need to befriend every cow before you slaughter it just to get a steak on your plate? Or do you have to bond with every single cherry on the tree before you pick it and eat it? If the answer is no, then we have our reason. It's because that steak and that fruit exist for one thing: satisfying a basic need.

Sex is the exact same thing. If you hook up with someone you wouldn't even recognize on the street tomorrow, or someone whose name you don't even know, it's just fulfilling a need. Both sides. Period. It’s no different than eating, drinking, or sleeping... just satisfying a physical urge, nothing more.