Posts by Nicholas Gonzalez8

Everyone’s got an opinion worth hearing, I guess, but at the end of the day—you really ought to be making your own calls.

Look, life is just one big roller coaster—one minute you’re hitting the highs, the next you’re stomach-turning in a freefall. You might be stuck in the gutter right now, but trust me, that doesn't mean you're staying there. Seriously. Just sit down, figure out what you actually want out of this thing, and start moving toward it—slowly, mind you. Don't try to sprint when you can barely walk; just take it one step at a time, one day at a time. You've got so much time ahead of you, man. You're young, you've got endless possibilities if you don't let yourself get bogged down by the current mess.

shadowheron49 said:Hey, I'm not actually falling apart as much as you might think...
I can't really dive into all the other parts of my life in this specific thread...
If I did, you’d see I barely even have the energy to be "falling apart" like you're imagining.
This thread is focused on one thing, and that's all I'm writing about here.

But I agree with you, and I think you're spot on.
Nobody is irreplaceable... absolutely nobody.
It’s just hard, because replacing someone you basically invented in your head is a different beast since it happens online, and that's why these girls end up getting hurt so much deeper and becoming so much harsher and more broken... honestly, they're just mentally wrecked by their own illusions; nothing else could break them like that.

That's why I say... this topic needs a serious approach and some actual psychology experts.

Why do we fall in love like this?
What's actually happening under the surface?

When we talked in DMs, we concluded it's basically an escape from reality, because for everyone involved, there was usually some major real-life drama going on right before it started...

Plus, no matter how many years you spend living in this digital illusion, your actual problems in the real world are just stagnating, waiting for the day you finally decide to deal with your real life... meanwhile, you're getting all those "perfect" feelings from this virtual world.

So, who are the high-risk groups that get stuck like this?
How deep does the impact go?

I'm also curious about the psychological profiles of guys and girls who kill time this way without any goal, and who can't seem to move past the internet even when they offer hope?
What is their deal?
What actually connects these two types of people?
On one side, you have someone desperate for an escape from reality, and on the other, someone who specifically needs that kind of person just to boost their own ego?
What's the link there?

Also, what are the red flags for those dangerous manipulators?
(One girl mentioned being careful around people who are obsessed with astrology and/or God)
That sounded pretty interesting.
Is there anything else?

Come on, psychologists, let's hear it—think deeply and give us some real conclusions.

This is the sickness of the modern age.

Feelings are one thing...
but I want the facts.
The brain is an organ just like any other, and I want to know what goes wrong with the information input—what are we flooding ourselves with that makes it start "malfunctioning"?

We fall in love because that experience is addictive. We crave it, even if we never intended to seek it out.

There are definitely manipulators hiding among astrologers and religious types, sure, but they exist in every single group of people. Don't go making broad generalizations—trust me on that. There’s really only one way to spot a manipulator, whether it's in real life or online: watch for the gap between what they say and what they actually do. If their words don't match their actions, you've got your answer. And get this—the pros are even craftier; they'll throw you a bone by acting decent once in a while, just so they can let you down again later.

There isn't anything inherently wrong with the mindset that leads to this experience, nor is there anything wrong with the experience itself. We all do plenty of stupid things throughout our lives, but honestly, without those mistakes, we wouldn't learn a damn thing or become the people we are today.

shadowheron49 said:You put that so perfectly...

The only thing I'm stuck on is that whole "dependency" thing people keep throwing at me...
Like, isn't it totally natural to want the person you love...
and then feel crushed when you lose them?
... I mean, maybe that's not as unnatural as they say? I don't know...

Sure, it’s natural up to a point—until you realize it’s becoming a burden. Think about it: real love should be about freedom, but that desperate need, that "addiction" vibe, it just strips that freedom away. Not just from the person you're clinging to, but from you, too.

People don't enter our lives just to act as Band-Aids for our internal voids. That’s just running away from ourselves. Instead of doing the work to find our own spark and happiness, we go hunting for it in someone else. And then, when that person leaves, we feel like we've been plunged into total darkness. It’s like—you can absolutely adore a flower in your garden without ripping it out of the soil just so you can hold it. You let it grow, you give it space, much like you should do for yourself, regardless of how much time you spend together.

