Posts by slypuma17

crimsonheron80 said:🤣🤣🤣

I have to ask—what exactly is so funny about this? 😕

Drew Morgan said:So, I just heard on the news that Ed Gein was finally sentenced.
What’s your take? What kind of psychological breakdown drives someone to commit something like that?

When faced with crimes of this magnitude—with this level of pure monstrosity—the human mind tends to stall out, just... stunned.
It’s difficult to pinpoint exactly what makes his intentions so fundamentally "wrong," or where the line between a dark thought and true evil was crossed; we might never truly grasp that distinction.

However, one thing is certain: a plan executed with such terrifyingly precise realization would never have been possible if society functioned under a different set of norms—norms that I believe are entirely achievable.

In many ways, this individual took the traditional patriarchal structure and twisted it into a grotesque caricature of itself.

Perhaps there is a lesson to be gleaned from all this?

Carl Anderson76 said:Quincy:

From a guy's point of view, I’d say any ambiguity usually starts in a woman's head. Colorka actually laid out the logic behind when guys' texts are legitimately double-sided. Compared to how much stuff goes on in your world, it's pretty rare.

Just speaking from a male perspective here.😁
Jokes aside, you were just talking about her being shallow—or rather, how shallow her relationships are. So, saying women are more ambiguous feels a bit contradictory to me. Being shallow isn't a gender thing; it's a character thing.
If she actually had deep, meaningful communication with her partner, half this stuff wouldn't even cross her mind. But like you said, most things just boil down to hookups and those three-month flings (if only they all stayed that short, right?).
Why even start a relationship if you don't actually know who someone is at their core? Why not just hook up without slapping a label like "relationship" on it?
But honestly, how can you have real communication with a partner if you don't even know yourself? How are you supposed to get to know him if you aren't self-aware? And how are "relationships" with people like that even supposed to last? It makes me wonder why so many people just stagnate in them.

If she thought about herself and HER OWN TEXTS even half as much as you think she thinks about His, the whole story would sound a lot different.

Do you actually grasp what "knowing someone at their core" implies? To really get to the heart of another human being takes nearly an entire lifetime—and even then, you could never claim to fully "know" them. Can you even say you know your own soul that deeply?

Quincy:

But how can anyone maintain quality communication with a partner when they lack self-awareness? How can they hope to understand him if they haven't even mastered themselves? How can relationships with people like that even survive? Why do so many people just end up stagnating in them? If you spent even half as much time reflecting on your own messages as you do dissecting his, your perspective would sound entirely different.

I couldn't agree more. 👍

Well, you actually gave me a good laugh, Serena Williams. You reminded me of a dear friend of mine.
😍

So, you’re saying you’ve spent years trying to lose weight without success, and now you’ve turned into a fatalist. You’re hunting for some "higher power" to blame for your misfortune—some kind of curse. You claim your mind is what makes you gain weight. 🤣

Look, of course your mindset plays a role; if some internal "demon" is driving you to overeat, then yes, psychology matters. But it isn't *just* psychological. It's primarily about the actual food you put in your mouth, specifically those unburned CALORIES.

It is physically impossible to gain weight purely from a mental state if your diet is balanced and you stay active. If you take in a surplus, it accumulates. If you don't, it gets used up. It really is as simple as that.
Think of it like a bank account. If you deposit more cash every day than you spend, you end up with a surplus. If you spend more than you bring in, or at least break even, there is no surplus.
That’s how it works, right? Exactly. 🤷

The bottom line is this: work on your self-control. Stop consuming more than necessary, eat nutritious meals, skip the junk food, keep moving, and above all, stop obsessing over some "genetic curse." Believing in that will only leave you feeling helpless and desperate.

You are the master of your own body and your own weight. Now, go run two laps around the park and have a salad for dinner. 🙂

Anonymous said:Sometimes I can’t help but feel like life would be a lot easier if I were just more ruthless. But honestly? That’s just not who I am, and I don't know how to function in an environment like that. Even when I’m surrounded by people who seem well-meaning on the surface—even though we all know deep down they’re total snakes—I still give them the benefit of the doubt until they eventually stab me in the back. When they do, I just end up feeling disappointed, angry, and heartbroken, wondering how this keeps happening to me. I truly love genuine, good people, but they tend to live in their own little bubbles. Nowadays, if you actually want to build a meaningful life and surround yourself with decent human beings, it feels like you have to fight through a gauntlet of chaos just to establish a sense of security and independence.

