Posts by mistydrifter55

Ever thought about trying minimalism?

Jose Miller3 said:Man, you seriously need to find a different psychiatrist. Like, ASAP. Before this guy gets you off your antipsychotics and leaves you to fight this whole thing on your own right when you actually need the support most.

Seriously. Try to track down someone else tomorrow.

I'm signing off on that—get yourself a new shrink ASAP.
If you feel like they just don't get you, or worse, like they're laughing at what you're going through, find someone else immediately. It’s dangerous to stay with someone like that.

There are medications out there for what you're dealing with; you just need a competent professional to manage them.

Gambling and drinking? That’s a one-way ticket to total disaster.

Be smart and actually deal with the root issue instead of trying to drown it in booze.

Joseph Bailey41 said:Have you tried booting into DOS and typing FORMAT C:?

🤣🤣🤣

feralscout10 said:Thanks for all the input, everyone.
I currently live with my parents, so I help out with things like bills and grocery shopping for the house.
Please don't take this the wrong way—I love them and really don't want any tension or arguments over stuff like this. I'm just trying to figure out a way to handle it so everyone stays happy.🍿

Yeah, that's a tricky one, especially given 🍿

This whole situation is pretty awkward, considering everything you mentioned.
Basically, you're looking at two paths: either you play along, go to church like they raised you to, and eventually find a partner who fits their specific mold (since finding someone else might be an uphill battle), or things go sideways... and according to chaos theory, anything can happen. 😬

And if you actually tell them you aren't seeing anyone seriously and ask for a recommendation, 🙂, they might just have a few ideas up their sleeves.

At the end of the day, they aren't really looking for a wife *for you*—they're looking for a daughter-in-law and grandkids. It’s almost like your own preferences don't even factor into the equation... ☕

The issue is you’re chasing a "goal" instead of having a vision, an idea, or a sense of direction.
When you fixate on one specific outcome and ignore the inevitable turbulence and detours along the way, every little hiccup starts feeling like a brick wall rather than just another problem to solve.
The road to any "goal" isn't some smooth stretch of interstate; it’s more like hacking through a dense, unpredictable jungle.
It all comes down to how flexible and adaptable you can be when things get messy. If you can't roll with the punches, you're going to snap the moment life throws you a curveball.

Oh well, that's just life...

restlessowl25 said:To be honest, my family and I deal with racial discrimination quite frequently. I often find myself noticing these seemingly irrational, senseless attacks directed at my loved ones, all stemming from the prejudiced attitudes of others.

I’ve titled this thread "scent of leather" because I suspect there is a biological component at play; darker skin carries a distinct scent, and perhaps that serves as an unconscious trigger for the hostility my family faces. It seems to be a common denominator behind the unprovoked aggression toward those with darker complexions. My lighter-skinned relatives don't seem to face the same issues, yet my brother's daughter—who has very dark skin—was actually forced to switch classes because the bullying became so relentless.

How does one navigate this reality while maintaining their dignity and civility?

I would appreciate any advice you might have, and thank you in advance for listening. 🙂

😱

Switching classes? Hold on, where on earth are you living? Some tiny town in the Midwest?

At my daughter's school, we have everyone—Black kids, Hispanic kids, kids who are pale as ghosts, and my own girl, who is so dark she gets people's attention.

And nobody bothers anyone. That's something I really value about her school.

Look, our country can be incredibly conservative, overtly nationalistic, and frankly, a bit xenophobic. So, I believe there are definitely parts of the US where the problems you're describing exist.

But what does this topic have to do with a psychoanalysis forum? 🤔

Carl Rivera43 said:I do. She hasn't messaged me in over thirteen hours, which honestly isn't even a big deal. I’m not going to chase her down either. I just don't want to deal with someone who's that clingy.

And there you have it.

Carl Rivera43 said:I honestly don't even bother with her... she doesn't even make an effort to be logical, does she?

Any updates on how things are moving? Like, any texts sent or dates actually happening? 🍿

neonsailor26 said:Joy, thank you so much for such wonderful words 🙂 .

Words like these are truly medicine for the soul, the Heart, and even the prison cell.

Just watch out for that "juice," unless you want a double dose of crap.

neonsailor26 said:Actually, in this specific scenario, she might have to be a bit of a masochist!

See, The Mayor hasn't even decided if he's into her yet...

And once he finally makes up his mind, he'll have to figure out if he can actually handle her style—or if it's too much for him.

If everything checks out there, then we move on to the real test: the ego factor.

If they can get past that 🙏 it’s all smooth sailing from there ☕ .

But I have a feeling that this whole thing (assuming it’s even real!) will fizzle out before it starts—because by the time one of them actually gathers the courage to make a move,
we'll already be halfway to Mars ☕ . And frankly, I don't know a single woman—aside from someone who is a pure masochist at heart—who would wait around for them that long.

