Posts by Sandra Parker3

I gave this a shot just to see how it works, which is why I mentioned 😉
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It feels a bit disconnected, almost like a notification letting you know something arrived, though I can't quite put my finger on it. Honestly, the best part for me is being able to actually read the content... though now I’m second-guessing myself 🤔.... do you actually have to unblock someone from your "ignore" list just to view their message, or not? 🤷
Basically, the message hits your inbox and then you decide if it's worth your time
. I assume it functions pretty much like those posts from people on your block list, but I haven't really bothered to dig into that side of things 😛
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vividfalcon14 said:There’s just no way to be sure about that.

I guess

vividfalcon14 said:because if you send a DM to someone who has you on their block list, they aren't actually going to receive it.🙂

They will, they'll still get it, it just looks a bit different in their inbox...

and then they can decide whether they want to read it or not, and you'll have no clue.😛

The only thing I don't get is what they mean by "follow message."😕

Spices?

Over at the GSNA grocery store, they have them pre-packaged in bags, but only the large ones

And honestly, they aren't like the real deal you used to get—not like in your photo. They feel totally bland and super cheap. It’s such a massive disappointment. 😁

I mean, I think I've seen the genuine stuff somewhere else, but I can't quite remember where.

Maybe check the kiosks at the local gas station to see if you can find them there.😉

Joshua Carter97 said:The issue is that people—specifically those who actually have my best interests at heart 😁—keep insisting that this is just how things work in every workplace and telling me I should just look it up online. But honestly, how am I even supposed to go about doing that?

well, if you ask me... after enough time passes and you gain some actual experience, you kind of realize that the more people roll their eyes at you, the sooner you'll end up Googling it yourself.
see, in a weird way, you should probably be thankful 😉
though obviously, you first have to realize that their behavior is what's actually molding you into a "mature adult"... I mean, someone a little less sensitive than you are right now
something like that 🙂

Joshua Carter97 said:But what’s actually wrong with that? Why does it get under your skin so much? I know I tend to over-apologize—I'm fully aware of it—but I just feel terrible whenever someone gets angry with me. Wouldn't you consider the possibility that the person actually has good intentions?
Sometimes my own behavior reminds me of a stray dog looking for a home, only to get kicked away instead. I have this nagging feeling that being defensive just triggers aggression in others, though I can never quite wrap my head around why.
I just don't feel strong enough to stand my ground and show some teeth.

because it's just the easiest way for them to feel superior.😉

Joshua Carter97 said:For me, it’s things like eye-rolling, for example. What I mean is, I can tell myself that a person is an idiot and choose to ignore them, but it still stings... it's the same with words. I have the option to yell at someone, pick a fight, cry, or whatever else—or I can just swallow it (suppress it, meaning acting like nothing happened) until I'm ready to deal with it.
Some people don't even notice an eye-roll because it doesn't affect them.
Personally, I don't think it's fair for you to dismiss my struggle as "drama," because it isn't drama to me if I'm the one feeling the impact.

What kind of consequences? I don't see you mentioning any actual fallout, other than the fact that you're feeling bad.
Whether it's nice or not, I'm just saying what most people would think; show me these "consequences" and let's see...
It bothers me, it hurts me, but it passes, just like everything else.
The only real issue I see here is that you mentioned somewhere that you try to make everyone like you.
You aren't going to pull that off, obviously.

So, instead of getting defensive, just take a second to think about how many people actually dislike you when you roll your eyes... is there anyone? If there isn't... then you have a problem.
If there is, just accept it and realize you won't be everyone's favorite person and some people might actually hate you.
And another thing, people are incredibly fickle... and their feelings—especially those casual connections like coworkers you mentioned—are so fleeting. Everything changes so fast that people who don't like you today might change their minds tomorrow (and vice versa), so why get so upset 😁 over an eye roll today when things could be totally different tomorrow without you even knowing what caused the shift?
Maybe.

Joshua Carter97 said:I have no idea how anyone manages to stay indifferent... I can try to swallow my feelings and suppress them like I do, but the end result is just feeling like I'm going to pop like popcorn... I haven't exactly developed "thick skin" yet.

I suspect it isn't even about hatred, but rather that they just find me unlikable and I get under their skin as a person... and you know how people act when they just can't stand someone...