When two people actually find their own footing first, being together is just about doubling that joy. They love each other, sure, but they’re also mature enough to let go if that's what's actually best for them.

shadowheron49 said:I've been thinking about that too...
There's always a way... when you really want something, you find a way...
But... I want him to *want* to meet.
It's simple... I feel like I deserve for us to meet in a normal, decent way...
I mean... I'm not some crazy person looking to hunt someone down...
If he doesn't see anything in me... even just enough to get his damn ass off the couch... even just enough to stand in front of me for five minutes... after two years... after everything we've been through... if he still doesn't see it...
Then I don't even want to meet him... I don't want him to see me... I'd honestly rather suffer and seek comfort from you guys than deal with his damn mercy... 😢
He wouldn't be worth it then.

But I know I'm not that bad... I know I'm not...
I know I'm not ugly, or stupid, or bitter, and I'm not even rude unless he starts being rude first; I know there's so much more to me than what I can put into words here, and I know I didn't do anything to deserve being tossed aside like a dog... I really didn't...
If he's really that cruel and heartless... then I'd rather stay right here asking you all for advice on how to move past this illusion... this trick... this whole mess I naively fell for... because I naively believed that people actually cared about each other here...
I'd take that over forcing him to show up for someone who clearly matters enough to grab a coffee with... if he can't see that... it's his loss...
My loss feels massive because of his blindness... but I can't explain that to him and I don't want to anymore...

There's no reason to blame yourself or him. It would have been nice if you two actually met up in person. Still, he has every right to decide if he wants that, so he's not technically in the wrong there. You both agreed to this digital setup, and it lasted as long as it lasted.

shadowheron49 said:I'm right there with you on that.
Looking back at him... if he hadn't come into my life... things would be totally different, but like, *completely* different.
That guy had such an impact on me... seriously... I was already heading in the right direction, but I just didn't have a clue how to make it happen or where I was tripping up... he was my wake-up call. He basically gave me a little "hey, wake up!" slap because he's super spiritual and we're both into that whole alternative scene, but he's way ahead of me on that path and he passed on exactly what I needed to hear...
I guess that was his "mission," too.

It's such a shame... that's all there is to it.

Don't sweat it. I hang out with the alternative/spiritual crowd all the time, and I've met plenty of people just like the guy you described. There are plenty of interesting folks out there, and you'll definitely click with someone else sooner or later. 🙂

Look at this as a massive learning opportunity. You learned from the conversations you had and how it all ended. Being head-over-heels is great, but man, it can sting like hell too. On the bright side, there's still a healthy kind of love waiting for you down the road—the kind that isn't based on dependency—and that's where the real happiness happens.

Look, meeting people online is fine—I’ve actually met some pretty awesome people that way—but if you’re looking for something deeper than just casual banter, you’ve got to make that move to meet up in person as soon as possible. You can talk via text or video calls until you're blue in the face, but it's different. Virtual chats reveal a lot, sure, but nothing beats sitting across from someone at a coffee shop or a bar to see if there's actual chemistry or if they're just playing a character behind a screen. It’s about seeing if the vibe is real.

So, I’ve been sitting on this for a while now... but like I said, I still have this nagging feeling that I’m missing the "key."

I’ve run into this specific piece of advice a few times in various articles lately—this idea where you basically act as your own psychiatrist. You start asking yourself questions, right? And then you just track the feelings and thoughts that bubble up in response. Every time you hit a wall of confusion, you just dig deeper—ask follow-up questions—until you feel like you’ve finally struck gold, or rather, found your key.

There’s actually some deeper stuff about this in the book *Focusing*—here’s a bit of a breakdown from it:

"The best way to describe this is through a common human experience: that weird, unsettling realization that you’ve forgotten something, but you can't quite put your finger on what it is. It’s probably happened to you more than once. Imagine you’re just about to head out to the airport for a flight to go visit some friends or family.

You board the plane, and you're plagued by this tiny, persistent little thought: *I forgot something.* The plane takes off. You're staring out the window, trying to mentally backtrack, searching for that vague, microscopic shred of information. What did I forget? Was it the ??
You're haunted by this conscious sense of an unresolved situation—something left hanging, something you left behind. Notice how you don't actually have any hard facts yet. There's just this internal aura, an internal 'flavor.' Your body knows, even if your mind doesn't.

You might try to brush it off, explain it away logically, or just try to rise above it—but those are just ways of minimizing it. You tell yourself, 'No, I’m not going to let this ruin my trip.' But obviously, that doesn't work. The feeling doesn't just vanish.

