Posts by Henry Lopez13

Ryan Wilson2 said:One could argue that any narrative can be twisted to suit a specific agenda. Is it not possible that the woman was simply the only one possessing enough intellect and a genuine thirst for knowledge to be swayed, while Adam was perfectly content just staring at Eve's naked form? 😁

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Richard Wells said:It feels like lately, everyone’s being force-fed this specific set of "values" that we really need to take a hard look at. We’re seeing arrogance, pure selfishness, cheating, lying, and this obsession with status symbols and materialism everywhere you turn...

In the middle of all that, people who actually believe in anything else end up feeling totally overwhelmed. They get intimidated, shut themselves off, and just stop trusting anyone. Meanwhile, the ones living by those toxic rules don't even grasp what trust means because they don't need it. It just creates this endless, closed loop.

Exactly. You hit the nail right on the head.🤔

Bryan Martinez72 said:I mean, everyone’s got their own weak spots, right? So why does it have to be such a struggle for everyone all the time? 🤷

Look, everyone hits a wall sometimes. But if you actually had a decent role model for how to handle things—or if you just learned to practice some stoicism and fight your own battles—it’s a whole lot easier. 🤔

Austin Vaughn3 said:Exactly. We follow the script because deviating gets you punished. It’s survival. We suppress how we actually feel just to protect ourselves. Can we really blame anyone for that? I don't think so. Being vulnerable is a liability, and people take advantage of that constantly.

Truth. Being vulnerable is hard

casualharbor9 said:So, what? We're supposed to just be hypocrites?

Look, if it's the job you need to put food on the table—and you're living in the States—then you just play along until they stop looking.☕

Michael Diaz6 said:Spot on.
The rebels of yesterday are just the standard today.
By being different and pushing limits, they naturally step up as leaders. It's basically: "I'm doing my own thing; follow me if you want to fly with the flock."
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You've got the architects and the workers...
You need both to keep the system running.
The architects break away from the status quo, using their actions to show everyone else the way.

That’s fine, but you’ve got to respect the limits of the "weaker" ones who realistically can't "fly" at that level. Not everyone was built to be an alpha. As for fighting vs. giving in—that's always just a judgment call on when to hold your ground and when to back off.🤣

Kevin Nguyen3 said:🤣

But you know how it goes—people act all interested in helping until things get heavy, then they suddenly find an excuse to bail.
Dealing with any kind of disorder isn't a game... you're either fully in it or you aren't. Period.

So many people claim they're "ready" to step up, only to change their minds once they realize it's for someone else's actual "well-being."

Just ask anyone living with BPD... one minute they adore you, and the next, they've vanished into thin air.

And how does that feel for the person who's actually suffering? Honestly, screw that.
If we don't know how to help, it's better to just step aside beforehand. Believe it or not, that's a form of help too.

So, would it have been any better if he hadn't answered the psychiatrist's call to come over after hours?

Such a heartbreaking situation—honestly, at least you’ll get to spend today by his side. And look, he absolutely has to stick to the prescribed meds; doctors don't just hand those out for fun. Just be upfront with the doctor about what's going on with your dad and the rest of the family too—keep it real. Let me know how it goes.

Why do you think she’s being irresponsible? Michael Morgan5 mentioned the psychiatrist knows he’s been hospitalized twice already with zero improvement—and since he doesn't have any real support from his immediate family, she reached out to a friend so they could talk things through together. In my book, having solid support during therapy is everything. That’s why the doctor called the friend. To me, a real friend is someone who actually stands by you during the rough patches, not just when things are easy. I don't know about your definition, though.
Michael Morgan5, look, you've heard a few different takes here, but at the end of the day, the call is yours. If it isn't totally wrecking your work-life balance or messing with your business, just go see the doctor on Monday and lay all the cards on the table. Tell her the truth. And honestly? If this whole mess is weighing too heavily on you, tell the guy's father to keep a closer eye on his son. It might be for the best.

Chris Robinson25 said:Just tell her you guys grab some BBQ here and there, but you've kept your distance and never really got into any of those "deep" conversations.

Yeah, say that right in front of them both. Then, when you get a moment alone, tell her the truth and let the doctor know you're worried—you have to handle stuff like this delicately. Honestly, modern society does absolutely nothing to help people struggling with mental health.