I’m curious to hear from you guys: how have you structured your lives to find peace? More importantly, how do you navigate around the materialists, the egoists, and those selfish power-trippers with warped values who seem to hold all the cards?

But what does that actually mean? Who is a "jerk," exactly? Everyone seems to have their own personal dictionary for it.

Most people would agree that a jerk is someone who betrays trust—someone who stabs you in the back. But to betray trust, one first has to be granted it, and if you ask me, people often hand it out far too easily.
So, in that light, a person wouldn't even have the chance to be a jerk if the people they eventually betrayed hadn't opened the door for them in the first place.

Then there’s the other crowd. They define a "jerk" as anyone who refuses to play along with their little games. It isn't about betrayal or broken promises; it’s just about being an obstacle. 😁

When most people say, "I messed up because I didn't want to be a jerk," they are usually referring to this second type. To avoid being labeled as a bad person, they let themselves get walked all over—even when they saw the whole thing coming, even when they knew exactly how it was going to end.
Well, fine. Sure, nobody thinks you're a jerk now (they think you're a pushover), but why are you so miserable?
🤷 😁

The biggest strategic blunder you can make is showing consideration to the inconsiderate, or showing mercy to the merciless. It's showing deference to people who expect you to hand over your trust, fully knowing they intend to exploit it. And if you refuse? They label you the villain. It goes like this:
-"Can you lend me two grand until Tuesday? I'll pay you back then."
-"Sure. Just like last time, right? When you spent it all on weekend trips instead of paying me back." 🙄
-"Wow... how can you be so spiteful? You have the money, yet you won't help. I really need it. What a jerk!"
😂

Now, if someone finds it more important to avoid being called a jerk than to maintain their own peace of mind, by all means, go ahead and give them your trust.

I give them a chance until they try to screw me over. Then I'm left feeling disappointed, angry, sad, and wondering how this could possibly be happening to me.

It's almost as if you're shouting, "Hit me, hit me!" and then acting shocked when you actually get punched.
You get exactly what you asked for, yet you're unhappy. What is it that you actually want? 😕
I truly feel for you. 🤣

I'm curious how you all have structured your lives to find fulfillment, and how you manage to steer clear of materialists, egoists, selfish types, and people with warped values who happen to hold power?

I'm still learning. 🙂

feralhound55 said:Men usually claim they’re simple—no hidden agendas, no expectations for us to be mind readers...

Meanwhile, women spend hours over coffee with their girlfriends trying to decode what they think are cryptic signals. Like, say, him not calling the day after a date. God forbid. Or right after sex.

Or maybe he’s avoiding certain topics. Is he spiraling about his job security during this recession? Or does he just find me boring?

Or he heads straight home after hooking up instead of staying the night. Maybe he has an early meeting and doesn't want to wake me. Or maybe he just doesn't care.

"I can't get into relationships." Is that actually code for "I can't fall for you, but you're great for casual hookups"?

Or the classic: "My life is just really complicated right now, I'll reach out once things settle down." Okay, that's pretty transparent. Or is it? Because sometimes those guys in "complicated situations" work overtime to maintain contact and convince you they haven't lost interest...

So, are men actually sending mixed signals, or are we just refusing to see the obvious? Or is it truly all just a blur? Here's my latest attempt at untangling the eternal mystery of male-female misunderstandings—take it or leave it.

Spot on! 😂
But honestly, men aren't responsible for female overthinking when there isn't even a poet in the room to begin with. He said what he said. Repeat after me: "He said what he said."
The issue is that women tend to overvalue these poor guys. It's a problem, but in the female psyche, men are never at fault for that particular brand of confusion.
I’m telling you, men are wonderful precisely because they're simple. I love that about them. 😍

I had a complete epiphany back when I was twenty: life is much easier once you grasp this one simple truth. There is no "what did he mean?" or "what was his intention?" Kuis, it was said, and that's that. Stop the interpretation and the endless exegesis.
If women could just stick to that, life would be infinitely smoother. But, you know how it is—reality is often far too shallow and mundane compared to our imaginations. That's why they go hunting for poetic metaphors and hidden meanings, treating every minor interaction like a line from a sonnet. 😁

Or maybe he’s avoiding conversation. Perhaps he’s preoccupied with what to do if he loses his job during this recession. Or perhaps he just isn't interested.

