Posts by Edward Green

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Good on you, you didn't act all high and mighty 😁

They say babies show up whenever they feel like it, not on our damn schedule. 🙂

Could you seriously not leave those wannabe moms alone? 😁

Angela Kelly11 said:Look, I know because I've been dealing with this crap for almost two years now.

And you're sitting there on the internet acting like you know it's true, when it's clearly not something you can just fix with some tweezers and a DIY kit in your garage. 😁

wanderinghound62 said:😢😢😢 So what tests do I actually need if I decide to go on the pill (or whatever else)? Is all this stuff really unavoidable and necessary?😕 Did any of you ladies actually do them?

Liver panels, coagulation tests, and maybe a CBC, I can't quite remember.

Morgan Lopez10 said:They won't affect pregnancy, but people always wonder why you need to take a break for a few months before trying to conceive.

Probably because of folic acid, if you weren't already taking extra supplements while on the pill.

Ashley Harris said:When I talked to my Ginac about birth control, the first thing she asked was if I wanted more kids. I said no, and then she just went: "In that case, I can easily give you Yasmin."

I guess every doctor who prescribes oral contraceptives to young women is just irresponsible scum sabotaging Dr. Anthony Baković.😕

So, we’re actually reaching the point where a woman ends up losing about 1.33 teaspoons of volume total. In a single week.

Oh, well, isn't that just wonderful. I guess I must have several uteri then. 🙂

Sophia White74 said:How else am I supposed to explain this so those idiots can actually get it???

Don't you dare present this. 😁 Look, if it’s true that a woman only loses a teaspoon of blood in a week, how the hell does someone end up with a massive stain on their sheets overnight? Make it make sense.

So, everything that comes out during a period is just blood? Really? Then we should all be heading to the ER for a transfusion every single month after all that lost blood. Give me a break.

Are you kidding me? That isn't even blood from the bloodstream, for Christ's sake! 😁 It’s not like you have internal bleeding that just spills out on its own. 😁

What did you even just say? A teaspoon of blood, and only a third was left? Seriously?

Sophia White74 said:Just so you know, during a typical week-long period, a woman loses about a teaspoon of actual blood. The rest is just mucus, uterine lining, and vaginal cells.

I seriously can't believe someone actually sat there and presented this like it was some groundbreaking fact. 🙏

So, how bad is this headache? My first thought is definitely a migraine.

Sarah James7 said:"So I wasn't allowed to go straight to the baby because I came out of the dark??!!??!!??"

Communism? 😢

driftingstag8 said:A friend of mine, who’s a physical therapist by trade, actually told me you shouldn't even touch your hair with water for at least three weeks after giving birth. Seriously?☕

Forty days. Forty damn days. It’s not just about hair—it’s everything. I can’t even look at myself in the mirror, let alone my kid. I won't even open the windows. I'm not setting foot outside this house if I can help it.

Just you wait.

I don't know what's wrong with your uterus, but I definitely know what's wrong with your brain.🙂

What day of the cycle are we on?

Since this was sent directly to me, I don't think it carries any weight. 😳

A pet shop? 😁

casualwolf12 said:Regarding that second case... if my memory serves me correctly, they actually released those details to the public, specifically noting that the girl was a virgin.

Which sensation is more corrosive: the weight of being wrongfully accused, or the crushing realization that you’ve stripped away your own dignity through your own hand? One is an injustice inflicted upon you; the other is a self-inflicted wound. Which one truly leaves a deeper scar?

They would certainly find something to criticize, wouldn't they? If only they had the courage to actually step up to the plate.
I fail to grasp the precise objective you are attempting to achieve here. What exactly is your point? 🤷

It seems to me that a significant number of people suffer from this persistent delusion where they view the Church and its clergy as the primary antagonists of the nation. They seem to seize upon every single opportunity to interpret every word uttered by religious figures in the most vitriolic light possible. It is quite telling, really. As soon as those statements from the priest and the father were released to the public, the conversation underwent an immediate and predictable shift. Suddenly, the focus pivoted from "look at what happened to this poor girl" to "look at what these backward priests have said." Is it not fascinating how quickly the collective attention shifts from the victim to the perceived transgressors?
To be perfectly honest, I don't see what else they could have expected from him. When a person is navigating the immediate aftermath of a funeral, can we truly expect them to provide any semblance of rational commentary? It’s almost an absurdity to demand logic in such a moment. From my perspective, those remarks were nothing more than the most basic, reflexive attempts to find some silver lining—the typical "it could have been worse" sentiment that people cling to when they are reeling.