Jerry Ramos90 said:But why just Americans? I mean, that whole label of being superficial applies to the entire West.
I don't really get it. How would some German be any more intense than an American? 🤷

Do you guys honestly think someone can actually get deep if they're constantly smirking while they talk? 🤷

Look, in my experience, girls who spend all their time just smiling and playing nice tend to be pretty superficial—maybe even a bit dim. A better way to put it? They’re immature or just plain flighty. 🤷 Life isn't some shallow joke—some situations demand a sharp, firm stance. Sure, you need criticism sometimes, and yeah, a little laughter or lighthearted teasing can work in certain moments, but not all the time. There’s a line. You can't just be out there acting like a clown when you're talking to partners or clients at work. It’s unprofessional. Period.☕
When it comes to Germans—they’ve always struck me as cold. Like they're totally lacking any real temperament—but I'll give them this: you can't beat that discipline and their sheer commitment to the grind. 😉 I’ve got plenty of reasons to be fed up with Americans—but honestly, I’m just too exhausted to sit here and write a whole damn manifesto about it.

Sean Cruz said:Right. They certainly used that legendary politeness to tear apart Iraq and every other country they decide is worth looting. And let’s not forget how "overly polite" they are at Guantanamo. Bravo.

Exactly. Honestly, if anyone actually likes the USA and their whole way of thinking—or acting—they should just pack up and head to the States. Be happy there since you clearly don't belong here.

Nancy Morris5 said:Don't even sweat her. Bullies and thugs usually end up getting exactly what's coming to them eventually.☕

Signed.

I’m actually into this topic—the first post really hit home for me.😢

Andrew Doyle said:🙂

The reality is that grief lasts significantly longer than what people used to believe. For a long time, if anything dragged on past a year, it was labeled as pathological, but modern psychological findings tell a completely different story. That being said, I would strongly suggest finding a specialist to walk you through this process properly. 🙂

Edit: I see now that you mentioned you're already seeing a psychiatrist. That’s a good step, and I truly hope they are a good fit for you. Just a word of caution, though—when we are talking about pure grief and mourning, medication isn't typically the primary solution unless the situation reaches a point where it becomes absolutely necessary. In standard medical practice, it is not common to prescribe antidepressants specifically to treat the state of mourning itself.

That’s actually the first time I’ve read that being sad for more than a year isn't considered "pathological." I've lost three close family members over the last four years—and when you factor in massive life changes and constant stress, there's no way I'm "over it" in a single year. People can say whatever they want, but let's face it: life is a lot harder to navigate today than it used to be. You have to deal with things in real-time.

Look at this kid go...

I dig it... I finally felt the actual weight and meaning behind this quote 🙂

vividsailor7 said:Let me jump in here for a second.
Microcytic anemia just means your erythrocytes are smaller than average—you’ll see it in the MCV—because you're low on iron.
Creatinine looks fine, and everything else seems normal too.
Basically, I’d suggest getting your Fe, UIBC, and ferritin checked.

Should I be worried about this? My iron levels have always been low—though I haven't had them checked recently—and when I was a little girl, I was constantly taking stuff like Heferol to make up for it. As soon as I stop, the results tank again.

wiredcanyon2 said:Looking at this, I wouldn't say the underlying condition is what's getting worse. What’s your creatinine looking like? Your hemoglobin is low—you've got microcytic anemia. That could be linked to menstrual cycles (heavier flow). As for those tiny deviations in your differential blood count, they're negligible. You probably missed part of the results (erythrocytes, total leukocyte count, iron, TIBC, ferritin)—if you have those, it would be great to see them. When you're asking questions, just write everything out, even if the results look normal. 🙂

I rushed to work this morning so I only wrote down the ones with notes on the side... So:
leukocyte high ref interval 0 3.7 (3.4-9.7)
erythrocyte 4.3 (3.86-5.08)
platelets 251 (158-424)
eosinophils 2.2 (0.0-7.0)
basophils 0.3 (0-1)
I don't have iron, TIBC, or ferritin on my report at all. Creatinine is 9.46 (6.8-12.4) and creatinine clearance is 1.15 (1.3-2.1). Does that mean I actually have microcytic anemia? For the last 10 years, my hemoglobin has always been lower than the reference range, even though I don't have heavy bleeding... thanks 🙂

Just doing my routine blood work—I've got an SLE diagnosis, 23 years old—and I'm wondering if these deviations from the normal range mean things are getting worse or what:
hemoglobin 103 (119-157)
hematocrit 0.32 (0.356-0.47)
MCV 76 (83-97.2)
MCH 24 (27.4-33.9)
MCHC 319 (320-345)
RDW 15.6 (9-15)
neutrophils 41.3 (45-72)
lymphocytes 45.5 (19-45)
monocytes 10.8 (3-10)
Sed rate is within normal limits. Honestly, I'm tired of it always jumping around—usually just my hemoglobin is low while everything else stays fine, so these other numbers have me a bit worried..
Thanks in advance!