I honestly don't have a single good thing to say about Walmart. It’s just an absolute headache at every single turn, seriously, it drives me insane! The reality is they hand out vouchers instead of actual paychecks, which is just pathetic because you can't exactly use those to cover your electric bill or rent.
Looking around through the threads here, I noticed that people used to get silenced whenever they tried to talk about John Gutfreund or any of those other big shots. So, I'm wondering, are they going to shut this thread down too?
Once you start spiraling down those rabbit holes about whether life actually means anything, it’s way too easy to slide into some pretty dark mental territory. No matter how we choose to live our lives, let’s face it—we’re just tiny little specks drifting through the cosmos, totally insignificant. That’s just the cold, hard truth. Everything we reach for—it all carries meaning, and yet, it’s all completely meaningless at the same time.
I honestly think it’s vital to have actual STANCES on everything, or at least most things. You need those foundations to stand on. And then, of course, there are the GOALS you set for yourself. When we finally kick the bucket, the only thing we really leave behind is the stories people tell about us. Basically, just whatever memories others hold onto.
electrichound94, if I'm being real, you're still just a kid. You seriously need to hit the books more, just so you can theoretically build up some perspectives and actually give yourself some goals to chase. Don't sweat it too much, though; we all go through this weird phase at some point.
Amanda Hughes5 said:But look, it’s not as easy as just deciding not to "pick up" the bad stuff. 🤷 Unfortunately, some of his behaviors definitely pushed me toward my own "dark side." 😢 Just the other day, my wife pointed out that I’m pulling the exact same moves on her that my dad pulled on me my entire life. 😢 (We're talking about that constant psychological pressure—the kind I've dealt with in every single area of my life since I was a kid.) To be totally real with you... I’m fully aware of it. I know exactly how I *shouldn't* be acting. I’ve been grinding to fix this for years, but man, it is hard. A few months back, I decided to start seeing a therapist (well, that's my own take on it anyway), and I think things are actually heading in a better direction. I am genuinely trying here... I just pray that my beautiful little princess 😍 doesn't grow up to view older people the way I view them, and more importantly, I hope I never end up doing anything to her—even subconsciously—that my dad did to me. Sometimes I'll snap or react in the moment, and then a split second later it hits me like a ton of bricks how I acted, but by then the damage is done... 😢 I'm working on minimizing those moments or cutting them out entirely (and no, I'm not hitting the kid, let's not get ahead of ourselves 🙄).
See, this is what breaking through boundaries and actually doing the work to know yourself looks like. Respect.
Being self-aware, realizing you can't act like a drill sergeant all the time, and actually putting in the effort to change.
If you keep this up, I'm telling you, your little girl isn't going to have any issues with you.
Honey, you seriously need to be proud of yourself for getting back on your feet after being sidelined for two whole years!!! That right there is the first real proof of how much grit you actually have and just how much you want to live, don't you think? Those kids in your class are basically toddlers compared to you, honestly, you could probably babysit them if you wanted to.
You’ve gotta forgive yourself, because none of this is your fault. It's not your fault that you started first grade at nine years old. And girl, it is absolutely not your fault that your home life is the way it is. They are who they are, and honestly, stop letting it eat at you—just focus on yourself. You have to be the most important person in your own life and let everyone else think whatever nonsense they want.
If you feel like you've got nobody to turn to, just go ahead and make an appointment with a school counselor or someone at your local community health center to help you work on your self-esteem and your sense of worth. There is no way you are worthless or stupid, and you were definitely NOT BORN TO FAIL!!!
jadehawk9 said:Forgiveness isn't actually about them—it’s about you. It's about protecting your own peace of mind. Honestly, why waste any more energy worrying about what that other person thinks or does? You just forgive, let it go, and suddenly life feels a whole lot lighter..
Forgive? Yeah. Forget? Not happening. It’s actually way easier to just forgive someone else. From where I'm sitting, everyone has every right to think whatever they want and say whatever garbage comes to their minds, and honestly, it's on me to decide if I'm gonna let any of that crap hurt my feelings or not.
Just remember what Jesus said: God, forgive them, because they don't know what they're doing. And that's that. Case closed.
"Honesty is the opening chapter in the book of wisdom," said Thomas Jefferson. Honestly, you gotta have some serious guts to actually be an honest person.
Brenda Cooper3 said:Personally, I feel that dishonesty is one of the core things corrupting our world...
Man, I am right there with you on that one.
If you ask me, truth and being real with people are basically two sides of the same coin anyway. It isn't just that living like that is an uphill battle—especially in the US today where everyone's playing a character—it's that there's actually a massive responsibility involved in just telling the truth and owning who you are.
Ronald Garcia5 said:Oh, they definitely exist! I just put on that little indie band from Brooklyn. There’s one track where she sings about love and happiness. Yes, actual happiness!
Mind you, there is one song about a lost bunny, but I think I'll skip that one.