That sounds like putting oneself at the center of the universe. "He won't talk = he's not interested." No, maybe he won't talk because of X, Y, or Z. Maybe he just doesn't feel like chatting right now. And frankly, women don't need to be constantly talking either—at least not me. I don't see the big deal. 🤷

Or leaving right after sex (not staying the night). Maybe he has to get up early and doesn't want to wake me. Or maybe he just doesn't care.

Well, sleeping alone is actually quite nice; you get a decent night's rest.
Cuddling is lovely and all, but the reality is that when you sleep solo, you usually sleep better and recover more effectively. 😁

"I can't fall in love." Is that actually code for "I can't fall in love with you, but you'll be good for casual sex"?

It means exactly what it says. Don't expect romance—take the sex or move on, and that's all there is to it. I think when someone tells you that, they genuinely mean it; they recognize that there's simply no way for someone to fall for them.
Would you ever say that to someone you actually thought you might fall for? You wouldn't.
And neither would a man. 😉

So, here's the question: are men actually sending these ambiguous signals, or am I just choosing to ignore what's staring me right in the face? Or perhaps it really isn't that obvious. Consider this yet another attempt at untangling those perennial, messy misunderstandings between the sexes. Let's dive in.

Look, it’s not that men don't know how to be manipulative—they certainly do, 😍 but the scenarios you're describing are textbook cases where women simply refuse to see the truth, effectively manipulating themselves. And then, predictably, they point the finger at the men.

Hannah Castillo said:You're right... I don't think she'll ever stop. She's too smart for her own good, and she's buried herself so deep in lies that she probably can't tell truth from fiction anymore. I honestly don't get how someone can lie to their friends' faces after all these years...
There's nothing I can do here. I have to let her deal with her own mess.
It's pathetic.

The issue with chronic lying is that once someone spends enough time deceiving others, they eventually start believing their own stories. They effectively sabotage their own psyche, which feels like a sort of poetic justice. 😁
It's a psychological phenomenon; maintaining a lie is incredibly taxing, so the mind starts embracing the falsehood just to lighten the mental load.
Once she begins to believe the things she's saying, it becomes difficult to claim she's actually lying—because even if the facts don't align with reality, in her own mind, it's the absolute truth.

That’s why some people can be so "unscrupulous"; they aren't performing a charade anymore, they're living in their own version of the truth. 😢

So there's nothing I can do here... I suppose I just have to let her deal with this mess on her own.
It's tragic.

Unfortunately, yes. We're talking about the entire architecture of her self-image. To confront her directly and force her to face those lies would be like pushing someone out of a plane without a parachute—the fallout could be catastrophic.
She has to learn to accept who she really is and find a way to live with herself. And that is never a simple task.

She’s finally hit upon a hard truth: most people don't actually want to hang out with "saints." They have zero interest in someone who is supposedly devoid of vices, flaws, or those messy, dark secrets we all carry.
People find comfort in the company of flesh-and-blood humans—people who drink too much, smoke, chase after lust, and make questionable life choices. Saints exist to be admired from a distance, not to be invited to the party.
It isn't really about admiring their "inner beauty" or nobility; it’s more about the ego boost we get from looking at someone who lives a "righteous" life and feeling superior to those wandering down a darker path.
That’s what she’s realized, and now she’s terrified of being an outcast. She’s worried that if people see her for who she truly is—someone without the late-night benders, the reckless hookups, or the drug habits—she’ll just be seen as "boring" and conventional. In her own mind, she thinks she might actually be right. 😬

So, how does she move past this? 🤷
Maybe she'll eventually realize, as the years pass, that this whole performance is a waste of time. It’s a common cycle in that age group: one year they're playing the rebel, the next they're playing the saint, but they never actually settle into being themselves because they're too afraid of being uninteresting. At the heart of it, she doesn't love herself, and there isn't much anyone else can do to fix that.

Chris Watson3 said:Honestly, I’d start getting seriously concerned about my own mental state if I were thinking this way. Look, if you don't want kids, fine—that’s your business. But comparing children to animals? That is absolutely revolting. Besides, people with this kind of mindset should probably be legally barred from having children anyway, because it’s exactly because of people like you that our foster care system is overflowing with abandoned kids.

