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Drew Young10 said:We’re looking at consultations and counseling sessions spanning at least a decade here.
Initially, he fought against even stepping foot in a hospital... later, it was a mix of family pressure and—more importantly—the looming threat of losing his job—which eventually led him to take medical leave to undergo treatment.
As for rehab centers—I suspect there isn't any coercion involved there—it’s entirely voluntary. People have to make the choice themselves... decide they actually want to spend a few years there.

He’s been going to counseling and meetings for ten years? 😲
Then the issue is quite clearly the fact that he simply refuses to quit drinking.
Drew Young10 said:How does it sound to you if I say "hours upon hours" instead of just years and years?
The man has been drinking for twenty years now.
Has the alcohol truly clouded his judgment to the point where he’s beyond help?
He lost what little pride he had left when his own son had to carry his dead weight—drunk as a lord—into the car and then to the hospital... can things actually get any lower than that?
And what about rehab?

I used the phrase "months upon months," referring specifically to those endless cycles of conversations and counseling sessions.
There is a massive distinction between talking to someone for twenty hours about their struggle and talking to them for two hundred hours.
BIG DIFFERENCE!
Yes, alcohol wreaks havoc on the mind, not just the liver... 😉
Looking at everything you wrote and asked—whether things can get lower... yes, they certainly can.
People like him don't seem to possess much pride, at least not in any meaningful sense.
As for rehab centers, I couldn't say.
Would he even be willing to check into one?
Drew Young10 said:We've had endless consultations and discussions—hours upon hours of them.
The real issue, though, is that he hasn't actually said, "I'm done—I am never drinking again."

Hours and hours?
Give me "months and months," and then we can talk... 😁
Do you honestly think someone just snaps out of addiction overnight?

If he hasn't explicitly said it, then forget about it until he does—assuming he ever does.
But if he’s checked himself into a rehab facility—and let's be real, most people just run from those places like they're the plague—then who knows? Maybe he actually wants to get better, rather than just trying to save face and avoid admitting defeat.
🙄
Drew Young10 said:He’s 41.
"If you want to talk shop in the hospital, just go—nobody's stopping you, and if you don't want to stay, you're free to leave." 😕 I honestly think they've given him far too much rope here...
For the first few days, he was on an IV drip—presumably to help his body clear out the physical dependency—but now, everything has been handed back to him... he's left to his own devices to decide how to proceed, and knowing him, he'll end up right back where he started, which frankly makes me nervous.

If his extended family doesn't step up and actually try to support a member like this—instead of just dumping him at the hospital and walking away—there's a 95% chance he'll slide right back into old habits.
The fact that he’s in the hospital and being granted all this autonomy is simply the reality of the situation.
From their perspective, he isn't some high-risk patient... they don't see him as a danger to the community or whatever else...
Ultimately, the burden lies with him and his family.
Family and social circles have a massive impact on a person, even though people tend to overlook that or refuse to believe it...
Of course it’s curable.
But honestly, that depends entirely on him.
You can give him all the pep talks in the world, make endless promises, or offer endless advice... but none of it matters when there's a 7-Eleven right around the corner, driven by profit, isn't there?

If you don't mind me asking, how old is he?
My mom (and Bare too) have quite a bit of blues in their collection.
Honestly, I can't think of anyone else from the mainstream American music scene...
The only thing is, you might stumble upon similar vibes at certain clubs. Some of them...
Dealing with depression in Health ·
I’d actually thought about starting a thread specifically for depression—right around the same time I kicked off the one about anxiety—but for some reason, I just didn't get around to it... I'm not entirely sure why...

Regarding the anxiety side of things... everything seems relatively fine. I'm writing, I'm talking, I'm functioning within society...
But what about this wretched, sickening depression?

Shouldn't a psychologist be the remedy for this area as well?

I'm losing my mind... 😢
What are you listening to? in Music ·
Macy said:MAGA supporters? Honestly, I have to wonder if people have actually lost their minds...

