Posts by neonsailor26

Joseph Bailey41 said:I’d rather not. I wouldn't want you getting hurt. 🥳

Those blades aren't going to be an issue 🍿. They are really just there to sharpen things up if they still need a little extra edge 🤔.

Has anyone seen our Mayor, Carl Rivera43?

Andrew Barrett4 said:Here are the photos, friend and starka 😬 :

https://goo.gl/images/pSPHB1

I think we totally missed this little smiley face earlier🙂 😬 .

Jamie Adams6 said:topic for psychiatry

Well, I guess we’ve finally arrived at our destination, hahahahahahahaha! 🤣.

Andrew Barrett4 said:I guess all that's missing is the state asylum 🤣🤣

Daaaaaaaj 🤣🤣🤣.

Joseph Bailey41 said:If he's really that desperate for a stick, he can always borrow his mom's broom. 🙂

Or maybe just your tongue 😒 😬 .

mistydrifter55 said:Why don't you jump into the thread yourself? Who knows, maybe you'll walk away with something.
Either a prize or a slap in the face...

No worries at all, I just finished sitting down for dinner ☕.

mistydrifter55 said:She doesn't need to be a masochist to play them both.
The way she has them both wrapped around her little finger just shows how much she's enjoying the ride.
Honestly? I bet she’d have no problem getting "playful" with both of them at the same time.

Actually, in this specific scenario, she might have to be a bit of a masochist!

See, The Mayor hasn't even decided if he's into her yet...

And once he finally makes up his mind, he'll have to figure out if he can actually handle her style—or if it's too much for him.

If everything checks out there, then we move on to the real test: the ego factor.

If they can get past that 🙏 it’s all smooth sailing from there ☕ .

But I have a feeling that this whole thing (assuming it’s even real!) will fizzle out before it starts—because by the time one of them actually gathers the courage to make a move,
we'll already be halfway to Mars ☕ . And frankly, I don't know a single woman—aside from someone who is a pure masochist at heart—who would wait around for them that long.

mistydrifter55 said:🤣🤣🤣

I’d bet anything she’s got a bit of a dominant streak. 🤣

She's a free-spirited forty-year-old with plenty of life experience.

Between her ego and those superpowers? She'd probably eat you two both for breakfast. 😬

Unless, of course, she happens to be a masochist ☕.

Carl Rivera43 said:A boarding school

🤦 .

Carl Rivera43 said:Kind of like a reform school

A reform school🤣? A prison🤣? Or maybe some kind of group home for kids🤣?

Carl Rivera43 said:Look, the kid is 17 and living in a different city altogether

They're still a minor, ☕. So—who are they living with over there? Is it their dad? Or maybe they're staying at some kind of reform school?

Such a poor kid, having to deal with a mother like that 🤦 .