If I may draw a parallel to yet another recent tragedy where the participants were immediately branded as heroes... I find it quite fascinating how all the self-appointed moral guardians were absolutely revolted by the media's lack of decency when they released those images of charred firefighters and the statements from families devastated by the catastrophe. Yet, in this particular instance, everyone seems equally outraged by the remarks made by the priest and the father, while the ethics and sensitivity of the media go entirely unexamined—even though they were just as eager to solicit statements during what was, for the family, an incredibly harrowing moment.

Honestly, dragging family members down for a comment right after they find out someone died? That's just disgusting. Period.

But we're talking about a priest's statement here. Nobody chased him down for a quote—he spoke up on his own initiative at the funeral.

casualowl1 said:But hey, she stood her ground. To me, that’s a choice. There could've been other ways it ended, but whatever.

As for that initial question, I'm not totally sure, but I feel like the answer might lie in the whole "martyrdom" aspect, especially since we're talking about a priest.

It’s about choosing whether to fight for yourself or not—it's not a choice between death and being raped!

pušimalboro said:Same goes for this girl's family. Someone needs to back them up and affirm that she wasn't just fighting for nothing, that she left with her dignity intact.

You can do that by talking to them privately. Not at a funeral, and definitely not by letting the news outlets broadcast it.

mistybison said:Look, I don't think the priest meant anything bad by it. In fact, he probably

didn't mean a damn thing. 😁

mistybison said:even if it's really just about one specific type of violence, whether we're talking about sexual assault or a slap in the face—it's all the same.

If that were true, then forcing someone to perform oral sex shouldn't be treated as any worse than forcing someone to go buy you a pack of Marlboros. And a slap should carry a heavier sentence than sexual assault. By that logic, child masturbation wouldn't even be a crime because there's no physical pain involved, just pleasure. Even prostitution would be on par with light manual labor. Honestly? That sounds absolutely insane to me.

restlessridge36 said:unknown,
Your message to women is fundamentally flawed and serves only to embolden attackers and rapists.
According to your logic, an attacked woman should simply submit and allow herself to be violated by anyone using force,
just because
she might otherwise face a bullet or a blow that could kill her?

How can anyone—including yourself—possibly argue that she was merely defending her hymen?

In the heat of an attack, a person reacts unknown, just as they react when fighting for their life. One does not selectively choose to protect an ear, an eye, or a kidney over a hymen.

We cannot predict how we would react in such a situation, nor can we teach anyone else to do so, because instinct operates independently of reason.

Instinctive actions stem from the amygdala, the brain's "shortcut" center,
rather than through the conscious, deliberative pathways we use when we aren't in immediate danger.

Even if an attacked individual managed to compose themselves and choose submission over resistance,
who is to guarantee they would be left alive?
An attacker knows that afterward comes trial, social condemnation, prison, or perhaps a bullet—a swift and entirely just 😉 act of retribution from the victim, her brothers, or her father.

No one here is suggesting that survivors do not deserve respect; rather, we are stating that being violated destroys one's self-respect.
That is a massive distinction.
The victim loses her sense of self-worth. She is blamed. Despised. Judged mentally;
told things like she should have fought harder, run sooner, been more cautious, trained in martial arts, built more muscle, stayed indoors, or avoided being out at noon.

She is left feeling pathetic and weak.

Look, when someone tries to rape a woman, she usually isn't even given the choice between being assaulted or being murdered. Unless there's a knife to her throat, we aren't playing some twisted video game where this "choice" the local preacher keeps rambling about actually exists.

And even if it did exist (which it doesn't, so talking about whether she "should" fight back is pointless), why are we at a funeral for a girl who wasn't even raped, but was brutally murdered, instead of a) even talking about the actual issue, or b) promoting this myth that choosing death over rape is heroic? Wouldn't it be better to talk about fighting back, like that girl last week who stopped an attempted assault and managed to escape the guy's car? (They knew each other, too).

In the heat of an attack, people react instinctively. It's the same way they react when they are FIGHTING FOR THEIR LIVES. They aren't picking and choosing between an ear, an eye, or a kidney—so why would they care about their hymen?

Exactly (read my second sentence in this post). And I highly doubt she was sitting there pondering her unfulfilled dreams, her "purity," or her dignity, like that preacher implies in his statement. Not to mention, according to him, she was defending her dignity and honor rather than her life. Like she decided that was worth more. Personally, I think that's nonsense... but hey, the preacher knew the victim and claims to know what her ideals were. Claims she was ready to die for them. Bullshit.

If an attacked person actually managed to pull themselves together and chose "surrender" over resistance,
who's to guarantee they'd be left alive!?

I literally wrote that in my last post. 🙂 Sorry if you struggle with basic reading comprehension. 🙂

johhny_park said:Again, I'm saying the priest could have phrased it better, but if he was just trying to comfort people, then fine.

