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Picture this: in some sleepy little coastal town along the Pacific waterfront, a local politician was strolling down the boardwalk one afternoon. He was doing his usual routine—strutting with that self-important air, clutching his briefing folders like they were sacred texts. Suddenly, he gets intercepted by a local nutcase who looks him dead in the eye and says, "You know, I feel exactly the same way whenever I miss my medication."

William Hall93 said:I find myself gravitating toward the exact same things. Same hobbies, the same circle of friends, the same political outlook and core beliefs. It’s the same music I listen to, the same movies, books, and games I dive into. I read the same news outlets, visit the same websites, laugh at the same kind of humor, and eat and drink the same stuff...

Physically, I’m basically the same guy I was at 18, just maybe 7 or 8 pounds heavier and perhaps an inch or two taller. My facial hair still hasn't decided to show up, just like back then, and I still deal with the occasional breakout. People actually ask to see my driver's license sometimes because they think I look way younger than I actually am.

I did manage to wrap up my college degree in the meantime, though I don't feel like a single bit smarter for having it.

Right now, I’m pretty content with where I'm at. I figured out what kind of life I wanted to live quite early on, so I guess I’m wondering if it’s normal to stay this consistent, or if I should be shaking things up just for the sake of personal growth...

Look, if you’re genuinely happy with who you are, I don't see any reason to force changes that would normally just happen naturally over time anyway.
Besides, this whole idea of "normality" is entirely subjective. There is no universal standard, so why shouldn't you just stick to what works for you and follow your own version of "normal"?

Harold Anderson3 said:I wouldn't say I've hijacked this thread entirely, but it certainly feels like I’ve taken up most of the space here lately.
This condition is just so incredibly unpredictable; I've been dealing with it for nearly eight years now.
It’s a constant, exhausting cycle where I find myself swinging between these manic, psychotic episodes and periods of deep, heavy depression. It’s been eight years of this, though if you count the two years I spent treating bipolar disorder and depression before that, it's been a much longer road.
If you haven't personally experienced psychosis—whether it's stemming from schizophrenia or bipolar disorder—it’s hard to truly grasp how difficult it is to maintain any semblance of a normal life while fighting this.
But honestly, there isn't really any other choice; you just have to keep fighting, keep pushing back, and keep hanging in there for as long as you can.👍

At the end of the day, that's just the reality of it... and yeah, I know it's incredibly hard. 🙂

People who actually command attention carry this unapologetic "I don't give a damn what you think about me" attitude, and they just live their lives without overthinking every single move they make.😉

It’s a good thing Donna White50 decided to kick this thread off, if only so the rest of the community can finally get a clear look at his particular brand of "logic" regarding women.

Look, nobody actually insulted you, but you’ve gone out of your way to play the victim. If you're feeling so wounded by these comments, there is a perfectly functional reporting tool specifically designed for offensive posts. Did you actually use it? Or are you just going to sit here acting aggrieved?

Donna White50 said:Hey there,

I wanted to reach out and voice some concerns regarding how this thread is being moderated:

I’m trying to have an actual, reasoned debate here, but instead, I’ve got users—and even the moderator, Azzura—basically trivializing the facts and using insults just to belittle me and dismiss my perspective.

Since people join forums specifically to discuss things and share different viewpoints, I really think the moderator should stay neutral and step in to stop the personal attacks. Especially since I haven't insulted anyone—I'm just sticking to my arguments—so it feels pretty unfair to be targeted personally just because someone doesn't like what I have to say...
I honestly don't see the point in comments like this from a moderator, especially when they follow it up with threats of bans:
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and why are you picking a fight with me now, Donna White50?

Look, neither I, nor any of the women on this forum, nor any woman out there—we aren't your mother.

So just grow up and stop whining.

edit: oh, and if you're gonna cry about the mod not liking you, feel free to head over to the off-topic lounge. anything else will be flagged as off-topic and a violation of the sub-forum rules.
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I'm asking the moderation team to please address this behavior, because it goes against the site rules which clearly state that nobody should be insulted based on their religion, race, attitude, or differing opinions.

And this is just one tiny, insignificant slice of your massive collection of "well-reasoned" arguments.

Let’s get one thing straight: the way certain Radical elements are handling the conversation around the sexual abuse of women is nothing short of a disgrace. It is absolutely infuriating to watch these people twist a horrific reality into some kind of twisted ideological playground. They aren't looking for justice, and they certainly aren't looking for healing; they are simply looking for ammunition to fuel their own agendas. It is a slap in the face to every survivor out there. Instead of offering genuine support or demanding real systemic change, these groups turn trauma into a political football. They take a deeply personal, devastating experience and strip away its humanity just to score points in a culture war that they seem obsessed with winning at any cost. It’s hollow, it’s performative, and frankly, it’s insulting to anyone who has actually lived through this nightmare. We need real accountability and real protection, not this constant, loud-mouthed posturing from people who wouldn't know true advocacy if it hit them in the face.