Are you suggesting that people who don't want biological children also have zero interest in adopting from the system? 😕

Angela Newman33 said:And look, it’s just not true that people who don't want kids actually dislike them... and it's just as untrue to say that everyone who has kids does so because they love them... unfortunately... if that were actually the case... the world would be a whole lot more peaceful than it is right now

🙏

shadowtrucker18 said:It’s not quite that, though; you really shouldn't compare a child with a cat in this context. It’s just that some people seem unable to grasp that it's all a matter of perspective. Perhaps it isn't that we harbor any particular resentment toward children, but rather that they simply have no appreciation for cats.

If you know what I mean.

Exactly.

It just occurred to me that people who own dogs or cats have never once cornered me to ask when I'm getting one, nor have they ever accused me of hating animals just because I don't own them—or want to. Not once. 🤷

The reason I don't want them is simple: as I mentioned before, they demand constant maintenance and attention, much like having a child (except you get one pet per "child"). Feeding, training, vet visits, toys, supplies, expenses, expenses, expenses... does that sound familiar? 🙂

feralcobra92 said:I honestly don't think it's just about jealousy; I think it’s more about the fact that some people simply march to the beat of their own drum. People tend to get uncomfortable when someone stands out, and they use these kinds of nasty comments as a way to try and force everyone back into a "normal" mold.
But honestly, while reading through this thread and seeing how everyone is reacting, there is one thing that keeps bothering me.
If a woman decides she doesn't want kids—that is her business, plain and simple. It’s totally understandable if she deals with pressure from her neighbors or family, because they're going to have opinions. She should be the one making the call on when, or even if, she wants to start a family.
What I can't wrap my head around, though, is this intense hatred toward children and the sheer aggression in these posts. Telling someone you'd rather they gave birth to a kitten than their own child is just way over the line, yet everyone else seems to jump right in to agree and joke about how cute kittens are.
That aggressive, old-school, "traditionalist" attitude really rubs me the wrong way. If our mothers and grandmothers had thought that way, we wouldn't even be here today! Women actually have the power to make decisions about their own bodies now. In the past, fathers would basically marry them off, send them away to some distant town, and leave them to have twelve kids with whoever was chosen for them—half of whom probably wouldn't even survive. No one ever stopped to ask what SHE wanted or if she even felt like being a mother.
So, please, just be grateful that we live in such a liberal era where you actually have the right to shape your own life, and let's stop talking nonsense about kittens and acting like children are the enemy.

It was just a joke. And if memory serves, the person who wrote the joke is actually a mother. A real one, I assume. 😁

Angela Newman33 said:What usually gets under my skin the most isn't even about the lack of kids—it’s the women who seem perpetually frustrated and miserable... just constantly taking it out on their families. They walk around every single day with this martyr complex written all over their faces... acting like they’re "sacrificing" everything for their children... carrying themselves like being a selfless parent is the most noble thing a human can achieve in the world.
And then, of course, they go around preaching that having babies is the ultimate dream, the meaning of life, blah blah blah...

But if you look past the act, it feels like there's this subconscious envy toward people who don't have to carry that specific "burden"... toward those who actually have the freedom to choose their own path... toward the people who are brave enough to admit that this "sacred mission" of motherhood doesn't actually appeal to them at all.

It’s like they’ve made it their life's work to churn out as many clones as possible... kids who end up just as overwhelmed and restricted... just as frustrated and fed up with life as they are.

It’s weird, honestly... in my experience, the people with the most kids often turn out to be the worst parents. They pop out a whole crowd and then spend every day rubbing it in their faces how much they suffer for them... as if the kids actually asked to be "carried on their backs." To me, that seems way more selfish than the decision to stay childless simply because you don't feel the need or desire to have them.

Someone who has kids just to satisfy their own ego definitely isn't doing it out of selflessness.

I’d bet anything that a good parent is someone who is already happy, fulfilled, and whole on their own... rather than someone searching for that outside of themselves and expecting their children to make them happy or complete them.

At the end of the day, someone who didn't plan on having kids (if one happens unexpectedly) can be just as great a parent as someone who planned every step... it really just comes down to attitude and accepting whatever life throws at you.

People who have kids just because they think they "should," because society expects it, because they think it'll make them happy, because they’re afraid of being lonely one day, or just because babies are cute... I honestly think they're doing it for all the wrong reasons.

