Posts by urbanpilot36

I suppose I have this intense, overwhelming drive to strike it rich in a really short amount of time... though I haven't quite managed to pull it off just yet, haha...

wiredpanther14 said:Is this actually normal?
Is it normal to feel this intense, soul-crushing shame in front of everyone just because I didn't pass some college exam... to the point where I’m actively dodging people on campus just so they don't corner me to ask how school is going? 😢
Does anyone actually know what to say when you get hit with those incredibly stupid, repetitive, mind-numbing questions like: "So, how's it going? Did you pass that test? How was your midterm?"

Look, I think there have always been times where I passed and times where I failed, even during those periods when I felt like I had studied incredibly hard... honestly, that was back before the Boston era, but I eventually made it through in the end. Maybe one or two setbacks shouldn't really shake your confidence; I suppose you just have to keep moving forward. At the end of the day, people mostly remember the degree, and I truly believe all this other stuff gets forgotten pretty quickly, believe me. 🙂

Dana Morales64 said:Do you have any specific types of exhausting, socially oblivious people that you go out of your way to avoid? Here’s an example from today—I’m grabbing coffee with a buddy, and this incredibly annoying guy just wanders over and sits right down with us. We finish our drinks and head off in our own direction, but the second we stand up, he starts interrogating us about where we're going. I tell him I'm heading home, so he follows up with "Oh yeah? Why?" Then, "What are you doing at home?" Then, "Doing what kind of work?" 🙄 And then comes the best part—as soon as we get to our bikes, he actually starts pedaling after us 🤣 He chases us for maybe a couple hundred yards before he finally gives up because he ran out of steam. To top it all off, he tried calling my cell afterward—of course, I didn't pick up.
This is just one instance of the absolute weirdos roaming this planet. What is actually wrong with people like this? Are they even sane? How low can someone sink to act like that? I mean, look, we've known this guy for a while; he isn't quite as unhinged as my friend, but he is painfully draining because he needs to know everything about everyone. He has zero boundaries—he doesn't know how to sit still, and he clearly doesn't know how to behave in public. When we run into him, he doesn't know when to leave or when enough is enough. That's exactly why we steer clear. Is there a permanent way to deal with these special cases? And the worst part? It's not even some random teenager; we're talking about a grown man in his 20s.

You're doing it too, though... you could have just shut him down. With people like that, you really have to tell them exactly what you're thinking to your face. I guess it's not anyone's fault if you don't know how to set boundaries, and then you end up blaming others for being socially awkward. Maybe your own social skills aren't exactly perfect either.

I suppose you just give them a taste of their own medicine when they eventually come crawling back one day... let them think whatever they want, I guess

Jessica Wood96 said:Alright, I've decided to throw another question out there,

So, look—whether it’s under some kind of "pressure" or just talking to strangers or even people I've known forever, I just freeze up. I can't talk normally...

It feels like I'm forcing everything, like if I actually spoke like my true self, someone would judge me or give me a weird look. I know I'm not stupid and I know how to communicate, but this struggle is real...

It happens when I'm hanging out with friends too, especially if I'm with someone I don't vibe with or just a total stranger. It's incredibly frustrating; I really don't need this. I end up talking way too quiet, way too fast, and half the time I just forget what I was even trying to say. I tell myself a million times, "Stop overthinking it, just talk." But then comes this wall where I can't even discuss problems or solve anything. I just shut down and act like the bad guy when things get serious, whether it's with a girl or at home, usually with my mom.

I end up putting myself down. I stay silent. I don't even snap back at shitty comments made toward me after a failed conversation. Then I spend the next hour or two just beating myself up, thinking, "Why didn't I say this? Why didn't I say that?" I love being alone, just peaceful and without the stress. This is eating at me. If anyone gets what I'm going through, please, try to explain why this happens. Like I said, I'm not crazy and I'm not some kid who *doesn't want* to talk—it's just that once I feel this way in a situation, I'm stuck. There's no way out.