Donna White50 As I was saying:
When it comes to the issue of sexual harassment, let’s be perfectly clear: this has been a systemic, ongoing crisis for women since the very beginning. It isn't some recent trend or a sudden shift in social dynamics; it is a deep-seated, historical reality that women have had to navigate for generations. It is an exhausting, pervasive struggle that demands more than just superficial fixes—it requires a complete overhaul of how we address power and misconduct in our society.

I honestly cannot believe what I just read. Donna White50 is actually out here trying to justify an employer asking a potential hire if they plan on starting a family anytime soon. Are we seriously still doing this? It’s absolutely absurd. Let’s be incredibly clear about this: it is a blatant, unacceptable violation of privacy and, frankly, it’s discriminatory. You aren't hiring a biological incubator; you are hiring a professional. A person's reproductive choices have zero bearing on their ability to manage a project, hit a deadline, or contribute to a team's success. Period. When an interviewer starts digging into someone's personal life like that, it isn't "due diligence"—it's a predatory attempt to weed out anyone they deem "too expensive" or "distracted" due to parental leave or childcare needs. It is a direct attack on gender equality in the workplace. If a company needs to know your career trajectory, ask about your long-term professional goals. Don't ask about your uterus. There is no logical, professional bridge between a woman's family planning and her competence as an employee. To suggest otherwise is not just misguided; it's fundamentally wrong.

Donna White50 said:Hey there,

I wanted to reach out and voice some concerns regarding how this thread is being moderated:

I’m trying to have an actual, reasoned debate here, but instead, I’ve got users—and even the moderator, Azzura—basically trivializing the facts and using insults just to belittle me and dismiss my perspective.

Since people join forums specifically to discuss things and share different viewpoints, I really think the moderator should stay neutral and step in to stop the personal attacks. Especially since I haven't insulted anyone—I'm just sticking to my arguments—so it feels pretty unfair to be targeted personally just because someone doesn't like what I have to say...
I honestly don't see the point in comments like this from a moderator, especially when they follow it up with threats of bans:
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and why are you picking a fight with me now, Donna White50?

Look, neither I, nor any of the women on this forum, nor any woman out there—we aren't your mother.

So just grow up and stop whining.

edit: oh, and if you're gonna cry about the mod not liking you, feel free to head over to the off-topic lounge. anything else will be flagged as off-topic and a violation of the sub-forum rules.
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I'm asking the moderation team to please address this behavior, because it goes against the site rules which clearly state that nobody should be insulted based on their religion, race, attitude, or differing opinions.

Donna White50 is out here preaching about gender equality again, and let me tell you, the "arguments" being thrown around are nothing short of a joke. It’s pure, unadulterated nonsense masquerading as intellectual discourse. They think they’re being logical, but if you actually sit down and look at the substance, there's absolutely nothing there—just loud, sweeping generalizations meant to stir the pot. It's exhausting to watch someone try to justify such blatant absurdity with what they clearly believe is sound reasoning. It isn't. It's just noise.

Donna White50 said:Hey there,

I wanted to reach out and voice some concerns regarding how this thread is being moderated:

I’m trying to have an actual, reasoned debate here, but instead, I’ve got users—and even the moderator, Azzura—basically trivializing the facts and using insults just to belittle me and dismiss my perspective.

Since people join forums specifically to discuss things and share different viewpoints, I really think the moderator should stay neutral and step in to stop the personal attacks. Especially since I haven't insulted anyone—I'm just sticking to my arguments—so it feels pretty unfair to be targeted personally just because someone doesn't like what I have to say...
I honestly don't see the point in comments like this from a moderator, especially when they follow it up with threats of bans:
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and why are you picking a fight with me now, Donna White50?

Look, neither I, nor any of the women on this forum, nor any woman out there—we aren't your mother.

So just grow up and stop whining.

edit: oh, and if you're gonna cry about the mod not liking you, feel free to head over to the off-topic lounge. anything else will be flagged as off-topic and a violation of the sub-forum rules.
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I'm asking the moderation team to please address this behavior, because it goes against the site rules which clearly state that nobody should be insulted based on their religion, race, attitude, or differing opinions.

Look, let’s get one thing straight: you weren't being "threatened." I simply pointed out that discussions regarding moderation belong right here in this PDF, not over on Zuid. Telling someone that a topic falls under one specific document rather than another isn't a threat—it's just stating a fact.