I mean, we were just watching that crowd at Starbucks yesterday—you know, where all the "elites" flock to on a Saturday night 😁
What can you even say... those poor kids... 🙂
Gum addiction help? in Health ·
Honestly, my jaw aches just reading this... 😢
I really need to break this down a bit more 😬

Sorry for the interruption, I've gotta run... 🙂
Gum addiction help? in Health ·
Doesn't your jaw ache from constantly chewing through all those different types of gum?
Honestly, I could barely finish my bacon today, let alone deal with the endless snacking on gum... 😁
BTW, I had no idea you were actually addicted to it. 😛
Dealing with depression in Health ·
Carol Roberts77 said:You didn't quite get my point—it’s not even about finding a girl right now. It’s more about this sense of isolation... the feeling that I can't even figure out how things work. I mean, if you haven't been anywhere near a serious relationship by the age of 22, when exactly is it supposed to happen?

Staying cooped up at home, posting on forums, and wallowing in self-pity... well, obviously you're going to be alone.
Just get out there. Go anywhere.
Take a class, join a club, find some hobby, some activity, blah blah blah... there's plenty of stuff out there—you just have to pick something you actually enjoy and something you're capable of doing.

Don't dwell too much on what "didn't happen during those 22 years"... it's honestly a pointless exercise...
Dealing with depression in Health ·
Carol Roberts77 said:Look, strictly speaking, I don't need a therapist—what I actually need is to find a girlfriend. I know, I know, I sounded cliché there, but I need someone... and the only way a psychologist can help me with that is by prescribing pills so I can just numb the pain. Talking isn't going to cut it; they have to actually make me feel better through some sort of action.

Then there's the other option: if a psychologist can help me accept the fact that I'll never have a girlfriend, well... then I just don't want to live at all.

So, you "need" a girlfriend?
Hold on a second. You’re basically saying you want to find "someone" to pull you out of your depression?
What even is this? Are you looking for a miracle cure or a musical wish?
I mean, sorry for the cynicism, but this line of reasoning is incredibly flawed...
"I need to find a partner, because I refuse to help myself."
First of all, psychologists don't just hand out pills—that's not how it works.
And second, those pills likely won't make you feel any better in the long run.
I won't dwell too much on the rest of it, though... it's clear you've drifted quite far into a few delusions.
You're already trying to resign yourself to things you can't control.
How do you even know what the future holds? Do you have some kind of crystal ball tucked away somewhere?
If you do, please, share the secret with the rest of us... we'd love to see what's coming. 😉
Dealing with depression in Health ·
Carol Roberts77 said:Look, all of this stems from one single reality—I am alone.
And honestly, a psychologist isn't going to do a damn thing to change that...

The truth is, I don't actually *want* to accept being solo. This constant ache regarding women and everything else... maybe that’s the only thing keeping me from sliding into a total depressive spiral.
Last year, I couldn't even bring myself to step foot outside because the sheer weight of worrying about my future was paralyzing. At least this way, I'm still looking ahead, even if nothing else is working out.

The "why" doesn't really matter right now—what matters is that you're looking for help.
But let's be real: do you actually *want* the help?
And what is this idea that a therapist can't assist you?
If that's your stance, then fine—figure it out on your own. Capiche?
If you genuinely care about your future, you aren't just going to sit around the house being aware of your problems. You'll actually try to fix them.
Unless, of course, you won't...😕
Dealing with depression in Health ·
Carol Roberts77 said:Well, this is just how everything feels to me... if you can even put it that way.

Alright, so we’ve finally settled the whole "what's wrong with you" mystery.
Now we move on to the actual next step—solving the problem itself.
Do you have any idea what needs to happen?
It’s pretty straightforward: go see your primary care physician and ask for a referral to a psychologist. That’s your starting point.
If any of this is confusing, just ask... I'll walk you through it. 🙂
Dealing with depression in Health ·
(source: www.healthyliving.com)

What exactly is depression?