I've been thinking quite a bit about our recent discussions—you know how I get once I start diving into a topic!—and I really wanted to chime in on the points raised by Jose Green82 regarding the current landscape. It’s such a fascinating, albeit complex, situation we find ourselves in... isn't it? I feel like there's so much nuance to uncover if we just take a moment to step back and look at the bigger picture! kaže:
So, here’s the situation, everyone... I’m 37, and he’s 40. He’s been divorced for about three years now—his ex-wife was unfaithful to him, which is just heartbreaking—and we actually met online just two months ago. We spent about two weeks messaging back and forth before finally meeting up, and well, we jumped straight into a relationship...To be perfectly honest—and I mean truly, deeply honest here—we’re both at that stage in life where things have finally settled into place... we've both reached that level of maturity where the games are over and what matters is the real stuff...Everything was going so smoothly—truly, everything was wonderful—until about two weeks ago... and then, out of nowhere, he just completely stopped responding! I kept pushing for an answer, trying to figure out what happened, and he finally snapped back at me. He claimed he couldn't find any connection left between us and that he simply couldn't enter into a real relationship right now because it’s too much of a trauma for him. To make matters even heavier, he actually confessed that he’s struggling with depression and... Fear... it’s such a heavy, overwhelming thing to carry, isn't it? It can feel like this constant, low-frequency hum in the background of your life—something that just won't quit even when you try to ignore it... and honestly, sometimes it feels like it's winning. But I truly believe that we don't have to let it define us! There is so much strength to be found in facing those shadows, even if our hands are shaking while we do it... So, even with the medication involved—it was Tuesday when he told me he’d give me a call this Saturday. Well, he didn't call... He finally reached out the following Tuesday, and once we actually connected, we had such a lovely, heartfelt conversation! He opened up and admitted that he’s been on Lexapro 10 mg since this summer started—apparently, he was feeling incredibly weak and just completely listless all season. There was even one week where he couldn't even get out of bed; he just stayed lying there, which is ultimately what led him to see his doctor... During our talk, he mentioned how much lighter he felt just by being honest with me—sharing the whole problem—and he expressed so much gratitude for my support while he works through his recovery. It really hit home when he said that a person can feel so helpless when they're facing everything alone... He was just so sweet, saying all the kindest things imaginable... And then, sure enough, I woke up this morning to a message from him!😁Good morning... I spent a good portion of last night just sitting there, thinking about us and the situation with my girlfriend—it’s been weighing heavily on my mind. To be completely honest, I’m feeling pretty low right now, just sort of empty inside... and this new relationship is honestly starting to feel like a lot of pressure. It might be the health issues I've been dealing with, or maybe it's just the fact that I am still reeling from my previous relationship—which ended back in May after seven months together. I think I really just need some space to find my footing again and give my head a chance to rest from everything going on. Please, try to understand where I'm coming from and accept this... I’m simply not in a place where I can handle a new relationship right now. I am so sorry...
I actually sat him down and asked him straight up how bad it really was—how empty he felt inside. He told me it’s like he’s been completely blocked off from feeling any kind of love... just totally hollowed out. It honestly breaks my heart to see him struggling like this. I think he just needs some space and time to work through it until things start looking up again...
I’ll just send him a quick note to let him know that I’m standing right here by his side...
People, I am reaching out because I really need some advice here... and please, I beg you, don't jump to conclusions or start pointing fingers at me. If you actually have some insight or can offer a bit of guidance, please write back—I’d love to know what I should expect from this situation, how I might be able to help, and honestly, just how you all see this unfolding... I am truly struggling to wrap my head around it all. How does someone go from two months of constant affection, showing up, and being completely present—pouring their heart out and showing so much care—to suddenly blocking me just like that? It feels so abrupt! Is this some kind of bluff? Or could it be a side effect of medication, like maybe an adjustment to Lexapro 10 mg...? Or perhaps it’s just a massive mood swing, or something else entirely that I'm just not seeing... I'm feeling a bit lost here...

I can't quite bring myself to believe he's being sincere—though, if I'm being honest, I suppose I can see where his twisted logic is coming from...

You know, I can't help but feel you might be looking at this through a bit of a naive lens... perhaps a little too optimistic about how things actually work out!

What exactly are you afraid of? Starting over with someone new? Honestly, you should tread carefully—you never truly know what someone might be hiding under the surface. There could be health issues or personal struggles he simply isn't ready to disclose yet... It’s entirely possible that his marriage fell apart because of a private struggle he was dealing with, rather than anything involving infidelity. Use this period of distance between you two to really gain some perspective—it might be just the breathing room you need. You might find that, once the dust settles, he isn't actually the person you're looking for...

When I go in for a handshake, I always aim for that perfect middle ground—a firm, confident grip that conveys presence, but without being so intense that I actually cause the other person discomfort or pain.

Of course, my approach shifts depending on who I’m meeting! If I’m shaking hands with kids, I keep things much softer and more gentle, whereas with other adults, I’ll apply a bit more pressure... though I’m extra mindful when greeting women, as I certainly wouldn't want to be remembered as some brute who has absolutely no sense of restraint.

wiredcobra96 said:Hi everyone!
I'm sorry if this topic has already been covered. For as long as I can remember, I've always been pretty shy—unless I'm hanging out with my inner circle of close friends. I honestly thought I had just accepted that this was who I was, but now that I've graduated from college, it’s becoming a massive hurdle. Even though I know I'm great at what I do, I completely freeze up during job interviews. My voice starts shaking, my mind goes blank, and I just can't present my best self. 🤷 It’s getting really frustrating, and I’m feeling a bit lost on how to fix it. Does anyone have any advice on how to push past this? I can't just stay home knowing I'm missing out on opportunities because I struggle to make a good first impression.🤦

If you haven't already, you should definitely start getting into some kind of sport🙂 .

Besides being a great way to decompress, it gives you such a huge boost of self-confidence...