You’ll sigh, give up, and start thinking again. Eventually, you might stumble onto something that *seems* to be the cause: Helen's party! I forgot to tell Helen I couldn't make it to her party! But that thought doesn't actually satisfy the feeling. Sure, it's true that you forgot to tell Helen, but your body knows that her party isn't what’s been eating at you all morning. You still feel that unease, and you still don't know what you actually forgot. Your body knows there's something else, and it knows exactly what it is. That’s how you become certain it wasn't about Helen's party.

Sometimes, that sensation gets so vague it almost disappears, but then a little later, it hits you so hard it feels like you're right on the verge of knowing. Suddenly, out of that vague impression, something surfaces. Photos! I forgot to bring the photos I was planning to show Charlie!

When you hit on it, that moment of realization brings this sudden, physical wave of relief. Somewhere in your body, something just lets go—a tension snaps. You feel it throughout your entire being, and it’s a great feeling. That’s how you know you’ve found your answer."

Look, since you’re starting to see things from your past more clearly now, I’d say you’ve actually made some progress. Honestly? It feels like you might be holding back from guys because of some deep-seated fear. Just a guess on my part—don't quote me—but it’s possible someone really burned you when you finally let your guard down, and now it's just easier to play it safe with guys who don't even really move the needle for you. That's just one way to look at it, anyway. Whatever the root cause is, you’re eventually going to have to dig it up and deal with it, bit by bit.

It really jumped out at me when you mentioned turning down a guy who was actually interested, just so you could flex how "strong" you are. Man, that really screams a lack of self-esteem and a struggle with knowing your own worth. It’s almost like there's this underlying feeling that you aren't quite good enough to be loved sincerely. You can definitely work through that, though—one step at a time.

crimsonhound4 said:There are still 👋

I don't actually think I'm stupid, 😁 I just tend to speak really fast, so I don't always stop to consider the weight of certain words 😬

To answer your questions... when I was a kid, I was very quiet and unassuming, and I never really talked about myself. Not even in school. I'd talk about anything else, but never about me. It's just always been that way, I guess. I don't think I have any specific trauma that caused me to shut down; it's more just my nature. I rarely ever start a sentence with "I." And honestly, it's still like that today.

Do you mean what people think of me specifically, or just opinions in general? Because, to be honest, I don't really care what people think of me, though I do respect and listen to opinions regarding other matters. I'll actually take them into consideration. For example, like right now 😁

A friend of mine recently insisted that I should talk more about myself. I felt so incredibly awkward about it, but I did try a little bit. 😁

I know you didn't truly mean those things about yourself 🙂. Still, you should probably watch out for those rapid-fire negative thoughts. It’s better to nip them in the bud before they turn into a long-term attitude problem.

If there aren't any traumas involved and you aren't bothered by what others think, then you really are just a natural listener. It sounds like the issue is simply that you aren't used to stepping outside your comfort zone. In other words, try my advice: practice opening up about yourself when the situation feels right, just to get rid of that sense of discomfort and fear. Like with that friend 🙂. After that, just go back to being your usual self.

Nicole Morgan55 said:Why jump straight to the assumption that this trait is a flaw, or even some byproduct of childhood trauma? Is it really that weird for people to just be born that way?

So, once they've labeled someone as having a "Problem," they immediately start peddling solutions to get that person back on the Right Path and fit them into the "Normal" crowd.

It's this kind of mindset that starts threads like this, where people feel like outsiders because society views them as weirdos. Honestly, there's no reason for it. Why use chatterboxes and loudmouths as the gold standard? From the perspective of the quiet ones, those talkative types are the actual oddities. It’s all about perspective, but it's pretty pathetic when people from either camp get diagnosed with a "problem" and branded as freaks. Usually, the quieter ones suffer more simply because the loudmouths have faster tongues to spread rumors.

Besides, what's wrong with being selective about how much you share with the world? Why should people with these traits feel forced to change? Even with family, spouses, or best friends, you don't always have to lay every private thought bare. Everyone has a circle of friends, who have their own circles, and so on, in an endless chain. In the end, everyone knows things they probably shouldn't.

At the end of the day, it's easiest to just accept that some people love the spotlight, some hate it, and everyone else falls somewhere in between. There's no problem there.

