Posts by William Nelson7

Human limitation, narcissism, and sheer recklessness.

The mosh pit is where a person can finally let loose their deepest, most suppressed complexes and primal rage... It’s essentially a box full of explosives of varying magnitudes, just waiting for a single spark to set them off... That energy can trigger anyone... I don't know how many of you have been to a heavy rock concert, but once the crowd starts surging, it's intense... Your logic tells you to back away, but that surge of testosterone pushes you right into the thick of it to shake off all that pent-up aggression.

I honestly think kids here in the States aren't nearly as spoiled as those in the West... Our upbringing and schooling systems are actually quite solid.

If you truly love him, you’ll stick by his side through thick and thin. Just make sure you don't let yourself fall into drug use. If you see that he’s actually doing it, you have to walk away from him. If he loves you, he’ll stop.

Seven months, based on my own experience.

Look... if I were giving advice to the gentleman who started this thread, I’d tell him to see a psychiatrist and just get over it. Seriously. You're just imagining things.

That theory mentioned earlier regarding the mother figure actually holds quite a bit of water. Early childhood experiences play a massive role in shaping who we become as adults. It stands to reason that specific fetishes are often just the psychological fallout from something deeply ingrained during those formative years.

Perhaps his point was simply that we all have a breaking point, and everyone carries their own specific fuse length. Some just snap faster than others.

Samuel Miller21 said:I wouldn't be so quick to bet against that, 🤣

In my own experience, I could list plenty of people whose happiness truly brings me genuine joy, and there are quite a few of them—I'm certainly not some kind of total bitch😁... but those individuals are mostly people with whom I can identify within a specific context.
Perhaps I view them as an extension of myself.
Or perhaps I am simply the catalyst for their happiness, which happens to feed my own narcissistic fantasies of being all-powerful.

But if you take a closer look at any friendship... you'll find that friends frequently sabotage one another's happiness, wrapping their interference in a million excuses disguised as "concern."

I believe a person comes closest to the ideal of being a true humanitarian precisely when they realize how difficult it is for them to witness someone else's success.

Think about it: when people are happy, they don't actually need us (unless we are the ones generating that happiness). In moments of joy, people are strong, radiant... so, when you do the math, you have individuals who are powerful, shining, and entirely self-sufficient. Wouldn't that trigger even a tiny flicker of fear or envy in any reasonable person?

The real question is how a person chooses to respond to that feeling. Will they accept it as a natural human emotion, acknowledge it, and move toward a state of tolerance for others' happiness? Or will they suppress it and unconsciously work to bring that person down, claiming things like "it didn't end well," "they've changed," or "they've become too selfish"? 🙂

Believe it or not, there are people who will actually share in your joy. Personally, I'm one of those people—I wasn't always, but I've worked hard at it—and I know a few others who are the same. It all depends on the individual. Some people find fulfillment in another's happiness because they identify with them. Sometimes, seeing someone else succeed makes you think that if it can happen for them, it can happen for you too, and you find yourself genuinely celebrating with them. 🙂 I probably didn't express my thoughts perfectly; sometimes it's difficult to distill a complex opinion into a single post. 🙂

Samuel Miller21 said:👍
That is an absolute truth. It is incredibly difficult for a person to stomach someone else's success, especially when it involves someone they can't quite relate to. I believe one of the hardest hurdles in life is learning how to move past the envy triggered by another person's happiness. 🤷

Well, now we’ve crossed a line. We shouldn't generalize like that. I'm certain at least 40% of people actually feel happy when others succeed. People aren't quite that much of an idiot.

darkhawk30 said:As Shakespeare put it: "New pain will drive out the old."
But he meant your own, not someone else's.
It's that feeling when you're already hurting, then something even worse hits you, and suddenly your previous misery doesn't seem so heavy after all.
When I'm going through a rough patch, I actually try to avoid other people's drama. I prefer to hunt for something that might actually lift my mood, even if it's just catching a glimpse of someone else's joy.
It doesn't always work, but more often than not, it does.

If that's how you operate, you're a genuinely good person.

There isn’t much harm in observing the struggles of others. Sometimes, watching someone else navigate their own mess provides a temporary escape from our own, and frankly, we all need that distraction once in a while. It’s just part of being human. What’s truly pathetic, however, is when we don't even have our own burdens to carry—no reason to seek an escape—yet we still find ourselves peering into the lives of others just to take a certain grim satisfaction in their misfortune.

The absolute worst thing happens when you factor the internet into a relationship. I’ve been there myself—suffering through those senseless outbursts of jealousy because of some ridiculous suspicion I had while staring at an MSN chat window. But once one of us stopped spending so much time online, everything smoothed out. You're dealing with the same thing. These Facebook demons are just fueling your paranoia. It’s perfectly normal for your boyfriend to interact with other women; it shouldn't be worth your tears. I am certain he isn't trying to run a scam on you; he probably just enjoys having someone else to talk to online besides just you. The best cure for this nonsense is to step away from the computer, go for a walk, and actually talk to each other in person. That's how things get fixed. Honestly, you have no reason to be this worked up. It's just the internet, and those people are nothing more than virtual friends.

Andrew Ramos10 said:Heh... people tell me all the time that I’m a total lone wolf
but there are these moments where I can't help but wonder if things could actually be different
most of the time, I just get hit by these sudden waves of crying...
and I’m not even forcing it... I’ll just remember something and the tears start flowing on their own... you know, just rolling down my face and feeling them slide...
I guess I’m just scared of being alone, and scared that maybe there's something not quite right inside my head

Your head is perfectly fine. You're just hungry for a kindred spirit. That person will show up. You're young; there's no rush. Just try not to overthink it or spend all your time waiting for them. They tend to arrive right when you least expect it.

Well, Donna Hill8, you’re sounding like a bit of a misanthrope. That’s a dangerous path to walk. Eventually, you’re going to need a shoulder to lean on, and if you keep this up, you won't find anyone standing there. Try having a little more faith in people. We all stumble, sure, but we aren't all inherently bad.

Donna Hill8 said:Honestly, just cut it out with all this constant complaining about nothing. I guess you guys don't realize how lucky you actually are. If you were truly, deeply SICK—and I mean genuinely struggling—you’d see that despite having endless opportunities laid out before you, you wouldn't even be able to enjoy them because you'd be too broken to function. You're basically paralyzed by it.

In this day and age, people have everything handed to them on a silver platter, yet they don't appreciate a single bit of it. It's like they've lost all sense of purpose and just spiral straight into depression instead.

It isn’t quite as simple as you're making it out to be. Even someone struggling with mental illness experiences both good and bad moments, just like anyone else. Mood swings are a universal part of the human experience; everyone’s disposition shifts based on the unpredictable nature of life, which brings something new—whether positive or negative—to everyone's doorstep every single day.

Michelle Hall64 said:I mean, what would I even do without good friends like you anyway? 🙂

😉

The whole concept of maintaining a "normal" daily routine is actually quite fascinating... Personally, I’ll cut my sleep down to just two hours if I have to get an early start on something. Getting out of bed is always a struggle, but once you're up, everything else tends to fall into place much easier. 😉

Austin Booth2 said:If you ask me, I’d swap day and night in a heartbeat. I just don't function during the daylight hours. I’m constantly irritable, everything gets on my nerves, I feel overheated... But at night? That's when I actually thrive. I'm calm, focused, and finally productive.

If we actually swapped day and night, everything would just feel the same as it does now, just shifted. People would probably end up liking the daytime even more than they like the night.

David Palmer5...1:0 🙂