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bluemason3 bluemason3 Veteran
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#81 ·
David Vaughn75 said:Look, Buddhism isn't really a religion in the way most people think; it's more like a philosophy that’s cool with whatever local religions the people who adopt it happen to practice. All those different faiths usually have their own ways of explaining how and why nature works the way it does.

As for Jainism? Beats me. I don't know the first thing about it.

It’s definitely a religion. And philosophically speaking, it doesn't exactly tolerate other faiths—at least not before you factor in the animistic or local elements that don't mess with the core cosmology. In that sense, there's no issue if someone follows Krishna to ensure a better harvest, but you can't be a Buddhist while simultaneously believing in Vaishnava creation myths or treating Krishna as the supreme deity. That’s fundamentally at odds with Buddhist doctrine.
goldenjackal6 goldenjackal6 Active Member
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#82 ·
James Miller2 said:I believe those personal testimonies aren't bad since they encourage people to change.
Human beings rarely change (unless something is life-threatening).
And improving one's life is necessary for health and survival.

How would you explain it if, for example, a doctor told someone they had an incurable disease, and then that disease vanished after prayer and fasting?
You cannot simply dismiss that as fantasy or positive thinking.

There are specific conditions and miracles required for shrines; I am not particularly familiar with them, so I cannot comment.

Look, illness doesn't just vanish because you're praying and skipping meals; that's just straight-up nonsense. If anything, fasting—which is basically just starving yourself and cutting out the nutrients your metabolism needs to actually work—can make things way worse. The only real exceptions would be specific gastrointestinal issues.
bluemason3 bluemason3 Veteran
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#83 ·
James Miller2 said:I believe those personal testimonies aren't bad since they encourage people to change.
Human beings rarely change (unless something is life-threatening).
And improving one's life is necessary for health and survival.

How would you explain it if, for example, a doctor told someone they had an incurable disease, and then that disease vanished after prayer and fasting?
You cannot simply dismiss that as fantasy or positive thinking.

There are specific conditions and miracles required for shrines; I am not particularly familiar with them, so I cannot comment.

In a way, that's true. Because stories hit you on an emotional and symbolic level, they bypass the rational, critical part of the brain. That allows them to trigger shifts in behavior at a more instinctive, irrational level.
It can be a positive thing, but it can also be negative.

There are psychotherapies and therapists who use carefully crafted, suggestive storytelling and communication styles for that exact purpose. If that’s what someone needs, it’s better to turn to professionals who follow established ethical guidelines and professional oversight.

With religions (including cults and sects—they're essentially the same thing), the primary goal is indoctrination. At the very least, it's about maintaining the flock, and for most, it's about recruiting new members. Everything else is secondary to that goal, including (more often than not, highly exaggerated if not outright fabricated) potential benefits.

The other issue is that these benefits are often short-lived—more like a temporary fix than a permanent cure.
Personality traits are hard, if not impossible, to fundamentally change in adulthood. However, through constant indoctrination and social pressure, a person can develop a sort of "pseudo-ego"—a permanent role they play just to fit into the religious narrative.
That said, you usually notice that once someone leaves a religion, sect, or cult, they revert back to their core personality. There wasn't actually any lasting change.

How would you explain it when, for example, doctors tell someone they have an incurable disease, but then that illness vanishes after prayer and fasting?
You can't just dismiss that as fantasy or positive thinking.

There are specific conditions and miracles required at shrines; I'm not really familiar with how that works, so I can't comment.

I will say, however, that the "fantasy" lies in how those events are interpreted.

Reality isn't binary. Nothing is strictly mortal or immortal. There are cases where people die laughing, and others who survive free-falling from a plane (without a parachute).

Both are extremely rare, but they happen. The reason we consider falling from a plane deadly and laughter healthy isn't based on absolute certainty, but on high probabilities.

Take a disease with a 99% mortality rate. We call it fatal, but there is still that 1 in 100 who survives.
Most people are believers, and everyone prays when their life is on the line. Even people who aren't religious tend to find faith in those moments.

This means it is statistically quite likely that the one person who was going to survive anyway happened to be praying. That single instance is then held up as proof of a miraculous healing, while completely ignoring the thousands of people who prayed and didn't get better.