Because she mentioned that talking about herself feels uncomfortable and she's worried someone might find her weak point. She's saying it's just her nature—talking about herself would just be boring to her. Once she gets past that initial hurdle, everything is fine.

Kevin Gomez10 said:Conversing with individuals like that can be a truly agonizing experience. I have occasionally found myself on the receiving end of intense life stories, tragedies, and deep personal confessions from women I had only just met. It creates such an awkward dynamic because I find myself without anything meaningful to contribute, nor am I particularly interested in the subject matter, but these people tend to become so immersed in their own narratives that it almost feels irrelevant whether you have a comment or not; they simply refuse to stop talking.

Quincy:

I have this friend who seems to feel a constant need to dissect her romantic life in painstaking detail and then recount every single bit to me. It is quite a contrast, I suppose, because I don't think I have ever truly shared anything regarding my own love life with anyone, if that is even possible. I am never quite sure why someone would feel the need to broadcast such things, particularly when they involve matters of such an intimate nature.

There are those specific coffee shops where the entire afternoon is dedicated to the meticulous dissection of romantic lives—we pore over old text messages, re-examine conversations with exes, and debate the nuances of current flings. But I suppose even that level of scrutiny feels somewhat incomplete. It seems we also feel compelled to analyze the complicated romantic entanglements of acquaintances, those friends you only truly know through their storytelling, or perhaps people you encounter just once and never see again. 🙏
I suppose my greatest pleasure lies in dissecting and analyzing my own preferences and tastes, even when they stand in such diametric opposition to those of others; though, I must add, I have never once hinted at them through my comments or stories in a way that would give anyone reason to take offense.

Quincy:

I suppose there isn't much to say regarding zoki89, though I imagine they might have some thoughts on the matter if they felt inclined to share them. Kevin Gomez10 says: I suppose the most effective way to confront one's fears is to realize that there is really nowhere to run. They aren't some external force or an obstacle in the outside world that you can simply outpace; rather, they seem to reside entirely within oneself.

I suppose one might wonder what kind of underlying anxieties or deep-seated issues drive individuals to constantly broadcast every minute detail of their lives, offering up such continuous confessions to anyone who will listen. Perhaps it stems from a profound fear of rejection or social isolation, though I suspect there might be something else at play—maybe a persistent, almost restless need for external validation and constant attention from those around them.
I suppose one might wonder, then, exactly what the basis for that would be. Perhaps it might be considered somewhat more conventional. I suppose one might consider this to be our own version. It seems we are once again dealing with a certain level of stunted closed-mindedness, I suppose.?

It isn't "more normal," and it isn't "weirder" either. It's just different. Like you said, that constant, frantic grab for attention usually stems from deep-seated personal insecurities and a terrifying sense of being left out.

crimsonhound4 said:unknown

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I guess I should probably mention that I haven't really heard much from crimsonhound4 lately, though I might just be overthinking things or missing their usual updates. It feels like there's been a bit of a lull in the conversation, which is strange because they usually have such interesting perspectives on everything we discuss here. Maybe they're just busy with work or life getting in the way, but I find myself wondering what they think about the latest news. kaže: I guess there’s this deep-seated belief buried somewhere in your subconscious that talking about yourself is just selfish and, honestly, kind of pointless. Because of that, you probably feel this natural aversion toward anyone who can't stop talking about themselves—and if I'm being honest, maybe you feel that same sense of distaste directed inward toward yourself, too. I guess I wonder why people act like talking about yourself is such a bad thing. It feels like it only becomes an issue if you’re doing it excessively—because, honestly, anything done to excess, whether it's being too loud or too quiet, ends up being a flaw. But beyond that, I don't really see the harm. Your own story could potentially serve as a way to help someone else, maybe offer them some new perspectives, or even just be a tool for building deeper connections and helping yourself grow socially. It seems like a pretty natural part of getting to know one another. Yeah, there’s definitely an element of selfishness involved; but is actually loving yourself really a sin? Honestly, if you ask me, I’d just say: live your life and work your way exactly how you want to, because that is your fundamental right—though I suppose how much of that freedom you actually get to exercise depends entirely on how much value you decide to place on yourself in the first place. Do you actually associate those words—"muddy" or "retarded"—with who you are as a person? I guess if you could somehow work through that part of yourself first, everything else might just fall into place naturally... like, it would just follow from there, directly back to you.