I’ve been feeling that more and more lately myself. It’s envy, plain and simple, just wrapped up in a layer of good intentions. "I'm telling you this for your own good," yeah, sure. 🙄

The thing is, there isn't even a logical basis for that resentment. It’s completely irrational.

It’s as if they imagine those of us without children are living in a state of constant euphoria and total carefree bliss—that's how they perceive our lives.
If only it were that easy. 😢

Michelle Sanchez8 said:Is there actually any feeling worse than getting older and realizing you've got nobody by your side? At least, that’s what all the old folks I know keep telling me.

And then there's the other side of the coin: reaching old age alone, even when you actually have children. 😲

I remember hearing about a case back in Chicago, where a man's son finally walked into his apartment only to find him deceased—the poor guy had been dead for an entire year before anyone noticed. ☕

If that elderly man hadn't had a son to leave everything to, he might have just passed away in the arms of some lovely young nurse instead. 😉

Look, I can’t stand being patronized. There is nothing more infuriating than being treated like a child or someone who simply doesn't grasp the weight of their own words. It drives me up the wall—and honestly, I deal with it just as much as you do, from my own mother down to my closest friends. It’s reached a point where I’ve seriously contemplated just claiming infertility as a way to get people to finally leave me alone, especially those I haven't even met yet.

That said, I do understand why "investigators" might not take me seriously.

It comes down to the women who changed their minds, and let's be honest, everyone knows at least one.
Then there’s the simple fact that it isn't impossible for me to change my mind too. Even if I were to swear up and down today that I won't, how can I truly know how I’ll feel ten years from now? The way I think today would have been completely unrecognizable to me a decade ago, which means I can't predict the person I'll be in the next ten, however much I hope I stay the same.
So, the possibility remains. No matter how negligible it might seem, it exists, and it will exist for as long as I am biologically capable of having children.

That’s really all I was trying to say. I’m not quite sure why my post sparked such aggression and confusion.
😕

Try to focus a little. And maybe exercise some self-control. You really shouldn't be this abrupt or high-strung; you don't have kids to justify that kind of temperament.

If you haven't picked up on it from my previous posts in this thread, I don't want children either. I’m not one of those people who interrogates others about their choices. On the contrary, I find myself experiencing these feelings more and more intensely as time goes by.
The urge hits me just as hard as it hits you.

But, unlike you, I actually try to understand why people act the way they do. One reason is precisely because of women who changed their minds—women who insisted they didn't want kids, only to end up surrounded by them later on.

So, people hang their hopes on the idea that I might change my mind too.

And honestly, who knows what aging will bring? How can I say for certain that I won't change my mind down the road? 🤷

Rachel Rodriguez6 said:Honestly, kids were never my thing, and even back when I was a little girl myself, other kids just totally rubbed me the wrong way—I always preferred hanging out with the older crowd. I was never that person stopping in the middle of a sidewalk to coo over some cute baby in a stroller, and I never felt this sudden urge to hold my friends' infants... actually, it used to drive me crazy when they’d try to shove a baby into my arms like some magical maternal instinct was supposed to suddenly kick in. Newsflash: it didn't. For a long time, my husband and I were living our absolute best lives, just going out, traveling, doing us... and then we let our guard down a bit, and somehow, at 34, I ended up pregnant. I swear, I was probably the most depressed pregnant woman on the planet. When it came time to head to the hospital, I didn't bother prepping anything for the baby; my husband handled all the gear and the setup. The whole birth was over in like fifteen minutes, and honestly, the actual process wasn't even scary for me. My husband was there crying his eyes out from pure joy, while I just sat there feeling... nothing. I knew what was coming, and I was genuinely terrified that I wouldn't be able to handle the weight of that responsibility. But then, slowly but surely, this "mother" side of me started waking up, and it happened exactly how it's supposed to: I became caring, responsible, tender... My kid is five now, and looking back, I’m so incredibly glad that pregnancy happened, and I actually feel bad for thinking I didn't want to be a mom. My girlfriends can't even wrap their heads around the total transformation I went through, but it truly just happened naturally, straight from the heart. I'm a mom now and I am endlessly happy about it, but at the same time, I totally get the women who don't want this life. I don't judge them one bit. And even though I love my kid, if I had to go through another pregnancy right now? No thanks, I'm good.