And what exactly are you suppressing? I don't follow... there's nothing unnatural about it.
Do you actually like everyone you encounter? Do you genuinely enjoy every single person you're forced to deal with—whether you want to or not, since we don't always get a choice?
It's just like how you don't feel the same way about everyone; there's a huge spectrum, so it's not like everyone needs to adore or love you, so why all the drama? Just be yourself, I really don't see the issue here.🤷

Well, if you had absolutely no one standing by your side... that would be a different story, but this...🙄

Joshua Carter97 said:I just came across a book titled "Do You Want to Be Loved?"... and according to the blurb, being likable is essentially the bedrock of success. It supposedly offers strategies on how to ramp up that appeal, claiming that charisma isn't just a nice bonus—it's vital, practical, and likely the deciding factor in any competitive arena. I haven't actually read it yet, so I'm just quoting the description here.

Is that even possible? 😕

The deciding factor?
Of course. It’s useful to be "liked" by the majority or the key decision-makers when making a choice. Not necessarily everyone. Yes, being likable is incredibly practical. I have no idea what wisdom they've packed into that book, but there's a limit to how much you can crank up that "likability" before you start looking desperate.😁
You can't please every single taste out there...

Alexander Lopez11 said:I’ve been thinking about reaching out to a doctor lately, though I have to admit, the whole idea feels a bit daunting. I guess I worry that they might think I'm actually crazy, which isn't the case at all; it's just that I feel completely stuck and I'm not quite sure how to find my way out of this situation. 😢

Just go get some help and take it. I don't know what anyone else told you, but...
... you don't need to worry about being labeled crazy; it's not like you're married to Pukanić.😉

Amanda Morris3 said:When it comes to applying for surgical specialties—like general surgery, OB/GYN, ENT, or orthopedics—men tend to get the upper hand.

Ever wonder why that is?

Take the ENT department at the Sisterhood of Mercy, for instance; all five female specialists there are currently out on leave for various reasons. This ends up costing the hospital money and naturally makes the patient waiting lists much longer.

A high-level surgical career can be really tough to balance with motherhood and raising kids, mainly because if you step away from the operating table for a year, it takes quite a while to get your rhythm back. That makes pregnancy feel somewhat incompatible with that kind of path—though there are always exceptions, like Sunny, who was back in the OR just a month after giving birth, mostly because her husband stepped up as the primary caregiver and stayed home to handle everything.

What specific skill set are you even linking this to?

Management skills, leadership, fine motor skills, hand-eye coordination, or maybe just coordinating between husband and wife🤷

and so on...

silentpilot6 said:Why is multitasking such a struggle for some people? For instance, I can 😁 drink my coffee, smoke, and record tracks all at once 😬

Jokes aside, I find myself doing it constantly at work—taking calls while drafting emails... Good grief, Lestat, maybe I’m just built differently 😕

Sure, you can, but the real question is how.
It’s not about how much you have; it’s about how good it actually is. 😁
Honestly, in most cases, women just handle that stuff better.

It’s because they have better connectivity between the left and right hemispheres.

I actually went ahead and sent Andrew Reed11 the link for a dog that needs a home, since it’s pretty obvious he’s got a soft spot for animals—whether it's those bears causing trouble over the border or this little pup from that old news story.

Well, here it is, the link:

Andrew Taylor24 said:So, we got this book in the mail that nobody actually ordered. Naturally, we opened the package since we had no clue what was inside. Now, of course, there's an invoice for the book tucked right in there. I called them to figure out how to handle it, and the woman on the phone basically told me that since people often forget they placed orders, they just send stuff to everyone "just in case." Then she suggested I pack everything back up and ship it back to them... I don't get why I'm supposed to waste my time and pay for shipping on something they sent by mistake. Is this just some shady tactic to see if people will pay up, or am I seriously expected to mail it back if I don't want the book? It sounds ridiculous...

Since when does anyone ship things out "just in case" like that?

(Barnes & Noble? Yeah, right)

I couldn't really get my point across last night because the forum was acting up again, but honestly, Norris hit the nail on the head.
I’m especially glad she brought up professional ethics—you're supposed to actually work at your job, not suffocate everyone with messy relationship drama and TMI personal details.

I just have one more thing to add. To the people here claiming they're victims of workplace bullying: by what right? You pick and choose who you play the victim with, but the moment you run into someone doing the exact same thing to you, suddenly you're being harassed? I truly hope none of you ever have to experience that, but take my word for it: this isn't what you think it is.

(I have friends from various old jobs that I've stayed close with, but I have NEVER, and I mean never, shared private business in front of others. There's a time and place for that—grab a coffee after hours, go out for pizza... something. If you have this desperate need to vent or confide in someone, do it somewhere else. It's always your choice who you trust, and as adults, you should be able to judge that pretty well. And if you mess up? Well, just don't do it at the office.)