I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with talking about yourself, you know? I mean, within reason, it’s pretty normal to share bits of your life. But for me, it just doesn't come naturally at all, and honestly, it never really has. I often find myself worrying that I’m being pushy or overbearing, and I get this nagging feeling that my little stories about myself might actually be kind of exhausting or even painful for the person on the other end of the conversation. 😁 It’s been proven time and time again that this is just how things go, so I guess there's really no point in wasting any energy trying to change it. Even with a personality like that, I actually have plenty of friends and I'd consider myself pretty social and talkative, but if you're expecting them to actually say anything meaningful about themselves... well, good luck with that. 😁 I guess it might just be because someone hasn't pointed out a potential weakness to me yet, maybe. 🤔 I don't know, I guess I've just gotten a little lost. 😁

First off, stop calling yourself an idiot. Seriously. Even if you mess up, critique the mistake—don't attack your entire identity.

That fear of exposing a weakness is what's creating the mental block. Maybe you went through something rough in the past, and that's where this whole thing started. What was your childhood like? How much weight do you give to what other people think of you?

In my book, the best way to deal with fears is to face them head-on. You can't run from them because they aren't out there in the world—they're inside you. So, my advice is pretty straightforward: break out of your comfort zone. You've gone to one extreme by holding everything back. Try opening up a little more during deeper conversations with individuals. This could even be someone you barely know—sometimes it's actually easier to be open with a stranger than with people you've known forever. Whether you're "boring" to talk to really depends on the other person; there are plenty of folks who prefer listening over doing all the talking. It's going to feel awkward and uncomfortable, but there's a solid chance that's exactly how you break those blocks. Once you've tested both sides of the coin, you'll find that balance you're looking for.

Samuel Parker said:I think I botched the title on this one. I wasn't actually asking about physical appearance, but rather how we identify someone's intellect. How do you truly distinguish between someone who is genuinely dim-witted and someone who is truly brilliant? Even geniuses have those moments where they slip up and do something that makes everyone else label them an idiot or a fool. So, what are the actual hallmarks of true intelligence versus genuine stupidity? Or is it simply impossible to gauge human intellect without some kind of standardized testing?

A smart person might possess a massive amount of information but still struggle to apply it effectively. But let's focus on someone who is both knowledgeable and truly intelligent. These types don't feel the need to act superior or walk around like they're better than everyone else, because they already know their worth doesn't require constant external validation. You see it in the little things—their conduct, their attitude. They have this capacity for patience, yet they're also the first ones to step up when action is required. They don't just parrot facts like a textbook; instead, they craft creative solutions by blending their own experiences with what they've learned from others.

And what kind of intelligence are we even talking about here? Emotional, physical, logical, creative—or something else entirely? Honestly, I think these standard IQ tests are a total joke. You just can't pigeonhole people into being "smart" or "dumb" using such a narrow-minded approach. Plus, let's be real: someone might totally bomb a standardized test on a bad day, yet they could turn around and handle a high-pressure, real-world situation way better than some test-taking genius.

Appearance definitely has zero correlation with how smart someone is, and neither does having certain health issues. Just look at Stephen Hawking.

It really just comes down to what you value most. Personally? I’d much rather stay true to myself—keep my integrity intact—than spend my life sucking up to the higher-ups just to get a promotion. Besides, who's to say a promotion won't just happen naturally one day anyway? If it's meant to be, it'll be.

Zachary Gonzalez8 said:Man, I actually just jumped into the web dev game myself 🙂 is it doable, man? 🙂

Of course you can 🙂 But buckle up—you're looking at a massive mountain of work and endless studying.

Gerald Evans5 said:Greed isn't just about the money in your bank account; it’s a spiritual rot, too.
Giving everything up to live like a monk? Honestly, that usually ends in another kind of failure.
And Happiness—well, let's be real, it doesn't come from any of this material stuff.
True bondage is an internal state. It's how the spirit gets trapped within a person, or through the actions they take.
People look for a total qualitative shift in themselves, yet they think a lucky streak at a casino is the answer. Not many have actually found bliss that way.
Sure, that sudden windfall looks tempting at first, right up until the cash runs out and
that old sense of servitude crawls back in. You end up right back where you started, stuck in the same old cycle.

... though I suppose maybe some people need that violent, high-speed rise and fall just to finally wake up and change. A metaphysical problem, I guess.