Traitor!
🙂

Of course it’s possible for your perspective to shift as you move through life. Choosing not to have children isn't some binding legal contract or a sacred vow; nobody standing here today claiming they don't want kids can predict with absolute certainty how they'll feel in ten, fifteen, or twenty years.

That's actually why so many people don't take women who say they don't want kids entirely at face value—and in a way, they aren't wrong, provided the woman hasn't reached the end of her reproductive years.

Furthermore, it doesn't mean those individuals wouldn't make wonderful parents if they ever did change their minds.

Who knows? Maybe in five or ten years, some of the people posting here will find themselves browsing forums for pregnant women or checking out Rid.🤷

mistybison said:It's like meeting a girl, she performs for you that very night, and you have a great time. That's one thing. Having a certain opinion of her afterward... that's something else entirely.

It's like meeting a girl, she performs for you that very night, and you have a great time. That's one thing. Having a certain opinion of her afterward... that's something else entirely.
Why do we dress up and present our best selves to the world? It’s about creating a visual experience for others, which in turn gives us the satisfaction of being admired. Ultimately, we seek that attention to validate our presence and open the door to romance and meaningful connection. 🙂 It is quite similar to when a woman walks through downtown wearing a low-cut top and men take notice; the only difference is that in the first scenario, the moment becomes a fleeting memory, whereas online, those images remain in the permanent possession of anyone who views or saves them. 😁

Honestly, as much as I enjoy being liked, there’s a certain discomfort in thinking about who might be attracted to you or how they might be fantasizing about you. It can feel a bit unsettling when you're a public figure and realize that people might have your photos in their rooms and unpredictable ideas about what to do with them. It's definitely a little creepy. 😱
Why do we dress up and present our best selves to the world? It’s about creating a visual experience for others, which in turn gives us the satisfaction of being admired. Ultimately, we seek that attention to validate our presence and open the door to romance and meaningful connection. 🙂 It is quite similar to when a woman walks through downtown wearing a low-cut top and men take notice; the only difference is that in the first scenario, the moment becomes a fleeting memory, whereas online, those images remain in the permanent possession of anyone who views or saves them. 😁

Honestly, as much as I enjoy being liked, there’s a certain discomfort in thinking about who might be attracted to you or how they might be fantasizing about you. It can feel a bit unsettling when you're a public figure and realize that people might have your photos in their rooms and unpredictable ideas about what to do with them. It's definitely a little creepy. 😱
Do you honestly think they even give it a second thought? 😁
Take someone like Madonna, for instance. Do you really think she spends her time worrying about some random trucker staring at her posters while he's lounging by his pool in Beverly Hills? She’s far too busy deciding which five-star restaurant to hit for lunch or picking out the perfect gown for a gala thrown specifically in her honor.
She couldn't care less whether someone thinks she looks thin or if they're obsessing over her image. 😁

Patrick Hernandez27 said:Look, under the guise of "why should I be ashamed of my body," Brian Banks is out there filming adult films. To me, that logic feels a bit thin...

I mean, if people are going to brag about something, why not boast about actual substance? Like hard work or genuine achievements. I always thought women were supposed to be empowered, yet suddenly there's this trend of stepping back into being mere sexual objects just to sell a persona.

It just doesn't sit right with me.

I'm not saying I have an issue with seeing it—not at all, I don't mind. I'm just asking... what do you all think the real motivation is behind it all?

So what if he’s filming them? It’s not like anyone is being forced to sit there and watch.
It’s a win-win situation, really. You have the audience getting their fix, she’s raking in the revenue, and everyone walks away satisfied. It's a perfect cycle of supply and demand. 🤷
Does she kill, torture, rape, rob, spread rumors, or incite hatred? No.
What exactly is the issue here?

Quincy:

If people are going to insist on bragging, why can't they pick something actually worth mentioning? You know, like genuine effort or the actual work put into achieving a goal. It would be a much more productive way to spend one's energy.

It’s probably unwise to go around broadcasting your successes on a forum like this. Since most people here operate under a veil of anonymity, you run the risk of being dismissed. People will naturally assume you're just spinning a yarn or flat-out lying to make yourself look better. 😁
The evidence is right there in front of them, staring them straight in the face.
That doesn't necessarily mean they—or any of them, for that matter—aren't finding success in other areas. How could you possibly know for sure?