It's the same story with shrines or canonizations—"miracles" are pulled out of thin air without context, relevant data sets, control groups, or statistical analysis. How many people visit a famous shrine? Hundreds of thousands a year? Millions? It's incredibly easy to find a cluster of healings in a group that large. It isn't evidence; it's just math.

The only way to actually prove something like this would be to demonstrate that, in practice, people experience significantly more healings through prayer or divine intervention than a control group of similar individuals who don't engage in those rituals.

As far as I know, the only studies of this kind I've come across were conducted right here in the States, and they failed to show any solid positive correlation.(One study even suggested a slight negative correlation—worse health outcomes for the group being prayed for, which most likely points to a nocebo effect.)

Since there are plenty of educated people working within the church who understand how to conduct research aimed at objectively testing a hypothesis, I’m left with one conclusion: when it comes to formal procedures like canonization, they intentionally use outdated methods. It doesn't prove anything; it just creates a pseudo-scientific illusion of proof. In other words, it feels like a deliberate hoax.
mistybison mistybison Regular
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#84 ·
David Vaughn75 said:Look, I wasn't talking about how the universe started, I was talking about why we're actually here.

Are you absolutely sure they're claiming humans were born without any purpose or reason?

Exactly—God is just a giant jukebox meant to grant everyone's wishes. 👍

The real question is whether you're such an idiot that you wish for something stupid—which, let's be honest, happens way more often than people wishing for anything smart.

What do you mean "niche"?
The whole concept of having to surrender control and your entire self to some higher being who takes over—that’s not rare at all. You see that everywhere, from major mainstream religions to basic shamanism.

Remember when you tried to explain to me that theology isn't about gods and deities? That really stuck with me. 😁I just happened to be well-mannered enough not to laugh in your face.

No one actually knows the answer to that. Everyone is simply making assumptions.

Exactly, God is like a jukebox that grants everyone their every wish.👍

The real issue is whether one is foolish enough to wish for something trivial, which happens far more often than wishing for something wise.

There are New Age beliefs suggesting that the soul selects various bodies, lives, and experiences to facilitate learning and maturity. In this view, life is merely a dream from which the soul awakens after death, only to choose the next dream-life to acquire new wisdom. Consequently, pain, suffering, illness, and death aren't truly real, even if they feel that way while we experience them.

Of course, this belief is just as unprovable as any other.
Lisa Jackson7 Lisa Jackson7 Regular
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#85 ·
James Miller2 said:Just relax.

First, take a breath. Go back to your own post. Read it again. Analyze the impression you actually left. Then, connect the dots and explain exactly why my post hits just as hard as yours.

Your perception is one thing. Someone else's reality is quite another.

Which religion condemns those who disagree? 🤔

Faith doesn't actually accomplish anything. It is the people that get the work done.

What specifically turned you off from faith?
Science, people, or something else entirely?

Can you write it?

I am a traveler on the road. Constant motion defines my existence. I move through the landscape, observing the asphalt stretching toward the horizon. There is a certain stillness found in the transit itself. It is not about the destination. It is about the rhythm of the journey. says:
For most atheists out there, this just isn't true.

Atheists and theists—though if you ask me, we’re all believers in something—share a certain commonality. Earthly authority sits above all else.
For theists, there is a distinct advantage in being able to relativize and challenge that earthly power through absolute authority.

Atheists (for the most part) lack that recourse.

bluemason3 was once a believer and remains one at heart; he simply swapped faiths. Now he identifies as a positivist, a physicalist, a naturalist, a scientist... some sort of blend of those things.

When you speak of earthly authority, are you referring to the government, the Constitution, or the legal system?

From my perspective, an atheistic way of life appears meaningless, depressing, and aimless. This isn't an insult, just my perception.

Yeah.

From my point of view—and I’m not trying to be rude, just stating my take—living an atheist lifestyle seems pretty pointless, depressing, and aimless.

I'm not offended—honestly, faith used to just be something I did out of habit back in the day... but now, I'm a true Christian believer.

Since you were just sharing your own perspective, I don't think anyone should take it personally.
goldenjackal6 goldenjackal6 Active Member
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#86 ·
Lisa Jackson7 said:Yeah.

From my point of view—and I’m not trying to be rude, just stating my take—living an atheist lifestyle seems pretty pointless, depressing, and aimless.

