Posts by Rebecca Scott3

...my parents were always swamped with work....
...Physical discipline was just part of the deal back then, used by both teachers and parents alike.....
...and they had this way of talking to me whenever I’d say I was going to do something..."Oh, you think you can actually pull that off?"....Man, that used to get under my skin so much.
...but still......I always knew deep down that my folks loved me...and that they accepted me for exactly who I am.....they almost looked at me with a bit of awe...not because I was some kind of prodigy, but simply because I was their kid...a little stubborn, a restless adventurer, a total firebrand.......
...and honestly.....knowing that they loved me (even if they never actually said the words out loud) was what gave me the strength to push through when things got rough.....even during those times when they didn't really get me at all.
...The fact that I could pick a fight with them and they’d stay perfectly calm, just giving me a gentle warning that I was crossing the line...that gave me the courage to stand up against everything I felt was wrong.....without being terrified of authority figures.

....At the end of the day, it's the big picture that matters—the overall vibe we get from our parents and family—rather than any single specific thing they do. We're all human, and we all mess up sometimes.
...The one thing they won't forgive you for is if you don't love them.....or if you aren't there for them when life gets heavy.
....And obviously, abuse doesn't count as a "mistake." That's straight-up criminal behavior.

....it isn't just about having the willpower, though... you also need to actually put in the work and study.......plus, you really need the right environment to make it happen (both physically and socially).....

Matthew Castillo5 said:Then why am I still anemic if we all have those damn nettles running through our veins and they're supposedly loaded with iron? Or are those selfish little weeds just hoarding all that iron for themselves instead of letting a tiny bit trickle into my bloodstream? 🤷

It honestly feels like some kind of underground syndicate is just intercepting all the good stuff they produce... total mafia vibes. Honestly, you might want to go talk to a therapist about it. They're trained professionals who actually know how to navigate this kind of stuff and what to say to get things sorted out.

...I’d say stick to the spinach, honestly. It can be a bit tricky to prepare sometimes, but you really need it—it gives you that extra boost of strength. Plus, it's loaded with iron, which is huge right now, especially since you've been dealing with that health issue lately. But hey, things are going to get better, I promise.
...As for those leeches... try upping your garlic intake. If you can manage a clove or two with every meal, they’ll eventually clear out.

...And one last thing... maybe go see a therapist to deal with all those people talking behind your back. A good pro knows exactly how to handle them—they can figure out how to flip the script so those people actually end up working in your favor instead of against you.🙂

Stop fighting against yourself... and start fighting for yourself... for love...

...look, I’m all for sex and I’m totally against violence....but when it comes to sex, I don't care how it goes down, as long as it stays within those bounds...
..... but why does it always seem to work the other way around? why is there so much violence? ...I mean, who would actually lead wars or fuel that kind of hatred? who would want to keep people trapped in these endless conflicts against others—the very people being exploited at every single level?
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It all stems from this mindset where women are treated like objects... or even just property...
...I mean, think about how things used to be. You couldn't even catch a glimpse of an ankle, let alone a knee. Even hair was treated like this forbidden subject of sexual fantasy, so women would cover it up with scarves. It’s similar to what you see with certain traditional religious groups or conservative communities here in the States—they still follow those old-school customs today. But then, the social role of women started shifting, and they began shedding those layers of fabric...
...As for breastfeeding, that's for nourishing my kids. I’ve done it in public whenever my baby needed it, and honestly, I don't lose any sleep over what strangers might think...

Then there's the whole plastic surgery thing, which is a whole different conversation. It’s what happens when the natural purpose of breasts is cast aside, and instead, they become artificial just to fit into this new mold... the mold of being a sexual object...

It feels more like alienation than liberation. Instead of truly finding freedom, women end up becoming objects that they themselves try to reshape, all because of the pressure from the society around them...

...I’m curious, how many of you have actually been convinced that certain behaviors are strictly "masculine" or "feminine"? Just my two cents...div>>>

...first off, calling women going through menopause "old ladies" is just plain rude......in our culture, that’s basically a slur for any woman who isn't in her absolute prime anymore......
....secondly.... it’s just not true that every woman in menopause is obnoxious or constantly picking fights on internet forums.....
... it’s really no different than saying all Americans are aggressive bullies....or something along those lines.....which is vague, totally unfair, and just wrong......

Lawrence Lopez12 said:So, here's the deal... This woman spent years being physically and mentally broken down by her husband. We're talking regular violence—bruises, beatings, the whole ugly spectrum. She eventually got divorced, obviously. Her daughter reached out to me afterward, and honestly, the girl is incredible; she managed to grow up into a totally stable, successful adult despite everything. But the kicker? Her brothers didn't lift a finger. Not once did they react to what was happening to their sister. And I’m not just talking about her brothers, either—I mean the uncles of the person I was talking to. What am I supposed to make of people like that? Were they just "minding their own business," or were they just petty and jealous of her? Or maybe they just didn't want to rock the boat? To me, it feels like they were just spineless cowards who stayed silent and, by doing nothing, basically gave him the green light to keep going.