Quincy:

I had always operated under the assumption that women had reached a sufficient level of empowerment and independence. Yet, suddenly, there seems to be this collective regression—a sudden pivot back toward performing as mere sexual objects, all in the pursuit of self-commodification.

Sold? Please. The girls over at LES post their photos for free, purely for the fun of it and the sheer enjoyment of sharing. As far as I can tell, not a single one of them has ever charged for a photo.
As Gary James88 pointed out, they should be able to act whenever they please, however they choose, and in whatever quantity they desire. To me, that’s the entire point—it’s a fundamental demonstration of their autonomy and their right to be the masters of their own bodies.
So, they call them "emancipated."

I’m struggling to follow your logic here. On one hand, you claim it doesn't bother you—you even go so far as to say you enjoy seeing them. But then, in the very next breath, you start lecturing me about the "culture of death" and how these people have been reduced to mere sexual objects, stripped of any actual self-respect. You can't really have it both ways.
If that’s truly your perspective on the whole matter, then I have to wonder: why bother staying for the show? 🤷

Patrick Hernandez27 said:My thread got wiped over on LES, so hopefully I’ll have better luck over here...

I’m just curious, from a psychological standpoint, what do you all think

About why people on LES—and online in general—feel this urge to post photos of their private parts?

What is the actual goal there?

Is it a lack of self-confidence, where they're basically hunting for external validation just to feel okay?

Or maybe it's a deeper loss of self-respect, driven by the influx of Western values and this whole "death culture" we see today...

I mean, I truly wonder... why does a young woman feel the need to put her breasts on the internet just to be judged by strangers?

What’s your take on it?

What kind of "death culture" are we even talking about here? 😕
Physicality—breasts, butts, the whole nine yards—carries an inherent sexual connotation, and sex is how new life begins.
It isn't like children just appear out of thin air.

Beyond mere sexual function, there is the aesthetic element. The human body, particularly when it's young and fit, is beautiful. If someone possesses what they consider a beautiful physique, why shouldn't they show it off if they feel like it? Is there some reason to be ashamed of one's own body? To hide it away?
Is the body itself inherently immoral?
Not at all. Immorality exists only in the minds of those watching.

And you—don't act like you haven't looked. You certainly have. Otherwise, how would you even know they were there? In a way, you’re a participant in that entire interaction. Nobody would bother showing their body if there wasn't an audience interested in looking. 😉

And what exactly are these "Eastern values" that are supposedly so virtuous and positive? 😕

amberfox4 said:Honestly, there isn't a single stupid comment I haven't already heard, considering I am 36 years old.
People are finally starting to back off, though I suspect that is only because I have become increasingly blunt when answering their inquiries.
I usually just say something along the lines of, "No, I never wanted children."
And when they follow up with, "But why?"
I respond, "Because the desire was never there."
And if it hasn't happened by now...
Well, it isn't going to happen. I don't want kids.
Then comes the inevitable, "What about your husband?"
My response? "My husband and I aren't allowed to have children because we were both diagnosed with cannibalism, and our specialty is the 'warm cradle' method." (That is a joke, of course, but it always seems to shut down those busybodies who feel entitled to stick their noses into my business.)
One can safely assume that we discussed such vital matters before we ever tied the knot; furthermore, I discuss private matters exclusively with my husband, not with acquaintances or neighbors whose opinions hold absolutely no weight in my life. Quite frankly, your personal affairs do not interest me one bit.

You’ve certainly been around the block more than I have, so how is it that I’m already feeling this sense of burnout? 😁

My husband and I aren't allowed to have kids because we've been diagnosed with cannibalism, and our specialty is the "warm cradle" wrap.

😂

I’d probably make the same joke if it were someone I was never going to run into again.
But try being stuck in a room for seven hours a day with three coworkers who absolutely live for motherhood.
They would practically hunt you down.

It’s strange—when you tell them you can't have children, they actually have the decency to stop bringing up the subject around you. They act perfectly polite and kind, treating you with this patronizing sort of pity because you're "unfortunate." 😁

I get it; nobody actually wants to be pitied. But unfortunately, if you're a woman in America and you don't have children by a certain age, you're usually met with either profound sympathy or blatant judgment. There really isn't a middle ground. So, I suppose I'll just take the sympathy. ☕