I'm not offended—honestly, faith used to just be something I did out of habit back in the day... but now, I'm a true Christian believer.

Since you were just sharing your own perspective, I don't think anyone should take it personally.

Bummer. I was really hoping that comparison wasn't totally off the mark, but I guess my gut was right after all.
goldenjackal6 said:Look, being forced to follow some political power is a totally different ballgame than daydreaming about gods. Just because the law holds you accountable doesn't mean you've suddenly become a religious person.

You hit the nail on the head right there. You've perfectly captured that massive, recurring issue with religion: people start devaluing actual human lives just to feed their own fantasies. That kind of warped logic is exactly how you end up with things like the Inquisition.
neonmarlin39 neonmarlin39 Active Member
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#87 ·
Maria Parker77 said:There is no such thing as human desire being outside of the divine plan. Period. Nothing exists outside of it. The whole point is that all conscious beings possess the power to create. And they do! The only real difference is how aware they are of that power and the massive Consequences of Creation.
Nowadays, most people are just creating a day dictated by their own karma and their past baggage. But it doesn't have to be that way. 🙂

But honestly? Humans and other creatures can't really "create" in the purest sense. That's why people call God the Creator. We’re mostly just mixing and matching stuff that's already out there.
neonmarlin39 neonmarlin39 Active Member
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#88 ·
James Miller2 said:I believe those personal testimonies aren't bad since they encourage people to change.
Human beings rarely change (unless something is life-threatening).
And improving one's life is necessary for health and survival.

How would you explain it if, for example, a doctor told someone they had an incurable disease, and then that disease vanished after prayer and fasting?
You cannot simply dismiss that as fantasy or positive thinking.

There are specific conditions and miracles required for shrines; I am not particularly familiar with them, so I cannot comment.

Do you have any idea how many testimonies there are about people being healed from terminal illnesses? 🤣

goldenjackal6 goldenjackal6 Active Member
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#89 ·
neonmarlin39 said:Do you have any idea how many testimonies there are about people being healed from terminal illnesses? 🤣


We also can't overlook the fact that this guy is a massive believer—he actually thinks he’s a direct descendant of Jesus himself.
Maria Parker77 Maria Parker77 Active Member
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#90 ·
neonmarlin39 said:But honestly? Humans and other creatures can't really "create" in the purest sense. That's why people call God the Creator. We’re mostly just mixing and matching stuff that's already out there.

Can you walk me through that a bit more? What exactly does "true creation" mean to you, and what kind of "pre-existing factors" are we even talking about here?

And where exactly is this God you're bringing up? If everything is just being rearranged, what is the actual "stuff" being used to build things? Is it bricks, flesh, atoms, energy... what's the raw material?
neonmarlin39 neonmarlin39 Active Member
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#91 ·
Maria Parker77 said:Can you walk me through that a bit more? What exactly does "true creation" mean to you, and what kind of "pre-existing factors" are we even talking about here?

And where exactly is this God you're bringing up? If everything is just being rearranged, what is the actual "stuff" being used to build things? Is it bricks, flesh, atoms, energy... what's the raw material?

Look, both in philosophy and science, true creation means making something out of "nothing." Like, can you just manifest a brick, an atom, or electrical energy out of thin air? Nope. You can build a brick using elements that already exist under certain laws and conditions, but all of that stuff was already created. Same goes for an atom—you need protons, electrons, neutrons (plus all those quantum bits) and all the physical laws that govern them. Can you create an atom if those elements and laws aren't already there? It's pretty obvious that no human being, and honestly no creature at all, has the power to truly *create*. That's why in philosophy, we call God the Creator—the one who brought everything into being: all beings, elements, matter, time, space, the laws of physics, the whole universe. Humans can only work with what’s already been put together. It's like playing with Legos. You've got the basic building blocks ready to go (even if you don't know where they came from—maybe God made them, maybe they've always been here, maybe some crazy explosion just popped them into existence...) and you just rearrange them and play around with different combinations.
Maria Parker77 Maria Parker77 Active Member
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#92 ·
neonmarlin39 said:Look, both in philosophy and science, true creation means making something out of "nothing." Like, can you just manifest a brick, an atom, or electrical energy out of thin air? Nope. You can build a brick using elements that already exist under certain laws and conditions, but all of that stuff was already created. Same goes for an atom—you need protons, electrons, neutrons (plus all those quantum bits) and all the physical laws that govern them. Can you create an atom if those elements and laws aren't already there? It's pretty obvious that no human being, and honestly no creature at all, has the power to truly *create*. That's why in philosophy, we call God the Creator—the one who brought everything into being: all beings, elements, matter, time, space, the laws of physics, the whole universe. Humans can only work with what’s already been put together. It's like playing with Legos. You've got the basic building blocks ready to go (even if you don't know where they came from—maybe God made them, maybe they've always been here, maybe some crazy explosion just popped them into existence...) and you just rearrange them and play around with different combinations.