Have you ever thought about sitting down with a therapist for some counseling?

In my opinion, it might be worth seeing someone just to pick their brain for a few pointers🙂 .

My therapist actually taught me a few breathing techniques—he practices Gestalt therapy—and let me tell you, it has been a total lifesaver whenever I find myself in a high-stress situation🙂 .

Personally, I’ve had a few job interviews over the last couple of weeks, and everything went incredibly well.

I truly believe things will go just as smoothly for you too🙂 .

Hang in there—you can do this!

Joseph Bailey41 said:If you want to win, you can't afford to lose. 🧐

It isn't the fall from the building that gets you—it's the sudden impact with the concrete🤣.

Angela White2 said:I hope I’ve posted this in the right section; let me know if I need to move it.

Basically, I’m 19, and my main issue is a genuine fear of physical confrontation. I just can't bring myself to stand up to anyone. It's always been this way—I was a peaceful kid from the start, and that isn't the problem. The problem is that I've been a victim of continuous bullying for two and a half years now.

It all started back in late 2015/early 2016, and it hasn't stopped since. It's been a traumatic, horrible stretch of time, and everything has gone downhill because it feels like everyone is either trying to push me around or messing with my head. Since early 2016, this one guy and his group of friends have been harassing me daily. It's been two and a half years of this, and I haven't had the guts to do anything about it because I don't know how to fight, nor do I ever want to. Secondly, I lack the courage to take a stand or confront an aggressor. I've always been the type to stay quiet and just take the crap rather than speaking my mind and demanding respect. Third, whenever I face these guys or get into any kind of heated argument, I just freeze. I get so overwhelmed by fear that my mind goes blank and I start stuttering. I end up acting like a complete coward, and it eats at me. It makes me feel less masculine and undignified because I can never shut down a provocation.

Because this has been going on since 2016, the issue persists. I run into these bullies almost every day since I live in a small town, so avoiding them is impossible—especially in the summer when everyone is out and about. Every single time, I freeze up and react like a coward. I'm looking for any way to solve this.

Over these last two and a half years, I've thought about this constantly, and it's turned into serious anxiety, which has caused other issues for me.

Because of this, I've never had a girlfriend. It feels like girls are only attracted to those "tough guys," and I feel like I'm not man enough. I constantly imagine walking through town with a girl and someone starts messing with her, and I'd just stand there like a loser, unable to do anything because I can't fight and I can't stand my ground. That would be the ultimate embarrassment.

I simply don't have that fighting instinct in me, and that's the core of the problem.

I don't know how to fight, I'm afraid to stand up for myself, and I can't handle provocations. I've even been slapped a few times, which is incredibly humiliating.

I've thought about talking to my parents or reporting this to the local police, but I hesitate because I don't want to look like an even bigger wimp or a snitch.

Does anyone have any advice?

How can I develop that fighting instinct? How can I find the nerve to respond to provocations, whether they are verbal or physical?

Any advice at all would be appreciated and helpful.

Look, you actually *do* have a fighting instinct. It’s innate. The simple fact that you want to take action regarding the problems tormenting you proves that the instinct is there.

Now, we just need to figure out why it isn't operating at the level you want it to be.

My advice? Talk to your parents first about what you're going through, and then definitely see a psychologist. If you keep suppressing this and letting it happen, you’re eventually going to hit a breaking point—and I really wouldn't want to be around when you finally explode...

And honestly, it wouldn't be a bad idea to contact the police either, because what they are doing to you is straight-up criminal.

Joseph Bailey41 said:And honestly... if you think typing on a forum counts as harassment, then I really wouldn't want to be in your shoes when you finally decide to stop hiding behind your mom's apron strings. ☕

https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbu...-it/index.html 😉 .

Once I finally make my escape from her shadow, I'll probably just end up running straight under yours 😒 .

Joseph Bailey41 said:So, let me get this straight: if someone lacks even one quality that I personally value, they somehow deserve to be bullied? Funny how that works. 😁

Well, you’re already doing exactly that😉.

Author, if you can—please just get out of that environment. Honestly, it’s much better to be labeled a Coward than to end up behind bars because of some idiots... and believe me, there are plenty of people who have traded their freedom for a misguided sense of pride.

P.S. Look, I’m not against getting even, really! But you have to plan it out—very, very carefully. You don't want to end up on the wrong side of the FBI...