The priest said something stupid, plain and simple, so from that angle, it's not okay. If the outcome is positive (the family feels comforted), maybe you can argue it's fine. But if some girl reads this in the news or hears it at the funeral and decides to kill herself, is that still okay? Turning a brutal murder into a myth about how heroic it is to choose death over losing "honor, dignity, and dreams"—which is just code for rape—is DANGEROUS.

casualowl1 said:Some people spend their entire lives trying and still fail. That’s on you.

If someone kidnapped you, forced you into sex work, and sold you as a slave—forcing you into drugs, abortions, or even those horrific hymen surgeries—would you really say you haven't lost your dignity and honor? Just because it was someone else pulling the strings?
Maybe you wouldn't "lose" it, but it would be violently stripped away from you. It's exactly what that guy was attempting to do to her.

His statement implies that you have to fight back.
Your take implies that it's better to just give in the moment someone looks at you wrong. At least you stay alive that way. That's a pathetic way to live.

Also, the statement strongly emphasizes that dignity and honor depend entirely on a person's own actions. And she chose to fight for herself. She fought for her dignity, her honor, her human rights, and ultimately, her life.

He's saying we should fight against assault.
You're implying we shouldn't resist because if we fail, we might lose our lives.

There is immense honor in dying while fighting for your ideals, for freedom, and for your basic human dignity. But what do you actually know about honor and respect? You seem to think they're just handed to you by God and don't need to be earned or fought for.

And the saddest part is that you're ignoring the fact that the man who said this knew her personally and understood her values, whereas you don't have a clue.

Were you actually there? I get the feeling she was just attacked and defending herself, rather than fighting for some grand human rights
cause. 🙄

He's implying you have to fight against sexual assault.
You're implying people shouldn't resist assault because they might fail and lose their lives in the process.

No, look, in most situations where someone tries to assault you, it isn't exactly a choice between two evils—like choosing between being raped or being murdered.

If it were like that, I’d totally support a woman's right to choose life. 🙂
But life isn't some weird video game where things work the way you're describing them.

Sure, you can argue that people should fight back against assault—you could point to that girl who tossed a predator out of her car last week—but saying that at someone's funeral... I just don't get it.

It is incredibly honorable to die fighting for ideals, for freedom, and for one's own human dignity.

I believe that. 🙂 But we aren't talking about dying for an ideal here; we're talking about a brutal murder.

What do you even know about honor and respect?

Nothing. 😉

And the saddest part is that you're ignoring the fact that the person who said this knew her personally and understood her ideals, whereas you haven't got a clue.

Does a priest know his parishioners' ideals? Fine, if you say so. 🙂

Chloe Smith11
I think the statement was clumsy, but its main purpose was to encourage the family and send a message to other women not to back down.

And what kind of message does that send to rape survivors? How exactly do you think a woman should feel—stripped of her "honor," her dignity, and her unfulfilled dreams—while we glorify this manufactured myth about a girl sacrificing her entire life at the altar of virginity, choosing death over losing her hymen?

2. Showing a woman fighting back against a rapist isn't meant to be heroic because she was murdered; it's meant to empower or support women in abusive situations to fight for themselves.

So, her role model should be a dead 21-year-old? I (maybe? obviously 😁) don't have any honor or dignity left, but if someone pointed a gun at my head, I’d still be singing some nursery rhyme. Personally, I think recovering from assault is easier than recovering from your own murder.😬

The priest's attempt to offer comfort clearly worked for the father, and that's what matters most.

If some survivor who didn't "defend her honor" jumped off a church steeple, would that still be okay? This guy said this in a public forum, not in a private conversation.

Jose Miller3 said:My initial question was: what puts her in the ranks of the great women of our era?

In these tough times, when traditional values are being pushed aside by reckless consumers of all kinds of pleasures—including physical ones—she gave her life rather than lose her hymen? The priest is an idiot.🤷

As for dignity, here's the definition:
the state of being worthy of honour or respect

Do rape survivors stop being worthy of respect?😕

DEBELKURAC said:The real damage from denying women sexual agency shows up in the trauma of survivors. The attacker is just a fraction of the evil here. Most of the psychological torture comes from the moralists, the judgment from everyone around them, and then the victim blaming themselves. Even when it’s forced on them against their will, they're treated like they "willingly" slept with someone. They carry this massive weight of guilt. It's devastating.

It feels like all this talk about a survivor's "honor" boils down to one thing: if a woman doesn't have the right to sex, she's a slut. If she's forced, she isn't quite a slut anymore, but people still won't view her as an honorable woman.

Disgusting, slimy, backwards mindset. 🤮

I feel sick for these women. On top of the assault itself, they have to deal with a society that judges them—a society that honestly thinks they'd be better off dead than having "lost their dignity."