Winston, man, this is the first time I’ve totally agreed with you. 🙏

It's so coherent and sharp; it almost feels like Hyde took over your writing. But hey, I’m digging this new approach of yours. 😉

Andrew Barrett4 said:I guess all that's missing is the state asylum 🤣🤣

🤣

neonsailor26 said:Unless, of course, she happens to be a masochist ☕.

Why don't you jump into the thread yourself? Who knows, maybe you'll walk away with something.
Either a prize or a slap in the face...

neonsailor26 said:Unless, of course, she happens to be a masochist ☕.

She doesn't need to be a masochist to play them both.
The way she has them both wrapped around her little finger just shows how much she's enjoying the ride.
Honestly? I bet she’d have no problem getting "playful" with both of them at the same time.

Carl Rivera43 said:Why is that?

What do you mean, why?

Carl Rivera43 said:
Her ego is way too big for that to ever happen.

🤣🤣🤣

I’d bet anything she’s got a bit of a dominant streak. 🤣

She's a free-spirited forty-year-old with plenty of life experience.

Between her ego and those superpowers? She'd probably eat you two both for breakfast. 😬

Carl Rivera43 said:Look, the kid is 17 and living in a different city altogether

🤦

I’ve got a buddy in one of those MILF relationships where the "daughter" actually ended up being more high-maintenance than her own mother at one point. 🤦

Carl Rivera43 said:To be honest, I'm not even that into her. What's the point of hanging out constantly when she just talks about herself, then him, then her daughter? She wants to be with him, but apparently, he won't give her what she's looking for.

She's basically hunting for a third, fourth, or fifth option, but it doesn't look like she's actually ready for anything serious.

Well, who said you had to get into a relationship with her?
Just grab a quick bite, finish your coffee, and get back to texting.☕

Joseph Bailey41 said:Our attention. ☕

🙂 🤣

Carl Rivera43 said:What do I want? Honestly, I just want to find a way to communicate better with her. I get the feeling she isn't nearly as clumsy as she seems over text.

She might be one of those rare women where there is a massive gap between how she texts and how she actually acts in person.

One thing I've noticed is how scattered she can be. Sometimes, it almost feels like I'm talking to three different people at once.

When we're face-to-face, even when she's trying to be serious, she comes off as somewhat funny just because of her rhythm—her voice, her gestures, everything. That same quirky energy carries over to her texting, though it's harder to pin down there. And trust me, I've texted much more awkward girls than her before.

🤦

Man,

Quincy:

She seems to be head over heels, but honestly? It’s kind of ridiculous. Her messages are full of these childish habits that just stand out, even though she acts way more reserved in person. Her friend keeps hot-and-colding her—blocking her one minute and letting her back in the next. And get this: just a few weeks ago, she was bragging about how every guy in town was chasing her. Now, suddenly, she says that's all changed. What happened to all that attention?

So, she’s into your buddy, he’s into her, and suddenly you’re just drifting in like a third wheel? Then, out of nowhere, you realize you’ve actually got feelings for her too. Now you’re stuck in this weird, three-way mental loop trying to figure out the dynamic. It's messy, isn't it? Honestly, the whole situation is just plain awkward.
Two roosters and one hen.
We aren't a community. We're just competitors—predators and prey.
Look, let’s be real: the hound acts like a total coward during mating season. No offense intended, but that's just how it goes. They start putting on this whole act whenever you're all together—it’s just a pattern. It's what they do.
Women need intimacy, and honestly, looking at you two, I can't tell which one of you is more clueless.
And then there’s that phase where you’re just stuck in an endless loop of texting. It drags on and on. The flirting starts to feel forced, almost like an act, even if they still reach out to chat normally every once in a while. What are we even doing here?
But once those hormones kick in and get everyone worked up? Suddenly, you two "tough guys" are wide open, and of course, that’s when the absolute nonsense starts flying.

So, what’s the move? Are you finally going to step up and handle this properly, or are you just going to let your buddy take care of it? Though, let's be honest—is he even actually going to show up?
If you both drag your feet, she’s definitely going to find someone else. Guaranteed.

Either go all in and win that princess over right now, or if you’re just looking to mess around, wait until the three of you are hanging out and suggest a threesome. 🍿.

Carl Rivera43 said:The real problem is I have no clue how to tell her she's totally wrong.

What kind of right are we talking about here? Legal? Ethical?

Look, you're being a pushover with her.
And honestly, the way she acts makes you look like the weak one.
Plus, your friend is totally siding with you guys.

The real question is, what do you actually want to happen?

Carl Rivera43 said:A buddy of hers told her she’s a bit clumsy, though he didn't mean any harm by it... whenever the three of us run into each other, she’s all smiles and high energy, you know? But then when we're just texting back and forth, she can sound kind of down in the dumps sometimes.

Suck, honestly. It feels like I'm listening to a debate between toddlers. 😲

How old did you say they were again? 🤔

🤦

Is she actually crushing on him?

Just set them up on a date already. If they actually go, maybe she'll finally leave you alone.
Honestly, all I see is a girl who’s totally into him but has zero clue how to make a move, so she's using you as her middleman.
Play the matchmaker role a little bit. 😁