Patrick Johnson8 said:Don't get ahead of yourself. Look, I’m good. I’m not going to cheat you, steal from you, or lie to you—unless we're playing something like Call of Duty and things get intense. Then I’ll turn into that Hobbit from Lord of the Rings and start screaming "my precious" twenty times in a row. 😲
In other words, you're out of questions.
Maybe try something like... "Hey. You look incredible. Heading to the Metallica show?" Or whatever works, depending on what they're actually into.
Why do people always ask those mindless, pointless questions that serve absolutely no purpose?
It’s the same every time. Honestly, being asked how college is going makes me want to gag. Even when I’m absolutely crushing my classes, that question is just nauseating. Why? Because there's no winning. If I say, "Man, things are going great," I feel like an arrogant jerk who's just bragging about passing every exam. I don't like starting conversations that way. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth. But if I say, "Exams are killing me," then people just give me that patronizing pity, saying stuff like, "Hang in there, it'll get better." Either way, I already know exactly how the conversation is going to end. It's totally predictable, and honestly, it's just a terrible way to start a chat.
So, my boyfriend and I were out running errands the other day when he ran into an old friend of his who works at a local Target. We ended up chatting for a bit. About five minutes in, she asks me how college is going. I just gave her the usual: "Oh, you know, hanging in there... trying to find the motivation to actually study. The usual struggle." Then she hits me with this: "See? I didn't go to college. I just work at Target." Or something like that. That was the vibe.
Now I feel like an idiot just for bringing this up. Look, it’s not that I’m judging people based on what they do or who they are—that's not my style. It’s more that, honestly, some women probably just make up these scenarios in their heads. It's a general thing, really, whether you're talking about college students or established professionals like us. But in reality? It's just not true. 🙏
For fuck's sake... stop asking me those damn questions about college!
It’s not that they aren't there. 😁
When I first started college... my aunt was basically screaming from the rooftops about how "my little girl is going to university! She's doing this and she's doing that!"
And I’m just sitting there, watching everyone's faces. People are working so hard to act polite and sweet, but inside? They're thinking exactly what any normal person would: "I couldn't care less what she enrolled in. Just leave me alone. Why does this matter?"
Isn't that just how it is? 😁
you really do have a massive issue with college questions 😕🤣
well, first I ask a friend how things are going... and then we talk, and I say something, and she says something... and once we're actually vibing, naturally I'll ask how school is or how love life is... because, well, I care... that's what socializing is, when she tells me what's happening in her world and I tell her what's happening in mine 🤷 I don't see what the big deal is
and if someone is struggling with school, I won't just say—'it'll get better' or some other dumb phrase.. instead, I'd ask what the struggle is and if I can offer any advice or help (like if she's studying the same thing as me and needs some study guides or something)... or if she mentions a professor is being a hardass, we can just bond over complaining about them.. I truly don't get why people think you should avoid talking about college? it's just a topic like any other..
I'm not going to ask people I know if they're going to a concert, because they've obviously already told me, and I'm not asking strangers because I have no clue what kind of music they listen to..
I mean, college is just basic small talk... just like football, makeup 🙄, politics, the weather, romance, health.. I don't see the problem..
The only thing I hate is when someone tries to dig into my specific grades 🤷 like... seriously, this is university, not high school. you don't ask what my GPA is, you ask if I'm passing. that's the kind of question that gets under my skin..
and then, to top it all off, they start bragging about their cousin who's studying political science and getting straight A's.🙄
ugh... I honestly can't stand it when people start interrogating me about my looks. Like, they'll be all up in my business asking what kind of shampoo I use because they "noticed" my hair looks greasy, or flaky, or way too dry...
Or it’s always—are you using some specific skincare routine? Because you really should be...
Or even worse—did you lose weight? Or next time—did you gain weight? And then the follow-up—wait, did you get bigger again? It’s just constant... and I’m just sitting there being the exact same person every single time... uh... I just really hate all those questions about how I look... brrrr...