Rebecca Thomas6 said:Don't worry, I record her constantly—every monologue, every rant. I save them all because you never know when you'll need proof. But as soon as she catches me recording, she suddenly acts perfectly fine, and that true face of hers vanishes instantly.
I've been burned by sharing information before, so now I don't tell her anything. But she follows me around town, calls people over, and digs through my room every single day while I'm out, just looking for leverage.
She won't even let me put a lock on my door because "what do I have to hide from THEM?"
I can manage it, but only to a point...
Next time she's acting "normal," I'm not saying a word to her for the rest of my life. I can't stand these double personalities who act all "sweet" during the holidays just because it's tradition.
The old man is just an old guy; he stays out of it and doesn't do anything. He knows what she's like, but he still plays along with her games.
And yeah, he hides his important documents from her, which proves he knows she isn't sane.
Try to be more subtle about the recording so she doesn't catch on. And please, don't keep all that footage in one spot. Make backups, email them to yourself, cloud storage... just make sure it exists somewhere safe.
Have you tried talking to him? Not by accusing him, but just letting him know how you feel and how much this is weighing on you. Maybe he could try to settle her down, or at least be some kind of emotional support for you. It's possible he's dealing with the same nonsense behind closed doors.
Some older women can be absolute nightmares—I knew one who spent her whole life acting like a "housewife" while her husband provided everything; she just managed the house and the kid (not like it was a heavy workload🙄 ). Now her son is in a serious relationship and getting ready to marry, and she realized she can't manipulate him anymore. Since his partner actually matters to him, she's turned into this bitter woman doing everything in her power to tear them apart😲
goldeneagle8 said:And look, if you ever get totally fed up with all this crap, just hit me up and you can come crash at my place👍
But seriously.... those old fossils can be such a massive pain in the ass, everything bugs them, they've got zero tolerance, and they just criticize you constantly... and the best part? Even if you were absolutely perfect, they'd find something about your perfection that annoyed them, but mostly, when they're nitpicking you, they're really just projecting their own insecurities onto you. It’s classic—they take everything they hate about themselves and dump it on someone else. It wouldn't even be a huge deal if it didn't happen every single day, but it’s constant. Like that old saying goes: a person who's unhappy with themselves will find fault in everything and everyone... including the smallest little things.
Just honestly stop giving a damn, that's your best move, because deep down you already know exactly what to do😉
Are you some kind of creep lurking around young women with unstable lives?
😳 😛
Kevin Bailey2 said:Just move out.
Explain the situation to your professors... tell them why you had to leave (don't be afraid to mention you're a victim of domestic abuse) and why you need to work just to cover tuition, food, clothes, and everything else.
You’ll need to say that in case you need them to excuse you from classes—because let’s face it, the credit system here can be a total nightmare when it comes to scheduling.
You should probably also file an application for student housing; it'll make things a hell of a lot easier on your wallet.
You can usually find something through a campus job board.😁
Just finish your degree. For real. And stay true to yourself.
The truth is, you can't get anywhere with just a high school diploma.
I remind myself of that all the time when I feel like slacking off, since I graduated from a high school too.
Who cares what this loudmouth says?
It's obvious she's miserable and can't even stand being alone, let alone living with someone else.
In the future, don't take it to heart when people talk shit about you.
Some people just need a punching bag, and they don't care who they use to vent.👍
It doesn't work quite the way you think it does. I don't know which college major you're pursuing, but at some universities, you can basically coast through, though if you skip lectures—especially labs or practical seminars—you'll definitely fail. You could take a gap year, but that usually comes with its own set of complications.
An application for student housing? And what would she even say? That she needs to live alone? The administration doesn't care about that. The criteria for getting a dorm spot are pretty clear-cut, and "not being able to live with family" isn't one of them, no matter how tragic the situation might be.
Lawrence Allen49 said:Patience, my friend, patience.
On top of that, there's the issue of dealing with someone who isn't even a mental health case—not by modern American standards, anyway. She's just a master manipulator and a total bully. In the end, she could easily spin a narrative to anyone listening, claiming she's the victim of abuse from some unstable girl, which is exactly what she's currently blathering about to everyone in the neighborhood. Would you want that label on yourself? How do you prove you're the victim? With words? That's why the police tell you, "Call us when it's actually happening."
Plus, her husband is home, her mother is there, and the neighbors are watching. If you shove her in jail, you might be opening a whole new Pandora's box, so you have to tread carefully.
And sure, IMD is great. Of course he is. But I don't think posting half-baked solutions online in the heat of the moment is actually enough.😉
Hmm, I wouldn't exactly agree with the bolded comment. Those kinds of manipulators can make life incredibly difficult for their targets, and whether that falls under the umbrella of psychiatry is something worth debating.😉
I personally believe people like that should be exposed without any mercy.