@ professoricarx, honestly, you talk way too much for my taste. I don't think I could sit through five minutes of you rambling about your private life, let alone try to repeat it to someone else or use it against you. First things first: learn when to shut up and be mindful of what’s actually appropriate to discuss before you start making sweeping generalizations about workplace bonding and all that. Consider this some friendly advice—I just can't stand chatterboxes. There is nothing worse than someone dumping their personal business on me out of nowhere when I didn't ask and certainly didn't signal that I wanted to "bond" like that 😉

Bradley Nelson2 said:Every single time I click the forum icon. For instance, if I’m over in the Chicago sub and want to jump over to the New York section, I’ll hit the forum icon to get back to the home page first. Instead of just taking me there, it keeps throwing a "thank you for your report" message at me. No idea why this started happening out of nowhere, but does anyone know if there's a way to kill this pop-up?

There’s a direct link right down there at the bottom right, though I'm not sure if that's actually any better 🙂

mistymarlin6 said:I'm not entirely sure how the process works... I was just throwing out an example. Is there some kind of actual agency or institution we can file a complaint with?

It doesn't matter, I don't know either, I was honestly just trying to point out that even if you wanted to complain, there isn't really anyone to go against here, so the whole thing feels pretty pointless to me.😉

mistymarlin6 said:The state is blatantly violating the Constitution here. Look, the Constitution is the Constitution—even a chimpanzee couldn't just rewrite that on a whim. You’ve got to appeal to the EU or some other higher authority if you want actual recourse. And regarding this whole nonsense about not being allowed to leave the blinds up or keep windows closed... what about people with asthma? We need regular ventilation in our living spaces just to avoid a massive attack. I know firsthand because I deal with it myself. There should be a way to take this to a human rights court—I can't quite recall the exact name of the institution right now. Anyway, is anyone actually heading down to Times Square for that protest?

Yeah, right—by complaining to the same people who give a thumbs up to those chimpanzee outbursts.

Even Clinton gathered crowds at Times Square twice. 🤷

Morgan Bishop4 said:hmmm... I mean, it’s totally typical for guys to get obsessed with their cars... honestly, I don't think I'll ever truly get it... men just seem way more materialistic in general than women... I mean... if my apartment burned down, obviously I'd be gutted that all my stuff and memories were gone—okay, memories can be a bit abstract, but you know... like old photos... but at the end of the day, I'd be just freaking thrilled to still be alive... you really shouldn't get too hung up on material things... I love my computer and I've loved every single one of my bikes and my sneakers and my clothes... but whatever... if I trip and rip my jeans... there's no point in crying over them... sure, those pants might have been part of some great moments, like wearing them when I was feeling awesome and stuff... but still...
just thank God you're still breathing and that your parents are okay, man... would you really be happy if you died along with your car just so you could run into it somewhere in heaven and take it for a spin???

That’s exactly the thing—it’s about those beautiful moments we breathed into the fabric😁

Nobody actually mourns a pair of jeans, a pair of shoes, or a car... they're mourning a piece of themselves. It feels like when you toss material stuff, you're also tossing everything woven into it—the memories, the thoughts, the feelings, the space, the time, the smells, the whole vibe of an era. It's totally irrational because all of that lives inside us anyway, but that's why our attics are overflowing with junk. We get all sentimental when we stumble upon some old relic.
I can see certain "objects" in my mind right now that defined specific chapters of my life. I didn't keep them as souvenirs; people say it's not healthy to get too attached to things, at least not too much. You have to clear out space for new experiences 🙄 Even if, deep down, something still lingers 🤔

Look, I don't know... it feels like some kind of state of emergency where all the usual rules just stop applying, or at least that's what the people in charge seem to think.
Honestly, it makes me want to throw up my lunch... but I guess there's no other way this plays out, whether it's him or someone else, it's still 🤷

Quincy:

I don't even know where to start with this nonsense, honestly. It’s just one thing after another lately, isn't it? says: I'm wondering how much it is. That's unconstitutional. So they actually want to ban people living along the route from opening their windows or lifting their blinds just because a chimpanzee is passing through? Unbelievable.

silentdriver5 said:Casey Palmer5 said all that perfectly... 🙂 👍

Rather than starting an entirely new thread, I thought I’d pose this here: given that the administration seems intent on trampling over the Freedom of Assembly Act—is there actually any institution with the teeth to hold them accountable? Is there anything akin to that in Europe, if not right here at home?...

Since when have the Constitution and all those other laws started applying to a chimpanzee?

Honestly, I’m actually with you on this one—it’s probably smarter to keep him tucked away. If someone decides to take a shot right here... man, what a mess. It'd be a nightmare to have people staring through their windows while they're just trying to catch their flights.