Hmm... did my suggestion that you should cover up actually get under your skin? If it truly hit a nerve, then I suppose I owe you an apology. I truly hope the separation anxiety doesn't turn out to be too traumatic for you.

It’s going to take quite a while to get through your entire manifesto, so let’s just leave room for the actual authorities to weigh in. Frankly, I’m done wasting my breath on you because you clearly lack any capacity for reading comprehension. If you actually bothered to process what was written, you would realize I didn't label men as monsters or weaklings—I specifically called out perpetrators and murderers. Furthermore, if you had exercised even an ounce of attention to detail, you would have realized long ago—both in this thread and across other discussions here on Zuid—that I believe gender divisions are utterly nonsensical. We can only progress as a society by moving forward together, and violence isn't "more" or "less" significant based on whether the perpetrator is male or female.

Jerry Wilson13 said:I’m being difficult. I honestly just wish we didn't have to talk or see each other a hundred times a day. 🕺

Look, you aren't "terrible." You are simply pursuing what you need—your own rhythm, your family, and your peace of mind. Because of that, there is absolutely no way you can be considered a bad person. In my view, having an open, honest conversation would be a perfectly acceptable way to handle this, and you could easily manage all of that with a smile without hurting anyone's feelings.

mistydrifter55 said:He's an indoor cat—kind of a loner.
They don't really bond much. He isn't exactly a cuddler; he was a rescue, so he's pretty skittish. Who knows what he went through growing up? Anyway, he keeps his distance from the kids. And honestly, the kids keep their distance from him too—better than getting scratched, right? 🤣

As for that hair roller thing, 🤣 I go through them constantly just trying to clean my pants. And don't even get me started on the carpet. 🤦

I’ve always maintained that cats are incredibly intelligent creatures,👍

Regarding the whole debate over priorities, I handle it without much fuss. Family, career... everything has its designated place in the hierarchy. It feels reductive to pull specific life scenarios out of thin air right now, but I have absolutely no issue identifying what needs my immediate attention; I don't let myself get distracted. I tackle everything head-on—both my personal responsibilities and my professional obligations—because frankly, I can't stand falling behind or dealing with unnecessary delays.

mistydrifter55 said:So, how do you guys handle planning and staying organized? 😁

Open floor for discussion

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I am a total mess when it comes to organization.
Or, if we’re being poetic about it, I’m consistently inconsistent. 🤣

Organization? Forget it. I only organize things when I absolutely have to.
The same goes for planning.

I basically live my life by reacting to whatever hits me. I just deal with things as they pop up.
I tackle whatever crosses my mind in the moment. I don't do that "here is my list of tasks for today" thing. It's always a series of compromises.
Like, I’ll wash the dishes only when I'm forced to. If I had my way, the sink would stay full forever.
Ironing is another one. Even though I actually enjoy ironing—unlike washing dishes—I never find the time because my whole day is such a chaotic blur.
Those are just some small examples.

And even when I *do* try to plan something out, there’s zero chance it goes according to script. There’s always some unexpected curveball, and suddenly I’m dealing with versions A, B, C, and D... while my original plan just evaporates.

The more important the life detail, the harder it is for me to stay on top of it.

Everything just piles up. I’ve got these unfinished tasks hanging over my head for years, which obviously creates this massive pressure that gets harder and harder to manage.

Apparently, that's supposed to be at the root of all my psychological struggles.

The silver lining in this whole mess is that at least you know exactly what you need to work on.👍

When it comes to organization, I feel like I could probably loosen the reins once in a while, but I have this overwhelming sensation that if I don't execute things precisely—down to the exact hour or minute—something catastrophic will happen. I'm not talking about some external force acting upon me; I mean an internal collapse, as if my entire system is going to fail and trigger a massive domino effect.
Because of all this, my therapist has been questioning me quite intensely and looking for signs of OCD, though she hasn't officially diagnosed it yet.
I desperately need to find some balance in my life because I constantly swing between extremes—it's either 100% perfection or total failure. And let's be honest, living like that is never a healthy or sustainable way to exist. I deal with terrible internal turmoil and I feel physically ill if everything around me isn't perfectly in order or if I haven't checked off every single thing on my list. This rigidity is exhausting; I carry it like a heavy weight. I truly believe that through psychotherapy, I'll be able to make progress on this part of my personality.