Depression isn't just "being sad"—it’s a mood disorder that hits both the body and the mind simultaneously. The easiest way to recognize it is through its core symptoms:

A nearly universal symptom is an absence of joy—or at least a significant drop in how much someone enjoys activities they used to love compared to before the illness set in.
This includes a sense of sadness or grief that isn't necessarily tied to a recent loss... patients often report feeling more "empty" than actually sad, or perhaps a confusing mix of both. Then there's the lack of drive—losing interest in hobbies and everything that once brought fulfillment—along with anxiety, which often manifests as a constant, nagging fear that something terrible is about to happen. Sleep patterns shift too, usually presenting as insomnia or waking up far too early, though in younger people, you might see the opposite—sleeping excessively. There are also those dark, intrusive thoughts regarding illness, self-harm, or death... difficulty making even simple decisions, low energy levels, quick fatigue, and a crushing sense of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness.
Physical issues are quite common as well—headaches, dizziness, lightheadedness, or chronic pain.
Irritability...
An inability to relax...
Significant weight loss or gain...

The causes behind depression

Sometimes, depression is hereditary and runs in families—particularly with bipolar types. Even in other forms, we often find that an ancestor was known for being "high-strung" or struggled with various mental health issues.
While anyone can fall victim to depression, certain temperaments may be more vulnerable—those who are naturally highly emotional, anxious, struggle with low self-esteem, or find it particularly difficult to handle injustice and criticism.
Chronic stress can actually rewire the brain's structure and function; many cases of depression can be traced back to the cumulative damage caused by prolonged stress. A person's physical constitution plays a role here too—it essentially determines how much weight their nervous system can carry before it finally snaps.

Theories regarding the causes range from viral triggers to psychological factors, which suggests we still don't have the full picture.
However, our understanding grows every day—just as we moved from studying basic synapses to understanding membranes, nuclei, and dendrites. It won't be long before we can write about the causes of depression with much more certainty.

Diagnosis and treatment

In many ways, diagnosing depression shouldn't be that difficult. You simply ask if the person feels sad, fearful, listless, or if they can still laugh heartily. This is why it’s frankly baffling that two-thirds of depression cases go undiagnosed, untreated, misdiagnosed, or insufficiently treated.
And even when a mental health issue is identified, it's often handled poorly—people are frequently handed sedatives or neuroleptics that offer nothing more than short-term relief. Depression is treated with antidepressants!!! Sedatives and neuroleptics should only be used when there is a specific, justified reason to do so.
It is futile to expect depression to just "pass" on its own—that rarely happens. And it is equally useless to think you can overcome it through sheer willpower or "positive thinking." The very tools needed to fight it—willpower and optimism—are precisely what the patient has lost, leaving them powerless to reclaim them. Well-meaning but amateurish advice usually does more harm than good; it only fuels feelings of guilt and reinforces the idea that no one truly understands what they are going through.
Deep understanding is the absolute starting point for effective treatment. You need a certain level of empathy to grasp an illness that is invisible and cannot be measured by numbers alone.
For those who struggle to conceptualize this, you might compare depression to diabetes. In the first case, serotonin levels are low; in the second, it's insulin. It’s a massive simplification, but it's enough to illustrate a chemical imbalance in the body—something a person cannot simply "will" away.

That is why psychiatrists exist—they know far more about depression than what is covered in this brief overview. They have access to modern antidepressants that have made treatment more successful, straightforward, and safer than in years past.
Beyond medication, however, a patient needs a piece of themselves given back to them—through understanding, compassion, and genuine belief in their recovery.

I hope this helps you out. 🙂
Book recommendations? in Movies ·
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http://www.sveznadar.com/pretrazi2.php
How to drop 3 lbs fast? in Health ·
Arthur Barnes said:Seriously, how much have you been snacking since your days at MIT? You’re claiming you need to drop 3 pounds?

And now we're talking 10kg?

Aahhaha.... that's a good one... 😁 😁 😁
How to get rid of hairy back? in Health ·
shadowgardener12 said:But actually, no... 😁 😁
Now I'm starting to get a little worried myself... 😲 😁

Pointless. 😉
How to get rid of hairy back? in Health ·
shadowgardener12 said:I haven't exactly run into a girl who would consider waxing her back... yet.😱
😁

Join the club.
How to get rid of hairy back? in Health ·
shadowgardener12 said:Are you speaking from personal experience here? 😲 😁

I mean, what's your take on why women's bodies are kept so smooth...🙂
🙄 🙂