Posts by Aaron Garcia36

So, where did that clean slate go?

This isn't a gynecological issue, Selim.

If you aren't looking to have a child, just head over to your doctor to get a prescription for the day after; it's a simple process, and staying safe is what matters most.

Well, you clearly stated that your cycles are irregular and that you're running late by about 37 to 41 days, so what you're experiencing right now is actually quite standard given your history.

To be honest, if you're genuinely worried about pregnancy just from finger penetration, it might be wise to hold off on sexual activity for a while; it seems you still have a lot of basic information to learn.

I’m not deleting anything, I’m just moving my posts. You know there’s already a dedicated thread for period talk—if everyone posted their "emergencies" everywhere, this forum would be a total mess.

Regarding what you asked, there is a very high chance your next cycle will arrive right on schedule since you're only on your second one. For the first couple of years, things are usually pretty irregular, especially during those initial six months; some girls might only have two periods in half a year. My daughter is about your age, and it wasn't until a full year after her first period started that things finally stabilized to a predictable 28-day cycle. Before that, it was complete chaos.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend using tampons just yet; you're still quite young.

Michelle Collins60 said:So, if I'm not using hormonal birth control or condoms, what other options are actually out there? (An IUD isn't an option for me since I haven't had kids.) Is being stuck with hormones my only reality here? I would truly appreciate any advice you can share...
Am I really destined to rely on hormones forever?
Any guidance would be such a huge help...
Thanks

Do me a huge favor and check out the main megathread; we don't just have this one discussion, there are a million related threads already floating around.

Thanks

Personally, I don't think there's much for him to "examine," but hey...

Laura Mendoza said:I’ve taken them on numerous occasions, always under the impression that I was protected from day one, but predictably, I haven't conceived once.

It’s not that I don’t trust what you women say, but when I read certain things that would be an absolute "no way" back home, they seem perfectly acceptable here in the States.

I’m moving to Seattle in a week, and I’ve spent so much time reading through threads about gynecologists in the Pacific Northwest that the more I read, the more confused I get. I’m still waiting for someone to actually reply to my question in the 'Gynecologists' thread.
People might think I’m being dense, but there is a massive difference in how gynecological care, medications, and general advice are handled here compared to where I grew up. Having lived abroad for 16 years, I’ve basically had to relearn how people think and give advice.🤷

brightbear said:Nope, you’re good! You’re protected from day one...

I don't want Hermina to think I'm trying to argue, but the discrepancy in this advice is absolutely fascinating. Having lived in both the UK and Ireland, doctors there told me that for certain pills, you aren't protected during the first seven days—or even for the entire first pack. Yet here in America, they claim you're covered starting with the very first pill.

So, what is a woman supposed to make of that?

I’m moving to America soon, and honestly, I’m at a loss. The difference in medical advice and the types of pills available is like night and day. Now, you be the genius and figure out who actually has it right.

Sophia Bishop48 said:So what am I supposed to do? If I stop taking the pill, I have to deal with condoms, and I really don't want to subject myself—or my partner—to that kind of frustration. What do you suggest then? How did you handle it?

It’s pretty common knowledge that most birth control pills cause those side effects, so maybe look into some other forms of contraception.

The way I see it, the effect of the tablet lasts about two to four hours—sort of like a quick caffeine buzz—so based on what you've told me, timing it like that should work fine. Just as if you were taking your next dose at the exact right moment, everything should stay on track.

It’s better to skip the break entirely; if you don't take it, you won't bleed at all during that month, and the issue is solved. Once the egg retrieval is finished and the cycle wraps up, just go back to your standard seven-day break.

I really hope you manage to find someone who can provide the help you need.

To be honest, I haven't heard anything about that, so I have to ask—is this a gynecological issue? I'm asking because this PDF is specifically focused on women's health.

brightbear said:The whole point of these permissions is just to uphold the rules. Look, even my OB-GYN hasn't always made the best calls, but hey, there’s always a second opinion out there.