Given how much work I have ahead of me in therapy, I doubt I'll ever truly be finished with this before I hit retirement.🤦😁

What else is there to say? We’ll find a way to make it work eventually, and we’ll figure things out 😢

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It’s a deal.🙂

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Angela Cruz52 said:Fine, whatever, at least I got some clarity out of it. 😁

Look, this isn't some minor detail, it's a massive issue. 😁

It’s easy enough to deal with the lights; we’ll get them fired up just for you, so let them shine 😉 As for the moderation situation, you’re still going to have to wait on the supervisors for that one. 🙂

On a side note, regarding what's boring versus what isn't... what can I say? I don't bother reading dull stuff unless I absolutely have to, and I'm pretty sure you feel the exact same way. 🤷

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Kyle Gonzalez 🙂

Let's get things straight here.
Basically, we are talking about this specific thread.

Angela Cruz52 said:Can someone please give me a coherent explanation of what the point of this thread even is?

That was already answered last week. But fine, let's go over it again. The original poster stepped away from the discussion, but the topic itself (nothing unusual there) has continued to exist on its own. Essentially, people are examining infidelity from various perspectives. You find that incredibly boring; other users here do not.

And why aren't cheaters allowed to write (in her style, though)?

Are you serious?
Who exactly isn't being allowed to post, and what "style" are you even referring to? 😁

why won't you allow me to comment—my own perspective on the matter?

And what exactly is this "perspective" of yours?
The reality is that your contributions to that thread consisted mostly of complaints about how boring everyone else is, or claims that the thread needs *you* present just to be interesting, and so on.

I don't get it. Do you need a spotlight? Should I turn the lights on for you?

Fine. A quick note for the forum moderators:
I left clear warnings on that thread (not just one!) after it devolved into a pure chat room, which is strictly against the rules on this site. After deleting roughly 130 posts, users were asked to stop cluttering the thread. Then, I had to delete even more posts, issue more warnings... and then it finally hit me—we have red cards for a reason! 🙂 🎉

And here we go again with the same old nonsense. 👍

I'll be back when you see me...

Donna White50 said:Look, every parent is basically a superhero—raising kids is one of the hardest jobs out there. If a parent wants to maintain authority, they also need to avoid falling apart in front of their kids. Kids tend to take on the guilt and responsibility for their parents' struggles, and usually, they actually do... There’s really no point in dumping our problems or fragile emotional states onto them, because it hits kids pretty hard..
Exactly. Both men and women have their own behavioral flaws, and let's face it—tears aren't some magic recipe for happiness, nor are they a solution to stop wars, aggression, or whatever else...
I'm with you, people fight for power and profit...

A moment ago, you were talking about tears, not an emotional breakdown. Or are you conflating the two? (Please define exactly what you mean by "breakdown" so we can avoid any more of this communication noise)

And do you honestly believe that in such a scenario—showing vulnerability—a parent loses their authority? (I’m assuming you actually understand the definition of authority and realize there are various different types of it)

Sean Kern2 and Donna White50, seriously, dial it back a notch. Stop taking this debate so personally. If you two have lingering baggage or issues from previous discussions that need sorting out, take it to private messages instead of dragging it through this thread. 😉

Donna White50 said:Thomas Nelson25

You don't always have to lay every single emotion out on the table—honestly, just letting kids know they have the space to vent and talk about how they’re feeling is usually enough... The real issue is when all that negative stuff just sits there, building up and staying bottled inside for way too long. People who are actually mentally resilient and steady don't just snap under pressure, you know? But let's be real—most parents just aren't teaching their kids how to do that...
Look, let's be real—status, cash, and a sweet ride aren't just random things. They’re basically the roadmap to success. If a guy knows that having a fat bank account and a nice car is what actually draws women in, then yeah, he’s gonna go after that money and those wheels. That's just how society views value, right? And when you're young, you're just out there hungry for attention, dating, hanging out, and trying to get that respect from the crowd. Honestly, guys are just playing the game to fit in with whatever the people around them expect...