Context matters here... when did this happen? Where?
...if we assume the person telling you this is roughly 20 to 25 years old... then the mother would be somewhere in her 40s or 50s now...
Back then, maybe 20 or 25 years ago, finding a job wasn't exactly a walk in the park. Welfare was tiny, often barely enough to put food on the table... so the idea of a woman trying to raise two or three kids entirely on her own was incredibly slim, if not impossible... there was no safety net... especially if you were stuck in a years-long legal battle through the court system...

As for the brothers... hmm... I don't know... but back in that era, most men felt that if a wife argued with them, it was perfectly fine to slap her just to shut her down and show who was boss..."Man's word is final," right?
...And if a woman complained to anyone, the response was often, "Just keep quiet and deal with him, otherwise you'll just end up fighting more."
...In most cases... once a sister gets married, the rest of the family stops worrying about her. It’s like, "She chose him, so she can deal with it now."
...It’s almost like when you sell a cow to someone else... suddenly, she’s their property, not yours anymore...
...Women who wouldn't let themselves be hit, or wouldn't submit to their husbands, were seen as troublemakers... as people who brought shame to their husbands and their families...

It was a patriarchal society... through and through.

Violence isn't just about the victim...
...especially when it comes to children. Violence against kids shouldn't just be placed on the shoulders of the mother-victim... because the victims themselves often don't even realize what's happening. They can't, and they aren't allowed to, pull themselves out of it alone...
Especially since most of these women have been conditioned by abuse for so long that they don't even know how to function in a healthy relationship. They don't have the tools. You need therapy and awareness, but you can't have either without financial and social stability...

Society really needs to find better ways to step in during these situations...
...In cases like this, kids should simply be removed from that household to protect them from the abuse... and the woman should be given a job, counseling, and a place to live so she can actually get back on her feet and raise her children in a healthy environment...
The abusers should be sent to rehabilitation programs combined with mandatory therapy. They should work in institutions to pay restitution to the woman and children, plus child support... and only once they've paid it all back and a psychiatrist confirms the therapy has actually changed their behavior... then, and only then, should they be allowed back into normal society...

Aaron Anderson72 said:Totally agree.

You sound about seven years old.

Do I really need to be naive enough to believe the world is perfect and everyone has my best interests at heart? Not many people actually do. Like, do you actually believe everything a politician says? Or do you trust every salesman who tells you that specific massage chair is a life-changer? You've gotta use your head to figure out who's trying to screw you over. It's basic stuff. Anyone with a bit of sense or life experience knows better than to trust blindly.

.....the world doesn't bend to suit our every need.....but....
...the idea that someone specifically wants to cause you harm.....
not many people are truly conscious of the impact of their actions. A shopkeeper isn't ripping you off because they have a personal vendetta against you; it's just because they want to maximize their profit margins... and they aren't really thinking about what it means to take that much from everyone else. And sure, we all judge people, but that doesn't mean everyone falls into two camps of "people we trust" and "people we hate."
...for me, I generally choose to believe people, and I don't see that as being naive... it's actually the only healthy way to live. But once I realize someone has a habit of lying or being deceptive, I stay clear of them. It's like how you wouldn't give a small child a set of power tools or let them run wild with sharp kitchen knives—you just take precautions based on what you know.

...there’s just this certain group of people who stay stuck at that level their entire lives......but it isn't everyone....just the ones who refuse to grow up or evolve...

....honestly, I don't have a hateful bone in my body....and I find it a little mysterious how people can actually carry that much hate within them.....I've just never felt that way about anyone....
... even if they really did kick me while I was down... (not literally, obviously)...

...there’s a massive difference between just not wanting to get pregnant right now... and someone who flat-out doesn't believe you... or keeps their whole life hidden from you... It's not like being with a guy who's actually sure about what he wants...
...no, I'm not joking around here... he really isn't looking for anything beyond the physical stuff...
....just take a second to think about it... when you truly love someone... when you actually give a damn about them... is that how you'd act?

Look, that guy is an aggressor, and you honestly can't predict what kind of crazy he might pull next...
...It might actually be smart to just shoot him a quick text. Just tell him that the whole thing with the salad was nothing more than a way to give him a taste of his own medicine, and make it clear that you aren't the type of person who would ever cheat or spread diseases around...
Also, let him know straight up that his behavior and those messages are exactly why you’re cutting all ties with him... and then just stop there. Don't say another word. You need to avoid him like the plague, because at this point, that's exactly what he is...
...Just send enough to settle him down so he doesn't try to play the victim... BECAUSE HIS OPINION DOESN'T MEAN A THING. He thinks he owns you until you find someone else to take charge...
.....If there's an older, strong man in your family, it might be a good idea to have him step in and tell this guy to back off... maybe even throw in a warning about calling the cops if he doesn't...
....And if he keeps bothering you after that, call the police. Someone acting like that usually has plenty of other trouble lurking under the surface...