Well, good for you. Those kids are honestly something else. Listening to them instantly puts me in a better mood.
Personally, I’d much rather blast something with a heavy beat or some grand opera than sit through ballads. That stuff is clearly for the heartbroken, the depressed, or people just wallowing in nostalgia...
If you really want to feel something, go listen to some classic soul or blues—perfect for anyone who loves to belt it out. Singing just vents all that stress, you know? It actually helps.
Rebecca Scott3 said:.....the world doesn't bend to suit our every need.....but.... ...the idea that someone specifically wants to cause you harm..... not many people are truly conscious of the impact of their actions. A shopkeeper isn't ripping you off because they have a personal vendetta against you; it's just because they want to maximize their profit margins... and they aren't really thinking about what it means to take that much from everyone else. And sure, we all judge people, but that doesn't mean everyone falls into two camps of "people we trust" and "people we hate." ...for me, I generally choose to believe people, and I don't see that as being naive... it's actually the only healthy way to live. But once I realize someone has a habit of lying or being deceptive, I stay clear of them. It's like how you wouldn't give a small child a set of power tools or let them run wild with sharp kitchen knives—you just take precautions based on what you know.
And there it is, that's the whole thing right there. It really just comes down to having a little bit of common sense and good intentions.
Ronald Garcia5 said:That’s nonsense, and frankly, your attitude just shows how much you distrust people.
I don't hate anyone. I just think they're too dim-witted to be worth hating.
I am totally with you on this one.
I mean, what is even the point of hating someone? What's the actual purpose behind having this massive, desperate urge to just tear someone else down?
A true believer doesn't hold onto hate because they're being forced to by their faith, it's because they actually listen and try to live by the Ten Commandments. They actually follow what Jesus was teaching us.
Even a dog will run away if you hit it, and if you push it too far, it’s going to fight back just to protect itself. That isn't hatred, it's just basic instinct—everyone's just trying to survive out here.
I hate to say it, but it's just a fact that people who carry around all that hate and go out of their way to hurt others are pretty much stunted in their own personal growth. If you aren't stopping to ask yourself why you're doing what you're doing... then what's even the point of living?
silentpilot6 said:I don't have any need for hate, nor do I harbor any animosity toward anyone. Some people I like, some I feel nothing for, and while there are those I don't particularly care for, I never go beyond that. Hatred has a tendency to erode and destroy the very person who holds it. Hate—especially when it's irrational—is purely political, superficial, foolish, and frankly, infantile.
Regarding Simona Gotovac... why would I hate her? I just don't feel that way about her. 😬 Or hating people from Chicago just because I'm a New Yorker 😵... that's just silly and shallow.
👍 Hate is one of those bottom-tier human emotions. Out of all the mammals out there, humans are the only ones obsessed with it. A true believer doesn't carry hate. An educated person doesn't carry hate either. The more you actually learn, the wider your perspective gets, leading to more tolerance and actual understanding. But the person who hates the least is the one who's actually putting in the work to know themselves, trying to stay objective, and constantly checking their own bullshit.
Hannah White2 said:Honestly, that’s just how you’re wired—a guy who actually gives a damn about his own headspace and uses his brain is always going to struggle when a partner has a messy history. Subconsciously, you're doing the math, right? You realize that if things go south down the road, you can't exactly bank on that person being loyal. Don't just bury those feelings, though—even if it means calling it quits—because you don't want to be sitting there kicking yourself later...
Sorry, but I am totally lost here. Are we saying a woman isn't allowed to have a life before she marries? What does what happened years ago have to do with trust today?
The wilder the past, the more stable the present and future of the relationship—basically the marriage—actually ends up being.
How are you even supposed to live with someone without knowing anything about who they really are?
I'm telling you, if he doesn't deal with this jealousy right now, he's never going to have a solid marriage, even if his wife is a literal saint.
But seriously, Zelda, were you like, Daddy's little princess or something? You seem way too high-maintenance, just bouncing around everywhere like you own the place. Total spoiled brat vibes, honestly. Maybe your old man was one of those "cool guys" who thought he was all that?
I just don't get why women think being "cool" actually makes them better in bed? And besides, who even qualifies as a "cool guy" anyway?
I honestly don't get how someone can be in a relationship for ages and still have absolutely no clue who their partner actually is. I mean, you're supposed to lay it all out there in those first few months, just both of you being totally open. It’s just common sense, really, so you don't end up in some weird situation later where one person is throwing "but you said..." in the other's face.
And let's be real, jealousy and being super possessive always go hand in hand, which is just straight-up toxic. If you actually care about someone, you've gotta talk about the heavy stuff as much as you need to until you get past it. The sooner you deal with it, the better.
Man, how are you even letting yourself spiral into a depression over something that's already done and dusted? Like, there was nothing you could do to change what happened, right?
Even if you decide to call it quits and break up, that jealousy and possessiveness isn't just going to vanish. You seriously need to go find some professional help or something.