Maybe you should try to find some social circles and spend more time with them. If you find someone with whom you share common interests—something that binds you together, like college, going out, or work—then perhaps these issues will just fade away on their own over time. It's possible you're just spending your time with people who aren't really your crowd. 🙂

hollowtinker18 said:Why does this forum turn into such a toxic mess of ego trips every other day?
Why is everyone so obsessed with winning an argument at any cost?
Why the desperate need to play the smartest guy in the room just to tear someone else down?
Is looking brilliant really the only thing that matters here?
And why all the petty gossip? It’s clearly just a way for weak people to mask their own flaws by dragging others through the mud.
Or maybe it’s just because disagreeing with someone triggers a sudden barrage of insults and cheap ad hominem attacks.
What's the deal?
Are we just wired this way—treating every single conversation like some kind of zero-sum game?

Some people just can't bring themselves to admit when they've made a mistake, and I suppose that's just how it is. But eventually, they'll probably have to face the truth and make sense of things for themselves. 😁

Heh... I don't know if I'd really agree with that. At my university, on top of all the lectures and actual research, we're constantly grinding away at various projects. So, I guess our days are pretty much booked solid from start to finish. But I suppose the real issue isn't even about the workload; it’s more that the people I've been clashing with aren't even in my field, so there's no overlap in our professional lives at all. I'm focused on mechanical engineering, whereas they're just professional athletes. Honestly, they seem a bit overly full of themselves.

I’m curious to hear what everyone here thinks about the tendency to underestimate people based on their career paths. I’ve personally experienced certain prejudices from others, seemingly because our professional backgrounds and qualifications don't align. To be honest, it’s never really bothered me, but I suppose it matters quite a bit to them. For instance, my work is more academic in nature—I teach at a university—and I’ve noticed that some people coming from completely different industries tend to treat me with a certain level of condescension, even though I’ve never felt the need to judge them for what they do. If I had to label those attitudes, I guess I’d call them prejudices; people make assumptions about who I am without ever actually getting to know me. For some reason, I just haven't been very well received by certain groups. What do you all think might be the underlying cause of this? 😁

Maybe we should just wrap this game up quickly so we can move into the semifinals. Once we're in the final four, I guess anything is possible. I'm really hoping we make it all the way to the championship.

Maybe we could go with the first scenario. Lately, I guess it’s been feeling increasingly difficult for me to head over to China. I'm honestly not quite sure why that is.

I guess this might be one of the better films we've seen lately, at least from my perspective. I've always had a soft spot for this particular genre, though it feels like they don't make them like this much anymore. It felt a little bit silly to me that Christian Slater dies first, I suppose, but that whole sequence with the dominoes was probably the best part of the entire movie.

Jeremy Bishop5 said:P.S. check out this photo, Alba looks like she's totally turned on... 😬

I guess I'm just wondering, what was the point of that?

steelfalcon98 said:Go to hell!
well, I've made some changes! 😁 😁

The mushroom is looking pretty good. 😉

If we were given the chance to choose between these two actors, I suppose I wonder which one you all might actually pick. Who do you feel possesses more talent, and what is it about their performances that makes them stand out to you? Please, try to explain your reasoning.

I just finished installing Windows XP, but I've noticed it takes about 30 seconds or so before the Windows logo actually pops up on the screen. It feels a bit strange to me, I guess, because the machines we use at my office usually show that logo after maybe five seconds or so. I'm wondering if there might be some sort of underlying issue causing this delay. Any ideas? Thanks.

Desirée said:the intentions 👍 👍
I suppose that is exactly what I was trying to get at...
though I think there is one specific scene where the three of them are together👍

And you might have forgotten about Wild Things 2, specifically that scene involving the phone.

In Silver Spring, obviously featuring Sharon Stone and that one guy—I can't quite wrap my head around his name right now. 😕

Jeremy Bishop5 said:P.S. Check out this photo; I guess Jessica Alba looks like she's covered in oil... 😬

Yeah, honestly, she’s probably the main reason I’d definitely sit down and watch the movie. 😎