But seriously, this girl asks a question about the most basic, totally normal spotting, and instead of an answer, she gets some horror story involving HPV, cervical cancer, dried-up ovaries caused by birth control 😕( ?? — honestly, I’ve never heard of that, never read it, never seen anyone mention it, let alone find it in any medical literature )
All that exaggeration is just completely unnecessary. Creating massive drama over a little bit of brown discharge—which, by the way, happens to almost everyone when they first start on the pill. For what?? What is the actual goal here? I truly believe we women should be looking out for one another, not scaring each other half to death with baseless info...

That’s true, but look at it this way: if a woman comes along here describing the exact same symptoms I had—symptoms my OBGYN insisted were perfectly fine and told me I was just being dramatic—I absolutely intend to tell her not to play games. I'll urge her to trust her own gut if she feels something is wrong, because the risks are real.
And don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to terrorize anyone on this forum; I just want to share what happened to me so others don't fall into the same trap when a doctor happens to be completely incompetent.

I highly doubt anyone here wants to cause panic; we're all just trying to offer advice and support. We all blindly put our lives in the hands of so-called "experts," but unfortunately, not everyone earns that level of trust, whether we like to admit it or not.

brightbear said:She just completely ignored everything her gynecologist told her, which is honestly such irresponsible behavior when it comes to your own health. Nowadays, even the birds in the trees are singing "follow your doctor's orders," yet the second someone decides to play rogue and do their own thing, suddenly everyone else is to blame...🙄

p.s. There’s absolutely zero logic in taking breaks from birth control pills.

Look, I actually know two gynecologists—one doctor and one specialist—who caused massive issues for two different women simply because they "blindly" followed medical advice without questioning it. In my opinion, every woman knows her own body and how it reacts; if you don't know your own rhythms, that’s when you need to start paying attention. We instinctively know when something isn't right. For me, trusting that gut feeling was a literal lifesaver; if I hadn't reacted the way I did, I wouldn't be typing here right now—I'd be six feet under. ☕ Against all odds, I decided to ignore my gynecologist's instructions—and honestly, that choice is the only reason I’m still here today.

Melissa Ramirez70 said:And honestly, I find myself feeling quite grateful toward my current gynecologist for everything they've done—really, it’s been such a relief.
At this stage, I'm just holding onto hope that we'll be able to successfully welcome a second little one when the time is right...

It is truly terrifying to see women placing their health into someone's hands with such good intentions and trust, only for that person to gamble with it.

This is a harrowing tale, and honestly, I hope it never happens to anyone else. Despite all the misfortune, everything managed to turn out somewhat okay in the end.

Ronald Allen said:Isn't just being a mod enough of a reason to be considered bad...? 🤔

Reason one: You banned me, but not him.
Reason two: You gave me more points than him—or maybe you just deleted his post.
Reason three: The Reddit admins have it out for me.
Reason four: My Nesquik is dark chocolate, while his has white chocolate mixed in.
Reason five: Your username is black, so I guess your moderator souls are pretty dark too... 🤣 🤣

This part is definitely my favorite. 😉

Nathan Gomez8 said:Ah, so you mean like cramps, I see. 🙂 I’d rather not start sprinting for the gin every time I feel a little discomfort, even if it's just from walking. 🙂

Trust me, this pain is "different." I’ve had my fair share of muscle cramps after intense workouts, so I know exactly what I'm talking about. This isn't something you can just brush off as typical soreness; it was so debilitating that I literally couldn't walk. I found myself gripping the leaves of the plants just to find some relief from the agony.

The doctor was a bit indecisive about my diagnosis—he couldn't decide whether to send me for more testing to confirm if I actually have endometriosis or if we should just "wait and see." Either way, I feel perfectly fine right now, but this whole situation has completely stripped away my options. Because of this episode, I can't take standard birth control pills or even use anything with the same ingredients. My only real choices left are Mirena or Cerazette.