I'm with you on that.

Out of all those gambling games, things like poker or strategic betting are probably the only ones that can actually yield decent long-term results. But—and this is a huge "but"—you have to treat it like a legitimate job if you want to survive. You have to master it. I dabbled in sports betting once; I was actually doing okay, but honestly? I hated it. It demands way too much mental energy and time. If you go into it banking on "luck" instead of actual skill and data, you're basically just throwing money into a shredder.

The same goes for work—I have zero interest in being a corporate drone for some CEO my entire life, so I pivoted toward building web portals to generate some passive income. It's a slow burn, but it's moving in the right direction. 🙂 There are endless ways to make a living these days, so you just have to figure out which path doesn't make you miserable.

And don't sweat the dating stuff too much. Just hang out, meet people, and keep things low-pressure. Eventually, you'll hit it off with someone and it'll just click.

Look, your mother is just... well, she is what she is, and you aren't going to win a single thing by getting into shouting matches with her. It’s a losing game. You have to try—really try—to stay calm, even when your blood is boiling, and talk to her using that steady, level tone. The second she starts trying to micromanage your life or take the reins, start asking questions. Just ask "why" or "how" over and over; it completely dismantles that need for control they have. Honestly, explaining how much a control freak's behavior actually sucks is a nightmare in itself.

If you reach a point where nothing you do is working, then just tune her out entirely. Stop letting her words land. Live your own life. And honestly, I'm right there with placidorca16 on this one—the moment you're financially able to move out, grab your stuff and get out of there.

Look, if you get the chance to finish up some schooling, go for it—but don't let that be the only thing defining you while you wait. On your resume, definitely list that high school you attended, but just be upfront and say it was cut short because of some sudden, unexpected life stuff. It shows employers that you actually have an appetite for learning and weren't just sitting around, even if things didn't go perfectly according to plan. And hey, mention that IT course too. Honestly, nobody’s going to come crawling at you asking for official accreditation for that kind of thing.

Since you've already got your driver's license, why not look into delivery gigs? Seriously, getting that license was a smart move—most bosses out here won't even look at you unless you've got your standard driver's permit in hand.

In the meantime, try picking up some side hustles. You could help neighbors fix their computers, mow some lawns, tutor kids in subjects you actually understand, or even do some translation work if you're fluent in another language. Just lean into whatever skills you've actually got under your belt.

And about the dating scene—don't be so stiff and awkward with girls. If someone approaches you, just be real. Tell them straight up that you aren't really feeling ready for a serious relationship right now because you're between jobs and, frankly, broke. Most girls won't give you a hard time about it as long as you're a decent guy. Plenty of people our age are struggling to find work, and most women realize that landing a job isn't always a walk in the park.

I stumbled onto their site a few years back, and I’ve gotta say, I really dig their whole vibe and how they actually walk the walk. From what I can gather, their entire foundation is built on this idea of doing whatever you want—provided you aren't stepping on anyone else's toes in the process. It feels like the end goal is just... I don't know, gaining some actual insight into nature, yourself, and the people around you, and then actually living in sync with all that.

Honestly, their take on magic is way more coherent than most of the random stuff I've run into online, and you can actually find some useful gems if you look for them.

Look, just go out there and test-drive different things—really get your hands dirty—and then try to compare them. If you can't figure out what actually clicks with you that way, just sit down and write out a pros and cons list for everything you've tried. It sounds tedious, I know, but once you see it laid out, you can make a logical choice instead of just guessing.

You should probably check out my other thread, "What do you want to be, have, and do?". I pulled a few questions from this one book I read, and honestly, they might be exactly what you need to finally wrap your head around what you actually want out of life.

Scott Rodriguez7 said:It’s getting pretty hard to tell where reality ends and weed-induced hallucinations begin.😕

The whole situation is just bizarre.
First things first, maybe take a break from the cannabis and just see how things settle down.
If stuff like this starts happening again, your best bet is to head straight to a doctor to get a formal referral. From there, we can look into some other alternative routes if you feel like they might actually help.
Only if you really feel like it's worth a shot, though. 😁

I'm with you on that. Honestly, I’ve had my own share of weird spiritual encounters—the kind that make you question everything—so I'm definitely not saying what you're feeling isn't real. But seriously, before you go chasing ghosts or whatever, you really need to rule out the possibility that the weed is messing with your head.