Posts by brightwalker12

cosmictinker21 said:Yeah, they're just textbook examples of people who have to constantly convince themselves they actually matter, all while their subconscious is whispering, "You're a nobody, you're a loser, you can't be a loser, you have to be someone, you have to be something, you have to..."

I wonder how much energy people like that waste just trying to "prove" to themselves and everyone else that they actually exist...🤣

Well, that's easy enough; (honestly, I couldn't care less what they want), but that condescending attitude really grates on me (acting like they are so SPECIAL) without any actual substance to back it up.

It’s incredibly grating when those "special" types try so hard just to be different. Especially when they lean on clichés like "I think for myself" or "I don't need a flock or a shepherd to feel secure"....😠

Donna Wood52 said:Here’s my dilemma...

That’s exactly why my circle of friends is so small—I can't just bottle things up. I know I’m not the only one who struggles with this, but for me, it creates this sense of inhibition and an actual aversion to most people, which just keeps shrinking my social world. 😕

In my eyes, there is no such thing as an "average" person; you're either genuinely good or you're completely warped, deeply corrupt... (and let’s be honest, the "corrupt" ones tend to outnumber the good ones). If you catch my drift?? 🤷

For instance, I was at a friend's birthday party recently, and there were some people there I just couldn't stand—even though I was meeting them for the very first time 🤣—but whatever. I ended up just getting up and leaving early, making some excuse about having a headache.

I realize I come across as spoiled, but sometimes I simply cannot tolerate certain individuals.

Does anyone else feel this way? How did you deal with it??

That’s a bleak way to look at things. I haven't actually met a single truly evil person. There are people I dislike or prefer to avoid at a party, sure, but I've never encountered anyone truly malicious. I'm surrounded by decent folks.
Stop romanticizing perfection and just accept people for who they are. How? Well, time will tell...
P.S. Are you feeling uneasy in your new social circle?
Might just be a defense mechanism...

Henry Lopez14 said:I’m currently navigating my teen years, and talking to people my age, I’ve noticed something pretty strange and kind of unsettling.
One group of kids around me seems to have it all figured out—straight A's, sports, hobbies, they look good, they have huge social circles, and they're always dating someone.
Then there’s this other group. They don't do anything outside of school, yet they study their heads off, only to end up with mediocre grades. They rarely go out, they barely have any friends, and nobody seems interested in dating them.

I guess I’m wondering if this is just down to the individuals themselves—like, can they actually control their trajectory—or if it’s more like some kind of psychological glitch in the system?

It depends on the individual, partly. But I've found that the more I pack into my schedule, the better everything flows. I'm more efficient and spend less time idling... staring at the TV for three hours, doomscrolling, or nursing endless coffees.
Some people say balancing college, a job, and clubs is impossible. Ever since I started doing it, I've actually performed better in class because I'm forced to organize myself. And the best part, as counterintuitive as it sounds, is that I actually have more free time.

Donna Wood52 said:

I don't know if I should even bother bringing this up—it feels like one of those topics that people just gloss over because they don't want to deal with the nuance—but we really need to talk about the Vilenica situation. It’s one of those things where you think you understand the folklore, the cultural weight behind it, and how it fits into our broader American heritage, but once you actually start digging into the specifics, everything becomes incredibly messy. It's like when people try to simplify complex historical movements into a single catchy slogan; they miss the entire point of the struggle involved. You can't just strip away the layers of tradition and expect the core meaning to remain intact. It’s frustrating, honestly. People want the easy answer, the polished version that looks good on a postcard, without acknowledging the grit underneath. Anyway, I'm rambling—my apologies—but I felt it was necessary to set the stage before this inevitably turns into another shouting match in the comments. kaže:
Maybe the women are just getting better at keeping it under wraps?

Everyone carries some level of insecurity—let’s be honest about that—but you can usually tell if it's a woman's particular brand of self-doubt just by watching how she carries herself or even how she puts an outfit together. It’s all there in the gait, the posture, the clothes... it's written all over them.
Usually, it’s the ones playing it safe—you know, the tight little outfits, the high heels... that whole predictable look.

I can only think of one woman who was genuinely stunning—truly striking—but she always hid behind these oversized, baggy clothes, which made it so easy to miss how much she actually had going for her.
I mean, if only she had realized how good she looked back when we hit the beach together last summer. She seriously had it all—that tiny waist, great curves, everything in the right place. I honestly can't wrap my head around why she was so insecure about herself.