I’ve never really been able to wrap my head around those jumping games... I was never much of an athlete myself...
...but honestly, watching how people freak out when you try to jump around them? That’s the funniest part.

slyraven9 said:Man, I’ve been wrestling with this one thing for what feels like forever, and honestly, I just don't know how to fix it. Looking at my own orientation, I’m either gay or bisexual—it kind of fluctuates—and it's starting to really get under my skin. Every single day, walking down the street, I hear people shouting things like, "What's wrong with those queers?" or "Someone should teach them a lesson," or "How can they even show their faces in public?" Look, I try to brush it off, I really do. I tell myself, "Hey, they're just being hateful, but hey, those people are still humans, even if they are the way they are." At first, I was fine with it. Just thought, *whatever, it is what it is, right?* I figured I just had to toughen up and deal with the noise. But after a while, it started eating at me. It created this constant, restless anxiety inside my chest. I see couples everywhere—just happy, totally in love—and I start spiraling. Like, why? Why did this happen to me? Why can't I feel what everyone else feels, you know? That spark with a woman? God, I just want to have a girlfriend. Not a boyfriend. I want to start a normal life, not... whatever this is. Did I even get a choice in the matter? Heck no! Eventually, I just hit a breaking point and told myself, "I don't want this." I don't want to be who I am. I just want a regular life with a girl who loves me, someone I can protect and look after. I want to love her, I want her body to drive me crazy, I want to be a man who loves women. But no matter how hard I try, it feels like I’m tethered to the ground. Like it's some impossible dream I'll never reach. Honestly, I’d rather not exist than keep living like this. I’ve been fighting this battle for so long now. I’ve tried watching lesbian porn—strictly girls—trying to ignore men entirely, doing my own thing to nothing but women, trying to figure out what makes their bodies exciting to me. After months of pure misery and struggling through it, I thought I finally made progress. I started feeling something for women, but it’s mostly just affection; their bodies only turn me on a little bit. Now everything is just a massive, confusing mess. Sometimes it's guys, sometimes it's girls. I'm totally lost and I don't know where to go from here. I know it sounds silly or unrealistic, but that’s truly how I feel. Right now, I just feel like the most pathetic creature on earth. I’m desperate.

So, I guess what I'm asking is... is it actually possible to change your sexual orientation?

Has anyone else ever gone through something similar? What does it even take to make a change like that?
How much time does it actually take? Has anyone ever truly succeeded? Please, seriously, any info would help me out. I honestly don't care if I end up being a firm bisexual or straight, as long as I'm not gay.

.....I just can't believe it's even possible...
...I've tried so many different things... and it just isn't working.......
.....I had really good reasons for trying......
....my motivation was incredibly high........
....the only thing I managed to do was push everyone away.....and suppress everything I feel.....now I'm honestly starting to get sick of all of it....

...so what does it actually mean to be a total washout....
....(forgive an old lady who doesn't live in the States anymore)....

Sean Cruz said:I remember back in second grade, grasping the concept of set intersections was a total struggle for me. It finally clicked once they explained it using an example where one of the sets was actually empty. Ever since then, math hasn't been an issue. 😁 🤣

I mean, maybe it’s actually more like a union of sets...😉

...I won't try to tackle every single point one by one here...
...I guess you could look at it this way... love doesn't really have boundaries... it looks different for everyone. Every couple interprets it and grows through it in their own unique way, much like how their individual perspectives and emotions are all different to begin with...
...Some people might argue that this kind of love is blind... while others will say it isn't...
...But honestly, it could only ever be that way if it’s actually meeting their needs...
...And maybe those needs themselves are what's blind...
...Or perhaps it's our own ego that's blind... but that's just part of being human, isn't it?
...Which would mean we're the ones who are blind...

cosmictinker21 said:They say love isn't blind, but being infatuated? That’s a different story entirely. We've all been there, so let's move past the cliché. The real question is distinguishing when we're actually in love versus when we're just feeding a craving, fulfilling a need, or settling for something we've convinced ourselves is the real deal. To me, love is an ongoing process—it's about building a life together, shared experiences, and true presence. If there isn't a path toward genuine partnership and wholeness, then it isn't love. It’s just intimacy in one specific area, or maybe just longing, or whatever...

I think love can still exist even if living together is impossible... or even when it's perfectly possible, but one person just doesn't want to go there.....