Yes, and honestly, that’s easier said than done. But once you finally manage to grant yourself that forgiveness and decide to move forward with your life... that's really all there is to it. 🙂
copperpanther27 said:Haha, I think my dad used to run an exhibition with a title just like that once :P
At the end of the day, people just behave the way they were conditioned to behave... mostly following whatever scripts society drilled into them from the moment they were born.
Precisely. Just look at men. They refuse to shed a tear, yet once you manage to reach their core and actually talk to them about anything meaningful, you realize how much they're hurting... that underneath it all, they’re really just fragile little things. 🙂 🙂
"As long as there is love, there is forgiveness." That’s how I see it—though I should clarify that this applies when you're actually in love, which is a much higher state of being than just liking someone. Naturally, when you're head over heels, you tend to swallow your pride and endure things you shouldn't... and you'll likely keep doing so until you eventually hit that wall of total indifference. Only then can you truly turn the page on your romantic life. 😳 ☕
analogridge69 said:I feel like this whole thread is a bit poorly structured from the jump. The question itself doesn't quite hit the mark. And honestly, saying people "give in to pressure" feels like a stretch—I’d say certain people do, but certainly not everyone. It seems to me that those who fold are usually just being superficial. So, I guess the title should really be "why do *some* people give in," rather than implying it's a universal human trait. I know plenty of folks personally who don't budge under pressure, and they are definitely people. Since the premise feels a little flawed, there isn't much point in offering a real answer beyond the fact that it's mostly superficial types who cave. Like I said before.
South America, back in the 18th century. You have two massive colonial powers, Spain and Portugal, locked in a struggle for dominance over the Native Americans. Their imperialist drive makes them see nothing but opportunities for slave trading and stripping the land of its natural resources, while on the other hand, Jesuit missionaries are trying to establish their own religion and culture. Mendoza (Robert De Niro) carries the soul of a conqueror within him, but after he kills his younger brother Philip in a fit of passion over a woman, he flees to a mission. There, he is taken in by Father Gabriel (Jeremy Irons), hoping that through service to the mission, he might somehow atone for his sins and find redemption for his crime. Over time, however, Mendoza begins to recognize the inherent beauty in the Native American way of life; he accepts them, eventually becoming a defender of their rights. The missionaries dream of a society where converted Native Americans live in harmony with the Spaniards and the Portuguese, but the colonial leaders view such a possibility as a threat. They demand total subjugation and move to dismantle the mission entirely...
He ends up settling for "bad moves" simply because he lacks the actual capacity to pull off what he truly desires. He just doesn't have the nerve for it. When I say "bad moves," I mean the things he doesn't actually want right now, even if they sound like the responsible thing to do. Decisions he fundamentally doesn't want to make in the moment.
I think it’s quite common for a person to constantly weigh their own desires against how society expects them to behave in certain situations.
There is this fear of seeking out real solutions because... well, if everyone who made the same choice I’m considering ended up failing miserably, then it feels safer not to make that mistake. It’s an error that’s visible from a mile away, yet the urge to commit it still lingers. It ultimately comes down to a lack of courage and inner strength.
Trying to live up to everyone else's expectations—whether it’s coming from your parents, your professors, or your friends—is an exhausting uphill battle. You can never satisfy everyone, but then again... Why even bother trying??? It seems to me that most people just set the bar far too high for others. They expect you to follow a specific script, a single version of what "socially acceptable" looks like. But is that actually what we want for ourselves? I highly doubt it. At some point, you're inevitably going to fall short of someone else's standards. And honestly? You don't have to meet them. Your mistakes belong to you alone. They aren't the failures of your parents, your friends, or your acquaintances... You are the one who pays the price for your own errors. Ultimately, it's your own mistakes that hurt the most, not the judgment of those around you. People tend to be far too quick to judge, often lacking any real empathy for the struggles others face. That's just the way life works. 😳 ☕
I would be more than happy to get together sometime toward the end of July... I'm around for a bit now, and then I'll be heading out to the coast for a week or two. 😳 ☕
Larry Robinson4 said:Personally, I’ve never had much patience for people who lack mental sharpness. To me, that sense of "confusion" and "innocence" you mentioned feels a lot more like a lack of intelligence. It brings to mind that old saying: "you are the company you keep," and honestly, if that's the vibe, things aren't going to turn out well.