I’m not entirely sure what you're getting at with that—it feels like a bit of a non sequitur, doesn't it? A single word dropped into the void without any context or follow-up. It’s a bit like walking into a room, saying "blue," and then just staring at everyone waiting for a reaction. If you're trying to evoke some sort of folklore or mythic imagery, fine—but here we are in the States, dealing with reality. Unless there's a specific point you're driving at, I'll just assume this was a typo or a momentary lapse in thought. Do better next time. kaže:
Out of the ten of us, only three actually bothered to weigh in—and even then, they barely scratched the surface of the actual details.

I’m not talking about those moments when they’re pushing back against some big authority figure—that's a different matter entirely—but rather how they act in everyday life, you know? Like when they're dealing with regular people, or even their own friends. That's where the real character shows.

Maybe she just prefers the oversized look... 🤷

Brenda Cooper3 said:So, let me get this straight... you're one of those fiercely independent types who's perfectly content with themselves and everyone else? 😁
Then why on earth are you browsing threads like this? Hmm...
Usually, the only people popping up here are the ones struggling with something, not the folks living their best lives.
Or maybe you just stumbled onto this subforum because you were bored?

Man... 🙄
I won't derail the topic, but do you really think everyone posting in psychology is frustrated and miserable?😉
I'm perfectly happy, though I certainly have a past (thank God my teenage years are over😁)

Zachary Patel6 said:Look, you and I simply have different definitions of what makes someone "special." I'm not talking about the crowd who consciously joins a subculture just to feel different from the pack. I mean people who align with groups 😁 like punks or those bohemians you mentioned. To me, a special person is someone truly singular—someone who isn't trying to be anything other than themselves, whereas most people spend their whole lives trying to be something else. Special people are the ones who, if everyone else is doing something stupid, won't follow the herd just to fit in; they'll do the right thing because they actually have the guts to do so—they aren't afraid of judgment and they stay true to their principles. Those are the individuals I consider special.

But honestly, I was actually talking about someone who is fundamentally more unique than everyone else in every way—humor, kindness, intellect, looks, etc. I've encountered such a person in my life; perhaps some haven't, so they can't grasp it. Or maybe they just don't want to admit someone like that exists. Of course, this "special" person has flaws once you get to know them better, but the truth is they somehow "stand out" from the crowd even while remaining almost inconspicuous. It’s a strange thing to describe. Perhaps everything I’m writing is just the result of my fascination with one specific person. 😬

Or maybe you're just in love.😉

Zachary Patel6 said:Oh, please, Jerry Martinez5—why does it bother you so much when someone actually *is* special? It just sounds like you're trying too hard to be the most unique person in the room. It's tough for some people to admit someone else might be different. Or maybe you just haven't met anyone truly extraordinary yet. 😉

In my view, the people who actually stand out aren't doing it on purpose—it's quite the opposite. They simply remain themselves while everyone else is busy desperately trying to be something they're not.

It isn't about being "hurt" by someone else's uniqueness—it's actually about something else entirely. It’s about how people deceive themselves and everyone else through this forced identity. For instance, when you see some punk walking down the street acting tough, spitting on the sidewalk, and hitting on every girl just to look cool, you immediately see through the act. Or when you see someone wearing a heavy coat in the middle of July, quoting bohemian poetry, carrying the latest New Age bestseller, and staring at the world with "sad eyes"... nobody—not even them—realizes they're just posing. But that's exactly what it is, just masked behind a more sophisticated veneer. I can't stand those types because they're so full of themselves, yet completely oblivious to their own performance. Then, the moment someone points out the truth, they immediately start screaming about being misunderstood or how intolerant society has become. That behavior is fine during puberty while you're still finding yourself, but later in life, you aren't "unique" or "special"... you're just an idiot. Just like a forty-year-old skinhead.

I suppose if I don't feel the urge to reach out and they're always the ones calling me, it says everything about where I stand with them. If someone actually matters to me, I don't hesitate to pick up the phone...

A truly exceptional person doesn't even realize they're special. Someone who decides that for themselves is just delusional... while the one everyone else is talking about? They couldn't care less.

Sliding a hot rod into a dry hole, brrr... that’s gotta hurt. On both sides...