What you're rambling about is just Newtonian reality. Real reality isn't some material thing you can touch; it comes from within. But you clearly can't wrap your head around that, which is exactly why we're hitting a wall in this conversation. You're stuck behind these subconscious beliefs, whereas true reality is forged through thought, word, action, and even what you choose *not* to do.

You are your body, and God—if He even exists—is just somewhere out there, sometime. Whatever, man, it doesn't even matter. In the end, we're all 😉
neonmarlin39 neonmarlin39 Active Member
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#93 ·
Maria Parker77 said:What you're rambling about is just Newtonian reality. Real reality isn't some material thing you can touch; it comes from within. But you clearly can't wrap your head around that, which is exactly why we're hitting a wall in this conversation. You're stuck behind these subconscious beliefs, whereas true reality is forged through thought, word, action, and even what you choose *not* to do.

You are your body, and God—if He even exists—is just somewhere out there, sometime. Whatever, man, it doesn't even matter. In the end, we're all 😉

Philosophy goes way deeper than Isaac Newton ever did...

So, are you saying reality is created by your mind, or someone else's, or a whole group of people? Man, that's just pure dogma. It's got zero connection to anything, no basis in science, logic, or actual rationality. Think about it—before any living thing with a brain even existed, there was non-living matter. That matter couldn't have been a product of some individual mind, right? It's actually the opposite: minds evolved from non-living matter (basically, life came from elements and raw material). Plus, "reality" and our *perception* of reality aren't the same thing. What you're talking about sounds more like someone's subjective take on things. Whether something is material or not doesn't change whether it's real (I mean, modern physics mostly deals with fields and stuff anyway). Reality doesn't care what anyone believes, does, or says. Reality stays reality regardless of someone's thoughts or actions—even if their *idea* of reality changes because of them.
Lisa Jackson7 Lisa Jackson7 Regular
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#94 ·
bluemason3 said:The tendency to defer to authority doesn't seem to be distributed evenly across the political spectrum; it’s definitely more pronounced on the right than on the left. That might be the only real differentiator. Other traits (like hostility toward outsiders or rigid convictions) tend to spike as you move toward either extreme, though they do lean a bit heavier toward the right.

I haven't come across a study specifically focused on religiousness yet (though I'm sure one exists), but given how religion functions and its general proximity to those authoritarian archetypes mentioned above, I'd bet there's a measurable higher inclination toward authority within religious circles—whether we're talking about earthly or divine power.

Speaking personally, if you really want to get into it (not that it matters much), back when I was more inclined toward faith, I was also more prone to respecting authority. Developing critical thinking skills and gaining life experience tends to erode both tendencies simultaneously. Anyway, glad you found a little pigeonhole for me. I don't have one myself. 🙄

The problem is, nobody can even agree on what actually counts as "authority" when you're looking at the left or right sides of the aisle.

For the left, the only version of "evil authority" is basically the classic model—some king, pope, or dictator screaming hysterically at a hypnotized crowd.

They don't see things like administrative bureaucracy, paternalistic "welfare state" policies, or technocracy as authority at all.

I haven't seen a study specifically on religiousness yet (though I bet one exists), but given how religion works and its general proximity to those authoritarian types we just talked about, I’d guess there's a measurably higher leaning toward authority in religion—whether it's earthly power or divine authority from Krishna or something.

There’s nothing inherent about religion that forces it into an authoritarian mold... there's also a humanistic model that works totally differently.