Thomas Nelson25

You're talking nonsense and honestly, you've had a grudge against me since that last thread, and you're just projecting it here.
Look, let me put it this way: when you're an athlete competing, there's no room for tears. When you're defending yourself, there's no room for emotions or crying. At work or in a business meeting, there's no room for tears, weakness, or being overly empathetic. When you're raising a kid, there's no room for crying in front of them... Is that really so hard to wrap your head around?
You can't just label masculinity as inherently bad, and you have zero proof that the world would be better if everyone acted "feminine." And frankly, you know why—even if women express their emotions freely, we all know they can be jealous, spiteful, vengeful, or master manipulators. So, guaranteeing emotional expression doesn't guarantee peace or happiness in the world. Also, people don't go to war just because men feel "manly" or are pumped up on testosterone; it's more about the fundamental inability to accept different opinions or lifestyles. It's easier to judge others and try to grab more power for yourself.
By the way, you're being pretty ridiculous with that example of someone losing loved ones in a short time. Mourning is a personal process—it isn't universal. Everyone goes through it differently, so him being that way doesn't make him a bad person, and you shouldn't be judging him. That's just... not very human of you.
And just to be clear, growing up, I was never into sports, aggression, or acting cold. I've been a pacifist since I can remember—someone who hates weapons and conflict and just tries to understand people's differences. Even so, I don't agree with you (and yes, I watched the documentary twice) no matter how much you want to put me in a specific little box. Nor do I think tears are the only way to show humanity, which I've explained before... because sometimes, when things go wrong, you just have to roll up your sleeves, get to work, give it your all, and grit your teeth. Crying and whining won't solve anything. The movie is garbage because it tries to use empathy to push the idea that masculinity is a bad trait and that men and women should always express every emotion without any masks—which is just a total illusion and a utopia. It's never happened, and it never will...

Are you actually serious?
What am I supposed to do instead? Am I expected to play some kind of superhero parent because crying is somehow... an undesirable human reaction that needs to be suppressed? Is it a sign of weakness? Are we telling kids they should only ever see this sanitized image of courage?

alone, and you know why—because regardless of how much women express their emotions, we all know how they can be jealous, malicious, vengeful, and incredibly skilled manipulators...

Just women? Not men?

People don't go to war because men feel like men and are so pumped up on testosterone that they can't accept anyone else's opinion or way of life, making it easier to judge others and seize more rights for themselves.

It isn't just men fighting wars; women fight them too. And it has absolutely nothing to do with testosterone levels—it's about money. Wars are fought for money. Period. That is the entire philosophy of warfare.

Lisa Rivera said:Everything is fine, actually. He’s moved past being an atheist; now he’s a Viking because apparently, he believes in Thor. It's his choice, naturally. I was fair with him and told him he can believe in whatever he wants—if that's what he feels like doing...☕
If the school tries to mandate religious education in his grade later on, I’ll certainly be requesting that they find someone to instruct him in Old Norse traditions during those same hours. As a member of a religious minority, he should be entitled to his own instruction... unless, of course, I should just sue the public school district for discrimination? 🤣

Fantastic! I mean, those Norse myths really do carry some weight, don't they? 👍

But does your guy even have a clue what atheism actually means? I tried explaining the whole concept to him the other day when he came home claiming he was autistic. Honestly, I was baffled—I had no idea where he was getting this from... so I asked him why on earth he thinks he's on the spectrum 🤷 and he tells me straight to my face that he's autistic simply because he doesn't believe in God. 🤣 Naturally, I had to sit him down and walk him through the actual definitions of atheism versus theism... though I didn't dive too deep into the clinical side of autism. 😬

Lisa Rivera said:My mother mentioned that one of her son's classmates told him today that the devil was going to kick him right in the gut and drag him straight to hell just because he doesn't believe in God. ☕
First grade...
It's funny how Catholics are supposedly known for their boundless tolerance, though I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. By next year, they'll probably be holding a class vote to see if they can burn him at the stake.

And they picked on my son constantly—just relentless bullying starting back in first grade. Eventually, I had to teach him one thing: when those kids corner you again asking why you don't go to Sunday school, or why you don't believe in God, and all that nonsense—don't engage!. All you need to say is, "I don't know anything about that. My mom handles all of that, so you should ask her." Even if they try to insult you by saying your mom doesn't know what she's talking about—do not get sucked into the argument! Just tell them you'll pass the message along and let her deal with it later. End of discussion.

And you think people haven't questioned me? 😁
I was actually invited to their school once to assist with a workshop, and the whole crowd descended on me. "Why don't you let him attend religious studies?" "Why don't you believe in God?" It was endless... basically, I told them exactly what any rational adult would have said in that moment: that we don't all believe the same things and everyone has the right to be different. Basic pedagogy, really.

The bottom line for me is that they don't pick on my son anymore. To be fair, he's a very tough fourth grader now, and he's certainly not an easy target for teasing.

MrBeast, your posts have been removed because engaging in petty online slapping matches and telling other community members they aren't sane is absolutely not the kind of discourse we encourage here at Psychology and Psycho-couch.

If you genuinely believe that certain comments within a thread are inappropriate, please do the right thing and report them using the specific report tool (that little triangle icon located under the user's avatar).

Thanks, 🙂

George Cook said:Yes, at a local psychologist's office.
What does LOM stand for?
I’ll definitely go see the results and treat myself to lunch downtown.🤣
I am quite curious about her findings.

Come on, give me a break... 😁

LOM stands for Family Practitioner—your primary care doctor.