When you say caffeine, coffee is the first thing that comes to mind, right?
It’s common knowledge at this point that excessive amounts are risky, just like any other food group. But in moderation, it's great for focus and digestion, plus it's packed with antioxidants... unless you're already dealing with some underlying issues, you won't feel sluggish in the morning.

rapidrider3 said:I already knew all of this before I even picked up his book, let alone anything else.

I’m not being dogmatic; I’m just stating facts. They exist. If someone wants to accept them and actually start changing, fine. If not, they can live however they want, but they'll eventually realize—far too late—that they missed the boat. All because they were too cocky to admit they were wrong.

And who exactly here is the expert?😕

Oh right, right after your Reiki initiation, wasn't it? 😉

rapidrider3 said:I already knew all of this before I even picked up his book, let alone anything else.

I’m not being dogmatic; I’m just stating facts. They exist. If someone wants to accept them and actually start changing, fine. If not, they can live however they want, but they'll eventually realize—far too late—that they missed the boat. All because they were too cocky to admit they were wrong.

And who exactly here is the expert?😕

Do you realize this is exactly what any fanatic spits out the moment someone questions their religion? Is that why you laugh when people threaten you with hell?...😉

rapidrider3 said:

jademarlin26 I can't even begin to tell you where to start with this one. It’s just... what is it with people lately? Always talking, always making noise, but does anyone actually listen? I doubt it. Probably not. Everything feels like it's moving too fast and yet nothing ever changes. You look around and it's all just noise. Anyway, what was I saying? Right. This whole thing. Just another day in the life, I guess. What do you think? Is it just me, or is everything getting weirder?
Maybe if people just swapped out the word "truth" for "my own little fantasy" or "just my daydreaming," they wouldn't be spitting venom at everyone all the time. Who knows? Maybe that would change things. 🤷

You think so? Honestly, I can already see the "experts" lining up, ready to complain that it doesn't suit their precious sensibilities. There’s always someone, isn't there? Someone who just can't stand anything being done differently.😍

What if someone actually loved another person more than anything else in this world? Just... what if? It’s a heavy thought, isn't it? Most people spend their lives chasing shadows, running from themselves, or getting tangled up in the shallow end of everything. But then you wonder about that one extreme. That absolute, total devotion where nothing else—not money, not status, not even your own survival—matters anymore. Is that even possible in a place like this? Or is it just something we tell ourselves to make the loneliness feel less permanent? I don't know. Maybe it's beautiful. Or maybe it's just another way to break your own heart.And honestly? Instead of some imaginary "friend" popping up out of nowhere... everyone would just be better off. Wouldn't they?

Never! That’s exactly where all the sickness starts.

Aren't you getting a little carried away with those hospital stories?

James Kelly9 said:Listen, not being attached to the outcome doesn't mean I can't feel good when things go right. Not at all! Being totally detached or indifferent is a bad move. The point is—I shouldn't be obsessing over exactly how things play out or waiting around for a specific result, but hey, there's nothing wrong with feeling satisfied when you nail something. 😉

Why is indifference such a bad thing? Since when does a hammer take pride in what the carpenter builds?

The man is truly something else—fascinating, unpredictable, and utterly baffling. You could dissect his entire process and still never quite grasp how he operates...😬

Olivia Evans8 said:But how does it even decide when to stop looking? 😍

When he's had enough, and other priorities take over.🤷

It’s actually quite fascinating how the brain stays active even while sleeping. If you spend all night cramming for a midterm at Yale, you'll likely spend your dreams processing that exact nonsense... the mind just keeps working through it.
There’s a reason people say "sleep on it." After hours of subconscious processing, the brain often reaches conclusions by morning that seemed impossible the day before.
The human brain is an incredible thing... especially when paired with a good breakfast!👍

bluemason3 said:So, you have a toothache and you just want it to stop. Even if you try to argue that pain is basically just an illusion, it doesn't really matter—your brain still thinks it's very real, and that tooth is definitely still hurting. 😁 Real liberation happens when the pain finally stops, and let's be honest, the easiest way to make a tooth stop hurting is to just not have the tooth anymore. 😁

I don't know... lately, it feels like liberation isn't when the tooth stops hurting, but when you simply stop giving a damn about the tooth itself.
And more importantly, when you stop caring about the person experiencing the pain.