Personally speaking, when you were really into it (even if it doesn't matter now), back when I was more religious, I was definitely more inclined toward authority too—developing critical thinking and just living life tends to kill off both. And hey, glad you found a little box to put me in, but I don't have one myself. 🙄

Maybe you just had teachers who interpreted everything through an authoritarian lens.
I don't get why my attempt to break down your worldview into a few "-isms" makes you so defensive... they aren't insults, or at least I don't see them that way.

If someone wants to label me, fine, go ahead...
frozenstag9 frozenstag9 Member
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#95 ·
Kids shouldn't have to deal with all those heavy emotions—if Mom and Dad have enough good karma, they’ll end up doing all the emotional heavy lifting for them until they're seventy!
Maria Parker77 Maria Parker77 Active Member
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#96 ·
neonmarlin39 said:Philosophy goes way deeper than Isaac Newton ever did...

So, are you saying reality is created by your mind, or someone else's, or a whole group of people? Man, that's just pure dogma. It's got zero connection to anything, no basis in science, logic, or actual rationality. Think about it—before any living thing with a brain even existed, there was non-living matter. That matter couldn't have been a product of some individual mind, right? It's actually the opposite: minds evolved from non-living matter (basically, life came from elements and raw material). Plus, "reality" and our *perception* of reality aren't the same thing. What you're talking about sounds more like someone's subjective take on things. Whether something is material or not doesn't change whether it's real (I mean, modern physics mostly deals with fields and stuff anyway). Reality doesn't care what anyone believes, does, or says. Reality stays reality regardless of someone's thoughts or actions—even if their *idea* of reality changes because of them.

ok 🙂
Joseph Bailey41 Joseph Bailey41 Veteran
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#97 ·
frozenstag9 said:Kids shouldn't have to deal with all those heavy emotions—if Mom and Dad have enough good karma, they’ll end up doing all the emotional heavy lifting for them until they're seventy!

🤣👍
rustymaker5 rustymaker5 Regular
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#98 ·
neonmarlin39 said:Philosophy goes way deeper than Isaac Newton ever did...

So, are you saying reality is created by your mind, or someone else's, or a whole group of people? Man, that's just pure dogma. It's got zero connection to anything, no basis in science, logic, or actual rationality. Think about it—before any living thing with a brain even existed, there was non-living matter. That matter couldn't have been a product of some individual mind, right? It's actually the opposite: minds evolved from non-living matter (basically, life came from elements and raw material). Plus, "reality" and our *perception* of reality aren't the same thing. What you're talking about sounds more like someone's subjective take on things. Whether something is material or not doesn't change whether it's real (I mean, modern physics mostly deals with fields and stuff anyway). Reality doesn't care what anyone believes, does, or says. Reality stays reality regardless of someone's thoughts or actions—even if their *idea* of reality changes because of them.

Yeah, I get that, but the whole thing changes based on how a person actually experiences that reality and how they react to it... because let's be honest, we aren't all walking around experiencing the exact same thing in the exact same way, right?
David Vaughn75 David Vaughn75 RegularOP
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#99 ·
Joseph Bailey41 said:That’s exactly why I think your perspective is pretty unconventional. Look, you’re more than entitled to your own view, but if you want to present it as an objective fact—to actually convince someone else—you'll need to bring more to the table than just citing statistics on how many people claim a religion.

The truth of a matter doesn't depend on how hard I try to prove it, and honestly, feel free to go ahead and list all those religions where people just stumble into faith by total accident without any logic behind it. I’ve personally never run into one, so why don't you educate me, 🙂
David Vaughn75 David Vaughn75 RegularOP
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#100 ·
bluemason3 said:It’s definitely a religion. And philosophically speaking, it doesn't exactly tolerate other faiths—at least not before you factor in the animistic or local elements that don't mess with the core cosmology. In that sense, there's no issue if someone follows Krishna to ensure a better harvest, but you can't be a Buddhist while simultaneously believing in Vaishnava creation myths or treating Krishna as the supreme deity. That’s fundamentally at odds with Buddhist doctrine.

Whether Buddhism counts as a "religion" really just boils down to how many rituals and ceremonies Buddha cooked up for his new movement versus how much of it was just him blending in with the local folks over in Asia.

But honestly, this whole debate kicked off because of that one thing Joseph Bailey41 said—you know, that claim that there's absolutely no reason for our existence other than basic biological copulation. Are you seriously telling me Buddhism teaches that we just popped out of nowhere without any kind of purpose whatsoever?

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